Below The Circle

Dr. Phyllis Hayes-Reams

Are you tired of circling on autopilot? Below the Circle with Dr. Phyllis is the podcast for women ready to stop circling and start landing. You've been flying for years. Maybe decades. Hands gripped on the controls. Autopilot engaged. Circling the same patterns, the same way of doing life — over and over again. You're the high-achieving professional who never drops a ball. The ministry leader who pours out but never refuels. The mom running on fumes. The strong friend who holds everything together so seamlessly that no one thinks to ask if you're okay. You call it resilience. You call it strength. You call it love. But somewhere underneath all of it — underneath the doing and the fixing and the holding — there's a whisper you've been trying to ignore: "This isn't working anymore." Your plate is full. Your soul is empty. You're not broken. You're not weak. You've just been flying so high for so long that you've been flying right over your own life. And everything you've been searching for — your joy, your peace, your identity, your dreams, your purpose — has been below the circle the entire time. Below the Circle with Dr. Phyllis is the landing plan for the woman who is ready to come down. Dr. Phyllis is a Life Landing Coach, physician, author, and ordained minister. She spent years circling — gripping the controls, chasing shiny objects, running on autopilot, performing strength while running on fumes. She landed. And the ground held. Now she's on the ground — guiding women in. Not above you. Not in the cockpit with you. On the ground — already landed, already stable — talking you through the descent, signaling you in, and making sure everything is ready for you when you arrive. Through The Below the Circle Landing Plan, a transformative coaching methodology, she guides you through: ✈️ The Circling — naming where you are and what autopilot has cost you 🔔 The Recognition — hearing God's voice and accepting that change is needed 💡 The Decision — surrendering control and trusting what you can't see 🛬 The Approach — gaining clarity and aligning with where God is guiding you 💧 The Release — pouring out the emotional weight you've been carrying 🤍 The Grace — giving yourself compassion through the process 👣 The Landing — touching ground and coming home to yourself 🏠 The Arrival — adjusting to stillness and showing up daily ⛽ The Groundwork — refueling with presence, purpose, and joy Because life is a series of landings and takeoffs. And every woman deserves a landing plan. Each episode is a ground crew talk — bold, permission-giving, poetic, real, and warm. Whether it's a solo conversation, a guest story, or a guided reflection, every episode is designed to help you disengage autopilot and reclaim your life. God is in the tower. He cleared you to land. Dr. Phyllis is on the ground — guiding you in. This is for the woman who is done circling. Who is ready — even if ready feels more like terrified. Who is brave enough to begin the descent. You've circled long enough. And you don't have to land alone. Full plate. Empty soul. It's not too late to land. Stop circling. Start landing.

  1. 5d ago

    143. What Grief Have You Been Carrying That’s Been Disguised as Strength?

    What grief have you been carrying that you’ve been calling strength? You’ve been busy, capable, dependable, and strong for so long that no one may have noticed how heavy it has become. Maybe even you forgot to ask what pain has been hiding underneath every yes, every role, every title, and every “I’m fine.” In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares a tender story of disappointment, loss, and the moment she realized she was not simply being strong. She was grieving. Through Psalm 23 and 1 Peter 5:7, she invites you to stop performing strength, bring your grief into the light, and ask God for the next step, not the whole plan. You are allowed to set it down. This week’s reflection: What grief have I been carrying that I’ve been calling strength? 1 Peter 5:7 “Cast all your care upon him; for he careth for you.” Psalm 23:4 “Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me…” In this episode / links: • The grief hidden inside strength • A personal leadership wound Dr. Phyllis rarely shared • Why busyness, caregiving, and resilience can hide pain • The Landing Lounge waitlist: thebelowthecircle.com If something in you went quiet and true while you listened today, you don’t have to do this next part alone. The Landing Lounge is a sanctuary for women who are ready to stop performing and come home to themselves. It opens its doors later this year. Tell the tower you’re coming in — reserve your seat at thebelowthecircle.com. When the doors open, you’ll be among the first ones in. New episodes every week. Listen wherever you get your podcasts. Below the Circle™ with Dr. Phyllis Hayes-Reams Stop circling. Start landing. It’s not too late to land — whole, aligned, free.

    32 min
  2. Jun 3

    142. If You Stripped Away Every Role You Play, Who Is the Woman Underneath?

    Who are you when you take off every name tag you wear? You’ve been so many things to so many people for so long, the woman underneath has gotten quiet. You can’t remember the last time someone asked who you were — not what you do, not who you take care of, not what role you fill — but who you ARE. In this episode, Dr. Phyllis sits with you at a threshold she’s stood at herself. She tells you the story of the chair in her living room — the moment everything stripped away — and the verse from Luke that gave it language. This isn’t an episode you listen to in the background. You are allowed to wonder who she is. This week’s reflection: Who are you when no one needs anything from you — when every name tag is set down? Luke 15:17 “And when he came to himself…” In this episode / links: • Your Clearance to Land — a private welcome video from Dr. Phyllis: thebelowthecircle.com • The Landing Lounge waitlist: thebelowthecircle.com If something in you went quiet and true while you listened today, you don’t have to do this next part alone. The Landing Lounge is a sanctuary for women who are ready to stop performing and come home to themselves. It opens its doors later this year. Tell the tower you’re coming in — reserve your seat at thebelowthecircle.com. When the doors open, you’ll be among the first ones in. New episodes every week. Listen wherever you get your podcasts. Below the Circle™ with Dr. Phyllis Hayes-Reams Stop circling. Start landing. It’s not too late to land — whole, aligned, free.

    25 min
  3. May 6

    138. Why Does the Thought of Slowing Down Feel More Terrifying Than Burnout?

    Why does slowing down feel more terrifying than the burnout already wearing you down? In this heartfelt episode of Below the Circle, Dr. Phyllis speaks to the woman who keeps pushing, serving, leading, and holding everything together while quietly feeling empty inside. She names five fears that keep women stuck on autopilot, including the fear of losing identity, being replaced, appearing weak, letting everything fall apart, and not knowing how to slow down. Through her own story of burnout, loss, and learning to land, Dr. Phyllis reminds listeners that true resilience is not absorbing everything. It is knowing when to pause, breathe, and reconnect with God, yourself, and the life waiting below the circle. Episode highlights: (0:00) Opening reflection on resilience and burnout (1:45) Why slowing down feels so scary (3:07) Welcome to Below the Circle (4:23) Fear of losing your identity (5:21) Fear of being replaced (6:11) Redefining true resilience (7:46) Fear that everything will fall apart (8:53) Not knowing how to slow down (11:01) Dr. Phyllis shares her personal turning point (13:18) Lessons from her mother’s passing (19:23) Slowing down helps you live with clarity (21:13) Jeremiah 29:11 and trusting God’s plan (23:06) A simple pause question for the week (24:18) Preview of the next episode Connect with Dr. Phyllis: http://drphyllishayesreams.com/ https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/ https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams

    25 min
  4. Apr 22

    136. Do You Even Remember Who You Were Before The World Starting Placing Orders

    What if the woman everyone depends on is not the real you? In this heartfelt episode, Dr. Phyllis speaks to women who have spent years being strong, dependable, and needed, yet feel disconnected from themselves. She explains how constant performance can become a place of safety, while slowly burying your true desires, joy, and identity. Through honest reflection, a personal story, and the truth of Jeremiah 1:5, she reminds listeners that who they are was never meant to be built on what they do. This episode offers a gentle but powerful call to slow down, get still, and begin asking one simple question: What do I actually want right now? Real change begins there, in small moments of honesty, courage, and care. Episode highlights: (0:00) Performance as a safety net (2:32) Simple questions that reveal lost identity (6:26) How women become roles instead of people (9:40) Dr. Phyllis shares her own wake-up moment (15:28) Jeremiah 1:5 and identity before performance (20:36) Small choices that help you reconnect with yourself (24:24) Why this feels uncomfortable (27:53) This week’s practice (29:54) Grief over losing yourself (32:14) Why it is not too late (35:29) Picture your younger self (40:13) Next week’s question about busyness and avoidance Connect with Dr. Phyllis: http://drphyllishayesreams.com/ https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/ https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams

    44 min

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Are you tired of circling on autopilot? Below the Circle with Dr. Phyllis is the podcast for women ready to stop circling and start landing. You've been flying for years. Maybe decades. Hands gripped on the controls. Autopilot engaged. Circling the same patterns, the same way of doing life — over and over again. You're the high-achieving professional who never drops a ball. The ministry leader who pours out but never refuels. The mom running on fumes. The strong friend who holds everything together so seamlessly that no one thinks to ask if you're okay. You call it resilience. You call it strength. You call it love. But somewhere underneath all of it — underneath the doing and the fixing and the holding — there's a whisper you've been trying to ignore: "This isn't working anymore." Your plate is full. Your soul is empty. You're not broken. You're not weak. You've just been flying so high for so long that you've been flying right over your own life. And everything you've been searching for — your joy, your peace, your identity, your dreams, your purpose — has been below the circle the entire time. Below the Circle with Dr. Phyllis is the landing plan for the woman who is ready to come down. Dr. Phyllis is a Life Landing Coach, physician, author, and ordained minister. She spent years circling — gripping the controls, chasing shiny objects, running on autopilot, performing strength while running on fumes. She landed. And the ground held. Now she's on the ground — guiding women in. Not above you. Not in the cockpit with you. On the ground — already landed, already stable — talking you through the descent, signaling you in, and making sure everything is ready for you when you arrive. Through The Below the Circle Landing Plan, a transformative coaching methodology, she guides you through: ✈️ The Circling — naming where you are and what autopilot has cost you 🔔 The Recognition — hearing God's voice and accepting that change is needed 💡 The Decision — surrendering control and trusting what you can't see 🛬 The Approach — gaining clarity and aligning with where God is guiding you 💧 The Release — pouring out the emotional weight you've been carrying 🤍 The Grace — giving yourself compassion through the process 👣 The Landing — touching ground and coming home to yourself 🏠 The Arrival — adjusting to stillness and showing up daily ⛽ The Groundwork — refueling with presence, purpose, and joy Because life is a series of landings and takeoffs. And every woman deserves a landing plan. Each episode is a ground crew talk — bold, permission-giving, poetic, real, and warm. Whether it's a solo conversation, a guest story, or a guided reflection, every episode is designed to help you disengage autopilot and reclaim your life. God is in the tower. He cleared you to land. Dr. Phyllis is on the ground — guiding you in. This is for the woman who is done circling. Who is ready — even if ready feels more like terrified. Who is brave enough to begin the descent. You've circled long enough. And you don't have to land alone. Full plate. Empty soul. It's not too late to land. Stop circling. Start landing.