Time for Us, With Dani Wallace

Danielle Wallace

Time for Us is time to talk about the things most people shy away from – identity, sex, relationships, addiction (you name it). No preaching. No perfect answers. Just honest conversations about being human, always delivered with curiosity and a wide-open mind. 🎙️ New episodes drop every second Wednesday. Like and follow if something lands xxx With the best intentions, Dani. Go to @time.for.us.podcast on Instagram if you wanna talk about it.

  1. S4: I hope we understand each other (episode with my dad)

    MAY 13

    S4: I hope we understand each other (episode with my dad)

    My dad and I have had a rather contentious and strained relationship for a significant part of my life. We are still learning what it means to be father and daughter to one another. He was kind of an absent father (sorry, Dad, but you would admit that yourself). That said, I was always cared for and provided for as best he could, and I love my dad. This episode is not about dredging up the past in unhelpful or accusatory ways; it was an opportunity to solidify our more recent growth together (following his Easter visit to Cape Town). We are TRULY and I-kid-you-not LeArNiNg how to relate to one another. How to call each other more often and how to ask questions that elicit honest answers about ourselves and our lives. We're learning to share our little pains, our discomforts, and our joys with each other. It feels like we have only just begun to open up to one another in a way that allows us to be seen as we are, without input or rejection (and this last point is something I'm sure we're both practising really hard, hahaha). Perhaps this is a gift that could only arrive with the passage of time? It's really interesting to learn to be in an authentic relationship with a parent (in this case, my father), at this stage in the game - 33 years in lol. It's healing, and beautiful, and extremely vulnerable. THANK YOU for coming on the pod, Popsicle (AKA, Norman – who you'll meet soon). I LOVE YOU. Here's to many more years of growth and evolution together. P.S. My technical wars are ongoing - the video on my one recording apparatus bombed out (obviously), and I only realised much too late - the camera angles are choppy and a bit f*cked up, but I hope the listening is impactful. Thank you for making Time For Us, let me know what you think of this episode. XXX

    1h 13m

  2. APR 22

    S4: Finding peace or reaching potential (Part 2)

    Part 2 is here... In this episode, I break down the cycle: feeling good, pushing harder, slipping into anxiety, then burning out. I talk through what’s happening in our nervous systems (polyvagal theory), and hopefully, JUST HOPEFULLY, we all leave with some clarity on how to keep chasing our dreams… without constantly dysregulating ourselves (and losing our marbles along the way). This is part 2 of 2. It forms the grand debut of Season 4's new direction, which is a series of episodes that fall under my most sincere human longing: "I hope it all works out". New episode on Wednesdays. Thank you for making Time For Us. xxx

    29 min

  3. MAR 25

    S4: I hope I don't lose my peace trying to fulfil my potential (Part 1)

    We're all trying to achieve some level of success... In my quest to do cool shit, I've begun to wonder WHY IS THIS SO TAXING!? Ambition is supposed to feel exciting (isn't it?). So why do I feel like it's slowly eroding my sense of self? This episode dives into the psychology of motivation, the 'achievement trap', and the question I'm still trying to answer: which version of me in my hustling, driven, goal-oriented era can coexist with peace? This is part 1 of 2. It forms the grand debut of Season 4's new direction, which is a series of episodes that fall under my most sincere human longing: "I hope it all works out". New episode every Wednesday. Thank you for making Time For Us. xxx

    30 min

  4. FEB 11

    S4: The strange pleasure of Gossip...

    Gossip is a universal human behaviour; it weirdly bonds us, regulates group dynamics, and can help us decide who feels safe (btw, this is not my opinion, but that of academic researchers). BUT there are moments when it turns harmful, feels addictive, and can lead to us tearing each other down. In this episode, I take a look at GOSSIP - what it means, why we do it, and if we need to be so hard on ourselves for it.PS. This is not a defence of being mean, nor is it a lecture on being 'good'.It's just a curious, honest look at why we talk about people when they’re not in the room.

    28 min

  5. JAN 28

    S3: #10: We didn’t break up (but we came close lol)

    Five years into our relationship, my partner Aaron and I sat down to talk (like, for realzies) about what we’ve been through together, and how we've come to understand and love each other more deeply. From time apart and living alone, to moving out, moving back in, learning how to fight without destroying each other, and finding support through couples therapy, this episode is a candid look at the reality of a long-term partnership. We reflect on the ways our nervous systems collide, how co-regulation has shaped our dynamic, and how love continues to challenge us to confront our own patterns. Since recording this episode, we’ve already entered a new chapter (classic life doing its thing...). This conversation captures one moment along the way, shared openly for anyone navigating the messy, meaningful work of loving another person.

    50 min

  6. JAN 21

    S3: #9: Disordered eating, body image, and the road to self-compassion

    Join me with holistic life coach, Samantha Brooke, as we explore the deeply personal (and deeply collective) relationship women have with their bodies. We speak honestly about food, discipline, and disordered eating, and how easily “control” can disguise itself as self-care. To our listeners, we hope to provide some insights that can help heal poor body image without turning ourselves into another project. Support & Safety Disclaimer This episode contains an open conversation about disordered eating, body image, and healing. The experiences and reflections shared are personal and are not intended as medical, clinical, diagnostic, or nutritional advice. If you, or someone you care about, are struggling with an eating disorder, disordered eating, serious body image distress, or thoughts of self-harm, please reach out for professional support and care. You deserve compassionate, trained help, and talking to a professional can be an important step toward healing. We hold you in our hearts and honour the courage it takes to seek help. South Africa Support Resources • South African Depression and Anxiety Group (SADAG) – Mental health support and counselling, referrals, and information.Toll-free 24/7 National Crisis Line: 0800 567 567Mental Health Helpline: 0800 12 13 14SADAG also offers support groups and referral services nationwide. • Eating Disorders South Africa (EDSA) – Support group meetups and peer support for individuals dealing with eating disorders.

    1h 5m

  7. 08/13/2025

    S3: Matchmaking secrets: How to attract the right love

    Beautiful, successful, self-aware...and still single? You’re not alone. In this episode of Time For Us, I sit down with Sacha Jack, South Africa’s only certified matchmaker trained by the prestigious School of Matchmaking and Relationship Sciences in New York. We unpack the real reasons finding love feels so hard, how much of it is timing vs. choice, the green flags we’re overlooking, and the shifts that happen when you date from alignment instead of scarcity. Visit sachajack.com to discover more about her elite matchmaking and relationship services.

    37 min

  8. 07/02/2025

    S3: #7: What makes a man? Masculinity, mentorship & modern rites of passage

    What does it mean to be a man in today’s world, when the old maps no longer work, and the new ones haven’t yet been drawn? In this episode, I sit down with Craig Makhosi Charnock, a men’s work facilitator, to explore masculinity in its raw, real, and healing forms. We discuss the absence of male role models, the quiet epidemic of isolation many men face, and the cultural cost of losing rites of passage. Craig shares his story, from training as a Sangoma to stepping into his purpose of guiding men through transformation. Together, we question the lone wolf myth, honour the power of brotherhood, and speak to the importance of community, expression, and ceremonial thresholds. Whether you’re a man on the edge of becoming, someone raising sons, or simply curious about the evolution of masculinity, this one’s for you. Craig Makhosi is a men’s work coach and facilitator dedicated to helping men reconnect with purpose, power, and emotional integrity. He offers one-on-one coaching, consultations, group programs, retreats and free content to support men on the path of personal growth and mission-driven living. → Connect with Craig → Join the Xhosa learning community → Explore men’s rites of passage Disclaimer: This conversation is based on personal experiences and opinions. We’re not claiming to have all the answers – just sharing stories, perspectives, and thoughts that might spark something in you. Take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and always do what feels right for you.

    49 min
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Time for Us is time to talk about the things most people shy away from – identity, sex, relationships, addiction (you name it). No preaching. No perfect answers. Just honest conversations about being human, always delivered with curiosity and a wide-open mind. 🎙️ New episodes drop every second Wednesday. Like and follow if something lands xxx With the best intentions, Dani. Go to @time.for.us.podcast on Instagram if you wanna talk about it.

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