Coffee With Hilary and Les from State of Mind Hypnosis and Training Centre

Hilary & Les
  • 4.9 (19)
  • Mental Health
  • Updated Semiweekly

An almost-daily podcast for the State of Mind Community. Offering ideas and answering questions on how to use your mind for growth, happiness and ultimately peace.Send us your questions: info@somhypnosis.com

  1. Jun 8

    How To Act On Inspiration Without Overthinking

    Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We start with a calm early summer morning and land on a hard truth: fear makes everyday choices feel like life-or-death. We explore how inspiration shows up naturally, how judgment cuts it off, and how to return to self-trust by focusing on what we want next. • why we suffer over decisions and choices • the fear stack behind indecision: wrong, judged, stupid, unloved • why “right” and “wrong” often mean pleasing others • inspiration as relaxed creative mind and source mind • why we cannot force inspiration but can remove fear • how boredom, phones, and FOMO feed choice paralysis • how family patterns and culture train us to critique and avoid risk • the conductor mindset: create forward, ignore the crowd behind you • how monetizing everything turns joy into pressure and quitting • “what do I want right now?” as a practical prompt for inspired action Support the show We  hope this helps a little as you go through your day. We would love to hear your feedback or questions. We will respond to both in future episodes.    Check us out at  www.somhypnosis.com Join our online Community!  https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about Email us at info@somhypnosis.com Start your own podcast with Buzzsprout! https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507 Support Coffee With Hilary & Les https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support

    47 min

  2. Jun 1

    The Approval Trap: Why We Keep Seeking Worth From Others

    Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We start with the weather and end up uncovering why so many of us treat approval like oxygen. We follow the trail from womb and early childhood conditioning to adult people-pleasing, then land on practical reframes for unconditional self-love and real permission to exist.  • noticing how nature exists without earning approval  • tracing external validation to early survival wiring and attachment  • exploring womb experience and emotional imprinting before language  • walking through a regression story that explains fear of abandonment  • naming conditional self-love and how it shows up as “I’ll be happy when…”  • linking worthiness to social norms and the pressure to fit  • using “Says who?” to challenge the should monster  • adopting the student-and-teacher mindset as a path to self-acceptance  If you have any questions, visit our website, drop it in the anonymous question box.  See if you can spend the day saying to yourself, I love and approve of myself.  Support the show We  hope this helps a little as you go through your day. We would love to hear your feedback or questions. We will respond to both in future episodes.    Check us out at  www.somhypnosis.com Join our online Community!  https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about Email us at info@somhypnosis.com Start your own podcast with Buzzsprout! https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507 Support Coffee With Hilary & Les https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support

    43 min

  3. May 27

    You Are Worthy! Part 2

    Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We talk about why we want to untie ourselves from place and stuff, then use that as a bridge into the deeper question of what makes a person worthy. We challenge the myths that link self-worth to money, status, and other people’s approval, and we share a practical way to release “I’m not worthy” from the body.  • wanting freedom without losing connection  • the three myths of worth being external, variable, and judged by others  • how “being a good worker” becomes an identity trap  • why career culture turns salary and status into a value system  • money stories rooted in shame, jealousy, and protection  • the superiority traps on both sides of wealth and lack  • how striving keeps people locked in a system and headed for burnout  • questions that reveal what you truly want versus what you were taught to want  • a worthiness exercise using parts work and somatic release  If you have any questions, please let us know.  Support the show We  hope this helps a little as you go through your day. We would love to hear your feedback or questions. We will respond to both in future episodes.    Check us out at  www.somhypnosis.com Join our online Community!  https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about Email us at info@somhypnosis.com Start your own podcast with Buzzsprout! https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507 Support Coffee With Hilary & Les https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support

    43 min

  4. May 26

    You Are Worthy! Part 1

    Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We start with a simple scene of apple blossoms and use it to challenge the most exhausting habit many of us carry: treating our worth like something we have to earn. We explore how work, money, comparison, and early family dynamics program the feeling of “not good enough,” and how reclaiming worth opens the door to real self-love.  • noticing how nature never asks permission to be worthy  • questioning what determines worth and where that belief came from  • recognizing the “last 15 minutes” treadmill of work approval  • unpacking the matrix of status, comparison, money, and control  • understanding why retirement can trigger an identity crisis  • separating what we do from who we are, replacing shame with learning  • digging into childhood conditioning around “good” and “bad”  • practicing questions that detach worth from results and other people’s opinions  Direct message us on school.  Support the show We  hope this helps a little as you go through your day. We would love to hear your feedback or questions. We will respond to both in future episodes.    Check us out at  www.somhypnosis.com Join our online Community!  https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about Email us at info@somhypnosis.com Start your own podcast with Buzzsprout! https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507 Support Coffee With Hilary & Les https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support

    37 min

  5. May 20

    What Does It Mean To 'Just Be'?

    Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We sit with the tension between how beautiful life is and how hard we work to control it when we feel afraid. We explore what “just being” actually looks like in real life and why trust can coexist with intention.  • noticing spring as a reminder that life moves naturally  • using “just be” as a practical response to uncertainty and change  • dropping rigid rules that drain joy and create needless pressure  • understanding “causes and conditions” and why control is often an illusion  • using gardening and tomato plants as a metaphor for trust and timing  • seeing how fear fuels control and how control fuels suffering  • finding a middle ground between planning and allowing  • practicing neutrality, listening and responsive action over constant forcing  Support the show We  hope this helps a little as you go through your day. We would love to hear your feedback or questions. We will respond to both in future episodes.    Check us out at  www.somhypnosis.com Join our online Community!  https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about Email us at info@somhypnosis.com Start your own podcast with Buzzsprout! https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507 Support Coffee With Hilary & Les https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support

    33 min

  6. May 13

    The Need For Approval: Part 3

    Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! SELF LOVE Meditation:  https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Tjt3DfmhVmNyfIQzU68dnIfQKKk78Riv/view?usp=sharing We follow a near-death experience story to a surprising takeaway: being your authentic self matters more than chasing love or applause. We unpack how approval seeking shapes what we think, say, and do, then map practical ways to build self worth from the inside out.  • noticing how rules and checklists train people pleasing  • seeing masks and “hats” as approval strategies  • linking approval to self worth and self talk  • defining self love as boundaries, trust, and self forgiveness  • using hypnosis and timeline work to dissolve “not good enough” moments  • borrowing the NDE “life review” lens to reframe the past  • practicing awareness as the self behind the mind  I'm gonna attach a self-love meditation that I made to this podcast. So you can click below wherever you're listening and see that. Go there and listen.  Support the show We  hope this helps a little as you go through your day. We would love to hear your feedback or questions. We will respond to both in future episodes.    Check us out at  www.somhypnosis.com Join our online Community!  https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about Email us at info@somhypnosis.com Start your own podcast with Buzzsprout! https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507 Support Coffee With Hilary & Les https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support

    42 min

  7. May 12

    The Need For Approval: Part 2

    Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We start with a simple nature observation and end up at a big human problem: approval-seeking turns self-worth into an outside verdict and reshapes our relationships into bargains. We unpack why belonging and survival fears make validation feel necessary, then point back to a steadier truth that lets us grow without judgment.  • birds and trees as a mirror for self-acceptance  • approval-seeking as a deeply learned habit that drives behavior  • the belief that worth is external and why it feels existential  • how marketplace thinking turns survival into something you must earn  • approval as power and a tool for controlling group behavior  • three myths about worth and why they are backwards  • belonging as a survival need that gets twisted into “am I good enough”  • moving through groups as we evolve rather than clinging for safety  • how you see yourself shaping how you judge others  • compassion as the alternative to condemnation and constant evaluation  Can you drop a thumbs up in the chat if you can hear us?  Support the show We  hope this helps a little as you go through your day. We would love to hear your feedback or questions. We will respond to both in future episodes.    Check us out at  www.somhypnosis.com Join our online Community!  https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about Email us at info@somhypnosis.com Start your own podcast with Buzzsprout! https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507 Support Coffee With Hilary & Les https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support

    41 min

  8. May 11

    The Need For Approval: Part 1

    Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! We talk about approval as a learned addiction that quietly trains us to trade our self-worth for other people’s reactions. We use family stories, social media examples, and a parenting study to separate appreciation from identity and move toward self-acceptance.  • approval as something we try to control through other people’s responses  • how childhood emotional gaps create a habit of external validation  • the mismatch between how we want approval and how others show it  • worth feeling conditional on behavior and becoming a self-regulation system  • dopamine hits that reinforce people pleasing and performance  • dropping blame by seeing “programs” passed down with good intentions  • the protective part that seeks disapproval to justify old pain  • how roles like “the cook” become identity through praise  • confidence as peaceful self-trust rather than swagger or self-promotion  • why reading comments can magnify disapproval and shrink joy  • using observations instead of praise or criticism to support creativity  • turning the need for approval into connection and collaboration  Support the show We  hope this helps a little as you go through your day. We would love to hear your feedback or questions. We will respond to both in future episodes.    Check us out at  www.somhypnosis.com Join our online Community!  https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about Email us at info@somhypnosis.com Start your own podcast with Buzzsprout! https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507 Support Coffee With Hilary & Les https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support

    58 min
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An almost-daily podcast for the State of Mind Community. Offering ideas and answering questions on how to use your mind for growth, happiness and ultimately peace.Send us your questions: info@somhypnosis.com

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