The Unapologetic Woman Podcast

Gen Stoney
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Calling all successful women! Tune in and learn how to be Unapologetic, Deepen your Relationships, Celebrate your Sobriety, Uplevel your Success, embrace Metaphysics, and truly Connect with your Sacred Sober Self! Gen is the Sacred Sober Sexuality Expert for women, a wife to an incredible man for 11+ years, & mom to 2 little boys. Gen has been coaching women on this amazing journey and has been sober from drugs and alcohol for 15+ years. She is a certified Life coach, EFT practitioner, meditation guide, and chakra healer.  Gen is a #1 International Best Selling Author and has been featured as a regular guest expert on FOX & The CW. She has also been listed on the 100 TOP inspirational women globally. If you are ready to claim your unapologetic radiant romantic sober fun energized life, Gen Stoney is your person & this podcast is for you! 

  1. 5h ago

    The Woman You’re Becoming Needs Different Choices. with Gen Stoney

    Who is the woman you're becoming—and do your current choices belong to her? Thirty-one days ago, we started by looking at what you were surviving. Today, we're talking about what you're choosing. And no, this isn't graduation day. Because there is no perfectly healed woman standing at the finish line with flawless boundaries, an organized house, a green juice, zero resentment and absolutely no laundry. 😂 Recovery doesn't work like that. It's an evolution. In this final episode of the 31-day series, Gen brings everything back to the invitation underneath every conversation we've had: Come home to yourself. Not become more selfish. Not stop loving people. Not leave your marriage, quit your job, abandon your responsibilities or become some perfectly regulated version of yourself who never loses her shit. Come home to you while you're doing all of it. Gen looks back at the woman she was when she got sober in 2008—crushed, lost, struggling with her worth, convinced everybody else was the problem—and the thousands of imperfect choices that created the woman she is today. Because sobriety saved her life. But sobriety was never supposed to become her entire identity. It gave her the chance to discover who the hell she actually was. And maybe that's what becoming really is. Not constantly adding more. More healing. More accomplishments. More discipline. More self-improvement. More ways to fix yourself. Maybe it's putting down enough of what was never yours to carry that you can finally recognize the woman who's been underneath it all. Throughout these 31 days, we've talked about integrity. Boundaries. Feedback. Emotional reactions. Trust after addiction. Relationships. Receiving. Peace. Pleasure. Wanting. The person who was hurt getting a recovery too. But none of it was about becoming perfect. It was about becoming honest. What is working? What isn't? What are you carrying that isn't yours? Where are you saying yes when you mean no? What truth do you already know but keep trying to renegotiate? And instead of shaming yourself for what you find: What should I have done instead? Because you cannot shame yourself into becoming a woman you trust. And you don't need another five-year plan before you start. Sometimes you just need the next decision. The text you're about to send. The conversation you're avoiding. The meeting you know you need. The apology. The boundary. The lunch you actually stop working long enough to eat. The five-minute walk without your phone. The moment you stop stalking their social media. The time you say no when you mean no—or finally say yes to the thing you actually want. Ask yourself: Is this moving me toward the woman I'm becoming…or away from her? Because your future isn't built only in the giant decisions everybody sees. It's built in the tiny decisions nobody claps for. That's discipline. That's devotion. That's self-trust. That's becoming. And maybe there's a truth you've been circling for these 31 days. A conversation. A relationship. A pattern. A decision. A part of yourself you're done negotiating away. You don't need 31 more podcast episodes before you're allowed to trust what you already know. And being your own best coach doesn't mean doing everything alone. Sometimes the strongest thing your own best coach can say is: I need support with this. This episode isn't another self-improvement assignment. It's one commitment. One choice. One tiny action in the next 24 hours. Because you do not become her someday. You practice being her today. And perhaps the biggest shift of all is this: Recovery eventually stops being only about everything you had to give up. It starts asking what you're willing to become available for. Love. Joy. Connection. Purpose. Pleasure. Your marriage. Your friendships. Your motherhood. Work that matters. Your own voice. Peace. A life you don't constantly need to escape from. Sobriety was never the end of your story. It was the moment you finally became available for your life. And, unapologetic woman, you are allowed to f*****g live it. 🎧 If you've been quietly listening for 31 days and repeatedly thinking, “Oh shit…she's talking about me,” don't let this become another series you loved, saved—and changed nothing from. Choose one thing. Then take the next right action. If you're ready to stop doing the personal work alone, Gen's Private Clarity Call is linked in the show notes. And if you've spent this series thinking, My college, workplace, team, organization or community needs conversations like these, Gen Stoney is available for speaking, workshops and consulting. You'll find the Speaking & Consulting Inquiry in the show notes. And if one woman kept coming to mind while you listened? Send her the episode she needs. You don't have to fix her. Just open the door. Send us Fan Mail BRING GEN TO YOUR ORGANIZATION Looking for a speaker, workshop, or consulting support for your college, workplace, organization, or community? Let’s start a conversation. Speaking & Consulting Inquiry: https://forms.gle/wmxT9z78o9G2n2gF9 LOOKING FOR PERSONAL SUPPORT? If something in this episode hit home and you’re ready to get clear on what comes next, you can book a private conversation with me here. Private Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/genstoney/claritycall

  2. 1d ago

    What Do You Actually Want From Love Now? with Gen Stoney

    What do you actually want from love now? Not what your family would approve of. Not what looks impressive online. Not what would make your ex jealous. Not what you were taught a “good relationship” is supposed to look like. And definitely not just whatever you think you can get. What do YOU actually want? Because some of us could give a 45-minute TED Talk—with a PowerPoint and supporting documentation 😂—about everything we never want to experience again. But ask us what we do want? Well…shit. That can get uncomfortable. In this deeply personal episode of The Unapologetic Woman, Gen opens up about love, sobriety, marriage, self-trust, romantic patterns, standards—and what it means to finally stop building your relationships around what you've learned to tolerate. Recorded on Gen and Ray's 15th wedding anniversary, this conversation begins with a tiny rose quartz sitting on Gen's desk and the stranger in recovery who gave it to her during one of the most painful seasons of her life—when she was questioning whether she was even lovable. That moment became part of a much bigger realization: If I'm single for the rest of my life, I'm going to be okay. And if love comes? It gets to be really freaking good. Because naming what you want is vulnerable. If you don't admit you want something, you can't be disappointed when you don't get it. If you never establish a standard, you don't have to ask whether your current relationship meets it. And if you keep saying, “I'm fine with whatever,” you never risk someone calling you needy, difficult, unrealistic—or too much. But there's a cost to staying vague: You stay disconnected from yourself. Gen shares how her own definition of love has evolved from chasing attention, image, intensity and validation to building a marriage rooted in honesty, depth, play, desire, respect, growth, freedom, friendship and the ability to tell the freaking truth. And this isn't only for single women. You can deeply love the person you're married to and still renegotiate how you participate in your relationship. What do you want your marriage to feel like now? How do you want to communicate now? What needs to change because you've changed? This episode also brings back one of Gen's most powerful pieces of relationship work: Romantic Golden Nuggets—looking backward not to obsess over your exes, but to collect information about yourself. Who brought something out in you that you loved? When did you feel most like yourself? When did you feel safe, desired, supported or free? And then comes the question that changed everything for Gen when she was sitting on the floor during the breakdown of her own marriage, looking at every relationship she'd had: What if they're not all the repeating pattern? What if I am? Not because you're responsible for someone else's betrayal, abuse, addiction or behavior. But because recognizing your patterns means you finally have something you can do something about. Maybe you say you want consistency…but feel wildly drawn to uncertainty. Maybe you want emotional availability…but pull away when someone actually shows up. Maybe you want honesty…but keep swallowing what you really think because you're terrified of conflict. This isn't about shame. It's about information. Because sometimes what you want and what feels familiar are two completely different things. And once you know what you want, there's one more uncomfortable question: Am I choosing accordingly? You can say you want respect, honesty, stability, partnership and emotional intimacy. But what are you participating in? What are you tolerating? What are you avoiding? Where are you abandoning yourself because asking for what you really want might cost you something? You can be sober and still be negotiating with your integrity. This isn't about creating a 37-item Build-a-Boyfriend Amazon order with Prime shipping. 😂 It's about alignment. How do I want love to feel most days? What am I no longer willing to abandon in myself to maintain a relationship? What do I want to consistently give—and receive? Don't make the answers impressive. Make them true. 🎧 Listen to this one if you're sober and rethinking love, dating after addiction or recovery, questioning old relationship patterns, rebuilding a marriage, or simply realizing you don't know what you want anymore. And if that's you? That's not failure. That's information. And it's a beautiful place to begin. Send this episode to the woman who's spent years figuring out what she doesn't want—and might finally be ready to claim what she does. And if you realize you need help separating what you genuinely want from what you've been taught to want, what you've learned to tolerate, and what you're afraid you'll never have, this is some of Gen's favorite work to do privately with women. You'll find ways to work with her in the show notes. Send us Fan Mail BRING GEN TO YOUR ORGANIZATION Looking for a speaker, workshop, or consulting support for your college, workplace, organization, or community? Let’s start a conversation. Speaking & Consulting Inquiry: https://forms.gle/wmxT9z78o9G2n2gF9 LOOKING FOR PERSONAL SUPPORT? If something in this episode hit home and you’re ready to get clear on what comes next, you can book a private conversation with me here. Private Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/genstoney/claritycall

  3. 2d ago

    Pleasure Is Not Something You Have to Earn. with Gen Stoney

    Okay, quick question: when exactly are you allowed to enjoy your life? When the laundry is done? When you lose 20 pounds? When your kids are okay? When your partner is okay? When the inbox is empty, you've made enough money, healed enough, accomplished enough, fixed enough? When exactly do you get permission to sit your ass down and enjoy your coffee? Because some of us got sober…and accidentally turned recovery into another job we could never perform well enough. In this episode of The Unapologetic Woman, Gen is opening the pleasure door—and no, this isn't just an episode about sex. 😉 It's about something much bigger: Can you experience pleasure without first proving you've earned it? Because there is a difference between building a better life and constantly treating yourself like a renovation project. You can work. Mother. Recover. Exercise. Go to therapy. Journal. Set boundaries. Build the business. Heal the relationship. Help everybody else. And still forget to actually enjoy the freaking life you're working so hard to create. Pleasure doesn't have to mean an expensive vacation, three child-free days at a hotel, or some wildly extravagant experience. Sometimes it's drinking your coffee while it's still hot. Blasting music in the car. Clean sheets. Flirting with your husband. Laughing until you snort—or pee your pants, because motherhood. 😂 Putting something on because you feel sexy in it. Lighting the damn candle at 2 p.m. just because you want to. Taking a walk that doesn't need to become a calorie-burning assignment. Or doing something you love that produces absolutely nothing. That last one? Oof. Because if you've spent years trying to make up for “lost time,” prove yourself after addiction, achieve your way into worthiness, or turn every hobby into something productive, pleasure can start feeling irresponsible. But you didn't fight this hard to get sober just to become incredibly efficient at surviving your life. You got sober so you could actually be here for it. And Gen makes an important distinction between pleasure and escape: Food can be pleasurable. Sex can be pleasurable. Shopping, TV, rest—all pleasurable. And every one of them can also become a way of disappearing. The question isn't whether something is “good” or “bad.” It's: Does this bring me deeper into my life—or help me escape from it? Because recovery isn't about becoming afraid of pleasure. It's learning how to experience pleasure without having to disappear inside of it. This one is for the sober woman who has done so much work on herself that she's forgotten she's allowed to have fun. The high-achieving woman who can't sit still without feeling guilty. The mom who makes pleasure the first thing to disappear from her calendar. The woman learning how to receive—in her relationships, her body, the bedroom and her life. And the woman who's ready to feel sexy, playful, feminine, vivacious, alive and completely herself without apologizing for any of it. Your assignment? Do one completely unnecessary thing that brings you joy. No productivity. No self-improvement. No gold star. And if anyone asks why? Tell them your podcast lady made you. 😂 You fought really hard to be here. You're allowed to actually be here. You don't have to earn moments inside a life you're already living. 🎧 Listen to this one when recovery has started feeling like another damn to-do list—and send it to the woman who needs permission to stop improving herself for five minutes and enjoy who she already is. Send us Fan Mail BRING GEN TO YOUR ORGANIZATION Looking for a speaker, workshop, or consulting support for your college, workplace, organization, or community? Let’s start a conversation. Speaking & Consulting Inquiry: https://forms.gle/wmxT9z78o9G2n2gF9 LOOKING FOR PERSONAL SUPPORT? If something in this episode hit home and you’re ready to get clear on what comes next, you can book a private conversation with me here. Private Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/genstoney/claritycall

  4. 3d ago

    What If Healthy Love Feels Unfamiliar Before It Feels Safe? with Gen Stoney

    What if the relationship isn’t boring? What if you’re just…not activated? Nobody disappeared for six hours. You’re not checking his phone. You’re not analyzing a three-word text like it’s evidence in a federal investigation. Nobody blocked anybody. Nobody’s threatening to leave. He actually texts when he says he will. And suddenly you’re sitting there thinking… Wait. Is something missing? Ohhhh, babe. What if the thing you’re missing isn’t chemistry? What if it’s chaos? In this episode of The Unapologetic Woman, Gen gets deeply personal about one of the strangest parts of healing your romantic life after addiction, toxic relationships, codependency, or years of chasing emotionally unavailable people: Sometimes healthy love feels unfamiliar as hell. Gen shares what happened when she met Ray just weeks before getting sober—and suddenly found herself with a man who adored her, supported healthy choices, wrote her poems, gave thoughtful gifts, and didn’t require her to manipulate, chase, perform, or prove herself to keep his attention. It was everything she said she wanted. And at first? She thought it was boring. She picked fights. Questioned the chemistry. Almost ended the relationship. Because when love has historically felt like chasing, proving, waiting, wondering, fighting, making up, being rejected, getting chosen again, or feeling indispensable because someone needs saving… peace can feel suspiciously like a lack of passion. This episode isn't telling you to stay in a relationship you don't want. And Gen definitely isn't telling you every calm person is your soulmate. 😂 It's an invitation to get curious before automatically deciding that healthy means boring. Do you want attraction—or uncertainty? Are you connected to the person—or connected to the chase? Is there genuinely no spark? Or are you waiting for anxiety to tell you you're in love? Because recovery can uncover something wildly uncomfortable: You can get sober and still recreate emotional intensity through your relationships. And sometimes the next chapter of recovery isn't learning how to avoid unhealthy love. It's learning how to receive healthy love without feeling like you have to earn it first. Healthy doesn't have to mean passionless. Peace doesn't mean settling. You are allowed to want safety and attraction. Stability and play. Depth and fun. Peace and really freaking good chemistry. You are allowed to be adored. Desired. Seen. Heard. And loved as the sexy, messy, evolving, imperfect woman you actually are. Gen even shares one ridiculously romantic anniversary surprise from Ray that may make you raise your standards just a tiny bit. 😉 And no—we're not spoiling that one here. Maybe the question isn't only: Do I want them? Maybe it's: Who do I become when I'm with them? 🎧 Listen to this one if you've ever wondered why the healthy relationship feels “different,” why dating after sobriety can feel confusing, or why the person who actually treats you well somehow doesn't create the same rush. And send it to the woman who keeps saying, “He's amazing…but I don't know, something feels like it's missing.” Maybe something is. Or maybe, for the first time, chaos is. Send us Fan Mail BRING GEN TO YOUR ORGANIZATION Looking for a speaker, workshop, or consulting support for your college, workplace, organization, or community? Let’s start a conversation. Speaking & Consulting Inquiry: https://forms.gle/wmxT9z78o9G2n2gF9 LOOKING FOR PERSONAL SUPPORT? If something in this episode hit home and you’re ready to get clear on what comes next, you can book a private conversation with me here. Private Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/genstoney/claritycall

  5. 4d ago

    The Pattern Can Stop With You—But It Won’t Stop by Accident with Gen Stoney

    Families pass down a whole lot more than eye color. We pass down what love looks like. How we fight. Whether we apologize. Who walks on eggshells. Who has to keep everybody happy. Whether addiction gets talked about—or becomes the family secret nobody is allowed to mention. Whether Mom sacrifices herself and calls it love. Whether anger means cruelty. Whether we forgive because someone actually repaired the damage…or because “they’re family.” And sometimes the patterns we inherit aren't huge, dramatic things. Sometimes they're just a typical Tuesday night that somebody taught us was normal. In this episode of The Unapologetic Woman, Gen asks a question that may hit a little differently: What am I unconsciously teaching the people I love to normalize? This isn't about blaming your parents, villainizing your family, or spending the next 45 minutes psychoanalyzing everybody at Thanksgiving. Gen gets deeply personal about the patterns she inherited, the ones she carried forward without realizing it, the moment motherhood exposed one of them almost immediately, and the recovery work that forced her to confront something uncomfortable: You can love where you came from and still decide that certain things don't get to continue through you. Because sobriety alone doesn't automatically change a pattern. Awareness alone doesn't change it either. You can identify every childhood wound, understand exactly why you react the way you do, and psychoanalyze yourself into next Tuesday… and still keep doing the same damn thing. Patterns change when we practice something different often enough that different becomes normal. Gen shares her own evolution with anger, validation, repair, motherhood and recovery—including why she wants her boys to see her make mistakes. Not because messing up doesn't matter. But because they also get to see what happens after Mom gets it wrong. Honesty. An apology. Repair. Different action. Because your children don't need evidence that adults are perfect. They need evidence that human beings can get honest, repair and choose differently. And this conversation goes far beyond parenting. Your “next generation” might be your children. But it might also be the students you teach. The athletes you coach. The employees you lead. The team watching how you respond when someone is struggling. Organizations have patterns too. This is just how things are done here. Nobody addresses the drinking because they're a top performer. Everyone compensates for one person's instability. The team walks on eggshells. Someone is struggling and nobody knows what to do, so people either enable them or judge them. Eventually, what you repeatedly tolerate becomes part of the culture. So whether you're a sober woman trying to build a different life, a mother wondering what your kids are absorbing, someone questioning the “that's just how our family is” story, or a leader realizing something unhealthy has quietly become normal inside your organization—this episode will ask you to look at your part without drowning yourself in blame or shame. You don't have to heal the entire family tree. You don't have to convince everyone else to see what you see. You don't have to change ten things by tomorrow. Maybe you choose one: With me, addiction isn't a secret. With me, anger doesn't mean cruelty. With me, love doesn't require self-abandonment. With me, asking for help isn't weakness. With me, we apologize. With me, sobriety isn't the end of growth. And then you practice it until that becomes normal. Maybe your job isn't to fix the entire family tree. Maybe your job is to become one healthy branch. 🎧 Listen to this one when you're ready to stop asking only, “Why am I like this?” and start asking, “What am I choosing to hand forward?” Then send it to the woman who's starting to realize she can deeply love her family—and still choose differently. And if your college, university, workplace, leadership team, or organization needs more honest conversations around addiction, recovery, culture, accountability and what we unconsciously normalize, Gen Stoney is available for speaking, workshops and consulting. The Speaking & Consulting Inquiry is linked in the show notes below. Send us Fan Mail BRING GEN TO YOUR ORGANIZATION Looking for a speaker, workshop, or consulting support for your college, workplace, organization, or community? Let’s start a conversation. Speaking & Consulting Inquiry: https://forms.gle/wmxT9z78o9G2n2gF9 LOOKING FOR PERSONAL SUPPORT? If something in this episode hit home and you’re ready to get clear on what comes next, you can book a private conversation with me here. Private Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/genstoney/claritycall

  6. 5d ago

    Grief Changes What You’re Available For with Gen Stoney

    If life really is this short…why are you still spending yours on things you already know aren’t right for you? That question became very different for Gen after losing her best friend, Sarah, to stage 4 breast cancer. Sarah was 15 years sober. An incredible wife. Mom. Friend. Human. She did the work. She loved deeply. She built a beautiful life. And she still didn't get unlimited time. After Sarah died, Gen and her husband Ray looked at each other and essentially said: What the hell are we doing with ours? In this deeply personal episode of The Unapologetic Woman, Gen opens up about grief, sobriety, boundaries, relationships, motherhood, marriage—and the loss that permanently changed the way she thinks about where her time and energy go. It also created a practice Gen and Ray still use today: You get 10 energy tokens. That's it. And every day, you decide where they go. Your marriage. Your kids. Your recovery. Your health. Your purpose. Your friendships. Or… Resentment. Proving yourself. Replaying a conversation for the 37th time. Managing someone else's feelings. Overexplaining. Staying in relationships you've outgrown. Saying yes because saying no feels uncomfortable. And here's the part we don't talk about enough: Every yes costs you something. Sometimes the price isn't money. Sometimes the price is the version of you your family gets when you finally come home. Gen gets vulnerable about realizing she had become so generous with everyone else's needs that sometimes Ray and the kids were getting what was left of her—and what it meant when her husband finally told her, We don't want your leftovers. This isn't an episode about becoming cold, cutting everybody off, or using grief as an excuse to stop caring. It's about something much deeper: You can love someone and have limits. You can forgive and still change someone's access to you. You can care deeply and still say no. And maybe protecting your peace doesn't require becoming harder. Maybe it requires finally understanding how precious your life actually is. This conversation is for the woman in recovery who's realizing sobriety was only the beginning. The mom who gives everyone else her best energy. The leader or business owner pouring herself into everyone and everything. The people-pleaser exhausted from maintaining relationships out of obligation. The person grieving someone she loves. And the woman who keeps telling herself she'll change things eventually. Because eventually isn't promised. Your life is happening while you're deciding whether you're allowed to live it. So call the person. Go to the game. Take the picture. Say no. Say yes. Put the damn phone down. Tell the truth. Come home to yourself. 🎧 Listen to this one when you need to remember that your time isn't something you have to earn the right to protect. And send it to the woman you love who keeps giving her life away one tiny yes at a time. If conversations about recovery, resilience, boundaries, leadership, grief, and building a life you don't need to escape from belong on your college campus, in your workplace, or inside your organization, Gen Stoney is available for speaking, workshops and consulting. The Speaking & Consulting Inquiry is in the show notes below. Send us Fan Mail BRING GEN TO YOUR ORGANIZATION Looking for a speaker, workshop, or consulting support for your college, workplace, organization, or community? Let’s start a conversation. Speaking & Consulting Inquiry: https://forms.gle/wmxT9z78o9G2n2gF9 LOOKING FOR PERSONAL SUPPORT? If something in this episode hit home and you’re ready to get clear on what comes next, you can book a private conversation with me here. Private Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/genstoney/claritycall

  7. 6d ago

    After the Crisis—Why Peace Can Feel So Uncomfortable with Gen Stoney

    Have you ever had a perfectly good day…and immediately gotten suspicious? Nobody’s mad. Nobody’s drinking. Nobody’s fighting. Your partner is acting normal. The kids are okay. Work is fine. And instead of enjoying it, your brain goes: Okay…but what are we missing? So you check the phone. Read into the tone. Mentally inventory everything that could go wrong. Find something to fix. Maybe even start a little shit that absolutely did not need to be started. 😂 Because sometimes we say we want peace for years… and then peace finally arrives, and we don’t know what the hell to do with ourselves. In this episode of The Unapologetic Woman, Gen gets deeply personal about what happens after the crisis—when the drinking stops, the relationship becomes safer, life settles down, or the emergency finally ends…but part of you is still standing guard waiting for the next thing to go wrong. If you’ve spent years checking bottles, watching bank accounts, reading facial expressions, listening for the garage door, waiting for another lie, anticipating someone’s mood, or trying to stay three steps ahead of disaster, you got really freaking good at looking for information. The crisis can end before your habits around the crisis do. Gen shares how this showed up in her own sobriety: replacing drinking with achievement, taking 26 college credits while planning a wedding and staying sober, constantly adding more to her plate—and eventually turning that restless energy toward her marriage by nitpicking, blaming, and searching for something else to fix. Because chaos doesn’t always look like addiction. Sometimes it looks like overworking. Overscheduling. Perfectionism. Control. Picking apart a perfectly good relationship. Or being so damn busy that you never have to sit still long enough to meet yourself. This conversation is for the sober woman wondering why she still can’t relax. The partner or family member who spent years bracing for someone else’s addiction. The high-achieving woman who feels safer being busy than being still. The leader who can manage everyone else’s problems but doesn’t know what to do when there isn’t one. And the woman whose life is finally getting good…but who hasn’t quite learned how to let it be good. Gen also opens up about rebuilding trust after infidelity, learning the difference between what is happening now and a story built from what happened before, and the deeper self-trust that changes everything: You don’t need to trust that nothing bad will ever happen again. You need to trust yourself enough to know you’ll meet it when it actually arrives. Maybe peace isn’t boring. Maybe it’s unfamiliar. And maybe you don’t need to use every beautiful, quiet moment preparing yourself for the next painful one. You don’t need a guarantee that another storm isn’t coming to let yourself stand in the sunshine today. 🎧 Listen to this one when everything is technically “fine”…but some part of you still can’t stop waiting for the other shoe to drop. And send it to the woman who fought like hell for peace—but might need a little help learning how to actually live inside of it. Send us Fan Mail BRING GEN TO YOUR ORGANIZATION Looking for a speaker, workshop, or consulting support for your college, workplace, organization, or community? Let’s start a conversation. Speaking & Consulting Inquiry: https://forms.gle/wmxT9z78o9G2n2gF9 LOOKING FOR PERSONAL SUPPORT? If something in this episode hit home and you’re ready to get clear on what comes next, you can book a private conversation with me here. Private Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/genstoney/claritycall

  8. Oct 7

    Why Receiving Can Feel More Dangerous Than Giving with Gen Stoney

    You’ll bring the dinner. Pick up the kids. Research the therapist. Handle the crisis. Venmo the money. Answer the 11:47 p.m. text. But when someone looks at you and asks, “What do you need?” Suddenly: Absolutely nothing. I’m good. I’ve got it. 😂 Sound familiar? There’s a particular kind of woman who has become incredibly good at giving. She’s capable. Generous. Dependable. Successful. She’s the one everyone calls because she’ll figure it out. But underneath all that strength can live a much more uncomfortable question: Do I genuinely love giving…or have I learned that giving is safer than needing? In this episode of The Unapologetic Woman, Gen gets deeply personal about hyper-independence, recovery, marriage, intimacy, control, vulnerability—and why receiving support used to feel far more dangerous to her than simply exhausting herself. Because giving keeps you in control. You decide what you offer. You don't have to ask. You don't risk hearing no. You don't have to wonder whether someone will disappoint you. Receiving? Receiving asks you to soften enough to let safe people get close. And sometimes the woman everyone thinks is “fine” has simply become incredibly good at convincing everyone she doesn't need anything. Gen shares what this looked like in her own sobriety and marriage, the pregnancy that forced her to receive support, what a dishwasher taught her about love and control (yes, really 😂), and why constantly saying “I'll just do it myself” may be costing you more than you realize. This conversation is for the sober woman who thinks she should be able to handle everything by now. The partner who spent years compensating for someone else's instability. The mom carrying the family. The executive or business owner everyone assumes has it handled. The woman who shows up beautifully for everybody else…and somehow disappears when it's her turn to need something. Being capable and being supported are not opposites. And receiving doesn't mean handing your life over to someone else. It doesn't mean losing your discernment, independence, ambition or strength. Maybe the next level of your strength isn't proving how much you can carry. Maybe it's realizing you don't have to carry all of it alone. 🎧 Listen to this one with your coffee, on your walk, or while you're doing the 47 things you probably could have let somebody help you with. Then send it to the woman who will drop everything for everyone else—but still says “No, no, I'm good” when somebody tries to show up for her. And if this conversation belongs in your college, university, workplace, leadership team, or organization, Gen Stoney is available for speaking, workshops and consulting. You’ll find the Speaking & Consulting Inquiry link in the show notes below. Send us Fan Mail BRING GEN TO YOUR ORGANIZATION Looking for a speaker, workshop, or consulting support for your college, workplace, organization, or community? Let’s start a conversation. Speaking & Consulting Inquiry: https://forms.gle/wmxT9z78o9G2n2gF9 LOOKING FOR PERSONAL SUPPORT? If something in this episode hit home and you’re ready to get clear on what comes next, you can book a private conversation with me here. Private Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/genstoney/claritycall

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Calling all successful women! Tune in and learn how to be Unapologetic, Deepen your Relationships, Celebrate your Sobriety, Uplevel your Success, embrace Metaphysics, and truly Connect with your Sacred Sober Self! Gen is the Sacred Sober Sexuality Expert for women, a wife to an incredible man for 11+ years, & mom to 2 little boys. Gen has been coaching women on this amazing journey and has been sober from drugs and alcohol for 15+ years. She is a certified Life coach, EFT practitioner, meditation guide, and chakra healer.  Gen is a #1 International Best Selling Author and has been featured as a regular guest expert on FOX & The CW. She has also been listed on the 100 TOP inspirational women globally. If you are ready to claim your unapologetic radiant romantic sober fun energized life, Gen Stoney is your person & this podcast is for you! 

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  • Creator
    Gen Stoney
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    111
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 The Unapologetic Woman Podcast
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