Adaptable | Behavior Explained

Kelly O’Horo
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I’m Kelly O’Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I’m a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we’re all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the ”life stuff” and ”emotional vocabulary” that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I’ve learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There’s a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.

  1. 2d ago

    The Conversations Every Couple Needs Before Marriage (From a Therapist)

    Love doesn't fail marriages. Unspoken expectations do. So before you walk down that aisle, there are a handful of conversations almost no one has and they're the ones that actually shape your day-to-day life together. I'm Kelly, an EMDR therapist, and today I'll walk you through every one. Before you say “I do,” there are a handful of conversations most couples never have and they're the ones that actually shape married life. In this episode, EMDR therapist Kelly O'Horo walks through what every couple needs to get clear on before the wedding: how you each handle conflict and repair, money and invisible labor, gender-role and family expectations, intimacy, and emotional safety. Grounded in Gottman's research, this is the premarital conversation guide nobody hands you. Whether you're engaged, thinking about it, or years in — this one's for you. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all. -- Links -- https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpc https://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgo https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

    12 min

  2. Jul 5

    Why You Don't Feel Safe After Surviving (Medical Trauma & EMDR)

    You can be profoundly traumatized by something your body lived through — even when everyone tells you you're “lucky to be alive.” Because surviving doesn't mean your nervous system knows you're safe. I'm Kelly, an EMDR therapist, and today we're talking about medical trauma. Surviving a heart attack, cancer, a stroke, or a serious injury doesn't mean your nervous system knows you're safe. In this episode, EMDR therapist Kelly O'Horo explains medical trauma — why life-threatening medical events get stored as trauma, why so many survivors stay “braced” and hypervigilant, the grief of a body that can't do what it once did, and how EMDR helps the brain finally update to “that was then, this is now.” If you've ever wondered why you don't feel okay even though you survived, this one's for you. Chapters 0:00 — “Why don't I feel okay — I survived?” 2:00 — Why medical events become trauma 6:00 — The braced nervous system 10:00 — Powerlessness, fear & grief 14:00 — How EMDR helps the brain update 18:00 — Healing isn't erasing — it's integrating I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all. -- Links -- https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpc https://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgo https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

    13 min

  3. Jul 2

    How to Rewire a Nervous System Stuck in Survival Mode (A Therapist Explains)

    Your nervous system isn't broken, it's doing exactly what it learned to keep you safe. The problem is, what protected you then can exhaust you now. In this episode, EMDR therapist Kelly O'Horo explains how the nervous system works, how stress and trauma get stored in the body, the science of neuroplasticity, and how therapies like EMDR help you rewire from survival mode toward flexibility and calm, including the “hand model of the brain” and why we “flip our lid” under stress.  Chapters:  0:00 — Your nervous system isn't broken  1:30 — The survival system, simply explained  4:00 — The hand model: why you “flip your lid”  7:00 — How trauma & stress get stored in the body  10:00 — Changing your relationship with stress  12:30 — Neuroplasticity: the brain can rewire  15:00 — How EMDR rewires survival responses I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all. -- Links -- https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpc https://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgo https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

    19 min

  4. Jun 19

    Addiction Is Not the Problem, Trauma Is with Patrick O'Horo

    Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we take a deeper look at addiction and what’s happening beneath the surface with Patrick O'Horo. Rather than being the core problem, addiction is often explored as a coping response to unresolved trauma, emotional pain, and nervous system dysregulation. Together, we discuss how healing changes when we move beyond behavior and address the underlying trauma driving it. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all. -- Links -- https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpc https://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgo https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

    29 min

  5. Jun 12

    Addiction as an Adaptation: A Response to Pain, Trauma and Disconnection with Patrick O'Horo

    Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over addiction as an adaptation to pain, trauma, and disconnection rather than a moral failing or lack of willpower with Patrick O’Horo. We explore addiction not as something rooted in weakness or purely a disease model, but as a response the nervous system develops to cope with unresolved trauma and emotional pain. This perspective can shift how we understand both behavior and healing. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all. -- Links -- https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpc https://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgo https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

    27 min

  6. Jun 5

    How EMDR Helps Heal Addiction & Trauma

    Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over how EMDR helps heal addiction and trauma, exploring how unresolved experiences can keep people stuck in patterns of coping, avoidance, and emotional overwhelm, and how EMDR therapy helps the nervous system process painful memories so healing and recovery become possible. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all. -- Links -- https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpc https://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgo https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

    15 min

  7. May 29

    The Moment I Realized, I Wasn’t Really Let In

    Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode explores the painful moment of realizing you felt emotionally close to someone who never fully let you in. We unpack emotional unavailability, attachment patterns, and why this kind of distance can feel so confusing and heartbreaking. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all. -- Links -- https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpc https://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgo https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

    14 min

  8. May 22

    Panic and Health Anxiety

    Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode explores the connection between panic attacks, health anxiety, and how EMDR therapy can help, breaking down how the nervous system can become stuck in cycles of fear and symptom monitoring, why panic can feel so overwhelming in the body, and how EMDR may help people process the underlying experiences and triggers that keep anxiety active. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all. -- Links -- https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpc https://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgo https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

    12 min
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I’m Kelly O’Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I’m a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we’re all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the ”life stuff” and ”emotional vocabulary” that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I’ve learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There’s a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.

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  • Creator
    Kelly O’Horo
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    132
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2023 All rights reserved.
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    Adaptable | Behavior Explained

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