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Kristie Janel

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  1. 03/23/2024

    Test Pilot Episode #22 “I Had To Throw My Own College Graduation Party” - A Healing Moment”

    At my 1st generation college party when I graduated the 1st time, I gave out plaques to family members for supporting me down through the years in one way or another, limited resources and all. I think I was thanking them for there “presence” in my life no matter how small or great. Being that I came from a “single parent” household and their were many “financial struggles” after my parents divorce when I was 11 years old. So, that was always a factor in everything. The other factor is that my parents were not able to come together to do certain things after the divorce. At the graduation party, I gave my dad a ThankYou plaque and he shook my hand and said, “ThankYou I should be giving you a plaque Kristie for graduating from college.” I made a “blank stare” and smiled. Deep down inside I felt a lump in my stomach because he was right. My family should have come together to throw me 1st generation college graduation party. They should have had a plaque, flowers, balloons and a great send off for me right? Did they not realize that I had just overcome a generational “thing?” My parents graduated high school. Mom completed some college. My grandfathers brother dropped out of primary school in the 3rd and 6th grade to help with sharecropping and picking cotton to help their families. My maternal grandmother got her G.E.D and my other grandmother was not able to finish high school I don’t believe. So my 1st college graduation party was the start of a legacy and a change in the trajectory of my family of origin and immediate family line. Well, in this podcast episode I discuss “throwing my own party” but I am just now realizing that I wanted to be “seen, heard and validated” by my own family first. My father is deceased now. He never came back and gave me a plaque for it but he did help me get back in school the 2nd time I transferred. My family didn’t exactly “understand” why I was going to college anyway. But hey at least they were “present” at my graduation ceremony and my party that I had to organize. Now this is about my college graduation. Let me make it clear that my maternal grandfather DID help keep a roof over our heads and food on the table for many years. So by the time we got to my 1st college graduation he and my grandmother had already done enough really! So, it was really up to my parents at that point to come together and throw a graduation party for me or any of their children. It may not have happened the way I “envisioned” but I still graduated! My family was there and that was what I could hope for at that time. But to reframe, I’m going to acknowledge that moment in time by doing something nice for myself. I will get a plaque or certificate for myself. And I will have my “You Go Girl” moment and move on. It’s all about healing and reframing those “broken pieces” and making them whole. I’m not mad at my family that I had to throw my own college graduation party. I just feel a sense of “relief” that I finally acknowledged that they should have stepped up and gave me a plaque too. That’s all. It’s over now. Can’t wait to create my certificate! What a relief to get that out. I hope this podcast gave you some insight on your journey. Please hug your family and tell them you love them anyway. Some of us may get “overlooked” at times even in our own families but God will always “count us in.” Be blessed.

  2. 07/16/2023

    Test Pilot Episode #17 “The Importance Of Accountability”

    Test Pilot Episode #17 “The Importance Of Accountability “- This episode is about the benefits of having accountability in your life. It’s like an example I gave in this conversation about a person who was going to a party and knew that they didn’t need to have more than “two drinks.” So they asked an accountable “buddy” to remind them after 2 drinks to drink water or a non-alcoholic beverage. The goal was “not to over drink” be safe and get back home alive. So having the accountable support helped to meet that goal. There are so many ways to have “accountable voices” in your life whether it’s through mentoring programs, a teacher, a pastor, best friend, relative, a podcast, a book, article or source of information or whatever is deemed an accountable source. It’s that “thing” that serves as a “checks and balances” system in your life to help you make the right decisions or even better decisions for yourself. Accountability could look like your “higher power.” Mine is God. The Bible or inspirational content could be another example of a source of accountability. You holding yourself accountable is a source of accountability! Wanting better for yourself is what influences you to surround yourself with accountable people. It starts there. To find out why having this level of accountability is good…well listen to the entire episode to find out! The question is: Why Accountability Important?

  3. 06/25/2023

    Test Pilot Episode 16 - My “Facebook” Crossroads

    Test Pilot Episode 16 - My “Facebook” Crossroads I’m trying to think of ways to stay connected on Facebook so I’m trying out some new things. I have been making some adjustments. Honestly, I thought about leaving Facebook all together. I don’t “like” the “high school” “competitive” nature of Facebook. I feel that it is “numbers” and “popularity” based driving people to do “insane” and “fake” things to get noticed. That is not what I am here for. I use Facebook as a portfolio, to blog, share content, share my creative talents and spread some type of inspiration to the people that follow me. I also have experienced “trolls” and “haters” in this same space. So I will continue to pray about it and ask God to lead me with what to do. I have met some wonderful people in this virtual community. Literally there are people on here (all 5k) from all over the country and all over the world. Some, I remember from the very beginning in 2009 when journey started on Facebook. I don’t just look at “numbers” on FB. Numbers mean nothing if it’s trash and low value in nature. I’m inspired by positive content and controversial content at times truthfully. Transformational content is what inspires me the most. Being on social media comes with rewards and risks. I want to be more intentional about acknowledging genuine support on my page from time to time. I am also at a cross roads. There are some people from my past I don’t want to be on this “personal” page anymore. I do have a music page @kristiesingsmusic and a public page @kristiejanel for the general public as other options. Some people are “spies” for my ex husband or some individuals who are associated with him who do not have my best interest, caused division during my divorce and some stole money from me. I have no interest in being connected to those individuals. I do not have any type of association with them whatsoever, including my ex husband. They are only interested in being “aggravating” like they haven’t already done enough. I don’t need to waste a whole paragraph on individuals who don’t like me either. They don’t deserve it. I will continue to pray for them and keep it moving. I will continue to ask God to help me with my forgiveness walk. 🙏🏽😊 Anyway, I’m interested in staying connected to genuine people who want to see me WIN just like I like to see other people WIN. So as I continue to “evaluate” my internet “presence” please be in prayer for me. I pray that you will experience divine transformation in every area of your life. I have a unique “community” here. There are people on my page from all walks of life and industries. People who met me as a married woman are used to seeing “ Superwoman” Kristie. They really don’t know what to do with the “Solitude” “Single” Kristie. I’m figuring life out. That’s my process right now. I reached a humble place going through a divorce and aftermath. Going through “court” processes for a total of 7 years has been exhausting to say the least. So please pardon me or be patient with me (perhaps) as my “rebuilding” “restoration” process continues. I thank God for this grace and mercy. My desire is to walk in his purpose for my life. I am NOT perfect by any means. Sharing my testimony is important to me. It includes my successes, mistakes, highs, lows, bad and good experiences. It makes me human like you. And I want to hear your stories! I hope my journey inspires others to want to transform their lives even if it is in a small way. That’s my prayer. In this season I want to be connected to the right people with the right intentions. If I did decide to leave, I would redirect my following to join me on another platform. If I’m going to be on here I am going to be more intentional in some areas. WHATEVER I decide to do, I will evaluate a little closer moving forward and make adjustments accordingly. Thankyou to those who have shown support. I appreciate it. God bless you. Thankyou. Kristie Janel LinkTree: Kristie Janel Social

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