Mind Your Midlife | Women Over 40, Menopause, Self Care, Mindset, Empty Nest, Aging Parents, Healthy Habits, Self-Talk

Cheryl Fischer, Life Coach for Midlife Women, Podcaster, Corporate Trainer
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Mind Your Midlife is a weekly podcast for women in their 40s and 50s who want to feel confident in their bodies, their relationships, and their next chapter. Host Cheryl Fischer, a certified life and mindset coach, talks with doctors, experts, and real women about the questions midlife brings, from perimenopause and menopause to adult kids, aging parents, and figuring out what you want next.Did you wake up one morning and realize you've hit midlife? You thought by now you'd have six figures in your retirement fund, the confidence to speak up at work and in your relationships, and a body you'd learned to love. You've tried positive thinking, the 5am club, and the sticky notes around the house, and you're left more frustrated (or reaching for the wine and Netflix).Here's the difference: real change doesn't come from adding more habits to your day. It comes from how you think and the emotions you feel. Each week, Cheryl and her guests share practical, expert-led conversations about:• Perimenopause, menopause, hormones, and exercise• Body image and self-confidence after 40• Healthy relationships with your partner/spouse, adult children, and aging parents• Decision making, career changes, and second-act goals• Money and retirement confidence• Making friends and building community in midlifeCheryl has helped hundreds of midlife women find success and confidence, and with more than 100 episodes, there's a conversation here for wherever you are right now.Take a little bit better care of yourself in midlife.Episodes, show notes, and transcripts: https://mindyourmidlifepodcast.comCoaching and resources: https://cherylpfischer.com(Formerly the OMG Teach Me podcast) -Listen Notes global top 2% score- Popular topics include: mindset for women over 50, menopause and perimenopause, hormone balance, self talk and self confidence, redefining aging for women, mindset shifts, midlife crisis, midlife body positivity, energy in midlife, confidence in midlife, finding community after 50, midlife isolation, staying active in midlife, mental benefits of movement, healthy habits for midlife women, Gen X women, adult children, sandwich generation, can’t sleep, pulled muscles, stiff joints, hot flashes, brain fog, making friends, retirement, retirement prep, adult children, aging parents, caring for parents, empty nest, grandma hobbies

  1. 1h ago ·  Video

    107. Starting a Sport in Midlife as a Beginner, with Cortnee White

    Quick Summary: Cheryl talks with Cortnee White, a sports therapist, mental performance coach, and owner of The Athlete Mind, about the mindset side of starting a sport in midlife. You’ll learn why being a beginner feels so vulnerable, how to get better without making your hobby feel like work, and how to choose a “mind stance” that helps you enjoy the game whether you win or lose. Intro: Maybe it’s pickleball, golf, tennis, or a running club. Starting a sport as a hobby in midlife is good for us. But it can bring up a lot between our ears: comparing ourselves to other people, getting frustrated with ourselves, and feeling like a beginner when we’re good at so many other things. In this episode, I welcome Cortnee White, a sports therapist, mental performance coach, and the owner of The Athlete Mind. Cortnee has been an athlete her whole life, from youth sports to NCAA to fitness competitions and even women’s arena tackle football. Today she helps athletes from kids to pros understand how their mind, body, and behavior work together under pressure. We talk about why competition feels so uncomfortable for some of us, her “no zero” approach to practice, a simple way to handle frustration, and the three mind stances she teaches her athletes. What You’ll Learn: ✔ The Beginner Challenge: Why trying something new in midlife feels so vulnerable, and why you get to decide what this sport means to you ✔ The “No Zero” Approach: How small, focused practice (even five minutes) builds momentum without turning your hobby into a chore ✔ Catch It, Disrupt It, Redirect It: A simple method for handling frustration on the course or court, plus Cortnee’s three mind stances: the Challenger, the Anchor, and the Appreciator Links & Resources: Cortnee’s website: theathletemind.comThe Athlete Mind on Instagram: @theathlete_mindThis episode’s sponsor, Barre3 Arlington. Your first class is free, and listeners get $10 off a class package with code ARLMINDYOURMIDLIFE. Located in Ballston, Arlington, Virginia.Connect with Cheryl: @cherylpfischer on Instagram, LinkedIn, and FacebookEnjoying the show? Leave a five-star rating and review on Apple PodcastsFrequently Asked Questions: Why is it so hard to be a beginner at a sport in midlife? Cortnee says that by midlife we’ve become competent in many areas, like work and raising children. Starting something new asks us to not be good at something, which feels vulnerable and leads to comparison. What if I don’t like competition? Cortnee says competition asks you to take risks and step into uncertainty, so it can feel uncomfortable. Sometimes there’s a story behind that feeling. Other times competition is just unfamiliar, and anything unfamiliar feels uncomfortable. How can I get better at golf or pickleball without practicing all the time? Cortnee says there’s plenty of room between practicing seriously and not improving at all. She uses a “no zero” approach. On a busy day, five focused minutes on one thing, like your putting setup, still counts and keeps your momentum going. How do I handle frustration when I’m playing a sport? Cortnee teaches “catch it, disrupt it, redirect it.” First, notice and name what’s happening (“I’m starting to rush”). Next, do something physical to release the energy, like gripping and releasing your hands. Then ask yourself what one thing you can control next. What is a mind stance in sports? A mind stance is a mental stance you choose before you play and come back to, the same way you return to your physical stance. Cortnee teaches three: the Challenger takes on the challenge, the Anchor stays steady through the storm, and the Appreciator focuses on joy and meaning. Do I have to be good at a sport for it to be worth doing? No. Cortnee’s main takeaway is that you don’t have to be good at something for it to be good for you. Trying, being courageous, and tolerating the vulnerability of being a beginner are what’s worth focusing on. Episode Chapters: 00:00:00 - Midlife Sports And Mindset Setup 00:04:19 - Why Starting Feels Hard 00:08:31 - Competition And Identity Stories 00:15:20 - Practice Without All Or Nothing 00:21:12 - Frustration Reset Toolkit 00:26:42 - Three Mind Stances For Athletes 00:35:54 - Key Takeaway And Listener Actions Music: Cartwheels by Good News Tunes, licensed by Premium Beats. YouTube ID: NOYTHM5TOK62B7JY Why This Episode Matters: When you let go of having to be good at something, you free yourself to enjoy the game, move your body, and grow in confidence. In Cheryl’s words: do the thing to enjoy the thing. Take a little bit better care of yourself in midlife. Barre3 ArlingtonBarre3 is a guided fitness practice, offering classes that combine strength, cardio, and mindfulnessDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show 🌸 Liked this episode? Share it with fellow Gen X women navigating hormone balance, an empty nest, and/or self-confidence! 🫶 Love this show? Leave a review to help more women over 50 find us. 💡Want menopause advice, mindset shifts, or support with midlife transformation? Find out more about the Midlife Recharge at cherylpfischer.com/rechargeLet’s talk health after 50, self-talk, and redefining aging for women — without the “midlife crisis” narrative. Every week I'm adding new success strategies for midlife women. Connect with Cheryl: Instagram | LinkedIn | Website --------------- 💡If you are a brand, author, or business wanting to reach an audience of women in their 40s and 50s who are focused on health, success, and taking care of themselves and others well in this stage of life, consider sponsoring Mind Your Midlife podcast.  More information here.

    107. Starting a Sport in Midlife as a Beginner, with Cortnee White

  2. Oct 16 ·  Video

    106. Midlife Marriage: When Your Spouse Becomes Your Roommate

    Quick Summary: In this episode, Cheryl explores what happens when a midlife marriage quietly drifts into a “roommate” relationship, and why gray divorce is rising. With archival clips from couples expert Dr. Jackie Black, you’ll learn the early signs of disconnection and simple daily habits that help you reconnect, even if you feel like the only one trying. Intro: You’re not fighting. You’re not unhappy, exactly. But somewhere between the busy kid years, work, and aging parents, your marriage started to feel more like a well-run household than a relationship. Then the kids leave, and the house gets very quiet. In this episode, I pick up where last week’s conversation with James Davis left off and look at what’s happening to our relationships in midlife. I bring back clips from my conversation with Dr. Jackie Black, relationship expert, marriage educator, and certified coach, from my earlier podcast. We talk about the “transactional years,” why so many couples drift into being best friends or roommates, what’s behind gray divorce, and the small, intentional habits that can bring you back toward each other. What You’ll Learn: ✔ The Roommate Drift: Why couples who aren’t fighting can still slowly disconnect, and how the empty nest can bring that drift to the surface ✔ Small Daily Connections: Dr. Jackie’s practical ideas for reconnecting, including daily non-sexual touch, saying appreciation out loud, and turning things you already do into shared rituals ✔ When You’re the Only One Trying: Why “he’s still showing up” matters, and how working with a couples counselor or coach can help, even if you go alone Links & Resources: Episode 105 with James Davis (Midlife Mentors)Dr. Jackie BlackThis episode’s sponsor: Barre3 Arlington, in Ballston, Arlington, VA. Your first class is free, and listeners get $10 off a class package with code ARLMindYourMidlifeEpisode 103 on drifting through lifeConnect with Cheryl on social media: @cherylpfischerFrequently Asked Questions: Why do couples start feeling like roommates in midlife? Dr. Jackie explains that during the years with young kids and teens, relationships often become transactional and focus on who’s doing what and when. That’s where a subtle disconnection begins. Many couples aren’t fighting, but a hollowness or boredom sets in. What’s the difference between being “best friends” and being connected as a couple? Dr. Jackie describes “best friend” couples as companionate. They enjoy each other, travel together, and support each other, but the romance, intimacy, and emotional vulnerability have “gone to sleep.” How can I reconnect with my husband after the kids leave home? Dr. Jackie recommends daily non-sexual touch, like a squeeze of the shoulder or hand, telling your partner they matter, and creating rituals around things you already do, like coffee in the morning or a walk together. Cheryl adds that she and her husband deliberately looked for hobbies to share, including biking. How do I know if we’re drifting apart? Cheryl suggests asking yourself when you last had a real conversation, laughed together, or touched on purpose. Not arguing doesn’t mean everything is great, and catching the drift early is key. What is gray divorce, and why is it happening? Cheryl explains that gray divorce refers to couples divorcing later in life. She points to longer lifespans, women’s greater financial independence, re-evaluating life at transitions like the empty nest, and not feeling seen or communicating well. What if I’m the only one trying to fix the relationship? Dr. Jackie says that as long as you’re both still there, there’s still hope, and that “he’s showing up” is enough to start with. Cheryl adds that a couples counselor or coach can still help even if only one of you goes. Episode Chapters: 00:00:00 - Midlife Reality Check And Welcome 00:01:58 - Why The Focus Shifts To Marriage 00:02:53 - How Couples Turn Into Roommates 00:05:26 - Transactional Parenting Years Create Distance 00:07:46 - Empty Nest Boredom And New Hobbies 00:11:51 - Gray Divorce Trends And What Drives It 00:15:36 - Daily Joy Touch Words And Rituals 00:21:20 - When You Feel Like The Only One 00:24:34 - Catch The Drift Before It Grows 00:26:39 - Closing Thoughts And How To Connect Why This Episode Matters Drifting apart rarely happens all at once. Noticing it early and adding small daily moments of connection can change how you see each other and help you choose this next chapter together. Take a little bit better care of yourself in midlife. Barre3 ArlingtonBarre3 is a guided fitness practice, offering classes that combine strength, cardio, and mindfulnessDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show 🌸 Liked this episode? Share it with fellow Gen X women navigating hormone balance, an empty nest, and/or self-confidence! 🫶 Love this show? Leave a review to help more women over 50 find us. 💡Want menopause advice, mindset shifts, or support with midlife transformation? Find out more about the Midlife Recharge at cherylpfischer.com/rechargeLet’s talk health after 50, self-talk, and redefining aging for women — without the “midlife crisis” narrative. Every week I'm adding new success strategies for midlife women. Connect with Cheryl: Instagram | LinkedIn | Website --------------- 💡If you are a brand, author, or business wanting to reach an audience of women in their 40s and 50s who are focused on health, success, and taking care of themselves and others well in this stage of life, consider sponsoring Mind Your Midlife podcast.  More information here.

    106. Midlife Marriage: When Your Spouse Becomes Your Roommate

  3. Oct 9 ·  Video

    105. Why Men Withdraw in Midlife and How to Help Your Husband, with James Davis

    Quick Summary: In part one of a two-part mini-series on the men in our lives, Cheryl talks with James Davis, a coaching psychologist, men's health advocate, and author of The Midlife Male Handbook, about what men go through in midlife. You'll learn what andropause is, why many men withdraw instead of talking, and how to gently start a conversation that brings you closer. Intro: We talk a lot on this show about what we're going through in midlife: hormones, adult kids, aging parents, career changes. But what about the men in our lives? Beyond the red-sports-car "midlife crisis" stereotype, there are real changes happening for our husbands, partners, brothers, and friends, and many of them don't have the words to explain it. In this episode, I welcome James Davis, an award-winning coach, coaching psychologist, and men's health advocate with over a decade of experience. James and his wife, Claire, are the Midlife Mentors, hosts of a popular UK podcast focused on midlife health and well-being. James is also the author of The Midlife Male Handbook: A Man's Guide to Thriving Through Andropause. We talk about testosterone decline, why men pull back when they're struggling, and simple ways to reconnect, and maybe even have more fun together. What You'll Learn: ✔ What Andropause Really Is: Why it's not "male menopause," and how a gradual drop in testosterone can affect energy, confidence, motivation, and mood ✔ Why Men Withdraw: How career identity, breadwinner pressure, and a lack of emotional vocabulary can lead men to go quiet instead of opening up ✔ How to Start the Conversation: A gentle, low-pressure way to check in with your partner, plus one simple repair sentence for heated moments Links & Resources: James and Claire's podcast and website, Midlife Mentors: themidlifementors.comJames's website: jamespdavis.comJames's book: The Midlife Male Handbook: A Man's Guide to Thriving Through Andropause This episode's sponsor, Barre3 Arlington: first class free, plus $10 off a class package with code ARLMindYourMidlifeSponsor Mind Your Midlife: cherylpfischer.com/mymsponsorinfoFrequently Asked Questions: Do men go through menopause? James says no, and calls it a myth worth dispelling. Men experience andropause, an age-related decline in testosterone that happens gradually, so it's often written off as stress, tiredness, or just getting older. Why does my husband seem withdrawn or less confident in midlife? James explains that hormone changes, questions like "Have I achieved what I wanted?", and a lack of emotional vocabulary often hit at the same time. Many men pull back and go quiet until they can figure it out themselves, which can create distance in a relationship. How do I talk to my partner about this without making it a big deal? James suggests picking a calm moment and mentioning what you've noticed, like seeing friends less, without making it about the relationship. Let him know you'd like to work on it together, even if he can't put it into words yet. Should men in midlife get their testosterone tested? James recommends a simple blood test through your doctor, ideally two or three tests since levels fluctuate. If levels are low, he says to start with lifestyle changes: exercise (especially strength training), less sugar and processed food, enough protein, and good sleep. What should men know before starting testosterone replacement therapy (TRT)? James notes that TRT isn't right for some health conditions and can affect fertility. Over time it can shut down the body's own testosterone production, so he says to think of it as a lifelong commitment. How can couples handle perimenopause and andropause at the same time? James says it comes down to compassion: breathe, pause, and don't take things personally. He suggests asking, "What do you need from me right now?" as a simple way to repair a tense moment. Episode Chapters: 00:00:00 - Midlife, Now Including The Men 00:03:59 - What Andropause Looks Like 00:09:14 - Breadwinner Pressure And Fewer Friends 00:16:24 - Starting The Talk Without Pressure 00:18:27 - When Both Partners Are Shifting 00:20:55 - Retirement, Loneliness, And Purpose 00:24:19 - Testosterone Tests And TRT Tradeoffs 00:29:11 - Shared Goals, More Fun, Key Takeaway Why This Episode Matters: When we understand that the men in our lives are going through something real, and may not have the words for it, we can respond with curiosity instead of blame, and build stronger, more connected relationships in this chapter. This episode is for educational purposes only and is not medical advice.  Take a little bit better care of yourself in midlife. Barre3 ArlingtonBarre3 is a guided fitness practice, offering classes that combine strength, cardio, and mindfulnessDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show 🌸 Liked this episode? Share it with fellow Gen X women navigating hormone balance, an empty nest, and/or self-confidence! 🫶 Love this show? Leave a review to help more women over 50 find us. 💡Want menopause advice, mindset shifts, or support with midlife transformation? Find out more about the Midlife Recharge at cherylpfischer.com/rechargeLet’s talk health after 50, self-talk, and redefining aging for women — without the “midlife crisis” narrative. Every week I'm adding new success strategies for midlife women. Connect with Cheryl: Instagram | LinkedIn | Website --------------- 💡If you are a brand, author, or business wanting to reach an audience of women in their 40s and 50s who are focused on health, success, and taking care of themselves and others well in this stage of life, consider sponsoring Mind Your Midlife podcast.  More information here.

    105. Why Men Withdraw in Midlife and How to Help Your Husband, with James Davis

  4. Oct 2 ·  Video

    104. How to Look Great in Photos & Be Camera Confident After 40, with Helen Rayner

    Quick Summary: In this episode, Cheryl talks with Helen Rayner, a camera confidence expert and professional photographer, about why so many women in midlife dread being photographed and what to do about it. You'll learn why phone cameras distort your face, simple posing tricks that flatter, and why the most important thing is simply to be in the picture. Intro: We've all been there. The group photo gets taken, everyone huddles around the phone, and suddenly it's "Oh, not that one!" Most of us are far harder on ourselves in pictures than we would ever be on anyone else, and it's costing us memories. In this episode, I welcome camera confidence expert and professional photographer Helen Rayner. Helen has spent 15 years helping women feel more confident in front of the camera, and her Instagram tips stopped me in my tracks. We talk about why the camera really does lie, how your phone distorts your face, and the simple posing tricks that help you feel great in photos. We also cover why the most important thing you can do is just get in the picture. What You'll Learn: ✔ Why the Camera Lies: How phone lenses warp your face, and the simple trick of holding the camera farther away and zooming in ✔ Posing Tricks That Work: Stand at a 45-degree angle, put your weight on your back foot, leave a little space between your arms and body, and what to do with your hands ✔ Why You Belong in the Photo: How your family and friends see the person they love, not the wrinkles, the arms, or the bad hair day you're fixated on Links & Resources: Helen's Camera Confidence Masterclass (with 20% off for Mind Your Midlife listeners) Helen's Instagram: Helen Rayner Photography Cheryl's Midlife Recharge: cherylpfischer.com/recharge Sponsor: Barre3 Arlington (first class free, plus $10 off a class package with the code ARLMINDYOURMIDLIFE) Interested in sponsoring Mind Your Midlife? cherylpfischer.com/mymsponsorinfo You might also enjoy episode 87 about the mindset of style and episode 82 about how to love your menopause bodyFrequently Asked Questions: Why do I hate photos of myself? Helen says one reason is that we believe "the camera never lies," so a bad photo becomes our reference point for how we look. In midlife, that lands on top of other insecurities, so we pick out the flaws and avoid being photographed. Why do I look different in photos than in the mirror? The camera turns a 3D image into a flat one, and phone cameras use a wide-angle lens that distorts your face, especially when held close for a selfie. How can I take a more flattering photo with my phone? Have the phone farther from your face and zoom in, which distorts less. Portrait mode gives a blurry background that makes you stand out, but as far as Helen knows, it doesn't fix the distortion. How should I stand to look better in photos? Turn to about a 45-degree angle, put your weight on your back foot, and leave a small gap between your arms and body. Standing straight-on makes you look wider. What do I do with my hands? Hold your fingers lightly in front of your midsection with your arms relaxed. Helen says broadcasters do it, and it looks classy and confident. How do I look good in a group photo? Skip the end of the line, where you'll be closest to the camera. Stand in the middle, angle toward the person next to you, and keep your weight on your back foot. Episode Chapters: 00:00:00 - Why Group Photos Feel So Hard 00:02:12 - Your Brain’s Bias Toward Criticism 00:05:40 - Why Midlife Photos Hit Different 00:18:30 - How Phone Lenses Distort Faces 00:24:45 - Easy Posing Fixes That Work 00:33:27 - Headshots Jawlines And Video Angles 00:37:35 - Be In The Photo For Them 00:43:09 - Masterclass Link Sponsorship And Closing Why This Episode Matters Pictures are memories. When you stop tearing yourself apart in photos and start seeing yourself the way the people who love you do, you stop hiding from the moments that matter most. Be in the picture. Take a little bit better care of yourself in midlife. Barre3 ArlingtonBarre3 is a guided fitness practice, offering classes that combine strength, cardio, and mindfulnessDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show 🌸 Liked this episode? Share it with fellow Gen X women navigating hormone balance, an empty nest, and/or self-confidence! 🫶 Love this show? Leave a review to help more women over 50 find us. 💡Want menopause advice, mindset shifts, or support with midlife transformation? Find out more about the Midlife Recharge at cherylpfischer.com/rechargeLet’s talk health after 50, self-talk, and redefining aging for women — without the “midlife crisis” narrative. Every week I'm adding new success strategies for midlife women. Connect with Cheryl: Instagram | LinkedIn | Website --------------- 💡If you are a brand, author, or business wanting to reach an audience of women in their 40s and 50s who are focused on health, success, and taking care of themselves and others well in this stage of life, consider sponsoring Mind Your Midlife podcast.  More information here.

    104. How to Look Great in Photos & Be Camera Confident After 40, with Helen Rayner

  5. Sep 25 ·  Video

    103. Are You Drifting on Autopilot? Reclaim Your Power in Midlife

    Quick summary: In this solo episode, Cheryl explains why so many women drift through midlife on autopilot, and why it's your brain conserving energy and seeking safety, not laziness. You'll learn how tiny compromises and blame keep you stuck, what "taking 100% responsibility" really means, and simple changes, like brushing your teeth with your other hand, that wake your brain up.  Intro Have you ever driven to work or the store, pulled into your parking spot, and suddenly realized you don't remember the drive at all? That is autopilot—and it doesn’t just happen on the road. It happens in our careers, our relationships, and our daily routines.  In this episode, Cheryl breaks down what it actually means to "drift" or coast through life. If you find yourself wondering "How the heck did I get here?," you aren't lazy, procrastinating, or flawed; your brain is simply operating on autopilot to conserve energy and keep you safe. We dive into the neuroscience behind midlife coasting, why your brain naturally favors the status quo, and the actionable steps you can take to wake your brain up and take 100% responsibility for your life starting today.  What You’ll Learn: What "Drifting" Really Means: How we fall into deep life ruts without even realizing it—and why midlife is the prime time to wake up. The Trap of Micro-Procrastination: How tiny daily compromises like "I'll do it next month" or "I'll wait until summer" keep you stuck. Taking 100% Responsibility: The distinction between accepting fault vs. taking radical agency over your current and future choices. Disrupting the Pattern: Simple, everyday brain exercises (like brushing your teeth with your non-dominant hand) to force your brain off autopilot. Links & Resources: Free Midlife Recharge Strategy Call: cherylpfischer.com/rechargePodcast Sponsorship Information: cherylpfischer.com/mymsponsorinfoMentioned: Napoleon Hill (Think and Grow Rich), and Bob Proctor.Hypnosis episodes of Mind Your Midlife: episode 69 and episode 89Mind Your Midlife Episodes 96 and 97 on people pleasingNext Mind Your Midlife episode: Helen Rayner on loving your photosQ&A: What does it mean to drift through midlife? Cheryl describes drifting as living on autopilot: the same routine every day, reacting to what's around you and meeting other people's expectations without asking what you want, until you wonder, "How the heck did I get here?" Is coasting a sign that I'm lazy or flawed? No. Cheryl says your brain favors the familiar because it's trying to keep you safe and save energy. In her words, your brain uses about 20% of your energy while making up about 2% of your body weight. Why do I keep putting off big decisions? Small delays like "next month," "when the kids are older," or "this summer" feel safe. Cheryl says drifting builds from many tiny compromises, not one decision, and that summer rarely brings the free time we expect. What does taking 100% responsibility mean? It isn't blame. You can't control what others do or what happens to you, but you can control your actions, how you view the situation, and your next decisions. Asking for help counts as taking responsibility. How do I get off autopilot? Change small routines: take a different route, reverse your morning order, or brush your teeth with your non-dominant hand. Notice where you're drifting, reset kindly, and make affirmations emotional. Cheryl says to see it and feel it. Episode Chapters: 00:00:00 - Autopilot In Driving And Life 00:01:12 - Listener Reviews And Quick Thanks 00:02:44 - What Drifting Really Means 00:07:09 - Why Midlife Triggers The Wake Up 00:09:29 - The Brain Prefers Safety And Saves Energy 00:12:15 - Fear And Known Patterns Keep You Stuck 00:13:55 - Tiny Compromises And Procrastination Traps 00:16:39 - Letting Others Choose Your Path 00:18:31 - Blame Versus Ownership 00:20:02 - Take 100 Percent Responsibility 00:21:54 - Disrupt Autopilot With Small Changes 00:22:52 - Emotion Makes New Thoughts Stick 00:24:04 - Notice Your Drift And Reset 00:24:52 - Follow Next Week Plus Sponsor Notes 00:25:30 - Closing Reminder For Midlife Care Why This Episode Matters Drifting isn't a character flaw; it's just your brain trying to save energy and keep you safe in the familiar. By taking radical responsibility for where you go next and making small daily tweaks to disrupt your autopilot, you can fully reclaim your energy and focus in midlife.  Take a little bit better care of yourself in midlife.  Support the show 🌸 Liked this episode? Share it with fellow Gen X women navigating hormone balance, an empty nest, and/or self-confidence! 🫶 Love this show? Leave a review to help more women over 50 find us. 💡Want menopause advice, mindset shifts, or support with midlife transformation? Find out more about the Midlife Recharge at cherylpfischer.com/rechargeLet’s talk health after 50, self-talk, and redefining aging for women — without the “midlife crisis” narrative. Every week I'm adding new success strategies for midlife women. Connect with Cheryl: Instagram | LinkedIn | Website --------------- 💡If you are a brand, author, or business wanting to reach an audience of women in their 40s and 50s who are focused on health, success, and taking care of themselves and others well in this stage of life, consider sponsoring Mind Your Midlife podcast.  More information here.

    103. Are You Drifting on Autopilot? Reclaim Your Power in Midlife

  6. Sep 18 ·  Video

    102. Changemakers: Back To Work In Midlife After a Career Pause, with Dr. Ann Marie Peters

    Quick Summary: In this Changemakers episode, Cheryl talks with Dr. Ann Marie Peters, an executive coach, organizational psychologist, and author of We'll Be Right Back, about returning to work after a career pause. You'll learn why the "part-time myth" catches so many women, how to recognize the skills you built while you were away, and why many women in midlife choose authenticity and balance over climbing the ladder. Intro: Returning to the workforce after a career pause is somewhat common in midlife but we tend to doubt ourselves. We often carry insecurities around our employment gaps and falsely believe our past experiences and accomplishments no longer matter. We don’t even remember some of those achievements! In this episode, I welcome Dr. Ann Marie Peters, an executive coach, leadership strategist, and organizational psychologist. Ann Marie is the author of the brand new book We'll Be Right Back, which focuses on helping women re-enter the workforce after taking a pause. We dive deep into why smart, capable midlife women discount their abilities, the realities of the "part-time myth," and how to translate the hidden skill sets of motherhood and volunteering into a powerful career comeback.  What You’ll Learn:  The Part-Time Myth: Why squeezing a full-time workload into part-time hours often leads to burnout and how it impacts your career advancementThe Hidden Skill Sets of a Pause: How managing households, resolving conflict, and leading community events translate into highly valuable skills for employersThe Kaleidoscope Career Model: Why women in midlife naturally shift their professional focus away from just "challenge" and prioritize authenticity and balanceLinks & Resources: Ann Marie's Book: We'll Be Right BackAnn Marie's Website: annmariepeters.com and the FREE Reflections Workbook: annmariepeters.com/reflection-workbookAnn Marie's Instagram @backwithAMP and LinkedIn annmariepeters Cheryl's Midlife Recharge: cherylpfischer.com/recharge Frequently Asked Questions: How do I return to work after a career break in midlife? Ann Marie recommends starting with reflection: remember and write down your past accomplishments and skills, and what you gained during your pause. Then build the language to describe them on a resume or in a business pitch. She also says to brush up on basics like PowerPoint, Excel, and professional email, as she did when she returned. What is the "part-time myth"? Ann Marie says part-time work often ends up being full-time work squeezed into fewer hours, since a quick email can cascade and your brain keeps working. Based on her research, she adds that some part-time women also lose benefits, bonuses, and promotion opportunities. Why do women leave the workforce, and why is coming back hard? Ann Marie's research found it's rarely just one reason, and not always a first baby. Women cite glass ceilings, pay, lack of challenge, and harassment. Returning can involve resume gaps, the "motherhood penalty," and ageism. Do skills from raising kids or volunteering count with employers? Yes. Ann Marie calls these the "hidden skill sets of motherhood," including managing conflict, people, time, and schedules, and organizing volunteers and events. She and Cheryl also encourage dropping the word "just," as in "just a stay-at-home mom." Is starting a business an easier way back into work? Ann Marie says it isn't easy, since you don't earn income until you have clients. She still found it rewarding, building the marketing, website, and client base from zero with friends. She says many returning women become entrepreneurs, sometimes out of passion and sometimes because they hit roadblocks in their former field. What do women want from work in midlife? Ann Marie describes the kaleidoscope career model, which suggests midlife women care more about authenticity and balance than challenge. In her research, many women who returned to nonprofit work chose it over long hours, wanting work that aligned with their values. Episode Chapters: 00:00:00 - Midlife As A Change Window 00:01:06 - Thriving Mindset And Coaching Offer 00:01:53 - Why Returning Feels So Hard 00:03:15 - Anne Marie’s Career Pause Story 00:11:05 - The Part-Time Myth At Work 00:14:48 - Re-Entry Through Entrepreneurship 00:18:18 - Gaps, Penalties, And Ageism 00:21:10 - Reclaiming Experience And Hidden Skills 00:26:35 - Midlife Priorities Shift To Meaning 00:31:45 - Where To Find The Book 00:32:55 - The One Takeaway To Remember 00:36:00 - Host Wrap And Listener Requests Why This Episode Matters  By acknowledging the incredible skills you've built during your career pause and embracing your desire for balance, you can reclaim your professional identity and step confidently into your next chapter.  Take a little bit better care of yourself in midlife. Support the show 🌸 Liked this episode? Share it with fellow Gen X women navigating hormone balance, an empty nest, and/or self-confidence! 🫶 Love this show? Leave a review to help more women over 50 find us. 💡Want menopause advice, mindset shifts, or support with midlife transformation? Find out more about the Midlife Recharge at cherylpfischer.com/rechargeLet’s talk health after 50, self-talk, and redefining aging for women — without the “midlife crisis” narrative. Every week I'm adding new success strategies for midlife women. Connect with Cheryl: Instagram | LinkedIn | Website --------------- 💡If you are a brand, author, or business wanting to reach an audience of women in their 40s and 50s who are focused on health, success, and taking care of themselves and others well in this stage of life, consider sponsoring Mind Your Midlife podcast.  More information here.

    102. Changemakers: Back To Work In Midlife After a Career Pause, with Dr. Ann Marie Peters

  7. Sep 11 ·  Video

    101. Menopause Information Overload | Do Less and Eat More, with Laura Lambe

    Quick Summary: In this episode, Cheryl talks with Laura Lambe, a menopause practitioner and founder of the free Menopause Lab, about why menopause advice feels so overwhelming and how to cut through it. You'll learn why Laura says most women need to do less, not more, how to audit the supplements and routines you're using, and why eating enough and lifting weights come before trendy fixes.  Intro: It is overwhelming to navigate midlife when your body is changing and everyone is giving conflicting advice about perimenopause. We are constantly bombarded with trendy products and supplements, creating an exhausting cycle of confusion.  In this episode, I welcome menopause practitioner and women's health advocate Laura Lambe. Laura is the founder and CEO of Laura Lamb Fitness, Menopause Mastery, and the free worldwide organization, the Menopause Lab. We discuss why women are falling victim to the "pink tax" on menopause products, why chronic under-eating is causing so many symptoms, and how to finally stop collecting information and start implementing simple habits.  What You’ll Learn:  The Menopause Information Purge: Holding onto too much conflicting advice causes paralysis, and doing less is often the solution. The Truth About Supplements and Nutrition: The supplement industry profits heavily off menopause; Vitamin D is the only universally recommended supplement by the menopause society; and you most likely need to eat more food.Lifting Weights and HRT: Resistance training is non-negotiable for rapidly declining bone density. Hormone therapy is one tool in your toolbox and treats a specific subset of symptoms. Links & Resources:  Laura's Menopause Mastery websiteThe [free] Menopause Lab Cheryl's Self-Care Menu: Cherylpfischer.com/selfcaremenu Sponsor the Podcast: CherylPFischer.com/mymsponsorinfo Episode 97: People Pleasing with Lori MontryFrequently Asked Questions: Why is there so much confusing information about menopause? Laura says the push to raise awareness of menopause also drew in people who want to sell products, so "menopause" now gets attached to supplements, skincare, and more. Social media algorithms keep feeding you more of whatever you click. Her tip is to check the source, including whether the person recommending something is also selling it. Do I need supplements for menopause? Laura says to be skeptical. She points to the Menopause Society's position that vitamin D is the one supplement most women need, and treats everything else as an individual decision. She adds that many nutrients, such as calcium, magnesium, fiber, and B12, can come from food. Talk with your own healthcare provider about what fits you. How do I stop feeling overwhelmed by menopause advice? Laura calls it an "information purge." Write down everything you're doing, where each idea came from, what it's meant to treat, and whether it's helped. Then keep only what targets your actual problem. Her example: magnesium may help you fall asleep, but it won't fix 2 a.m. wake-ups or night sweats. What exercise does Laura recommend during menopause? Lifting weights every week, which she says is non-negotiable. She notes that bone density drops sharply during the menopausal transition, and that a weighted vest is far less effective than actual weight training. You don't need a perfect routine. Classes, a session with a trainer to check your form, or free online videos all work. Could I be undereating in midlife? Laura says many women who've dieted for years are eating too little. She says a simple baseline is three balanced meals a day plus at least two snacks, with carbohydrates, protein, fats, and vegetables or fruit. She links underfueling to fatigue and brain fog. Is hormone therapy (HRT) right for everyone? Laura says she's pro-options, not pro-HRT-for-every-woman. She explains that HRT treats only some menopause symptoms and works best alongside good nutrition and strength training. She stresses that women who can't take it, don't tolerate it, or don't want it still deserve answers and other tools. Disclaimer: This episode is for education only and isn't medical advice. Talk with your healthcare provider about your own situation. Episode Chapters:  00:00:00 - Midlife Changes And Overwhelm 00:03:06 - The Menopause Marketing Noise 00:10:25 - Exercise Trends Versus Real Strength 00:13:07 - Escaping The Information Collection Cycle 00:18:37 - Self Advocacy With Doctors 00:22:36 - Hormone Therapy Without The Hype 00:25:09 - Eating Enough To Support Menopause 00:30:44 - The Menopause Lab Free Community 00:32:33 - The Takeaway: Audit And Do Less 00:36:41 - Closing Thoughts And Self Care Menu Support the show 🌸 Liked this episode? Share it with fellow Gen X women navigating hormone balance, an empty nest, and/or self-confidence! 🫶 Love this show? Leave a review to help more women over 50 find us. 💡Want menopause advice, mindset shifts, or support with midlife transformation? Find out more about the Midlife Recharge at cherylpfischer.com/rechargeLet’s talk health after 50, self-talk, and redefining aging for women — without the “midlife crisis” narrative. Every week I'm adding new success strategies for midlife women. Connect with Cheryl: Instagram | LinkedIn | Website --------------- 💡If you are a brand, author, or business wanting to reach an audience of women in their 40s and 50s who are focused on health, success, and taking care of themselves and others well in this stage of life, consider sponsoring Mind Your Midlife podcast.  More information here.

    101. Menopause Information Overload | Do Less and Eat More, with Laura Lambe

  8. Sep 4 ·  Video

    100 Episodes of Mind Your Midlife: Brain Fog, Bloopers, Body Image, and Finding Your Joy

    Quick Summary: Episode 100 of Mind Your Midlife is a solo celebration. Cheryl Fischer shares behind-the-scenes bloopers, revisits the listener-favorite episodes on memory, movement, hydration, complaining, decluttering, body image, community, people-pleasing, and getting clear on what you want, and previews what's coming this fall. The message running through all of it: it's not just you, and you can roll with the messy parts of midlife.  Intro: Reaching episode 100 of Mind Your Midlife is a massive milestone! In this episode, I am celebrating by sharing some behind-the-scenes bloopers, revisiting some of the most popular tips from past guests, and looking ahead to what is coming next. From navigating brain fog and hot flashes to the life-changing power of hydration and finding community, we are covering the best of what makes midlife manageable and fun.  What You’ll Learn:  Embracing the Messy Middle: Why rolling with brain fog, tech glitches, and hot flashes with a sense of humor is the ultimate midlife survival tool. The Power of "It's Not Just You": How overcoming the isolation of midlife struggles—like memory lapses and shifting body image—builds confidence and connection. Game-Changing Habits: The critical importance of movement for preserving bone density and strength, why proper hydration and electrolytes directly impact your sleep, and how dropping the complaining habit protects your energy. Finding Your Destination: Why you must stop letting your wagon wheels stay in the rut and give yourself permission to figure out what you actually want next. The People-Pleasing Check: How to evaluate if you are actually on the list of the people you are trying so hard to please. Links & Resources: Vitamin G Sponsor: cherylpfischer.com/vitaming (Use code MINDYOURMIDLIFE for 10% off) The Free Self-Care Menu: cherylpfischer.com/selfcaremenu Podcast Sponsorship Info: cherylpfischer.com/mymsponsorinfo Cheryl's Instagram: @CherylPFischer FAQ Is forgetfulness in midlife a sign of dementia? Cheryl explains that in the vast majority of cases it isn't. Brain fog and forgetfulness are often tied to hormone changes plus a lot going on and plenty of distractions. Episode 31 covers this in depth. Why is movement more important in midlife? It supports bone density, strength, muscle tone, and flexibility, and it prepares you to get out of your chair at 80. The key is finding something fun you don't hate (episodes 22, 52, and 54). What should I do if I wake up at 2 a.m. feeling hungry? Keep water next to your bed and drink it first. As Kristen Coffield shared in episode 20, you may be thirsty rather than hungry, and some listeners report going back to sleep and skipping the midnight snack. How do I stop complaining as a habit? Vent when you need to, then catch yourself and switch to a positive topic, such as weekend plans or your next vacation (episode 80). What's coming next on the show? Episodes on starting or returning to a sport in midlife, feeling good in photos, the men in our lives, financial planning, pelvic health, and more. Episode Chapters: 00:00:00 - Episode 100 Kickoff 00:01:03 - Sponsor Spotlight Vitamin G 00:01:39 - Bloopers And Losing The Thread 00:05:12 - Rolling With Midlife Messiness 00:06:31 - Brain Fog Reassurance That Helps 00:07:36 - Nostalgia Gratitude And Cringe Memories 00:09:40 - Movement Habits That Actually Stick 00:12:48 - Hydration Electrolytes And Better Sleep 00:14:13 - Stop Complaining And Clear The Clutter 00:17:10 - Body Image Community And People Pleasing 00:21:15 - Get Clear On What You Want 00:23:34 - What Is Coming Next And Resources Why This Episode Matters  You are never alone in the challenges of midlife. Whether you need to hydrate better, find a new hobby, or simply laugh at your own bloopers, you have the power to take a little bit better care of yourself.  Take a little bit better care of yourself in midlife. Vitamin G Antioxidant SupplementGlutathione may help boost your immune system, clear up brain fog, and support overall wellness. Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show 🌸 Liked this episode? Share it with fellow Gen X women navigating hormone balance, an empty nest, and/or self-confidence! 🫶 Love this show? Leave a review to help more women over 50 find us. 💡Want menopause advice, mindset shifts, or support with midlife transformation? Find out more about the Midlife Recharge at cherylpfischer.com/rechargeLet’s talk health after 50, self-talk, and redefining aging for women — without the “midlife crisis” narrative. Every week I'm adding new success strategies for midlife women. Connect with Cheryl: Instagram | LinkedIn | Website --------------- 💡If you are a brand, author, or business wanting to reach an audience of women in their 40s and 50s who are focused on health, success, and taking care of themselves and others well in this stage of life, consider sponsoring Mind Your Midlife podcast.  More information here.

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Mind Your Midlife is a weekly podcast for women in their 40s and 50s who want to feel confident in their bodies, their relationships, and their next chapter. Host Cheryl Fischer, a certified life and mindset coach, talks with doctors, experts, and real women about the questions midlife brings, from perimenopause and menopause to adult kids, aging parents, and figuring out what you want next.Did you wake up one morning and realize you've hit midlife? You thought by now you'd have six figures in your retirement fund, the confidence to speak up at work and in your relationships, and a body you'd learned to love. You've tried positive thinking, the 5am club, and the sticky notes around the house, and you're left more frustrated (or reaching for the wine and Netflix).Here's the difference: real change doesn't come from adding more habits to your day. It comes from how you think and the emotions you feel. Each week, Cheryl and her guests share practical, expert-led conversations about:• Perimenopause, menopause, hormones, and exercise• Body image and self-confidence after 40• Healthy relationships with your partner/spouse, adult children, and aging parents• Decision making, career changes, and second-act goals• Money and retirement confidence• Making friends and building community in midlifeCheryl has helped hundreds of midlife women find success and confidence, and with more than 100 episodes, there's a conversation here for wherever you are right now.Take a little bit better care of yourself in midlife.Episodes, show notes, and transcripts: https://mindyourmidlifepodcast.comCoaching and resources: https://cherylpfischer.com(Formerly the OMG Teach Me podcast) -Listen Notes global top 2% score- Popular topics include: mindset for women over 50, menopause and perimenopause, hormone balance, self talk and self confidence, redefining aging for women, mindset shifts, midlife crisis, midlife body positivity, energy in midlife, confidence in midlife, finding community after 50, midlife isolation, staying active in midlife, mental benefits of movement, healthy habits for midlife women, Gen X women, adult children, sandwich generation, can’t sleep, pulled muscles, stiff joints, hot flashes, brain fog, making friends, retirement, retirement prep, adult children, aging parents, caring for parents, empty nest, grandma hobbies

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