Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal

Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
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Choosing To Stay After Infidelity & Betrayal is a podcast for couples navigating the aftermath of infidelity, betrayal, and broken trust. Whether you’re a betrayed partner making sense of the pain, or the partner who caused harm and wants to repair what was broken, this show offers trauma-informed tools, honest conversations, and grounded hope. Hosted by Hali Roderick, the podcast explores trust repair, emotional regulation, accountability, boundaries, and discernment—without rushing forgiveness or pushing a one-size-fits-all outcome.

  1. 6d ago

    #161 Why Can’t We Connect Deeper? Exploring the Hidden Struggles of Connection After Betrayal

    One of the most confusing parts of healing after betrayal is that couples can do “all the right things” and still feel emotionally disconnected. In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we explore why emotional connection after betrayal trauma can feel so complicated—even when healing is happening. We also share about our upcoming Rise & Renew Couples Retreat in Costa Rica - a healing and connection-focused experience designed for couples who want to step away from the stress, noise, and survival mode of everyday life to intentionally reconnect emotionally, relationally, and spiritually. This conversation offers compassionate insight for couples navigating betrayal recovery, emotional disconnection, trust rebuilding, intimacy struggles, and relationship healing after infidelity. Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect.  Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Rise and Renew Couples Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 30 - August 3, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community.  If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), ⁠complete this interest list⁠ for more information about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters in Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th. The⁠ ⁠⁠Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive⁠⁠⁠ takes place August 25-28 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Email Hali⁠ to join the⁠⁠⁠ Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After Betrayal If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving. This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist! Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal Join My Newsletter Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠⁠ Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com⁠

    22 min

  2. May 21

    #160 When Your Body Decides the Relationship Is No Longer Safe" Understanding the Nervous System Trauma Loop in Betrayal Recovery

    Have you ever wondered why you and your partner keep having the same painful conversations — even when you both want things to be different? The answer might be in what your body has decided about the relationship. In this episode, we're going deep into what happens at the nervous system level when a couple has been living inside a trauma loop for too long. Whether you are the betrayed partner, the one who caused the betrayal, or both of you are listening together — this episode will help you see each other differently. Not as enemies. As two wounded nervous systems trying to find their way back to each other. This episode is for you if: You feel like you're having the same fight on repeat You or your partner shuts down or explodes before the conversation even gets going You want to understand the biology behind your relationship patterns — not just the emotions You're committed to healing after infidelity and want tools that go deeper Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect.  Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), ⁠complete this interest list⁠ for more information about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters in Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th. Email Hali⁠ to join the⁠⁠⁠ Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth.  The Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 30 - August 3, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After Betrayal If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving. This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist! Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal Join My Newsletter Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠⁠ Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram 👉 Facebook 👉 Website

    23 min

  3. May 19

    ***BONUS EPISODE*** You’re Invited: Becoming Together Mother-Daughter Retreat with my daughters, Mataia and Morgan

    What does it look like when a mother and daughter do the healing work together? In this special episode, I'm joined by my daughters to pull back the curtain on the Becoming Together Mother-Daughter Retreat, an intimate gathering just outside Sedona, Arizona, designed for moms and daughters who are both actively doing their personal growth work and ready to bring it into their relationship. We talk about the heart behind this retreat, who it's truly for (and who it isn't), what makes it different from a conference or a girls' trip, and why the stunning off-the-grid location near Sedona, AZ is part of the healing itself. Plus, my girls weigh in on all of it.  If you're a mother or daughter who feels the pull to go deeper in your relationship while honoring your own becoming — this episode is for you. If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s),⁠ ⁠complete this interest list⁠⁠ for more information about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters near Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th. Check out Mataia's Podcast: Good Day with Tay Check out Morgan's Podcast: Healing Betrayed Families Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect.  Join me at a Retreat or Intensive The Rise and Renew Couples Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 30 - August 3, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your spouse, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community.  The Reclaimed Intensive for Men is a transformative 4-day men’s intensive designed for those healing from problematic sexual behaviors who are ready to go beyond sobriety and into deeper emotional healing. Through Internal Family Systems (IFS), somatic work, experiential exercises, and authentic group connection, participants gain tools to better understand their inner world, release shame, strengthen emotional regulation, and reconnect with their most authentic self. The Revive and Thrive Somatic Intensive for women takes place October 6-9 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Awakening the Man Within Somatic Healing Intensive for men is a powerful, immersive experience designed for men who have already begun their recovery and self-awareness journey and are ready to go deeper. This intensive is for men who no longer want to simply talk the talk of recovery, but are ready to embody it — men who are willing to step into the somatic and energetic work that creates real, lasting change. Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. Join My Newsletter Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠⁠ Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com⁠

    38 min

  4. May 14

    #159 Why Every Conversation Feels So Hard After Betrayal

    After infidelity or betrayal, even simple conversations can feel loaded, tense, or unsafe. You may feel like: You’re trying to connect… but it keeps going wrong Your partner misunderstands you Every conversation turns into conflict In this episode, we explore the concept of mistranslation after betrayal—how both partners can be reaching for connection but experiencing each other as a threat due to nervous system activation. This episode takes a trauma-informed approach, emphasizing that emotional safety and recovery must come first before relational repair can begin. Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect.  Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), ⁠complete this interest list⁠ for more information about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters in Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th. Email Hali⁠ to join the⁠⁠⁠ Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth.  The Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 30 - August 3, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community.  The⁠ ⁠⁠Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive⁠⁠⁠ takes place August 25-28 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After Betrayal If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving. This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist! Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal Join My Newsletter Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠⁠ Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com⁠

    16 min

  5. May 7

    #158 What Actually Changes When Healing Is Happening

    After betrayal, one of the most common questions couples ask is: “How do we know if we’re actually healing?” Are we moving forward… or just surviving? Is this real progress… or just a calm before another storm? Healing after infidelity or betrayal rarely arrives with certainty. It doesn’t usually feel dramatic, resolved, or even peaceful. Instead, healing often shows up in subtle shifts — more capacity, more consistency, and more emotional safety over time. In this episode, we explore the difference between false calm and real safety, and the quiet signs that healing is happening — even when things still feel uncertain. This conversation is trauma-informed and designed for both partners — whether you were betrayed or you are working to rebuild trust — and helps couples orient toward progress without rushing outcomes. Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect.  Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), ⁠complete this interest list⁠ for more information about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters in Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th. Email Hali⁠ to join the⁠⁠⁠ Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth.  The Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 30 - August 3, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After Betrayal If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving. This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist! Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal Join My Newsletter Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠⁠ Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com⁠

    22 min

  6. Apr 30

    #157 Boundaries That Heal vs. Boundaries That Punish

    After betrayal, boundaries become one of the most talked about — and most misunderstood — parts of healing. Many couples find themselves stuck in painful cycles where boundaries meant to create safety instead lead to more conflict, defensiveness, and distance. In this episode, we explore the difference between boundaries that heal and boundaries that punish, and why that distinction matters for couples trying to rebuild trust after betrayal. When boundaries become punitive, relationships often shift into an unhealthy parent/child dynamic — where one partner becomes the enforcer and the other becomes the one trying not to get in trouble. This dynamic can increase resentment, defensiveness, and emotional distance, making healing more difficult. Instead, we’ll talk about how healthy boundaries create safety, predictability, and nervous system regulation, helping couples move from power struggles into partnership. This episode is designed for both partners — whether you were betrayed or you’re working to rebuild trust — and offers a compassionate, trauma-informed approach to boundaries that support real healing. Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. ⁠Register for my 90-minute Zoom workshop⁠ called Boundaries That Build Safety: Reclaiming Your Power After Betrayal. Happening Thursday, April 30th at 6 PM Pacific Time. ⁠Email Hali⁠⁠ to join the⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. The ⁠⁠Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive⁠⁠ takes place August 25-28 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉⁠A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠ 👉⁠Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal⁠ Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After Betrayal If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving. This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 ⁠Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!⁠ Listen to My Other Podcast If you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust. 👉 ⁠Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal⁠ Join My Newsletter Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠ Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠ 👉 Facebook: ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠ 👉 Website:⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com⁠

    24 min

  7. Apr 23

    #156 Anger After Betrayal — What It Really Means & How to Work With It with Matt Wenger, LPC, CSAT, CCPS

    Anger is one of the most misunderstood emotions in betrayal trauma — but still shapes every interaction, every conversation, and every attempt at repair. In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by Matt Wenger, LPC, CSAT, CCSP to unpack what anger actually is, what it’s protecting, and why nervous system regulation is the key to responding rather than reacting. Because anger isn’t the problem. It’s the nervous system underneath it that determines what happens next. Matt is the Executive Clinical Director of Begin Again Institute, a treatment center that offers Trauma Based Intensives for Men seeking recovery from porn and sex addiction. He has served more than 1,500 families since 2019. Matt’s expertise is in men’s addiction, betrayal trauma, childhood trauma, couple’s recovery and the spiritual aspects of recovery. Matt holds a Master’s degree in Couples and Family Counseling and is credentialed as Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), and Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS). If you would like to connect with Matt:  beginagaininstitute.com  matt.wenger@bai.care  https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthew-wenger-19b883294/ Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. ⁠⁠⁠Register for my 90-minute Zoom workshop⁠⁠⁠ called Boundaries That Build Safety: Reclaiming Your Power After Betrayal. Happening Thursday, April 30th at 6 PM Pacific Time. ⁠Email Hali⁠⁠ to join the⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth.  The⁠ ⁠⁠Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive⁠⁠⁠ takes place August 25-28 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉⁠⁠A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠ 👉⁠⁠Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal⁠⁠ Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After Betrayal If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving. This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉⁠ ⁠Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!⁠ Listen to My Other Podcast If you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust. 👉⁠ ⁠Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal⁠⁠ Join My Newsletter Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠⁠ Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com⁠

    42 min

  8. Apr 16

    #155 Resolving the Push-Pull Dynamic of the Trauma Bond with Dr. Nima Rahmany

    In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Nima Rahmany to unpack the push-pull dynamic that so many couples experience after betrayal or relational trauma. He explains how our nervous system shifts between states like fight-or-flight, shutdown, and connection—and how real healing requires learning to regulate those states rather than just understanding the dynamics intellectually. Dr. Nima Rahmany is a nervous system and trauma specialist helping individuals heal attachment wounds and become trigger-proof in love and leadership. Formerly a chiropractor, he now guides clients through somatic and shadow integration to break free from toxic patterns and self-abandonment. Dr. Nima offers several programs designed to support this process, including his ⁠Attachment Style Quiz and the Trigger Proof Experience, a monthly program focused on emotional regulation and relationship transformation. If this episode resonated with you, please consider subscribing, leaving a review, or sharing it with someone who might need this conversation. Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners.  ⁠Register for my 90-minute Zoom workshop⁠ called Boundaries That Build Safety: Reclaiming Your Power After Betrayal. Happening Thursday, April 30th at 6 PM Pacific Time. Email Hali⁠ to join the⁠⁠⁠ Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. Later this year, the Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place August 25 - 28 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After Betrayal If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving. This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register! Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal Join My Newsletter Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising Weekly Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com

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Choosing To Stay After Infidelity & Betrayal is a podcast for couples navigating the aftermath of infidelity, betrayal, and broken trust. Whether you’re a betrayed partner making sense of the pain, or the partner who caused harm and wants to repair what was broken, this show offers trauma-informed tools, honest conversations, and grounded hope. Hosted by Hali Roderick, the podcast explores trust repair, emotional regulation, accountability, boundaries, and discernment—without rushing forgiveness or pushing a one-size-fits-all outcome.

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