Cutting The Strings

Ivan Francis Wilbanks
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Cutting The Strings talks about the numerous life lessons learned along the way in their self-discovery journey. A series of real conversations and talks about topics ranging from self love and acceptance to managing conflict and accountability are sure to provide insight, guidance, and a source of inspiration for those who join in. Remember: Life is about growth and learning from both our triumphs and failures alike. Hopefully by sharing, this can help aid the growth of all alike.

  1. Jan 25

    The Final Cut: It's OK to Restart and Pivot

    After two and a half years of this project, It is now coming to an end. In this video, I highlight recent changes to my mindset and share some words of encouragement for those of us out here who are pivoting either to something different or are in a period of rediscovering ourselves. For those of you who have listened and followed my journey, I appreciate you immensely. I hope you'll follow me on my next adventures as I pivot into one of my first passions: Fashion. Much love and see you on the other side!

    29 min

  2. 12/11/2025

    Preference or Requirements?: Clarifying the Record on Masc4Masc

    In this conversation, I explore the complex dynamics of masculinity, masculine privilege, and preferences versus requirements from an academic lens. I am breaking it all down; discussing the definitions of masculinity, the privileges associated with it, and the societal expectations that shape preferences in dating. Also, I will be discussing the distinction between preferences and requirements in relationships, urging listeners to reflect on their own biases and the impact of societal norms on their identities.

    45 min

  3. 09/30/2025

    Walking Through Mental Health

    In this episode of Cutting the Strings, host Ivan Francis Wilbanks shares his personal journey with mental health, discussing his experiences with complex PTSD, bullying, and the impact of childhood trauma. He emphasizes the importance of therapy, self-respect, and setting boundaries while navigating the challenges of mental health. Ivan encourages listeners to seek help and build a supportive community to foster healing and self-discovery.

    30 min

  4. 09/10/2025

    Tounge Tied: The Woes of Gay Male Communication

    In this episode, we explore the challenges that gay men face in dating and socializing, particularly focusing on community expectations, adverse experiences, and the unique language of the gay community. He emphasizes the importance of self-worth and understanding one's value beyond societal standards, while also addressing the complexities of human interactions and the need for personal growth. The conversation highlights the evolving nature of dating and social dynamics within the LGBTQ+ community.Takeaways Many gay men struggle with dating due to unrealistic community expectations.Adverse experiences can significantly impact confidence and self-worth.Understanding the non-verbal language of the gay community is crucial for social interactions.Self-assessment of worthiness is more important than external validation.Navigating social spaces requires setting clear boundaries and respecting oneself.Human interactions are complex, and grace is needed in understanding others.Priorities shift over time, affecting dating and social experiences.The world is changing, and so are the dynamics of dating within the LGBTQ+ community.Not every person in the community is bad; there are good people too.Personal growth and self-acceptance are vital for healthy relationships.

    40 min

  5. 09/03/2025

    Jealousy: The Real Nasty Work

    In this episode of Cutting the Strings, host Ivan Francis Wilbanks delves into the complex emotion of jealousy, exploring its destructive nature in various relationships, particularly within the LGBTQ+ community. He shares personal experiences, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and open communication to navigate jealousy effectively. The conversation highlights the need for honest discussions before, during, and after social events to prevent misunderstandings and conflicts arising from jealousy.

    17 min
  6. A Reaction: 1 Black Radical vs 20 Black Conservatives

    08/22/2025

    A Reaction: 1 Black Radical vs 20 Black Conservatives

    In this episode of Cutting the Strings, I delve into the viral debate between Amanda Searles and 20 Black conservatives on Jubilee. He discusses the complexities of Black American political ideologies, the impact of historical education on current perspectives, and the legacy of slavery in modern society. I re-examine the role of media in shaping perceptions of crime and highlight the dangers of misinformation, particularly in platforms like Jubilee.

    23 min

  7. 08/04/2025

    Ten Years in ATL

    In this episode, we celebrate 10 years of my experience of living in Atlanta. I came to the Big Peach on July 31, 2015, to begin my journey in law school and have largely not turned back since. Today, I share personal stories, anecdotes, and tidbits that highlight the lessons learned over the decade. We'll discuss the importance of resilience in the face of change, the value of friendships forged in unexpected places, and how the city's cultural diversity has impacted my perspective. Whether you're an Atlanta native, a newcomer, or simply curious about life in the South, this episode will resonate with anyone seeking growth and understanding in their own journey!

    29 min

  8. 07/18/2025

    Five Mistakes of the Married

    In this episode, we get real about the mistakes many couples make that can trip them up. We discuss everything from poor communication habits and taking each other for granted to the struggles that come with being selfish and not growing with your partner. I share my viewpoints as a former family law attorney who has observed these mistakes from the outside looking in as well as someone who has previously made some of these mistakes and offer some practical suggestions on how to improve communication and connection.

    30 min
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Cutting The Strings talks about the numerous life lessons learned along the way in their self-discovery journey. A series of real conversations and talks about topics ranging from self love and acceptance to managing conflict and accountability are sure to provide insight, guidance, and a source of inspiration for those who join in. Remember: Life is about growth and learning from both our triumphs and failures alike. Hopefully by sharing, this can help aid the growth of all alike.

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  • Creator
    Ivan Francis Wilbanks
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    18
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Ivan Francis Wilbanks
  • Show Website
    Cutting The Strings