The Best Self Podcast

Nicola Fulstow
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You're capable, ambitious and really good at showing up for everyone else. But somewhere in the middle of doing it all, you have struggled to show up for yourself. And now you're overwhelmed, tired or maybe a bit lost. This podcast is ready for the woman ready to take up space and make her life about her again! Maybe you've just been going through the motions, perhaps you've got too many ideas and are overwhelmed by the your own ideas and potential; or maybe you know exactly what you want, but just can't seem to get traction on it? Perhaps you're starting to question at this stage in your life; 'where do I belong now?' Hosted by your Elevator-in-Chief Nicola Fulstow; who has 20 years of experience as a women's Coach, Image Consultant and Business Owner; each episode is an honest warm conversation about the inner work that actually moves the needle. Real self-care. Essential boundaries. Messy, unapologetic, non-linear growth. No quick fixes, no toxic positivity no fake performance. Just the truth about the challenges and lessons about making your life about you again after a period of change in your life, where you felt like you kind of disappeared... and now you're ready to return.

  1. 18h ago

    The September Issue

    In this episode, I’m sharing why September has always felt more powerful to me than January when it comes to making changes. Inspired by fashion’s iconic September issue, I’m looking at how we can use this season as a reset, choose a clear direction and stop drifting through the final months of the year on autopilot. I’ll talk about identity, goals, habits and why real change is not just about what you want to achieve, but who you need to become along the way. We’ll also explore the power of editing your life, deciding what deserves your time and energy, and choosing one clear focus that can help you finish the year with real momentum. Highlights: (01:30) - Why September gives me more fresh-start energy than January ever has (04:35) - The idea behind creating your own personal September issue (09:15) - Stop being the reader of your life and start acting like the editor (14:01) - Why goals alone are not enough, and the identity shift that makes change stick (24:29) - Your time and energy are prime magazine real estate, stop giving pages away to everything (29:58) - One cover story, one clear focus, and why that can change the whole final quarter Connect with me: Instagram / Facebook / Pinterest - @the.bestselfprojectuk Website - https://thebestselfproject.co.uk/  Email hello@thebestselfproject.co.uk

  2. Aug 17

    Why Are You Holding Back? Wanting to Be Seen but Scared to Be Visible

    Have you ever wanted to step forward, wear the dress, start the business, go to the gym or simply feel more like yourself, but found yourself holding back? I know that feeling because I’ve lived it too. In this episode, I’m talking about the shame that can quietly make us shrink, hide and wait until we feel more ready, more confident or somehow more acceptable. I explore how life changes can leave us caught between who we were and who we’re becoming, why that in-between stage feels so uncomfortable, and how small promises to yourself can start rebuilding confidence. You do not need to become someone else first. You need to start showing up for the person you are now. Highlights: (04:53) - The hidden shame behind why we avoid doing the very things that could help us (10:44) - Why life changes can leave you feeling like you no longer recognise yourself (15:31) - The exhaustion of adapting while still trying to hold everything else together (20:53) - Why clinging to your old self can keep you stuck in an uncomfortable limbo (30:19) - What happens when you finally name the shame that has been running the show (34:49) - One simple question that can become your compass when you do not know what comes next Connect with me: Instagram / Facebook / Pinterest - @the.bestselfprojectuk Website - https://thebestselfproject.co.uk/  Email hello@thebestselfproject.co.uk

  3. Aug 10

    The School Holidays Episode

    I’m recording this right in the middle of the school holidays, when the days are full, the routine has vanished, and the question “What can we do today?” seems to be playing on repeat. I want to say out loud what many mums quietly feel: you can adore your children and still find the holidays exhausting, lonely, chaotic and mentally relentless. I talk honestly about social media pressure, running a business with children at home, summer grief, and why keeping one small promise to yourself can help you feel grounded. I also explore two kinds of compassion: the soft kind that lets you rest, and the firmer kind that gives you the structure you genuinely need. Highlights: (02:06) - Why the school holidays can feel so mentally relentless (04:51) - Feeling lonely even when you are never actually alone (07:34) - Loving your children and still finding the holidays hard (09:21) - The reality social media rarely shows us (14:08) - When summer brings grief, isolation and old emotions back up (18:55) - Why real self-care sometimes needs boundaries and structure Connect with me: Instagram / Facebook / Pinterest - @the.bestselfprojectuk Website - https://thebestselfproject.co.uk/  Email hello@thebestselfproject.co.uk

  4. Aug 3

    Emotional Hot Potatoes - How to Avoid Taking Responsibility for Things That Aren't Yours To Carry

    I’m talking about those moments when someone hands you their panic, pressure or emotional urgency and suddenly expects you to carry it. I call it an emotional hot potato, and just because it lands in your hands does not mean it belongs to you. In this episode, I explore how people-pleasing, weak boundaries and fast reactions can leave us absorbing problems that were never ours to solve. We’ll look at how to pause, recognise what is genuinely your responsibility and respond with care without sacrificing your own energy, priorities or peace. Highlights: (01:30) - The unexpected phone call that sparked this episode (04:36) - How emotional hot potatoes get passed from person to person (09:08) - Why people-pleasers become the designated catchers (13:35) - How to respond without becoming cold or dismissive (17:57) - Knowing the difference between a real crisis and borrowed urgency (24:16) - Why someone else’s panic does not become your priority Connect with me: Instagram / Facebook / Pinterest - @the.bestselfprojectuk Website - https://thebestselfproject.co.uk/  Email hello@thebestselfproject.co.uk

  5. Jul 27

    Who Were You Before You Became Everything to Everyone Else?

    In this episode, I’m asking you to think about who you were before life became so grown-up, complicated and full of responsibility. I share how I slowly edited parts of myself to become more likeable, more acceptable and easier for other people to understand, and how that pattern followed me into adulthood and motherhood. We also explore identity loss, the impact of tying your worth to your work, and the parts of yourself you may have quietly left behind. This is not about becoming someone new. It is about remembering what made you feel alive, trying it on again, and taking one honest step back towards yourself. Highlights: (01:54) - The moment I started making myself more palatable (05:36) - How small moments can slowly teach us to shrink (10:13) - Losing my career identity after becoming a mum (15:19) - The parts of yourself you may have quietly put down (19:59) - Using ikigai as a map back to who you are (24:05) - Why remembering can be the first step home Connect with me: Instagram / Facebook / Pinterest - @the.bestselfprojectuk Website - https://thebestselfproject.co.uk/  Email hello@thebestselfproject.co.uk

  6. Jul 20

    Let Them… and Then What?

    In this episode, I’m exploring what happens after you decide to ‘let them’. This theory can be a powerful way to stop trying to control other people, but sometimes letting them is only the beginning. If you are still angry, hurt or walking on eggshells, that feeling may be telling you something important. I’m talking about the difference between irritation, crossed boundaries and genuinely unsafe behaviour. We’ll also look at why personal growth cannot always save a relationship, how to use anger as information, and why boundaries are promises you make to yourself, not dramatic ultimatums. Highlights: (01:44) - Why ‘let them’ can be such a powerful permission slip (05:05) - When letting them starts to feel like suppression (09:59) - How to express anger without projecting it onto others (12:18) - The difference between letting go and setting a boundary (16:08) - Why abuse is never a ‘let them’ situation (25:22) - How to decide your boundaries before they are tested Connect with me: Instagram / Facebook / Pinterest - @the.bestselfprojectuk Website - https://thebestselfproject.co.uk/  Email hello@thebestselfproject.co.uk

  7. Jul 13

    Beyond the Bubble Bath: What’s Actually Restoring You?

    I love a bubble bath, a face mask and a bit of chocolate as much as anyone, but they are not always the kind of care that genuinely restores us. Sometimes they are simply a nice moment at the end of another exhausting week. In this episode, I’m looking at the difference between numbing, escaping and truly replenishing yourself. I’m sharing why self-care needs to become a daily essential rather than an occasional reward, and how protecting one small, consistent practice can help you rebuild your energy, clarity and spark. Highlights: (01:32) - Why the Friday-night bubble bath is not always real self-care (04:51) - How treating self-care as a reward can keep women depleted (07:03) - The difference between a nice moment and genuine replenishment (09:40) - Why your mental and physical health must become the main project (14:26) - Escape is not the same as care (16:03) - Choosing one daily non-negotiable that is entirely yours Connect with me: Instagram / Facebook / Pinterest - @the.bestselfprojectuk Website - https://thebestselfproject.co.uk/  Email hello@thebestselfproject.co.uk

  8. Jul 6

    Maybe Some Things Are Supposed to Be Hard

    We are surrounded by promises of quick fixes, instant breakthroughs and effortless transformation. But real growth rarely looks like a polished before-and-after. In this episode, I’m talking about why the inner work can feel slow, messy, painful and exhausting, and why that does not mean you are doing it wrong. I share what I have learned about stuck periods, emotional integration and staying with discomfort instead of searching for the fastest escape. Sometimes the flat days are not wasted days. They are the quiet part of the process where something deeper is beginning to shift. Highlights: (01:31) - Why real growth is often uncomfortable (04:53) - The damaging comparison created by polished transformations (06:45) - Why stuck days are not wasted days (09:49) - Emotional exhaustion can be part of integration (12:18) - The hard period that often comes before a breakthrough (16:04) - The difficult thing you may need to stop avoiding Connect with me: Instagram / Facebook / Pinterest - @the.bestselfprojectuk Website - https://thebestselfproject.co.uk/  Email hello@thebestselfproject.co.uk

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You're capable, ambitious and really good at showing up for everyone else. But somewhere in the middle of doing it all, you have struggled to show up for yourself. And now you're overwhelmed, tired or maybe a bit lost. This podcast is ready for the woman ready to take up space and make her life about her again! Maybe you've just been going through the motions, perhaps you've got too many ideas and are overwhelmed by the your own ideas and potential; or maybe you know exactly what you want, but just can't seem to get traction on it? Perhaps you're starting to question at this stage in your life; 'where do I belong now?' Hosted by your Elevator-in-Chief Nicola Fulstow; who has 20 years of experience as a women's Coach, Image Consultant and Business Owner; each episode is an honest warm conversation about the inner work that actually moves the needle. Real self-care. Essential boundaries. Messy, unapologetic, non-linear growth. No quick fixes, no toxic positivity no fake performance. Just the truth about the challenges and lessons about making your life about you again after a period of change in your life, where you felt like you kind of disappeared... and now you're ready to return.

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  • Creator
    Nicola Fulstow
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    46
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2026 Nicola Fulstow
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    The Best Self Podcast