In Residence with Keith and Laura

Keith King & Laura King
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Hi! We are Keith and Laura. We are creatives and makers at heart and looking to make change, for ourselves and people like us who want to dig a little deeper. When you're In Residence as an artist, a writer, a musician, a leader–you're digging deep and tapping into your creativity. Learning and practicing and honing your craft. Creating teams, building relationships and culture, connecting ideas that may not be clearly connected. We see In Residence doing that via conversation. Join us as we push through uncomfortable growth on our way to make a difference. We like to dig deep, explore, learn, and grow.

  1. 4d ago

    Unspoken Expectations

    What happens when your expectations no longer match what you can do? Keith and Laura explore how expectations shape their relationships with each other and themselves. Preparing for surgery, Laura wrestles with the fear of letting people down and the frustration of needing more physical support. Keith reflects on their different approaches to rest, the importance of expressing needs, and his own habit of filling quiet moments with learning. Together, they explore how unspoken needs and demanding self-expectations can create frustration—with a partner or with yourself.Accepting Support Without Judging YourselfLaura is feeling excited to have a surgery date, then worrying that her recovery will let people down. Her executive coach’s question—whether she deserves to pause and care for herself—helps name the tension. She offers a candid look at how difficult it can be to acknowledge a need when you expect yourself to manage without help.Naming Needs and Making Room for QuietKeith connects unspoken expectations with resentment. He also encourages Laura to notice what remains possible during recovery without turning rest into another productivity project. His own challenge is leaving space unfilled. By exercising without a podcast or video, he practices paying attention rather than adding more input.Moving Forward With Clearer ExpectationsThe takeaway is to notice when your expectations need adjusting, say what you need, and allow support without treating it as failure. This conversation connects three themes: giving yourself permission to pause, communicating expectations before they become resentment, and recognizing when self-improvement becomes another demand.Thanks for Joining Us.Unspoken Expectations00:00 - Intro01:27 - Choosing to Pause and Record Later02:28 - Preparing for Surgery and Feeling Guilty About Rest05:05 - Different Ways of Resting and Recharging07:25 - How Unspoken Expectations Become Resentment10:44 - Flowers, Assumptions, and Saying What Matters13:17 - Physical Closeness and Understanding Your Needs14:55 - Physical Limits and Harsh Self-Expectations16:43 - Comparison and Moving at Your Own Pace18:04 - Recognizing Harsh Self-Talk19:29 - A Lighter Detour: Forgotten Phones and Lanyards21:17 - Reframing a Season of Rest and Recovery24:47 - Downtime Without Turning Rest Into More Work27:05 - Practicing Quiet and Paying Attention to Your Body28:47 - Helping Each Other Notice When to Slow Down30:45 - Closing🔊 LISTEN ON: ⚪️  with Keith and Laura🟠  Overcast🟣  Apple 🟢  Spotify 🔵  Amazon 🟠  Audible🔴  YouTube 🔴  YouTube Music📺  Full Episode Playlist📱  Shorts Playlist⚫️  Make Create Build Links- - - Check out withkeithandlaura.com and subscribe to In Residence with Keith and Laura for conversations about growth, relationships, and living in alignment with your values.The show notes were created with assistance from Perplexity AI, which helped generate and organize key points based on the podcast transcript.

    Unspoken Expectations

  2. Oct 1

    Entanglements • Wild Throws • Real Problems | Lessons from Seth Godin

    Some challenges feel like a knot: several competing needs, old assumptions, limited time, competing priorities, and emotions all pulled tightly together. Keith and Laura discuss their experience attending the launch of Seth Godin’s new book, The Knot, and the practical ideas it offers for solving problems with more clarity.A problem is something that can be solved. A situation is the context you are working within. Knowing the difference can prevent wasted energy and help you focus on the part of the challenge where you have agency.See the Entanglements ClearlyKeith reflects on the ways people can become entangled with old expectations, preferred outcomes, and assumptions about what must remain the same. Sometimes we believe we are stuck because of a circumstance, when the real challenge is that we are unwilling to let go of something connected to it.Progress begins with asking better questions o understand what you are solving and why. What is actually creating tension? What am I trying to preserve? What would need to change for this problem to become solvable?Stop Catching Every Wild ThrowLaura connects Seth Godin’s juggling metaphor to work, relationships, and personal life. A wild throw is a task, request, emergency, or expectation that arrives without clarity or preparation. If you are capable and dependable, it can be tempting to catch every one.Constantly rescuing poorly defined work can take energy away from the projects, relationships, wellness practices, and strategic priorities that matter most. Consider where you may be spending too much time catching someone else’s wild throw instead of improving your own rhythm, focus, and direction.Start with the Real ProblemComplex challenges rarely unravel all at once. They require patience, curiosity, and the ability to identify the tension point that keeps the knot in place. Stay curious about the real problem. Before jumping to a solution, name the situation, identify the entanglement, and look for the next useful move. Discomfort does not always mean something is wrong. Sometimes it is evidence that meaningful change is underway.Thanks for Joining Us.Entanglements • Wild Throws • Real Problems | Lessons from Seth Godin00:00 - Intro00:28 - Seth Godin’s The Knot and the New York book launch01:13 - Meeting Seth Godin and experiencing the live event02:14 - Problems can be solved05:29 - The Dip, discomfort, and staying with difficult work08:43 - The juggling metaphor: throw, drop, and catch09:34 - Catching wild throws can pull you out of position14:04 - Wild throws in relationships and collaboration15:29 - The difference between a problem and a situation17:24 - Entanglements, competing desires, and feeling stuck22:24 - Falling in love with a solution before understanding the problem23:24 - Why curiosity matters more than having the answer24:13 - Untangling complex problems one tension point at a time26:25 - Naming baggage and identifying what creates tension31:20 - Creating together while protecting the relationship32:40 - Final thoughts on The Knot35:13 - Closing thoughts🔊 LISTEN ON: ⚪️  with Keith and Laura🟠  Overcast🟣  Apple 🟢  Spotify 🔵  Amazon 🟠  Audible🔴  YouTube 🔴  YouTube Music📺  Full Episode Playlist📱  Shorts Playlist⚫️  Make Create Build Links- - - Check out withkeithandlaura.comVisit the website and subscribe to In Residence with Keith and Laura for more conversations about leadership, relationships, personal growth, meaningful work, and designing a life that reflects what matters most.The show notes were created with assistance from Perplexity AI, which helped generate and organize key points based on the podcast transcript.

    Entanglements • Wild Throws • Real Problems | Lessons from Seth Godin

  3. Sep 24

    Out of Sync & Disconnected | Notice • Reflect • Act

    Life can feel off before we have the words to explain why. You may notice less energy, more overwhelm, a shorter fuse, disconnection in a relationship, or the sense that your days are full without moving you toward what matters most.In this episode, Keith and Laura revisit a simple practice for responding to those moments: notice what feels off, reflect on what may be underneath it, and choose one small action to try next. The goal is not to fix every part of life at once. It is to become more attentive and intentional in the present season.Beneath the SymptomKeith begins with a recent feeling of disconnection between the two of them. Rather than treating that feeling as the entire problem, he reflects on what may be contributing to it. He discovers disrupted routines, an unplanned schedule, resistance around his creative work, and two weeks away from journaling have affected how he is showing up in several areas of life.What we first notice may be a symptom. When connection, energy, or focus is off, it can help to pause before reacting and ask what else needs attention. For Keith, the next action is not a dramatic overhaul. It is returning to planning his days and making room to reflect.Protect What Matters MostLaura shares that her signal is often overwhelm. She can feel productive and capable for a long time, until her commitments begin to crowd out the time, relationships, movement, and work that matter most. Her practice is to look at her calendar and ask whether it reflects her real priorities.She also offers a useful decision-making tool: do, delete, delegate, or defer. Not every request requires an immediate yes. Sometimes the most responsible choice is to delay a meeting, hand off a task, remove a commitment, or protect focused think time for work that truly needs attention.The Work Is OngoingBalance is not a perfect or permanent state. Different responsibilities will need more attention at different times, and two people can need rest in very different ways. The important work is staying honest about what is happening and making small adjustments.Thanks for Joining Us.Out of Sync & Disconnected | Notice • Reflect • Act00:00 - Intro00:36 - Revisiting the Live, Love, Lead practice01:46 - Recognizing that something feels off03:06 - a symptom, not the problem05:30 - Notice, reflect, and choose an action07:09 - Laura’s overwhelm and shrinking time08:31 - Busy seasons crowd out connection13:07 - Work, family, health, and making room for yourself17:08 - Balancing the outcomes of your decisions19:02 - Does your calendar reflect your priorities?20:24 - The Four Ds: do, delete, delegate, or defer25:04 - Why dedicated think time matters27:58 - Different rhythms and different definitions of rest30:10 - Finding rest33:04 - Two people who care moving at different tempos35:24 - Why balance is not perfectly balanced36:23 - Choose one thing to notice, reflect on, and address38:08 - Closing thoughts🔊 LISTEN ON: ⚪️  with Keith and Laura🟠  Overcast🟣  Apple 🟢  Spotify 🔵  Amazon 🟠  Audible🔴  YouTube 🔴  YouTube Music📺  Full Episode Playlist📱  Shorts Playlist⚫️  Make Create Build Links- - - Check out withkeithandlaura.com*The show notes were created with assistance from Perplexity AI, which helped generate and organize key points based on the podcast transcript.

    Out of Sync & Disconnected | Notice • Reflect • Act

  4. Sep 17

    Permission to Refill Your Cup Guilt-Free

    In this mixtape-style episode, Keith and Laura step away from the usual pressure to optimize every moment. Instead, they talk about the music, shows, books, hobbies, routines, and small discoveries that have helped them rest, reconnect, and enjoy life in a busy season. Not everything that supports your growth has to look like work. Sometimes the most helpful thing you can do is choose an activity that brings joy, gives your mind a break, or reconnects you to who you are.Following Curiosity and ConnectionLaura shares how music, language learning, genealogy, and thrifting have given her new energy. Listening to Dolly Parton has been more than nostalgia; it has been a reminder to live with confidence, stay grounded in your values, and use your influence to serve others.She also reflects on the unexpected value of following curiosity. Studying Swedish and Norwegian has helped her better understand the family stories she is uncovering through genealogy research.Permission to Rest and CreateKeith brings a practical perspective on rest, creativity, and self-care. He shares how playing guitar, experimenting with piano, listening to fiction, and solving simple puzzles have offered a welcome change from work, information, and constant self-improvement.He names a familiar tension: feeling guilty when rest does not appear productive. Rather than treating that feeling as a reason to push harder, Keith encourages listeners to notice it and allow a different rhythm when needed.What helps you feel more like yourself?Whether she is singing in the car, learning a new language, enjoying football season, or finding a guitar at a thrift store with the kids, Laura reminds us that joy and connection are often found when we make room for the things that genuinely interest us. Keith aims for small, daily habits like weight lifting, listening or playing music, or setting aside twenty minutes for brain teasers and puzzles that help him decompress.You don’t need a major life change to restore your energy. Small choices can improve your day and reinforce that taking care of yourself is worthwhile. Start with one guilt-free choice that brings you rest, creativity, connection, or enjoyment.Thanks for Joining Us.Visit withkeithandlaura.com for more episodes and resources, and subscribe to In Residence with Keith and Laura wherever you listen to podcasts.Permission to Refill Your Cup Guilt-Free00:00 - Intro00:49 - Music as a way to recharge01:00 - Laura on Dolly Parton, values, and standing tall03:31 - Keith on Glen Hansard and returning to guitar06:19 - Singing, music, and giving the brain a break07:05 - Needing a different rhythm as the season changes08:04 - Entertainment versus constant self-improvement09:17 - Podcast & Show recommendations14:03 - Twin Peaks: The Return17:33 - Sports21:20 - Games, puzzles, and language learning25:12 - Laura’s genealogy research27:31 - Books, audiobooks, and easy listening30:28 - Family recipes, traditions, and connection32:59 - Working out and Thrifting36:23 - Closing thoughts🔊 LISTEN ON: ⚪️  with Keith and Laura🟠  Overcast🟣  Apple 🟢  Spotify 🔵  Amazon 🟠  Audible🔴  YouTube 🔴  YouTube Music📺  Full Episode Playlist📱  Shorts Playlist⚫️  Make Create Build Links- - - Check out withkeithandlaura.comThe show notes were created with assistance from Perplexity AI, which helped generate and organize key points based on the podcast transcript.

    Permission to Refill Your Cup Guilt-Free

  5. Aug 28

    Small Steps, Big Goals | 3 Years of Growth

    Keith and Laura mark the podcast’s third anniversary by looking back at how the show has evolved. From a tentative creative experiment between two partners to making space for conversation, reflection, and the questions that shape everyday life, and personal growth. Laura and Keith discuss the discomfort of being seen, the value of sharing generously, and the practices that have shaped how they approach habits, relationships, work, and larger life goals. Letting Go of PerfectionismKeith reflects on the challenge of creating something for others while also managing self-consciousness and perfectionism. Recording and publishing the podcast required him to loosen the grip of needing everything to be exactly right before sharing it. Improvement and perfectionism are not the same thing. It’s good to care about quality and process, but not when the pursuit of a better outcome prevents meaningful action.Showing Up ConsistentlyLaura shares the practice of “putting a pearl on the string.” The point is not to complete the perfect task or have the perfect day. The point is to show up and take action, even when the action is small, inconvenient, or less polished than you hoped. Laura encourages listeners to build structures that support the person they want to become—using frameworks such as habit stacking and above-the-line thinking to create better conditions for follow-through.Why Not You?You do not need to have everything figured out before you begin. You can make progress by taking the next small step, learning as you go, and allowing your work to grow into something more than you originally imagined.Your goals may feel big, uncertain, or far away. Consistent action creates possibility for the change we seek. Take the next step. Make a new mistake. Move at your own pace. Then come back tomorrow and put another pearl on the string.Thanks for Joining Us.Small Steps, Big Goals | 3 Years of Growth00:00 - Intro00:38 - Celebrating three years of In Residence03:25 - Learning to share more honestly06:15 - Finding an organic rhythm for conversations08:47 - Above-the-line and below-the-line thinking15:32 - Put a pearl on the string16:56 - Pain, uncertainty, and constant work18:12 - The power of small, consistent actions20:12 - Habit stacking and creating conditions for success23:58 - Who is it for, what is it for, and what change are you making?28:38 - Choosing possibility over fear31:11 - What we hope to build in the next three years33:33 - Creating connection, momentum, and community34:05 - Big goals begin with small steps34:57 - Why not you?35:45 - Quote card throwback38:06 - Is it worth trying to do?38:41 - Closing🔊 LISTEN ON:   ⚪️  withkeithandlaura.com🟠  Overcast🟣  Apple🟢  Spotify🔵  Amazon🟠  Audible🔴  YouTube 🔴  YouTube Music📺  Full Episode Playlist📱  Shorts Playlist⚫️  Make Create Build LinksThe show notes were created with assistance from Perplexity AI, which helped generate and organize key points based on the podcast transcript.

    Small Steps, Big Goals | 3 Years of Growth

  6. Aug 21

    Live - Love - Lead | Intentional Living on Purpose

    Life can become crowded quickly. Work demands attention, relationships need care, health can require a new level of focus, and the activities that bring joy are often the first things to be pushed aside. In this episode Keith and Laura explore a simple framework for designing life with intention, on purpose: Live, Love and Lead.These three areas are not meant to divide life into separate boxes. Instead, they offer a way to notice what is giving you energy, what is draining you, what may be missing, and where a small change could make a meaningful difference.Reflection, Seasons, and Small ExperimentsKeith describes the flexible structure the couple uses for gaining clarity. Live includes daily rhythms, wellness, rest, hobbies, creativity, and play. Love focuses on partnership, family, friendships, and community. Lead is where work, caregiving, contribution, and the ways we influence others is explored.His central point is that intentional living begins with reflection. Ask what is working, what feels depleted, and what you want to change. Rather than trying to overhaul everything, Keith encourages small experiments. Playing guitar for five or ten minutes, reaching out to someone you miss, or creating more recovery time after a demanding project can be enough to begin building momentum.Values, Boundaries, and a Full LifeLaura brings attention to the risk of allowing work, leadership, or caregiving to become an entire identity. Meaningful work matters, but it should not require sacrificing wellness, hobbies, relationships, or the parts of life that make a person feel whole.She highlights the importance of communication, shared planning, and boundaries. Making room for connection can be practical: use a shared calendar, talk about upcoming responsibilities, and be honest about what you have capacity for. Boundaries also make it possible to invest energy in relationships and activities that genuinely support your well-being.Start Where You AreAccept the season you are in. Priorities shift as circumstances change, and a meaningful life requires flexibility rather than a rigid definition of balance. A full life is an ongoing practice of noticing, choosing, and adjusting. Consider one question today: What is one small step I can take to better support how I live, love, or lead?Live, Love, Lead with Intention on Purpose00:00 - Intro  01:07 - Why Live, Love, and Lead matter  04:14 - Introducing the three-part framework  06:04 - What it means to Live  06:45 - Leadership is more than a job title  08:25 - What Love includes: relationships, family, and community  09:02 - Wellness, hobbies, rest, and making space for joy  10:29 - Why downtime and recovery are necessary  13:11 - Making time for connection in busy lives  15:19 - Communication and shared calendars  18:02 - Friendship, family, and community as adults  22:12 - Setting healthy boundaries with your time  23:16 - Leading through work, caregiving, and contribution  25:10 - When work and leadership become your identity  28:21 - Priorities change with the seasons of life  34:29 - Designing life intentionally and on purpose   40:29 - Boundaries, expectations, and saying no  43:23 - How to put the framework into practice  44:06 - Reflection questions 46:52 - Start small and celebrate progress  47:06 - Closing thoughts 🔊 LISTEN ON: ⚪️  with Keith and Laura🟠  Overcast🟣  Apple 🟢  Spotify 🔵  Amazon 🟠  Audible🔴  YouTube 🔴  YouTube Music📺  Full Episode Playlist📱  Shorts Playlist⚫️  Make Create Build Links- - - Check out withkeithandlaura.comThe show notes were created with assistance from Perplexity AI, which helped generate and organize key points based on the podcast transcript.

    Live - Love - Lead | Intentional Living on Purpose

  7. Aug 14

    Couples Questions | Strengths & Growth

    In this episode of In Residence, Keith and Laura swap their usual format for a live, unscripted couple's Q&A inspired by another podcast duo. Laura surprises Keith with ten questions about their relationship, from first impressions to what real love looks like after two decades together.Patience, Presence, and Choosing Each OtherKeith talks about growing more patient through parenthood and through Laura's steady presence, noting that she gives him space to find the right words during hard moments. He credits her with pushing him toward adventure he'd otherwise put off, and shares that his clearest "this is my person" moment came recently, during a routine blood pressure check, when his mind drifted to memories of her asleep on the couch. He also reflects on learning to fully enjoy good times instead of bracing for something to go wrong.Grounding, Growth, and Seeing the Best in PeopleLaura describes Keith as her grounding force, the reason she's learned to savor quiet mornings on the deck instead of always chasing the next trip. She recalls how his instinct to give people the benefit of the doubt, rather than gossip, shaped how she treats others. Her own "this is my person" story involves Keith calmly sweeping a garden snake off their deck with a broom. She also shares a memory from years apart, watching him drive by and sensing he was meant to do big things.Real Love Isn't Perfect, It's ConsistentAcross ten questions, Keith and Laura land on the same idea: love isn't about getting everything right, it's about continuing to choose each other, make space to be heard, and hold onto individual identities while building a shared life.Thanks for Joining Us.Couples Questions | Strengths & Growth00:00 - Intro & catching up amid technical difficulties01:15 - Laura reveals the surprise couple's Q&A concept02:23 - Question 1: First impressions of each other05:09 - Question 2: What attracted them beyond looks07:26 - Question 3: What Keith saw in Laura before she saw it in herself11:22 - Question 4: Early relationship memories that shaped them16:11 - Question 5: The moment they each knew "this is my person"22:38 - Question 6: What each partner brings to the other's life24:47 - Question 7: How they've grown and changed together30:14 - Question 8: What they wish their partner could see in themselves35:09 - Question 9: What they do well as a couple and what takes work39:12 - Question 10: What real love looks like after years together44:21 - Wrap-up and sign-off🔊 LISTEN ON: ⚪️  with Keith and Laura🟠  Overcast🟣  Apple 🟢  Spotify 🔵  Amazon 🟠  Audible🔴  YouTube 🔴  YouTube Music📺  Full Episode Playlist📱  Shorts Playlist⚫️  Make Create Build Links- - - Check out withkeithandlaura.comThe show notes were created with assistance from Perplexity AI, which helped generate and organize key points based on the podcast transcript.

    Couples Questions | Strengths & Growth

  8. Jul 31

    Talking Out Loud | Getting Started…Again

    In this first episode of “Talking Out Loud,” Keith invites listeners into the messy, honest middle of getting unstuck and taking a small but meaningful leap. Instead of releasing a safe compilation episode, he chooses to sit down, speak directly to the camera, and hit publish on something new and unfinished.Moving from Comfort to CourageKeith shares how easy it has been to settle into the familiar rhythm of his existing podcast with Laura, even while sensing he was capable of more. He names the tension between staying comfortable and stepping into new formats, new conversations, and new ways of building community. Rather than framing this as a grand reinvention, he focuses on small, consistent steps—using this short episode as a “rep” toward a stronger creative practice.A personal nudge comes from the loss of musician Glen Hansard, whose work and presence deeply shaped Keith’s life. Remembering those encounters and the impact of Hansard’s music, Keith feels a renewed urgency to use his own time well, create work that matters, and show up for the people he loves. Talking Out Loud becomes both a practice and a promise: to get out of his head, say things out loud, and take imperfect action.Moving Past Playing It SafeTalking Out Loud extends the ongoing experiment and exploration of designing a life that works for you. Leaning into the uncomfortable growth can be challenging. If you’re navigating your own version of “starting before you’re ready,” this episode offers a real-time example of what it looks like to take a small step. Listen in, then visit withkeithandlaura.com and subscribe to the podcast to continue the conversation.Thanks Everyone.Talking Out Loud | Getting Started…Again00:00 - Intro00:28 - Why Talking Out Loud and why now01:17 - Feeling stagnant, playing it safe, and fearing new formats02:26 -Struggling to start and wanting to be further along03:46 - Keith’s love of music and the impact of Glen Hansard04:15 - Processing loss and the nudge to use time well05:14 - Inviting listeners to explore Glen Hansard’s work05:55 - Shifting from maintaining to moving forward with projects07:20 - Taking a small leap and aiming for consistent reps08:22 - The origin story of “Talking Out Loud”09:22 - Closing🔊 LISTEN ON: ⚪️  with Keith and Laura🟠  Overcast🟣  Apple 🟢  Spotify 🔵  Amazon 🟠  Audible🔴  YouTube 🔴  YouTube Music📺  Full Episode Playlist📱  Shorts Playlist⚫️  Make Create Build Links- - - Check out withkeithandlaura.comThe show notes were created with assistance from Perplexity AI, which helped generate and organize key points based on the podcast transcript.

    Talking Out Loud | Getting Started…Again
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Hi! We are Keith and Laura. We are creatives and makers at heart and looking to make change, for ourselves and people like us who want to dig a little deeper. When you're In Residence as an artist, a writer, a musician, a leader–you're digging deep and tapping into your creativity. Learning and practicing and honing your craft. Creating teams, building relationships and culture, connecting ideas that may not be clearly connected. We see In Residence doing that via conversation. Join us as we push through uncomfortable growth on our way to make a difference. We like to dig deep, explore, learn, and grow.

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