NAUGHTY GYM SHOW - Building Stronger Non-Monogamous Relationships

April and Scott
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Naughty Gym Show is a podcast about non-monogamy, open relationships, swinging, polyamory, and the skills of building strong relationships beyond traditional monogamy. Hosted by Scott and April Shirley, the show explores how couples and individuals can create honest, ethical, and emotionally strong non-monogamous relationships. Each episode dives into the real work of modern love, communication, jealousy, autonomy, intimacy, trust, and personal growth. At the center of the show is a simple but radical idea: relational freedom. The belief that love grows strongest when it is chosen freely, supported by honesty, autonomy, and mutual respect rather than control or fear. These conversations draw from the broader framework behind Wild Love Theory, a modern philosophy of relationships built around authenticity, autonomy, and expansive connection. If you’re curious about ethical non-monogamy (ENM), exploring open relationships, navigating polyamory, or simply trying to build a more honest and resilient partnership, this show offers the conversations and skills most people were never taught. At Naughty Gym, relationships are treated like something you train for. We talk about the philosophy, psychology, and practical skills required to build relationships that are strong enough to hold freedom, truth, desire, and real intimacy. Expect deep conversations, practical insights, and honest stories about love, sex, commitment, and the future of relationships. Welcome to the gym.

  1. 2d ago

    Dealing With Fears & Insecurities in Non-Monogamy

    Fear, jealousy, and insecurity are some of the most common struggles couples face in the lifestyle, swinging, open relationships, and ethical non-monogamy. But what should you actually do when those feelings show up? In this episode of The Naughty Gym Show, April and Scott talk about the normal fears that come up in the lifestyle, including body comparison, fear of being replaced, anxiety around texting, repeat partners, kissing, solo dates, separate-room play, and the stories our brains create when we feel triggered. Most couples respond to fear by creating a new rule. Sometimes that can be helpful. Temporary agreements can act as scaffolding while trust and emotional capacity are being built. But when rules become the permanent solution, they can quietly turn into a cage. Scott and April introduce two practical frameworks from their upcoming Wild Love Theory workbook: The R.U.L.E. Pattern React to the Trigger Unpack the Pain Limit the Behavior Enforce the Rule This is the common path couples take when fear shows up. The F.R.E.E. Framework Find the Real Fear Reexamine the Story Express the Need Without Control Expand Capacity This is a healthier way to process jealousy and insecurity without immediately turning fear into restriction. They also share personal examples from their own non-monogamous journey, including how insecurity can be connected to body image, relationship load, disconnection, old wounds, overwhelm, and feeling undesirable or unchosen. This episode is for anyone in the lifestyle, curious about ethical non-monogamy, or trying to understand how to deal with jealousy, rules, boundaries, insecurity, and fear without making each other smaller. The goal is not to build enough rules that nobody ever gets scared. The goal is to build enough capacity that fear no longer has to run the relationship. Learn more about our events, community, retreats, podcast, and upcoming book at NaughtyGym.com. Investor Info: scott@wandervest.world Naughty Gym Info: Naughty Gym Website- www.naughtygym.com Naughty Gym Patreon- https://www.patreon.com/cw/NaughtyGym Our Upcoming Events: 1. X Club Toronto Invasion - June 25-28th, 2026 - https://www.tickettailor.com/events/naughtygym/2109578 2. Barcelona Adventure Trip - August 14-21st, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026 3. El Salvador Retreat - October 12-17th, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador 4. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise 5. Mancation Men's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain 6. Naughty Gym's Holidaze - November 15-20th, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze 7. Be Better At Being Bad - January 2-9th, 2027 - https://hedonism.com/bbbb #LifestylePodcast #EthicalNonMonogamy #SwingersLifestyle #OpenRelationships #Jealousy #RelationshipAdvice #NonMonogamy #LifestyleCouples #NaughtyGym #WildLoveTheory

    54 min

  2. May 21

    The Bad Prophet: You’re Probably Not as Good at Reading People as You Think

    How good are you really at reading people? Most of us like to believe we are above average at detecting lies, sensing energy, reading body language, picking up on vibes, and knowing what someone “really means.” But the research tells a very different story. In this episode, April and Scott unpack one of the most quietly destructive patterns in relationships: the confidence we place in our own interpretations, especially when fear gets involved. They begin with a hilarious and painfully revealing self-test. Are you better than average at spotting a liar? A better driver? Less biased than most people? More emotionally intelligent? Like most of us, April has strong answers. Then Scott brings in the numbers, including studies showing that people are barely better than chance at detecting lies, wildly overestimate their own abilities, and almost never think they are more biased than the average person. From there, the conversation turns personal. April shares how old survival patterns can make her misread silence, body language, or a delayed response as evidence that something is wrong. Scott tells a story he has never shared before about seeing April texting, feeling an instant threat response, checking her phone, and realizing she had simply been messaging her son about her grandbaby. Nothing was wrong, but his body had already built a case. This is the heart of what they call The Bad Prophet in their upcoming book, Wild Love Theory: the part of us that takes partial information, adds old pain, turns fear into certainty, and predicts a future that may not be real. In non-monogamy, the Bad Prophet can be especially powerful. A partner flirts with someone else, makes out with someone else, gets quiet, seems distracted, or does something slightly unexpected, and suddenly the mind begins narrating: I’m not enough. They want them more. I’m losing them. This means something about my worth. But pain is not always proof. A body reaction is real, but the story attached to it may be wrong. April and Scott also introduce the opposite practice: The Unprophet. Instead of treating your first fear-story as truth, you learn to slow down, separate fact from interpretation, ask better questions, give your nervous system time to settle, and make room for explanations that fear did not choose first. This episode is funny, vulnerable, research-backed, and deeply practical for anyone navigating love, jealousy, non-monogamy, conflict, insecurity, or old relational wounds. You may be intuitive. You may be emotionally intelligent. You may even be right sometimes. But this episode asks the harder question: What if the story that feels most true is only the first draft? --------- Investor Info: scott@wandervest.world Naughty Gym Info: Naughty Gym Website- www.naughtygym.com Naughty Gym Patreon- https://www.patreon.com/cw/NaughtyGym Our Upcoming Events: 1. X Club Toronto Invasion - June 25-28th, 2026 - https://www.tickettailor.com/events/naughtygym/2109578 2. Barcelona Adventure Trip - August 14-21st, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026 3. El Salvador Retreat - October 12-17th, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador 4. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise 5. Mancation Men's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain 6. Naughty Gym's Holidaze - November 15-20th, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze 7. Be Better At Being Bad - January 2-9th, 2027 - https://hedonism.com/bbbb

    1h 6m

  3. May 5

    The Opportunity: Investing In A Lifestyle Resort & The Power Of Why In Non-Monogamy

    Yes, we’re part of a new lifestyle resort project in Florida, and in this episode we bring on Jimmy Thorpe to talk about the vision, the opportunity, and what could become one of the most exciting lifestyle destinations in the United States. But the real story is bigger than the property. This conversation is about where non monogamy is headed. For a long time, a lot of lifestyle spaces have been built around the same basic formula: drinks, DJs, sex, and weekend parties. And while there is absolutely a place for that, we believe the community is ready for something more. We talk about creating spaces where non monogamy is not just about who you play with, but how deeply you connect, how freely you show up, and how much room there is for people to grow. That means better events, more thoughtful programming, wellness, education, community, inclusivity, and a culture where people can enjoy the atmosphere without pressure. In the second half of the episode, we dig into a question every non monogamous person and couple should ask: Why are we actually doing this? Our answer has changed a lot over the years. What started as something much more sex focused has become about connection, authenticity, freedom, and building a life where we do not have to edit ourselves down to stay accepted. So yes, this episode is about a resort. But it is really about the future of non monogamy, and what it might look like to build spaces that are strong enough to hold more freedom, more honesty, and more human connection. Investor Info: scott@wandervest.world Link to Investor Webinar: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/T7g1aIDNR2iSpykqZV8kLQ Naughty Gym Info: Naughty Gym Website- www.naughtygym.com Naughty Gym Patreon- https://www.patreon.com/cw/NaughtyGym Our Upcoming Events: 1. X Club Toronto Invasion - June 25-28th, 2026 - https://www.tickettailor.com/events/naughtygym/2109578 2. Barcelona Adventure Trip - August 14-21st, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026 3. El Salvador Retreat - October 12-17th, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador 4. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise 5. Mancation Men's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain 6. Naughty Gym's Holidaze - November 15-20th, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze 7. Be Better At Being Bad - January 2-9th, 2027 - https://hedonism.com/bbbb

    45 min

  4. Apr 28

    Wild Love Retreat - What Really Happens When You Live This?

    In this episode, April, Scott, and therapist Catherine from Expansive Connection unpack the raw, surprising, and powerful reality of the very first Wild Love Theory retreat. They share what shocked them most, what couples struggled with, what breakthroughs happened in real time, and why the weekend felt deeper than any of them expected. From vulnerable men opening up, to hard conversations about freedom, boundaries, burdens, trust, and emotional work, this is an honest behind-the-scenes look at what happens when relationship theory gets tested in real life. They also talk about who this retreat is for, who may not be ready for it yet, and what’s next for Wild Love Theory as the book release gets closer. If you’ve ever wondered what it actually looks like to live this work instead of just talk about it, this episode is for you. 💰Major Investment Information For Florida Resort (Accredited Investors Only): Email: scott@wandervest.world Naughty Gym Website Naughty Gym Patreon Our Upcoming Events: 1. X Club Toronto Invasion - June 25-28th, 2026 2. Barcelona Adventure Trip - August 14-21st, 2026 3. El Salvador Retreat - October 12-17th, 2026 4. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026 5. Mancation Men's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026 6. Naughty Gym's Holidaze - November 15-20th, 2026

    59 min

  5. Apr 14

    April On The Non-Monogamy Hot Seat: Questions To Argue About

    In this episode of the Naughty Gym Show, April and Scott pull back the curtain on one of the biggest shifts in their relationship so far: removing boundaries, testing freedom in real life, and learning what trust actually looks like when it is no longer theoretical. They talk openly about a major miscommunication that turned into a powerful experiment in non-monogamy, what happened when April gave Scott full freedom for 30 days, and how two unexpected real-world experiences challenged both of them to regulate, trust, and grow. From there, Scott puts April in the hot seat with raw, unfiltered questions about attraction, jealousy, one-penis policies, no-kissing rules, sexual innuendo, confidence, gossip, privacy, and the biggest turn-offs in both men and women. The result is one of their most candid conversations yet about autonomy, desire, emotional safety, and what healthy freedom actually requires. They also share updates on the upcoming Wild Love Theory retreat, Toronto X Club, Barcelona, El Salvador, new November events, and the huge news that they are officially under contract to purchase a lifestyle resort in Florida. This episode is honest, funny, provocative, and full of the kinds of relationship conversations most people are too afraid to have out loud. 💰Major Investment Information For Florida Resort (Accredited Investors Only): Email: scott@wandervest.world Naughty Gym Website Naughty Gym Patreon Our Upcoming Events: 1. Wild Love Theory Retreat - April 15-19th, 2026 2. X Club Toronto Invasion - June 25-28th, 2026 3. Barcelona Adventure Trip - August 14-21st, 2026 4. El Salvador Retreat - October 12-17th, 2026 5. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026 6. Mancation Men's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026 7. Naughty Gym's Holidaze - November 15-20th, 2026

    1h 3m

  6. Mar 31

    Rewriting Our Relationship Rules: Rethinking Boundaries Together

    In this raw and deeply personal episode of The Naughty Gym Show, April and Scott pull back the curtain on one of the hardest parts of open relationships and relational freedom: how couples actually revisit rules, boundaries, jealousy, and emotional capacity in real time. Using a powerful tool from their upcoming Wild Love Theory book and workbook, they walk through the exact process they use to identify hidden relationship rules, examine fear-based restrictions, and decide what freedom they are actually ready for. Along the way, they share a live, vulnerable conversation about private texting, dating, jealousy, trust, nervous system regulation, and what it really takes to expand freedom without blowing up connection. But this episode goes even deeper. April and Scott also explore a second kind of restriction that many couples miss entirely: imposed emotional burdens. They talk honestly about how unequal household labor, mental load, and invisible responsibilities can quietly destroy capacity for intimacy, desire, and relational freedom, and why no relationship can feel truly expansive when one partner is carrying too much. If you are navigating open relationships, non-monogamy, marriage, boundaries, jealousy, communication, emotional labor, or relationship growth, this episode gives you an unusually honest look at what that work actually sounds like inside a real partnership. Naughty Gym Website: www.NaughtyGym.com Naughty Gym Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/NaughtyGym Our Upcoming Events: 1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat 2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026 3. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador 4. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise 5. Mancation Men's Retreat - https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain 6. Holidaze - https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze

    1h 19m

  7. Mar 17

    Starting Non-Monogamy - A Real Couple's Experience

    Before we jump into today’s conversation, we share a major announcement: after months of quiet work behind the scenes, we reveal that we’ve been involved with a group that is under contract to acquire what many consider one of the premier lifestyle resorts in Florida. Because of SEC rules, we have to be careful about what we say publicly, but we’re excited to share the project, the vision, and the role we hope to play in helping shape its future. After that, we sit down with two very special guests, Clint and Danine, our first-ever Naughty Gym members and longtime friends, for a candid conversation about their journey into non-monogamy. They share how an unexpected early experience got put on the shelf for years, how their marriage nearly fell apart before deeper self-work changed everything, and what it looked like to move from survival mode into a more expansive, honest, and adventurous partnership. This is a fun, raw, and deeply personal episode about growth, sexuality, healing, and what can become possible when a couple stops settling for the default script. Naughty Gym Website: www.NaughtyGym.com Naughty Gym Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/NaughtyGym Our Upcoming Events: 1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat 2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026 3. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador 4. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise 5. Mancation Men's Retreat - https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain 6. Holidaze - https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze

    54 min

  8. Mar 3

    Angry Feminist Era Activated: Unlearning Purity Culture & Defensive Masculinity

    This week on The Naughty Gym Show, April takes the wheel for a real-time life update that starts with a chaotic wine-night incident (yes—April fell down 13 of 15 stairs in plush slippers… and Scott’s first response was to laugh 🙃) and turns into one of your most honest conversations yet. From there, you unpack what’s been swirling behind the scenes: launching your Patreon (with tiers starting at $3/month), opening bookings for your November retreats (aka “Naughty Gym Month”), and the stress of college + military academy decisions as your youngest son heads toward a major next chapter. Then the episode shifts into the deeper work: purity culture, sexual trauma, voice, righteous anger, and what it looks like to unlearn the systems that shaped both of you—especially in a conservative Southern context. You talk masculinity/femininity language, the “man box,” emotional labor and the invisible mental load, and why “just tell me what to do” isn’t partnership. Scott shares what he’s learning in therapy (and how even saying “I helped you” can quietly reinforce old roles), and you both name the goal: a relationship where men do their own inner work, women don’t have to carry the whole emotional burden, and both partners get to feel freer—and closer—because of it. Plus: you tease an After Chat on Patreon that allegedly tops the infamous “pissing on the couch” story (and may permanently lower Scott’s sex appeal, according to April). Listen, laugh, and maybe get a little wrecked—in the best way. Naughty Gym Website: www.NaughtyGym.com Our Upcoming Events: 1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat 2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026 3. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador 4. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise 5. Mancation Men's Retreat - https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain 6. Holidaze - https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze

    54 min
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Naughty Gym Show is a podcast about non-monogamy, open relationships, swinging, polyamory, and the skills of building strong relationships beyond traditional monogamy. Hosted by Scott and April Shirley, the show explores how couples and individuals can create honest, ethical, and emotionally strong non-monogamous relationships. Each episode dives into the real work of modern love, communication, jealousy, autonomy, intimacy, trust, and personal growth. At the center of the show is a simple but radical idea: relational freedom. The belief that love grows strongest when it is chosen freely, supported by honesty, autonomy, and mutual respect rather than control or fear. These conversations draw from the broader framework behind Wild Love Theory, a modern philosophy of relationships built around authenticity, autonomy, and expansive connection. If you’re curious about ethical non-monogamy (ENM), exploring open relationships, navigating polyamory, or simply trying to build a more honest and resilient partnership, this show offers the conversations and skills most people were never taught. At Naughty Gym, relationships are treated like something you train for. We talk about the philosophy, psychology, and practical skills required to build relationships that are strong enough to hold freedom, truth, desire, and real intimacy. Expect deep conversations, practical insights, and honest stories about love, sex, commitment, and the future of relationships. Welcome to the gym.

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