Mindfully With 'Tunmise

Oluwatunmise Oladapo Kuku
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Mindfully with Tunmise, The Podcast is a weekly talk/interview show that seeks to promote mental health awareness by demystifying perceived mysteries surrounding mental health stability. The show features personal stories from Tunmise, who lives with Bipolar II and also collects stories from individuals from all walks of life. The conversations aim to answer questions surrounding mental health myths and promote living mindfully through self-compassion and showing up instead of perfection. The show also features resource experts to provide a balanced explanation to each question raised. The target audience includes young adults, parents, and middle-aged citizens who are struggling with self-esteem, identity conflicts, cultural conflicts, existential questions and resolving relational conflicts. Mindfully with Tunmise. The show's mission is to encourage people to live mindfully, tell their stories, and promote self-compassion. The show's duration is between 30 to 60 minutes per episode, and it can be accessed at all podcast platforms and at  www.blackhemages.com    

  1. 4d ago

    My Inner Child Filed A Formal Complaint

    Send us Fan Mail Some pain doesn’t end with a bow, and that doesn’t mean you’re failing. I’m talking about ambiguous grief, also known as ambiguous loss, the kind of grief that lacks closure because something is gone but never really leaves, or something is present but no longer feels available. When I didn’t have language for that, my mind kept trying to solve what only needed to be understood, and it wore me out. I hold that reality up next to the Book of Job, not the highlight reel ending, but the middle where most of us actually live. Job’s world falls apart, his friends show up with confident explanations, and he’s left carrying the weight of questions that don’t cooperate. That tension feels familiar when people narrate our pain better than they understand our experience, even when they mean well. Then I get personal about a longer hypermanic episode that had no clear trigger and no easy loop to close. What surprised me wasn’t an answer, but a voice I hadn’t listened to in years: a younger version of me asking not to be fixed, but to be seen. I share what it looked like to respond with recognition instead of another rushed explanation, and why perspective can bring a different kind of peace even when closure never arrives. If you’ve been searching for a neat reason, consider a gentler question: who inside you is still waiting for acknowledgement? Subscribe, share this with someone who needs a soft landing, and leave a review so more people can find this healing space. Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    My Inner Child Filed A Formal Complaint

  2. Jul 14

    When Confidence Is A Mask

    Send us Fan Mail Confidence isn’t always confidence. Sometimes it’s insecurity with good posture, a steady voice, and years of practice hiding in plain sight. We talk directly to our mindful partners about what it feels like when your inner world is loud, your outer world looks “fine,” and your mental health keeps asking the same questions in new ways. We trace where that quiet insecurity can begin, including a story from radio and the cruel little whisper it leaves behind: “only your voice is beautiful.” From there, we slow the pace with a guided body check, because the body often notices what the mind tries to edit. We sit with the uncomfortable truth that evidence can bring closure without bringing change, and that masks can become normal especially when social media rewards the polished version of us. Faith shows up as a mirror, not a performance. The story of Gideon becomes a companion for anyone who feels unqualified, afraid, or “not enough,” and we explore why honest questions can be more transformative than perfect certainty. We also name the inner sentences that trap us, including the way anxiety can sound like wisdom, and we land on a surprising reframe: healing can feel like subtraction less certainty, less performance, less masking until you find the part of you that can actually fight. If something speaks to you here, subscribe, share this with someone you love, and leave a review so more people can find the conversation. What story have you repeated so often it now sounds like your own voice? Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    When Confidence Is A Mask

  3. Jul 7

    My Inner Narrator Could Use A Nap

    Send us Fan Mail The loudest voice in your life might be the one nobody else can hear. We’re talking about personal dialogue the inner self-talk that shapes your mental health, your relationships, and the choices you make when life gets heavy. I’m not asking you to borrow my map of healing. I’m unfolding mine, so you can recognise your own patterns and start building a language that actually supports you.  We start with a hard truth: even a beautiful story of origin can leave you with a script that breaks down the moment “privilege stops working.” When the identity you built around being the helper becomes the reason you can’t ask for help, the real battle is internal. That’s why we dig into self-language the voice your body speaks, the voice your relationships inherit, and the voice you use on yourself when nobody is listening.  Then I bring in the Red Sea crossing as a metaphor for healing: not just the miracle, but the long night of wind, fear, and walking forward while old identities still shout behind you. Sometimes faith begins with borrowing courage from the people walking beside you. We pause for a body check-in, because mindfulness and breath are not accessories they’re tools for settling the nervous system so the story can settle too.  I also speak openly about living with bipolar II, masking, and what it means to sit with the darkest voices instead of rushing to suppress them. A line from Brianna Wiest shifts the frame: healed doesn’t mean flawless; it means sadness, fear, and grief no longer run the whole conversation. If you’re ready to look at your inner dialogue with more honesty and more compassion, press play, then subscribe, share the episode, and leave a review so more people can find this kind of support. Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    My Inner Narrator Could Use A Nap

  4. Jun 16

    A Novel That Rewrites Manliness

    Send us Fan Mail A man can look “fine” and still be standing on a ledge inside his own mind. That tension sits at the heart of our conversation with author Ulutumbi Ito about his novel My Mrs. Solomon: A Man’s Quest For True Manliness, and why storytelling may be one of the most effective ways to start honest men’s mental health conversations without shame or posturing.  We talk about the quiet rules many boys learn early: don’t cry, don’t admit fear, don’t ask for help. Then we follow what those rules can cost over time, especially when abuse happens to boys and the only socially acceptable response is laughter or denial. From emotional silence to suicide risk, we name the patterns that keep men isolated, and we challenge the cultural “alpha male” mirage that insists everything must be perfect.  The episode also digs into relationships and recovery. We explore how a supportive partner and a strong friend circle can create the safety a man needs to finally speak, and why many men struggle with emotional vocabulary in the first place. Faith and family show up too: we question what “safety” means, what parental accountability looks like, and how a fresh lens on Peter walking on water reframes courage as the willingness to ask for help.  If you care about men’s mental health, healing from trauma, marriage under pressure, parenting with awareness, or building real support systems, press play and sit with us. Subscribe, share this with someone you love, and leave a review so more people can find these conversations. Get a copy here https://selar.com/mymrs Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    A Novel That Rewrites Manliness

  5. Jun 2

    You Are Human Before You Are A Man.

    Send us Fan Mail The world is loud right now: war, economic stress, nonstop online gender battles, and the quiet feeling that everyone is bracing for impact. So we take a different approach. We pause, breathe, and talk honestly about men’s mental health, not as a trend, but as a survival issue and a relationship issue that touches families, marriages, friendships, and whole communities. My guest, Elishius Olalua, helps me name the thing many men can feel but struggle to explain: a script of strength that gets handed to boys early and enforced later through shame, status, and silence. We unpack what “being strong” is often taught to mean in Nigerian and wider African homes, why vulnerability can feel expensive, and how men end up saying “I’m okay” even when they are overwhelmed. We also explore the hidden cost of tying a man’s worth only to what he provides, and why provision has to include the state of your mind, spirit, and emotional health not just money. We go deeper into emotional literacy: why anger becomes the “allowed” emotion, why many men lack language for what they feel, and what it takes to ask for help without feeling like you’re failing. We end with a grounded takeaway, one reflective question for your journal, and a practical invitation to create safer spaces for boys and men to be fully human. If any part of this resonates, subscribe, share it with someone you care about, and leave a review so more people can find these healing conversations. What would change in your home if men had real permission to feel? Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    You Are Human Before You Are A Man.

  6. May 26

    Give Me My Flowers

    Send us Fan Mail “Give me my flowers while I’m still here” sounds like a clean rule for life, but once you factor in loneliness, shifting relationships, and the masks we wear to survive, it gets complicated fast. We start with a simple mental health frame I keep coming back to: alignment.  When your thoughts, emotions, and actions aren’t at war, you feel more grounded. And because language shapes our inner world, reframing common phrases can be a surprisingly powerful mindfulness practice. We talk about why social media can feel so loud, why so many of us crave a seat at the table, and how the most connected generation can still feel painfully alone.  I pause for a breath with you and ask the question that can change a lot: whose opinion still steadies you or shakes you, and why?  From there, we go into the armor we reach for when we’re afraid, pulling from Brené Brown’s insight that armor, not fear, is what blocks love, connection, and our values. Then we bring it back to “flowers” and relationships.  Some people drift with no fight, no drama, just distance, and when loss arrives we remember the beauty more than the gap.  We also look at friendship through a lens that challenges the usual definition, including Simon Sinek’s idea that real friends aren’t only there for hard times, they’re the people who can celebrate your good news without making you feel like you’re bragging.  We end with reflection questions you can sit with all week and a reminder that sometimes the most mindful move is to give yourself flowers while you learn how to ask for what you need. If it resonates, subscribe, share it with someone you’re walking beside, and leave a review so more people can find these mental health and mindfulness conversations. Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    Give Me My Flowers

  7. May 19

    Taking Responsibility Without Losing Connection

    Send us Fan Mail “No one is coming to save you” is supposed to be motivating, but what if it’s also making us lonelier?  We start with a simple mindful check-in, soften the body, breathe, and ask the real question beneath the slogan: how are you actually doing right now, and what happens inside you when you hear that line online? I explore the tension between personal responsibility and human connection. Yes, we own our choices, our healing, and our next step.  But we’re also living in a time where constant connectivity can hide deep isolation, and where the myth of being “self-made” quietly erases the friends, partners, mentors, and communities that keep us steady.  I share a personal story from an earlier podcast attempt that stalled, how fear showed up when it was time to begin again, and how support sometimes “saves” us without rescuing us by doing the work. From there, we get practical and honest about trust and vulnerability.  Who is safe? Who do you share your scars with?  And how do you ask for help when you’ve learned to do everything alone?  We also reflect on friendship as a life-changing force, the kind that reminds you of what’s good in you, and we end with questions you can sit with after the audio ends. If this conversation lands for you, subscribe, share it with someone you trust, and leave a review so more people can find the show.  What’s one area of your life where you’re resisting help? Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    Taking Responsibility Without Losing Connection

  8. May 12

    Repetition Can Be Real Growth

    Send us Fan Mail “Nothing happens in your comfort zone” gets quoted like a law, but I’m not convinced it tells the whole truth.  Sometimes the most meaningful growth happens in the quiet, repetitive middle when you keep showing up, keep practicing, and finally start seeing yourself differently.  That’s the thread I pull on here, starting with a simple mantra I live by: it’s about showing up, not perfection. I talk through the tension honestly, including what it felt like to stay in one organisation for years and slowly notice that comfort can turn into quiet dissatisfaction.  Not dramatic, not rebellious, just that clear internal question: is this still it? From there we explore a more mindful way to think about change, career transitions, and personal growth without turning “leaving” into a badge of honour or “staying” into a shame story. You’ll also hear a quick breathing reset to help you settle, plus two reframes that can change how you treat yourself: “practice makes progress” and the idea of tessitura, a singer’s most comfortable range, not as limitation but as mastery.  We end with five reflection questions you can journal with right away, especially if you’re working on self-awareness, mental wellbeing, and learning how to move at your own pace. If this resonates, subscribe, share it with someone who’s wrestling with a transition, and leave a review so more mindful partners can find the show. What’s one place in your life you might be rushing to leave? Support the show Follow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kuku Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/ LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/ Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/ https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPe Website: https://blackhemages.com/ b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11 Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being. #tdk

    Repetition Can Be Real Growth
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Mindfully with Tunmise, The Podcast is a weekly talk/interview show that seeks to promote mental health awareness by demystifying perceived mysteries surrounding mental health stability. The show features personal stories from Tunmise, who lives with Bipolar II and also collects stories from individuals from all walks of life. The conversations aim to answer questions surrounding mental health myths and promote living mindfully through self-compassion and showing up instead of perfection. The show also features resource experts to provide a balanced explanation to each question raised. The target audience includes young adults, parents, and middle-aged citizens who are struggling with self-esteem, identity conflicts, cultural conflicts, existential questions and resolving relational conflicts. Mindfully with Tunmise. The show's mission is to encourage people to live mindfully, tell their stories, and promote self-compassion. The show's duration is between 30 to 60 minutes per episode, and it can be accessed at all podcast platforms and at  www.blackhemages.com    

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  • Creator
    Oluwatunmise Oladapo Kuku
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    117
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Mindfully With 'Tunmise
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    Mindfully With 'Tunmise