The Art of Showing Up

Jes Mendoza
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Life is weird. Grief is heavy. Healing isn’t linear. Relationships are complicated. And sometimes showing up looks less like thriving and more like barely keeping your shit together. • Welcome to The Art of Showing Up. • Hosted by Jes Mendoza, this podcast is where raw honesty meets deep reflection. Through unfiltered conversations about mental health, love, loss, friendship, identity, burnout, self-worth, and everything in between, Jes reminds listeners they don’t have to navigate life alone. • Real stories. Real emotions. Real f*****g human.

  1. 4d ago

    CHAPTER 60 - SHOWING UP WHEN YOU DON'T KNOW WHY IT HURTS THIS MUCH

    There’s a kind of pain that doesn’t come with a clear reason. Nothing obvious happened. Nothing you can easily point to and say, “this is why.” And still… it hurts. In this episode of The Art of Showing Up, Jes explores what it means to sit with emotions that don’t make sense on the surface—feelings that are often minimized by others and, over time, by ourselves. This conversation dives into: The confusion of feeling deeply without a clear explanationHow minimization (external and internal) impacts our emotional realityThe experience of invisible grief and unacknowledged lossWhy we question our own feelings—and how that disconnects us from ourselvesThe reflex to carry everything alone, even when support is availableWhat it looks like to let something be real without needing to fix it If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “why does this hurt this much?”—this episode is for you. You don’t need perfect words to feel something deeply. You don’t need permission to acknowledge your own experience. Sometimes showing up…looks like letting it be real. LISTENER REFLECTION: Take a moment after listening and sit with this: What are you feeling right now that you've been trying to explain away?Where have you minimized your own experience because someone else did first?What would it look like to let it be real...even without understanding it yet? CONNECT + SUPPORT: If this episode landed in a place where you felt moved, I hope it helps you breathe a little bit better. As always, follow, rate, and review the show -- be part of this wonderful little community's growth. And make sure to share this and any other episode with those you love and care about and on social media. Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the.artofshowingup⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/TAOSUpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thejessrick⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.theartofshowingup.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📩 DM me on IG 💬 Or message me on Facebook or the website! You can stay anonymous. You can be real. No story is too small.

    30 min

  2. Jun 8

    CHAPTER 59 - I CAN'T KEEP EXPLAINING MYSELF TO CLOSED DOORS

    Have you ever had the feeling that someone stopped listening before you even finished explaining yourself? Not disagreement or conflict. Just that heavy realization that somebody already chose a version of you before hearing your side fully. This week on The Art of Showing Up, we’re talking about the emotional exhaustion of being misunderstood — especially when it happens repeatedly, and especially when it comes from people we hoped would know us better than that. We explore: the stories people build about each otherbeing judged through assumptions, reputation, or old versions of ourselvesthe emotional labor of overexplainingwhat happens when proof changes nothingthe nervous system impact of chronic misinterpretationuneven loyalty in relationshipsand how to stop abandoning yourself trying to force understanding from emotionally closed spaces This episode is not about becoming cold or detached. It’s about learning how to protect your peace without losing your softness. Because some doors are not locked because you failed to explain yourself well enough. Sometimes they were never truly open to begin with. If this episode resonates with you, share it with someone who’s been carrying the weight of feeling unseen. CONNECT + SUPPORT: If this episode landed in a place where you felt moved, I hope it helps you breathe a little bit better. As always, follow, rate, and review the show -- be part of this wonderful little community's growth. And make sure to share this and any other episode with those you love and care about and on social media. Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the.artofshowingup⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/TAOSUpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thejessrick⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.theartofshowingup.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📩 DM me on IG 💬 Or message me on Facebook or the website! You can stay anonymous. You can be real. No story is too small.

    36 min

  3. Jun 1

    CHAPTER 58 - WHEN SELF-CARE ISN'T CUTE BUT IT STILL COUNTS

    What if self-care isn’t supposed to look aesthetic all the time? In this deeply honest and conversational episode, Jes talks about the side of healing nobody really posts about: the messy, quiet, deeply human forms of self-care that don’t earn applause but still keep us connected to ourselves. This conversation explores: 🔥 ugly-cry self-care 🔥 nervous system exhaustion 🔥 survival-mode healing 🔥 micro-decisions that prevent self-abandonment 🔥 performative wellness culture 🔥 solitude vs isolation 🔥 emotional overwhelm and overstimulation 🔥 healing that looks boring, repetitive, and invisible Jes reflects on: why aesthetic wellness culture can make struggling people feel like they’re “doing healing wrong”how tiny acts of care matter more than people realizethe difference between performative self-care and honest self-caresitting with yourself gently instead of punishing yourselfthe quiet choices that slowly help people reconnect with themselves This episode is not about becoming perfect. It’s about learning how to care for yourself honestly—even when the care looks messy, ordinary, exhausted, inconvenient, or deeply un-photogenic. If you’ve been struggling lately…burned out…overstimulated…emotionally exhausted…or quietly trying to hold yourself together in tiny ways nobody sees…this episode is for you. CONNECT + SUPPORT: If this episode landed in a place where you felt moved, I hope it helps you breathe a little bit better. As always, follow, rate, and review the show -- be part of this wonderful little community's growth. And make sure to share this and any other episode with those you love and care about and on social media. Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the.artofshowingup⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/TAOSUpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thejessrick⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.theartofshowingup.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📩 DM me on IG 💬 Or message me on Facebook or the website! You can stay anonymous. You can be real. No story is too small.

    32 min

  4. May 25

    CHAPTER 57 - SHOWING UP FOR SOMEONE'S ABILITY TO DISAPPOINT YOU

    What if one of the deepest forms of emotional safety is knowing a relationship can survive humanity? In this deeply honest episode, Jes explores the fear so many people carry of becoming disappointing inside relationships—and what it means to create emotional space for imperfection without immediately turning mistakes into abandonment. This conversation dives into: 🔥 fear-based attachment 🔥 emotional hypervigilance 🔥 perfectionism in relationships 🔥 people-pleasing and performance 🔥 conflict tolerance 🔥 emotional safety 🔥 accountability and repair 🔥 the difference between harm and humanity 🔥 learning how to stay connected through disappointment instead of collapsing under it Jes also reflects on: why mistakes can feel emotionally catastrophicthe fear of being “one mistake away” from losing loverelationships built around performance instead of honestywhy intimacy cannot deepen without disappointment eventually entering the roomwhat healthy repair actually looks likecreating relationships strong enough to survive humanity This episode is NOT about tolerating abuse, abandoning boundaries, or excusing repeated harm. It’s about learning how to love imperfect human beings without treating every hard moment like proof the relationship is doomed. If you’ve ever felt terrified of disappointing people you love…or struggled to feel emotionally safe being fully human around others…this episode is for you. CONNECT + SUPPORT: If this episode landed in a place where you felt moved, I hope it helps you breathe a little bit better. As always, follow, rate, and review the show -- be part of this wonderful little community's growth. And make sure to share this and any other episode with those you love and care about and on social media. Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the.artofshowingup⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/TAOSUpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thejessrick⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.theartofshowingup.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📩 DM me on IG 💬 Or message me on Facebook or the website! You can stay anonymous. You can be real. No story is too small.

    37 min

  5. May 18

    CHAPTER 56 - SHOWING UP IN A WORLD WHERE HUMANITY FEELS CONDITIONAL

    What happens when empathy starts coming with conditions? In this deeply personal and emotionally grounded episode, Jes explores the heartbreak of living in a world where humanity itself can start feeling politicized, conditional, and unsafe. This is not a debate episode. It’s a conversation about: moral fracturedehumanizationfamily estrangementconditional loveoutrage cultureempathy fatiguesurviving emotionally unsafe environmentsthe normalization of crueltyprotecting your humanity in hard times Jes reflects on the emotional impact of watching relationships fracture over ideology, the exhaustion marginalized people carry while their humanity is debated publicly, and the terrifying ways cruelty has become normalized in modern culture. This episode also explores: 🔥 the difference between disagreement and dehumanization 🔥 grief over relationships with people who are still alive 🔥 how outrage culture reshapes empathy 🔥 maintaining compassion without abandoning yourself 🔥 protecting boundaries without becoming emotionally cruel 🔥 what it means to stay human in dehumanizing times If you’ve been feeling heartbroken, exhausted, emotionally unsafe, or overwhelmed by the current social climate…this conversation is for you. CONNECT + SUPPORT: If this episode landed in a place where you felt moved, I hope it helps you breathe a little bit better. As always, follow, rate, and review the show -- be part of this wonderful little community's growth. And make sure to share this and any other episode with those you love and care about and on social media. Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the.artofshowingup⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/TAOSUpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thejessrick⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.theartofshowingup.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📩 DM me on IG 💬 Or message me on Facebook or the website! You can stay anonymous. You can be real. No story is too small.

    34 min

  6. May 11

    CHAPTER 55 - WHEN "I'M FINE" ISN'T FINE.

    Most people won’t tell you when they’re running on empty. They’ll say they’re fine. They’ll say they’re just tired. They’ll keep showing up…just differently. In this episode, we’re talking about how to recognize the quieter signs of emotional exhaustion—the ones that don’t get said out loud—and how to show up for the people in your life without forcing, fixing, or overwhelming them. This is the other side of last week’s conversation. Not just what it feels like to be unseen…but how we become people who see better. What We Talk About Why people don’t always say they’re strugglingWhat unspoken exhaustion actually looks like in real lifeThe difference between respecting space and missing signalsHow to check in without adding pressureWhat real support looks like (and what it doesn’t)The subtle ways we sometimes get it wrongTurning the lens inward—when you’re the one saying “I’m fine” KEY TAKEAWAYS: “I’m fine” isn’t always the full storyExhaustion is often quiet and easy to missYou don’t need perfect words to show up wellSupport doesn’t have to be loud to be meaningfulConsistency matters more than intensityPeople can’t always receive support if they don’t feel safe being seen We've hit 50 episodes, and I want to hear from you. Send me: A moment where you showed up in your lifeA time you wish someone had shown up differentlyOr a question you’re sitting with right now CONNECT + SUPPORT: If this episode landed in a place where you felt moved, I hope it helps you breathe a little bit better. As always, follow, rate, and review the show -- be part of this wonderful little community's growth. And make sure to share this and any other episode with those you love and care about and on social media. Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the.artofshowingup⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/TAOSUpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thejessrick⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.theartofshowingup.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📩 DM me on IG 💬 Or message me on Facebook or the website! You can stay anonymous. You can be real. No story is too small.

    36 min

  7. May 4

    CHAPTER 54 - WHEN THEY NOTICE YOUR ABSENCE, NOT YOUR STRUGGLE

    You can be fighting for your life internally… and the only thing some people notice is that you’re not showing up the same way anymore. In this episode, Jes digs into the quiet, unseen kind of struggle—the kind that doesn’t look like a breakdown, but feels like one. The kind where your capacity drops, your energy shifts, and suddenly people start noticing your absence instead of your pain. This conversation explores what it means when people react to what you stop giving instead of asking what you’re going through. It unpacks the tension between who you’ve always been for others… and who you actually have the capacity to be right now. We’re talking about: The emotional weight of being misunderstood while you’re strugglingWhy “you’ve changed” can feel so heavy (and what it often really means)The difference between being valued and being relied onWhat happens when you stop over-functioning in your relationshipsLearning to pull back without over-explaining yourselfRecognizing who shows up for you when you can’t show up the same wayChoosing yourself—even when it shifts your relationshipsThis one is for anyone who’s been quietly holding it together… while feeling like they’re being seen all wrong. KEY TAKEAWAYS: Not everyone notices your pain—some only notice your absenceA shift in your capacity is not a character flawBeing needed is not the same as being valuedReal connection adapts when you don’t have as much to giveYou don’t owe constant access to anyonePulling back is not failure—it’s informationThe right people won’t require you to abandon yourself LISTENER REFLECTION: When someone said “you’ve changed,” what did you wish they asked instead?Where in your life have you been over-giving out of habit?Who checks in on you without making it about themselves?What would it look like to protect your energy without explaining it away? CALL TO ACTION: If this episode hit home, I’d love to hear from you—What’s something you wish someone had noticed about you… instead of what you stopped giving? CONNECT + SUPPORT: If this episode landed in a place where you felt moved, I hope it helps you breathe a little bit better. As always, follow, rate, and review the show -- be part of this wonderful little community's growth. And make sure to share this and any other episode with those you love and care about and on social media. Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the.artofshowingup⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/TAOSUpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thejessrick⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.theartofshowingup.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    30 min

  8. Apr 27

    CHAPTER 53 - SHOWING UP RIGHT IN THE MIDDLE

    There’s a part of growth that rarely gets named—the in-between. Not the beginning. Not the breakthrough. But the middle. The part where things feel unclear, unfinished, and uncomfortable. Where your timing feels off, your voice feels shaky, and nothing quite fits yet. In this episode, you’re invited to stop treating the middle like something to escape—and start recognizing it for what it actually is: The place where becoming happens. This conversation moves through the urge to rush, the quiet signals you’ve been ignoring, the reality of emotional capacity, and what it means to reclaim your voice without losing yourself in the process. If you’ve been feeling stretched, uncertain, or caught between who you were and who you’re becoming—this is for you. You’re not behind. You’re in the work. In this episode, we explore: • Why the middle feels so uncomfortable, and why you want out of it • The difference between showing up and self-abandoning • How resentment acts as a signal, not a flaw • Emotional bandwidth and the cost of overextending yourself • What it actually looks like to reclaim your voice • How to love deeply without disappearing from yourself • The quiet ways you begin returning to yourself Listener Reflection: Take a moment—no fixing, no planning—just noticing: Where in your life are you showing up generously…but quietly leaving yourself behind? And what would it look like to include yourself there? Not perfectly. Not all at once. Just…honestly. Connect + Support: If this episode landed in a place where you felt moved, I hope it helps you breathe a little bit better. As always, follow, rate, and review the show -- be part of this wonderful little community's growth. And make sure to share this and any other episode with those you love and care about and on social media. Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the.artofshowingup⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/TAOSUpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thejessrick⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.theartofshowingup.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    34 min
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Life is weird. Grief is heavy. Healing isn’t linear. Relationships are complicated. And sometimes showing up looks less like thriving and more like barely keeping your shit together. • Welcome to The Art of Showing Up. • Hosted by Jes Mendoza, this podcast is where raw honesty meets deep reflection. Through unfiltered conversations about mental health, love, loss, friendship, identity, burnout, self-worth, and everything in between, Jes reminds listeners they don’t have to navigate life alone. • Real stories. Real emotions. Real f*****g human.

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  • Creator
    Jes Mendoza
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    62
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Jes Mendoza
  • Show Website
    The Art of Showing Up