Over This Should

Pamela Meadows

Welcome to Over This Should, the podcast where we ditch societal expectations, challenge the "shoulds" holding women back, and embrace life on your own terms. Hosted by Pamela Meadows, this empowering series features inspiring conversations, expert insights, and practical strategies to help you set boundaries, boost confidence, and live authentically. Designed for women ready to step into their power, Over This Should covers topics like self-love, emotional intelligence, navigating relationships, and achieving personal and professional growth. Whether you’re redefining success, balancing life’s demands, or seeking inspiration, this podcast provides the tools and support you need to create a fulfilling, unapologetic life. Join us every week for uplifting stories, actionable advice, and thought-provoking interviews that empower you to live boldly and authentically. Let’s redefine what it means to thrive—together!

  1. 5h ago

    Who Am I When I’m Not Being Useful?

    Send us Fan Mail What if the reason you can’t rest has nothing to do with your to-do list? In this episode of Over This Should, Pamela Meadows takes on the question that hits like a stomach punch and a heart check: Who am I when I’m not being useful to everyone else? Through a very real story about lasting only about 90 seconds on the couch before her nervous system staged a tiny corporate takeover, Pamela unpacks the belief underlying so much over-functioning: that our worth is something we have to keep earning by being helpful, productive, needed, and easy to love. This episode is for the dependable one. The capable one. The “she’ll handle it” one. The woman who knows rest matters, but still cannot sit down until the dishes are done, the laundry is folded, the form is signed, the chickens are fed, and everyone else is okay. Inside this episode: Why usefulness is not the problem, but tying your worth to usefulness isHow “I should be able to handle this” becomes a quiet identity trapWhy rest can feel unsafe when your nervous system has learned to equate productivity with belongingThe difference between service and self-abandonmentWhy “everything is never done” matters more than we want to admitA simple practice to help you be “useless on purpose” and notice what comes upThe dishes can be important without being in charge of your humanity. You are allowed to rest before the list is empty. You are allowed to be a person in the middle of a life that still needs managing. And you do not owe anyone usefulness in exchange for the space you take up. If this episode hits home, send it to the woman who never sits down.

    30 min

  2. Jun 4

    Girlboss vs. Tradwife: The Rigged Game You Were Never Meant to Win

    Send us Fan Mail In April, a poll claiming 47% of young women would rather be a "tradwife" than a "girlboss" got held up on national TV as proof the career woman is over. The internet promptly turned women into opposing teams. Almost nobody stopped to ask the only question that matters: who handed us this menu, and why does our whole identity have to fit on it? Girlboss or tradwife. Lean in or opt out. Blazer or apron. Powerful or peaceful. If you have ever felt the quiet pressure to pick a side, consider this your permission slip to flip the whole board. In this episode, Pamela takes apart the fake choice being sold to ambitious, exhausted women everywhere and shows why it was rigged from the start. The spoiler: girlboss and tradwife were never opposites. They are the same trap wearing two different outfits. One says "be impressive enough to be valuable." The other says "be agreeable enough to be chosen." Neither one says "be whole." In this episode: Where that viral "47%" poll actually came from, and why you are the product being argued over, not the customerThe 2007 research that explains why there is no winning either game: the double bindWhy the word "girlboss" always deserved the side eyeThe "founder mode" double standard that proves the whole thing is a script someone else wroteWhat you actually want underneath both labels (hint: it is not an aesthetic)Five things you can do this week to refuse the menu and build your own lifeMentioned in this episode: Catalyst, "The Double-Bind Dilemma for Women in Leadership: Damned If You Do, Doomed If You Don't" (2007)The 2026 survey widely reported as showing 47% of young women favoring a "tradwife" pathLines worth screenshotting: "You are not the customer in this story. You are the inventory being argued over.""They gave you two ends of the same cage and told you to pick your favorite wall.""Range is not a problem to solve. It is power to reclaim.""You do not owe anyone a team. You owe yourself a life."If this one cracked something open, share it with the woman who is tired of being told she has to choose, and follow Over This Should so the next episode finds you. Connect and go deeper: Website: www.pamelameadows.com Get The Empowerment Edit newsletter: https://pamelameadows.myflodesk.com/weeklynewsletter The RESET Program: https://www.pamelameadows.com/reset-program-old Instagram: @thepamelameadowsRemember: you're allowed to be over it. I'll see you next week.

    28 min
  3. The Identity Crisis Nobody Warned You About: When the Title Stops Fitting

    May 28

    The Identity Crisis Nobody Warned You About: When the Title Stops Fitting

    Send us Fan Mail That moment when you pull into the driveway, turn the car off, and just sit there? You’re not crying. You’re not falling apart. You’re not even sure what you’re feeling. You just know something about the life you’ve built doesn’t feel like it fits the way it used to. In this episode of Over This Should, Pamela Meadows explores the identity crisis nobody warns ambitious women about: what happens when the title, role, or version of yourself that once made you proud starts to feel like a costume you can’t wait to take off. Drawing from research on professional identity transitions and “possible selves,” Pamela unpacks why you can’t always think your way into your next chapter. Sometimes, you have to try your way there. You’ll learn why the “parking lot moment” is not a breakdown, why outgrowing an old identity doesn’t mean you wasted your life, and how to begin experimenting with the next version of yourself through small, honest “try-ons.” This episode is for the woman who has done everything right, built the career, carried the responsibilities, earned the praise, and still finds herself quietly wondering: Who am I if I’m not the one doing all of this? You are not having a crisis. You may be having a homecoming. In this episode, you’ll learn:  Why the role that once fit can start to feel too small  How conditioning keeps high-achieving women tied to outdated identities  What research says about acting your way into a new identity  How “possible selves” can help you understand the pull toward something new  A simple four-step practice called Try-On Days  Why the next version of you does not require blowing up your life Reflection prompt: Complete this sentence:  I might be the woman who… Then choose one small try-on this week. Not a life overhaul. Just one honest experiment. Share this episode with a woman who is not falling apart, but may be coming back to herself.

    18 min
  4. The Reliable One Is Tired

    May 21

    The Reliable One Is Tired

    Send us Fan Mail The reliable one is tired. She remembers the appointments, tracks the deadlines, manages the emotional temperature of the room, and somehow knows when the upstairs bathroom needs more toilet paper. She is capable, trusted, praised, and quietly exhausted. In this episode of Over This Should, Pamela Meadows unpacks the hidden cost of being the dependable one everyone counts on. From the competence trap to invisible labor, emotional over-functioning, and the quiet resentment that builds when your reliability becomes your identity, this episode is for the high-achieving woman who looks fine but feels far away from herself. This is not about becoming unreliable. It is about becoming reliably honest with yourself. If you have ever thought, “I just need to get through this week,” for three years straight, this one is for you.

    22 min

  5. May 14

    The Tampon, the Boardroom & the Practice That Changed My Career

    Send us Fan Mail There are moments in life where your brain becomes fully convinced your career is over. Not because you failed. Not because you weren’t prepared. But because you had one deeply human moment in front of other people. In this episode of Over This Should, Pamela shares the hilarious and horrifying story of accidentally pulling a tampon out of her work bag during a leadership meeting… and the powerful realization that came from it years later: Self-leadership is not about being perfectly polished. It’s about not abandoning yourself when discomfort shows up. This episode dives into: Why ambitious women are conditioned to equate perfection with credibilityThe neuroscience behind embarrassment, self-criticism, and nervous system threat responsesWhy beating yourself up actually makes you less effective under pressureThe “3-Second Stay” practice for handling awkward, emotional, or uncomfortable moments in real timeHow to build true confidence by staying with yourself instead of spiralingIf you’ve ever replayed a meeting in your head for three business days… convinced everyone noticed the one thing you did wrong… this episode is for you. You are not disqualified by your humanity. You are connected through it. Come hang out with Pamela on Instagram and LinkedIn @thepamelameadows and share your own “tampon story.” Because we’ve all got one.

    12 min

  6. May 7

    The Runaway Yes: Why Women Say Yes When We Want to Say No

    Send us Fan Mail How many times have you said “yes” before you even checked your calendar… your energy… or your actual desire to do the thing? In this episode of Over This Should, Pamela dives into the hidden conditioning behind people-pleasing, overcommitting, and being “the reliable one.” From the nervous-system response that makes women automatically say yes, to the research showing most people already expect rejection when they ask for favors, this episode will completely change the way you think about boundaries. You’ll learn:  Why saying yes has become an automatic survival response for so many women  The psychological research behind requests, guilt, and obligation  The real emotional and physical cost of chronic overcommitment  Pamela’s “24-Hour Yes” framework to stop agreeing out of pressure and start choosing intentionally  Simple scripts for saying no without guilt spirals or overexplaining If you’ve ever hung up the phone already regretting what you agreed to… this one is for you. Because the goal isn’t becoming someone who says no to everything. It’s becoming someone who says yes on purpose.

    12 min

  7. Mar 6

    I Should Feel Confident By Now: The Real Root of Imposter Syndrome

    Send us Fan Mail Have you ever looked around a room and thought: “Everyone here knows what they’re doing… except me.” Even though you’re qualified.  Even though you’ve earned your seat.  Even though people trust your leadership. That quiet voice saying “they’re going to find out” has a name: imposter syndrome. And if you’ve felt it, you are far from alone. Research suggests up to 70% of high-achieving professionals experience imposter feelings at some point in their careers. In this solo episode of Over This Should, Pamela breaks down the deeper truth behind imposter syndrome and why it shows up most often in capable, ambitious women. This conversation goes beyond surface-level advice. Pamela walks through a Five Whys analysis to uncover the real root cause of imposter syndrome and how it’s often tied to belonging, achievement conditioning, and the pressure to perform. You’ll learn: • Why imposter syndrome is most common among high performers • The hidden connection between achievement and belonging • How “gold star conditioning” follows women into leadership roles • The subtle ways imposter syndrome affects visibility, negotiation, and decision making • Five practical shifts to rebuild self-trust and leadership confidence If you’ve ever thought: “I should feel more confident by now.” This episode is for you. Because confidence isn’t a prerequisite for leadership.  Self-trust is. 🎧 Listen in and start dismantling the “should” that keeps so many brilliant women playing smaller than they deserve.

    10 min

  8. Feb 27

    The Invisible Moment You Started Abandoning Yourself

    Send us Fan Mail There is a moment most high-achieving women can’t name. It doesn’t look dramatic.  It doesn’t look reckless.  It looks responsible. In this episode, Pamela explores the subtle, invisible pattern that quietly erodes confidence, fuels resentment, and leaves capable women feeling exhausted while still appearing wildly competent. We’re talking about self-abandonment. Not quitting your job.  Not blowing up your life.  But the micro-moments where you override your own needs to preserve peace, prove value, or avoid being “too much.” Inside this conversation, you’ll learn: • The research behind self-silencing and why women internalize stress  • How over-consenting disguises itself as leadership  • Why adaptability is both your superpower and your risk  • The early conditioning that trains high performers to disappear  • A simple awareness shift that rebuilds self-trust If you’ve ever said:  “I’m fine.”  “I can handle it.”  “It’s easier if I just do it.” …this episode will feel uncomfortably familiar in the best way. This is not about becoming someone new. It’s about noticing the moment you left yourself — and choosing differently. Welcome back to Over This Should.

    7 min
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Welcome to Over This Should, the podcast where we ditch societal expectations, challenge the "shoulds" holding women back, and embrace life on your own terms. Hosted by Pamela Meadows, this empowering series features inspiring conversations, expert insights, and practical strategies to help you set boundaries, boost confidence, and live authentically. Designed for women ready to step into their power, Over This Should covers topics like self-love, emotional intelligence, navigating relationships, and achieving personal and professional growth. Whether you’re redefining success, balancing life’s demands, or seeking inspiration, this podcast provides the tools and support you need to create a fulfilling, unapologetic life. Join us every week for uplifting stories, actionable advice, and thought-provoking interviews that empower you to live boldly and authentically. Let’s redefine what it means to thrive—together!

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  • Creator
    Pamela Meadows
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    51
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Over This Should
  • Show Website
    Over This Should