Mindfully With 'Tunmise

Oluwatunmise Oladapo Kuku
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Mindfully with Tunmise, The Podcast is a weekly talk/interview show that seeks to promote mental health awareness by demystifying perceived mysteries surrounding mental health stability. The show features personal stories from Tunmise, who lives with Bipolar II and also collects stories from individuals from all walks of life. The conversations aim to answer questions surrounding mental health myths and promote living mindfully through self-compassion and showing up instead of perfection. The show also features resource experts to provide a balanced explanation to each question raised. The target audience includes young adults, parents, and middle-aged citizens who are struggling with self-esteem, identity conflicts, cultural conflicts, existential questions and resolving relational conflicts. Mindfully with Tunmise. The show's mission is to encourage people to live mindfully, tell their stories, and promote self-compassion. The show's duration is between 30 to 60 minutes per episode, and it can be accessed at all podcast platforms and at  www.blackhemages.com    

  1. 5d ago

    Dignity In Vulnerability

    Send us Fan Mail Someone’s private pain got shouted across a hospital waiting room, and I couldn’t stop thinking about what that does to a person’s dignity. That moment turns into a bigger question about men’s mental health: when vulnerability is exposed, mocked, or “managed” by other people, where is a man supposed to put his fear, grief, and uncertainty safely?  We start gently, with an arrival practice that brings you back into your body through a shoulder release and belly breathing, because mindfulness is not a performance. From there, I tell the waiting room story and the uncomfortable truth behind it: sarcastic humour often shows up when someone is trying to survive shame. We unpack the social training many men grow up with “be strong, provide, protect, figure it out” and why the real crisis may be that many men were never taught the language of vulnerability, only the skill of endurance.  Then we walk with Jabez and the meaning of names, identity, and beginnings. The Prayer of Jabez hits differently when you notice the line “keep me from pain” and when you see honour sitting beside a painful origin story. I connect that to Fight for Life and to the everyday courage of saying, “this hurts,” “I’m scared,” and “I need help,” without losing dignity.  If this resonates, listen through, share it with someone you love, and subscribe so you don’t miss what we unpack next. After you listen, leave a review and tell us: what would it take for vulnerability to feel safe in your life? Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    Dignity In Vulnerability

  2. Sep 1

    Walking Through The Empty Season

    Send us Fan Mail Grief has a way of shrinking your identity until the worst thing that happened becomes the loudest thing about you. We start there, with Naomi returning home after famine and loss, refusing her old name and choosing “Mara” because bitterness feels more honest than pretending. From that raw place, we widen the lens: mental health and faith belong in the same sentence, not as a slogan, but as a real human attempt to make sense of abandonment, anger, denial, addiction, and the family systems that shape how we cope.  Then we talk about the empty season and why “nothing is happening” is often untrue. I use fermentation and bread as a metaphor for invisible growth: the days when the jar looks still, the first rise when dough seems unchanged, the second rise, and even the oven heat that feels like punishment but is actually part of becoming. If you’re measuring your life by productivity, numbers, or visible results, this is a gentle but direct reframe for emotional resilience, mindfulness, and Christian spiritual formation.  Ruth, Orpah, and Naomi help us ask a harder question: what does loyalty look like when it’s freely chosen? Orpah’s decision to return is not automatically failure, and Ruth’s decision to stay is not self erasure. Agency is the hinge. From there, we step into Ruth and Boaz as a model of safe love with boundaries, dignity, and process, and we name a truth many of us need: healing does not delete the past, it simply makes the pain one part of a much larger story.  We also share a quick note about Fight for Life, our men’s mental health conference focused on financial intelligence and emotional intelligence to help reduce suicide among men. If this conversation steadies you, subscribe, share it with someone in an empty season, and leave a review so more people can find it. Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    Walking Through The Empty Season

  3. Aug 25

    What If Your Survival Story Is Not You

    Send us Fan Mail Something feels off lately: people are quicker to snap, slower to trust, and tired in a way sleep can’t fix. I sit with that feeling out loud and ask whether we’re still carrying COVID-era survival mode without realising it, hoarding not just food and money but emotional energy too. If you’ve felt more triggered, more cynical, or strangely guarded, you’re not alone and you’re not “broken” for it. From there, I go back to what I always return to in healing work: stories of origin. Family systems pass things down with frightening efficiency, including the parts we swear we’ll never repeat. I talk about inherited pride and “vexation,” the way vulnerability can become dangerous in certain homes, and how we can reject a person yet keep the pattern. This is mindful living with honesty: looking back as research, not as self-attack. Then we sit with Joseph. Not the polished highlight reel, but the human process of becoming. Joseph is favoured and still betrayed, privileged and still forced to grow up in a new environment. I connect that to my own “Egypts” from school to heartbreak to a hard workplace season, including what it taught me about approval addiction, integrity, boundaries, and learning to carry the truth in a way that’s actually useful. We land on mindful leaving: asking what you’re carrying, why you’re carrying it, whether it still serves you, and what it might look like to put it down. If any part of this resonates, subscribe, share the episode with someone who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What’s one inherited pattern you’re ready to transform? Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    What If Your Survival Story Is Not You

  4. Aug 18

    A Brother’s Faith And The Questions That Follow

    Send us Fan Mail How do you keep living when the answer never comes? We start with a question that is easy to dodge and hard to sit with: how are you, really. Then we slow down, breathe, and make room for the truth that being triggered doesn’t mean you’re failing. Sometimes it’s simply a wound saying, “I’m still here,” and compassion is where healing begins. I introduce you to my little brother, Yanolua, as a full person before illness tries to rename him. He dreams of broadcasting, he keeps believing even when life is unkind, and he carries a kind of faith that both comforts and confuses me. When systemic lupus erythematosus (SLE), an autoimmune disease, enters our story, it changes the body, the family, and the future. You’ll also hear two powerful journal entries read in his voice, words that hold pain, mystery, rescue, and the longing for a solid foundation. From there, the conversation widens to my own body and my own questions after major surgeries, especially the anger behind “but I did everything right.” We talk about family health inheritance, chronic illness, grief, and the pressure to find a culprit. A moment from John chapter 9 pushes back on blame and shame, reminding us that suffering doesn’t always come with a simple reason, and a human being is never just a punishment. We end with an invitation I’m still learning to obey: stop turning your pain into a courtroom, and go live anyway. If this moved something tender in you, listen through, share it with someone who needs it, and subscribe for more. Rate and review the show, and send us a message with what came up for you. Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    A Brother’s Faith And The Questions That Follow

  5. Aug 11

    Staying Yourself In Babylon

    Send us Fan Mail The world can rename you without ever touching your birth certificate. It can do it through praise you start chasing, criticism you start believing, trauma you didn’t ask for, or a culture that rewards you most when you feel yourself the least. So we start somewhere simple and brave: I ask “How are you, really?” and we slow down enough to answer with honesty, breath, and a body that has been holding more than it admits.  From there, we move into identity, not the identity on application forms, but the quiet self that shows up when your values collide with the environment around you. I reflect on Daniel in Babylon, where the pressure to assimilate doesn’t begin with obvious harm, but with opportunity, training, and subtle renaming. We talk about the labels we carry that were never ours to keep, the cost of belonging that feels conditional, and the moment Daniel “resolved” before the miracles, before the lions, before the spotlight.  We also name the modern Babylons that whisper instead of shout: approval, productivity, perfection, people pleasing, and the exhausting urge to be understood by everyone. I share the difference between stubbornness and resolve, why solitude can be reunion rather than loneliness, and why healing is not always an exit. Sometimes the win is staying yourself right where you are, keeping your center while you live, love, and serve in the real world.  If this conversation gives you language for what you’ve been feeling, subscribe, rate the show, and share it with someone you love. Then send us a message from the link in the show notes: how are you, really? Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    Staying Yourself In Babylon

  6. Aug 4

    Living Without Neat Answers While You Wait

    Send us Fan Mail How do you live when life refuses to make sense and the answers never arrive on time? We start with a simple question that can change the whole day: “How are you… really?” Not the polite version, the honest one. Then we slow down, soften our shoulders, breathe, and practice mindfulness as a way to come home to ourselves when we feel tempted to hide.  We also celebrate three years of this podcast as more than content: a shared healing journey built on showing up, even through silence, surgery, and seasons when surviving takes more energy than speaking. I reflect on what I expected at the beginning versus what actually happened, including the surprising truth that this space has been healing me too. If you care about mental health, emotional resilience, and faith that can hold complexity, you’ll feel the heartbeat of this conversation.  From there we walk with Sarah, not to defend her or judge her, but to keep her company. We explore the grief of waiting, the pain of holding a promise without evidence, and what it might have felt like when Hagar became pregnant. Instead of tying the story into a neat bow, we honour the silence in the text and the messiness in the human heart. That leads to a deeper takeaway: safety is not always found in certainty. Sometimes safety is found in capacity, the ability to hold joy and grief, faith and questions, hope and disappointment, love and hurt, and still keep walking.  If this resonates, share it with someone who needs permission to be human while they wait, follow the show wherever you listen, and leave a review so more people can find mindful living that’s honest and grounded. What’s one place in your life where you’re demanding certainty when you might be invited into capacity? Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    Living Without Neat Answers While You Wait

  7. Jul 28

    I Memorised The Script Then Cried

    Send us Fan Mail You can be “doing everything right” and still feel hollow inside. That’s the quiet cost of approval addiction: the constant performing, the overthinking, the perfectionism that looks like excellence from the outside but feels like panic on the inside. We start with a grounded check-in and a short breath and body release, because healing is not a speech, it’s a practice. Then we trace how our relationship with “what if” thinking can turn into negotiating with history, replaying old scenes when what we really want is to matter. From there, we name the pattern clearly: the need to be accepted, liked, and chosen can become an identity, shaping how we speak, how we work, and how we show up in relationships. I share a story from my first day on radio, when I memorised a script and still hesitated because it didn’t feel perfect, and how a simple compliment made me cry because it felt like being seen. We also sit with Jacob’s story and the question of what we inherit from family systems where love feels divided and comparison becomes normal. At the river Jabbok, the mask drops and the wrestling begins, a picture of healing that doesn’t always look like winning, but does look like honesty. We close with a gentle, direct question you can carry into your week: Where in my life am I still performing in hope of being accepted? If this resonated, share it with someone who needs permission to breathe, and please follow, rate, and review the show so more people can find these conversations. Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    I Memorised The Script Then Cried

  8. Jul 21

    My Inner Child Filed A Formal Complaint

    Send us Fan Mail Some pain doesn’t end with a bow, and that doesn’t mean you’re failing. I’m talking about ambiguous grief, also known as ambiguous loss, the kind of grief that lacks closure because something is gone but never really leaves, or something is present but no longer feels available. When I didn’t have language for that, my mind kept trying to solve what only needed to be understood, and it wore me out. I hold that reality up next to the Book of Job, not the highlight reel ending, but the middle where most of us actually live. Job’s world falls apart, his friends show up with confident explanations, and he’s left carrying the weight of questions that don’t cooperate. That tension feels familiar when people narrate our pain better than they understand our experience, even when they mean well. Then I get personal about a longer hypermanic episode that had no clear trigger and no easy loop to close. What surprised me wasn’t an answer, but a voice I hadn’t listened to in years: a younger version of me asking not to be fixed, but to be seen. I share what it looked like to respond with recognition instead of another rushed explanation, and why perspective can bring a different kind of peace even when closure never arrives. If you’ve been searching for a neat reason, consider a gentler question: who inside you is still waiting for acknowledgement? Subscribe, share this with someone who needs a soft landing, and leave a review so more people can find this healing space. Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    My Inner Child Filed A Formal Complaint
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Mindfully with Tunmise, The Podcast is a weekly talk/interview show that seeks to promote mental health awareness by demystifying perceived mysteries surrounding mental health stability. The show features personal stories from Tunmise, who lives with Bipolar II and also collects stories from individuals from all walks of life. The conversations aim to answer questions surrounding mental health myths and promote living mindfully through self-compassion and showing up instead of perfection. The show also features resource experts to provide a balanced explanation to each question raised. The target audience includes young adults, parents, and middle-aged citizens who are struggling with self-esteem, identity conflicts, cultural conflicts, existential questions and resolving relational conflicts. Mindfully with Tunmise. The show's mission is to encourage people to live mindfully, tell their stories, and promote self-compassion. The show's duration is between 30 to 60 minutes per episode, and it can be accessed at all podcast platforms and at  www.blackhemages.com    

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  • Creator
    Oluwatunmise Oladapo Kuku
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    124
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Mindfully With 'Tunmise
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