Loving Me Before I Love You Podcast with Tammy Nicole and Friends

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Welcome to Loving Me Before I Love You, the podcast for women who are ready to stop losing themselves while searching for love, validation, and belonging. Hosted by Coach Tammy Nicole, this show is where healing meets honesty, self-discovery meets transformation, and women learn how to reclaim their voice, their worth, and their power. Each week, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with therapists, relationship experts, life coaches, authors, and everyday people with extraordinary stories to explore the conversations that help us become healthier, more whole versions of ourselves. From self-love and emotional healing to relationships, boundaries, confidence, mother wounds, childhood experiences, mental health, identity, and personal growth, no topic is off limits. This is not about becoming someone new. It's about becoming the woman you were always meant to be. If you've ever struggled with people-pleasing, abandonment wounds, emotional unavailability, unhealthy relationship patterns, low self-worth, or the feeling that you've spent your life taking care of everyone except yourself, you're in the right place. Through meaningful conversations, practical tools, and powerful insights, you'll learn how your past shaped you, how your patterns were formed, and most importantly, how to create a future that aligns with the woman you're becoming. Because healthy love doesn't start when someone chooses you. It starts when you choose yourself. So grab your journal, take a deep breath, and join us each week as we do the work of healing, growing, and becoming. Welcome to Loving Me Before I Love You. Your journey back to yourself starts here.

  1. Oct 13

    Stop Seeking Validation: You Are the Prize

    Send us Fan Mail Are you constantly looking for reassurance, approval, or confirmation from the people around you? Maybe you know you’re capable, accomplished, and worthy, but there’s still a part of you that needs someone else to say, “You’re doing enough. You’re good enough. I choose you.” In this episode of Loving Me Before I Love You, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with Jessie Rudi to unpack the need for external validation and what happens when we finally learn to recognize our own worth. Jessie Rudi is a Reiki Master, Pranic Healing Practitioner, intuitive mentor, and founder of Clearly Connected Healing. Her work supports overwhelmed, high-achieving women in quieting the outside noise, reconnecting with themselves, strengthening their intuition, and developing deeper self-trust. Together, Coach Tammy and Jessie explore how validation-seeking can show up in our relationships, careers, friendships, and everyday decisions. They discuss why we can accomplish so much and still question whether we are enough, how relying on other people to validate us can affect the way we see ourselves, and what it looks like to stop handing other people the responsibility of determining our worth. Because you don’t become the prize when someone chooses you. You are the prize when you know your value whether they choose you or not. In this episode, you’ll hear about: • Why we seek validation from other people • How the need for approval affects our relationships • Why accomplished women can still struggle with feeling “enough” • The difference between receiving affirmation and depending on it • Learning to trust yourself and your own decisions • What it means to stop outsourcing your worth • How to recognize that you were always the prize Connect with Jessie Rudi: Clearly Connected Healing Instagram: @clearlyconnectedhealing Facebook: @clearlyconnectedhealing Connect with Coach Tammy Nicole: Instagram: @CoachTammyNicole TikTok: @CoachTammyNicole Facebook: Tammy Nicole Connect with Loving Me Before I Love You: Instagram: @LoveMeBeforeYouPod If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe to Loving Me Before I Love You, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs the reminder that their worth does not require anyone else’s approval. Remember, loving yourself first isn’t selfish. It changes the way you show up in every relationship that comes after.

  2. Oct 6

    The Myth of "Enoughness" & Why You Already Are

    Send us Fan Mail Have you ever felt like you had to accomplish one more thing, lose a little more weight, make a little more money, or become someone different before you could finally believe you were enough? In this powerful conversation, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with Jessica "GourJess" Gabriel to expose the lie that your worth is something you have to earn. Together, they unpack where the "not enough" mindset begins, how it quietly shapes our relationships, confidence, and decisions, and why true freedom comes from embracing the identity God has already given you. Jessica shares her remarkable testimony of overcoming addiction, anxiety, and hopelessness through the transforming power of Jesus Christ. She offers practical, faith-filled wisdom to help women renew their minds, silence self-doubt, and stop striving for validation they already possess in Christ. If you've ever questioned your value, struggled with comparison, or felt like you constantly have to prove yourself, this episode will remind you of one life-changing truth: you were never created to earn your worth. You were created to walk confidently in it. About Our Guest Jessica "GourJess" Gabriel is a mentor, publisher, speaker, and founder of Divine Women Institute. Through mentorship, publishing, and transformational speaking, she helps women discover their identity in Christ, renew their minds through God's Word, and walk confidently in their God-given purpose. Having overcome addiction, anxiety, and a life-threatening battle with hopelessness through the power of Jesus Christ, Jessica is passionate about helping others experience true transformation and lasting freedom. Connect with Jessica "GourJess" Gabriel Website: divinewomeninstitute.com Facebook: @WeAreDivineWomen Instagram: @WeAreDivineWomen YouTube: @WeAreDivineWomen Connect with Coach Tammy Nicole Questions about the podcast: questions@iamtammynicole.com Interested in coaching: coaching@iamtammynicole.com

  3. Sep 29

    How to Stay Emotionally Grounded in a Chaotic World

    Send us Fan Mail In a world filled with constant pressure, uncertainty, and emotional overload, staying grounded can feel like an impossible task. But what if true peace isn't found by controlling your circumstances, but by anchoring yourself in your identity? In this powerful conversation, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with Reka Leftridge, Christian author, speaker, retired U.S. Navy Chief, and author of the award-winning bestselling book Esther Energy: 5 Principles for Women of Influence. Together, they unpack what it truly means to remain emotionally grounded while navigating life's storms, leadership responsibilities, relationships, and personal growth. Reka shares how women can stop performing for acceptance and start living from the confidence of who God created them to be. Through biblical wisdom, personal experience, and practical strategies, this episode explores how emotional stability is built from identity, surrender, and faith, not from having a perfect life. If you've been feeling overwhelmed, emotionally exhausted, or like the weight of the world is pulling you in every direction, this conversation will remind you that you don't have to lose yourself to survive difficult seasons. In this episode, you'll discover: How to stay emotionally grounded when life feels chaotic.Why identity is the foundation of emotional resilience.The difference between reacting emotionally and responding with wisdom.How surrender creates strength instead of weakness.Practical ways to protect your peace without disconnecting from the people you love.Why you can be saved, soft, surrendered, and still powerful.About Reka Leftridge: Reka Leftridge is a Christian author, speaker, retired U.S. Navy Chief, and the author of Esther Energy: 5 Principles for Women of Influence. After more than 21 years of military service, her mission is to help women remember who they are before the world tells them who to be so they can lead with power, purpose, and poise. Through powerful storytelling, biblical teaching, and practical application, Reka empowers women to embrace influence rooted in identity rather than performance. She lives in San Antonio, Texas, with her husband and four children. About Your Host: Hi, my name is Coach Tammy Nicole. I help women reclaim their voice, their worth, and their power so they can stand in clarity, confidence, and courage. Through coaching, transformational conversations, and the ICU Framework, I help women identify unhealthy patterns, break emotional cycles, and build a life rooted in authenticity instead of survival. 📧 Guest inquiries: questions@iamtammynicole.com 💜 Coaching inquiries: coaching@iamtammynicole.com

  4. Sep 22

    The Power of Emotional Intelligence in Your Daily Life

    Send us Fan Mail Emotional intelligence is more than understanding your feelings. It is the ability to recognize, manage, and respond to your emotions in ways that strengthen your relationships, increase your confidence, and bring greater peace into your everyday life. But what happens when you've spent years suppressing your emotions or reacting from unresolved pain? In this empowering conversation, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with Steph Jones (Lilac Calandra), a minister, therapist, and mindfulness life coach, to explore how emotional intelligence transforms the way we think, communicate, heal, and connect with others. Steph shares practical tools for becoming more emotionally aware, creating space for honest conversations, embracing the full expression of your emotions, and using mindfulness practices, breathing exercises, and meditation to regulate your emotional responses. If you've ever found yourself reacting before thinking, struggling to communicate your feelings, or wondering why certain situations trigger you so deeply, this episode will help you understand that emotional intelligence is a skill that can be developed. Healing begins when awareness meets intentional action. In this episode, you'll discover: What emotional intelligence really is and why it matters.How unresolved emotions shape your daily decisions and relationships.Practical techniques to regulate emotions before reacting.The role mindfulness, breathing, and meditation play in emotional wellness.How emotional awareness leads to greater peace, wholeness, and healthier connections.About Steph Jones (Lilac Calandra) Steph Jones (Lilac Calandra) is a minister, therapist, and mindfulness life coach whose life's mission is to guide people back to the road of peace, wholeness, and wellness. She encourages the full expression of emotions, honest conversations, and intentional healing through mindfulness, breathing exercises, and meditation, empowering others to discover the healthiest version of themselves. Connect with Steph Jones (Lilac Calandra): Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SelahMindset Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/selahmindsetcc About Your Host Hi, my name is Coach Tammy Nicole. I help women reclaim their voice, their worth, and their power so they can stand in clarity, confidence, and courage. Through coaching, speaking, and transformational conversations, I help women identify the emotional patterns that have been shaping their lives so they can heal, break unhealthy cycles, and become emotionally available for the life and relationships they deserve. 🎙️ Subscribe, share this episode with someone who needs it, and join us every week for conversations that challenge, heal, and transform. For podcast guest inquiries: questions@iamtammynicole.com For coaching opportunities: coaching@iamtammynicole.com

  5. Sep 15

    The Link Between Trauma & Emotional Triggers

    Send us Fan Mail Have you ever found yourself reacting in ways that didn't make sense, then wondered, "Why did that affect me so deeply?" The answer may not be the moment itself. It may be the unresolved trauma beneath it. In this powerful episode, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with Darsha D. Clark, Licensed Professional Counselor, relationship expert, speaker, and author of Adventures in Love, to unpack the connection between trauma and emotional triggers. Together, they explore how past experiences silently shape our present reactions, influence our relationships, and impact the way we see ourselves. With nearly three decades of experience in the mental health field, Darsha shares practical insights on recognizing emotional triggers, developing greater self-awareness, setting healthy boundaries, and choosing healing over survival patterns. She reminds us that while hurt people often hurt people, healing people change generations. If you've ever felt like your emotions take over before you can think, or you've struggled to understand why certain situations leave you feeling overwhelmed, rejected, or defensive, this conversation will help you connect the dots and begin responding with intention instead of reacting from old wounds. In this episode, you'll discover: What emotional triggers really are and where they come from.How unresolved trauma influences everyday reactions.Why self-awareness is the foundation of healing.Practical strategies for managing emotional triggers in relationships.How healing your past creates healthier connections with yourself and others.About Our Guest Darsha D. Clark is a Licensed Professional Counselor who has served in the mental health field since 1997. She specializes in helping individuals and couples strengthen their emotional well-being and relationships through vulnerability, empathy, healthy boundaries, and intentional self-awareness. Drawing from both her professional expertise and her personal experience as a wife of over 18 years, Darsha helps people create healthier, more fulfilling relationships while breaking cycles of pain. She is also the author of Adventures in Love and a sought-after speaker known for creating engaging, honest, and transformative conversations that inspire lasting change. Social Media: Facebook - Darsha D. Clark, LPC, LLC YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@DarshaDClarktherapist Website - www.darshadclarkauthor.com About Your Host Hi, my name is Coach Tammy Nicole. I help women reclaim their voice, their worth, and their power so they can stand in clarity, confidence, and courage. As an Identity Reclamation Coach, speaker, and founder of the ICU Framework, Tammy helps women uncover the hidden emotional patterns that keep them stuck, break free from cycles of self-abandonment, and build lives rooted in authenticity rather than survival. Ready to stop asking, "Why am I like this?" and start becoming the woman you were created to be? Join Coach Tammy Nicole for her weekly "Why Am I Like This?" webinar and begin your journey toward lasting transformation. Connect with Coach Tammy Nicole: Website: https://www.iamtammynicole.com Coaching Inquiries: coaching@iamtammynicole.com Podcast Questions & Guest Requests: questions@iamtammynicole.com

  6. Sep 8

    How to Process Difficult Emotions Without Shame

    Send us Fan Mail What do you do with the emotions you've been taught to hide? Too often, we judge ourselves for feeling angry, anxious, hurt, or overwhelmed. We label our emotions as weakness instead of seeing them as invitations to heal. But what if your emotions aren't the problem? What if they are pointing you toward the healing you've been praying for? In this powerful conversation, Coach Tammy Nicole, Self Love and Identity Coach, sits down with ordained minister, Licensed Professional Counselor, life coach, transformational speaker, and founder of Revive Generational Counseling and The Unshakable Kingdom, Lizette Garcia, to unpack how we can process difficult emotions without carrying shame. Together, they explore the connection between emotional health, trauma, faith, and identity, offering practical and biblical wisdom for navigating life's hardest moments. In this episode, you'll discover: Why difficult emotions are not something to fear or suppress.How shame keeps you trapped in unhealthy emotional cycles.The difference between feeling your emotions and allowing them to control your life.How unresolved trauma can influence your emotional responses.Practical, faith-centered tools for emotional healing and restoration.How embracing your emotions can strengthen your relationship with God and yourself.Whether you've spent years pretending you're "fine" or you're just beginning your healing journey, this conversation will remind you that healing doesn't begin by avoiding your emotions. It begins by acknowledging them with honesty, grace, and courage. Connect with Lizette Garcia Websites • Revive Generational Counseling: https://revivegenerationalcounseling.com/ • The Unshakable Kingdom: https://theunshakablekingdom.com/ Follow Lizette The Unshakable Kingdom • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100091367806962 • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunshakablekingdom/ Revive Generational Counseling • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/revivegenerationalcounseling/ • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588125972608 Contact Phone: (214) 444-3391 Email: info@revivegenerationalcounseling.com Connect with Coach Tammy Nicole Coach Tammy Nicole helps women reclaim their voice, their worth, and their power so they can stand in clarity, confidence, and courage. Through coaching, speaking, and transformational conversations, she helps women identify the patterns that have shaped them, heal from emotional wounds, and become the woman they were created to be. ✨ Join the weekly "Why Am I Like This?" live webinar every Thursday at 6:00 PM EST: https://stan.store/iamtammynicole/p/why-am-i-like-this-copy 📧 Coaching Inquiries: coaching@iamtammynicole.com 📧 Podcast Guest Inquiries: questions@iamtammynicole.com 🌐 Website: https://www.iamtammynicole.com If this episode encouraged you, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a woman who needs the reminder that she doesn't have to be ashamed of what she feels. Healing begins when we stop hiding and start being honest, and freedom begins the moment you choose yourself.

  7. Sep 1

    Are Your Emotions Running the Show?

    Send us Fan Mail What if the biggest thing standing between you and the life you want isn't your circumstances, but your unhealed emotional patterns? In this powerful conversation, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with Alisha Sheri to unpack the difference between feeling your emotions and being controlled by them. Together, they explore how unresolved pain, emotional triggers, and survival responses can quietly influence your relationships, your decisions, and the way you show up every day. If you've ever reacted in ways you later regretted, struggled to communicate what you truly feel, or found yourself stuck in the same emotional cycles, this episode will help you understand why and, more importantly, how to begin changing the pattern. In this episode, you'll discover: How to recognize when your emotions are driving your decisions.The difference between responding and reacting.Why emotional awareness is the foundation of healthy relationships.Practical ways to regulate your emotions without suppressing them.How healing creates the freedom to choose your response instead of repeating old patterns.Your emotions were designed to be indicators, not dictators. Healing begins when you stop letting your feelings take the driver's seat and start leading your life with clarity, confidence, and courage. Connect with Coach Tammy Nicole: 🌐 Webinar: https://stan.store/iamtammynicole/p/why-am-i-like-this-copy 📧 Questions about the podcast: questions@iamtammynicole.com 💜 Coaching inquiries: coaching@iamtammynicole.com

  8. Aug 25

    Creating a Life That Feels Aligned

    Send us Fan Mail What if the life you've worked so hard to build no longer feels like it fits? Many women spend years chasing success, checking every box, and meeting everyone else's expectations, only to realize they've become disconnected from themselves. The result isn't always burnout. Sometimes it's simply the quiet feeling that something is missing. In this episode of Loving Me Before I Love You, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with psychologist Dr. Celeste Simmons to explore what it truly means to live a life of alignment. Together, they unpack the difference between purpose and alignment, why you need both, and how living in alignment creates greater peace, authenticity, and fulfillment. You'll learn how to recognize when your life no longer reflects your values, identify the patterns that keep you disconnected from yourself, and begin making choices that honor the woman you're becoming. If you've ever looked around at your life and thought, "I have everything I thought I wanted... so why doesn't it feel right?" this conversation is for you. In this episode, you'll discover:  What alignment really means and why it's more than finding your purpose.  The key differences between purpose and alignment.  Signs you're living according to expectations instead of your authentic self.  How your values should guide your decisions.  Practical steps to create a life that feels peaceful, intentional, and true to who you are. This episode is a reminder that success isn't just about what you accomplish. It's about building a life that feels like home. About Our Guest Dr. Celeste Simmons is a psychologist dedicated to helping individuals improve their emotional well-being, strengthen their relationships, and create healthier, more intentional lives. Through her work, she empowers people to gain greater self-awareness, navigate life's challenges with resilience, and make choices that align with their values and long-term goals. Connect with Coach Tammy Nicole 🌐 Website: https://www.iamtammynicole.com 📧 Coaching: coaching@iamtammynicole.com 📧 Podcast Guest Questions: questions@iamtammynicole.com If this episode encouraged you, share it with someone who may be searching for more peace, clarity, and authenticity in their life. Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and join us next week for another conversation designed to help you reclaim your voice, your worth, and your power.

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Welcome to Loving Me Before I Love You, the podcast for women who are ready to stop losing themselves while searching for love, validation, and belonging. Hosted by Coach Tammy Nicole, this show is where healing meets honesty, self-discovery meets transformation, and women learn how to reclaim their voice, their worth, and their power. Each week, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with therapists, relationship experts, life coaches, authors, and everyday people with extraordinary stories to explore the conversations that help us become healthier, more whole versions of ourselves. From self-love and emotional healing to relationships, boundaries, confidence, mother wounds, childhood experiences, mental health, identity, and personal growth, no topic is off limits. This is not about becoming someone new. It's about becoming the woman you were always meant to be. If you've ever struggled with people-pleasing, abandonment wounds, emotional unavailability, unhealthy relationship patterns, low self-worth, or the feeling that you've spent your life taking care of everyone except yourself, you're in the right place. Through meaningful conversations, practical tools, and powerful insights, you'll learn how your past shaped you, how your patterns were formed, and most importantly, how to create a future that aligns with the woman you're becoming. Because healthy love doesn't start when someone chooses you. It starts when you choose yourself. So grab your journal, take a deep breath, and join us each week as we do the work of healing, growing, and becoming. Welcome to Loving Me Before I Love You. Your journey back to yourself starts here.

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