Self-Represented in Family Court

Tracey Bee, Pro Se Family Court Strategist
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We discuss how to use strategy in Family Court to get the results you want. A family law professional with twenty years of experience in the field will share with you what really matters in Family Court.   Whether you are going through divorce or custody, if you are representing yourself you need to know the tactics that will end the torment you have been enduring up until this point.  We will share tips, tricks, techniques, and everything else that your lawyer will never divulge. If you have been getting disappointment from lawyers, the judge, or the overall process, tune in to get help on plotting your next move. Visit www.thedivorcesolutionist.com to download the FREE "Are You Pro Se Material" e-guide & workbook.  Listen to each episode for free worksheets, tip sheets and much more.  Sign up to receive our newsletter for discounts, specials, upcoming workshops and updates to our services. Services we offer:     ->1-2-1 Monthly Consultation package     ->Trial Preparation & Evidence Organization Services     ->Unbundled Services: Uncontested Divorce, Document Prep, Document   Review, Legal Research,  Background Search, Judge Lookup, Attorney Screen/Vet     ->Mediation Service      ->Process Servers*Follow me on social media @TheDivorceSolutionist or @FamilyCourtStrategist

  1. 3D AGO

    Choosing Peace in Family Court: When Settling Your Case is the RIGHT Move | Season 3 Episode 13

    862.800.7850 Settling your case can feel like the fastest path to having the peace you once enjoyed. Less stress. Less conflict. Less time in court. And sometimes… settling is absolutely the right move. But settling just to end the stress without understanding what you're giving up can create new problems later down the road. In this episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, Tracey Bee discusses one of the most important decisions you’ll make in your Family Court case: when to give up or when to give in…how to settle with no regrets. Because settling for peace doesn’t always lead to peace. If you're considering settlement, or feeling pressure to settle, this episode will help you evaluate your options and make informed decisions that align with your long-term goals. Timestamps: 00:00 Settling With Eyes Open 01:14 What Settling Means 01:22 Peaceful Settlement Blueprint 03:10 Mediation And Informed Tradeoffs 05:38 When Peace Is A Trap 06:22 Scenario One Mediation Pressure 10:00 Scenario Two Hearing Without Discovery 13:35 Scenario Three Settling At Trial 18:48 No Winners Just Informed Choices 20:00 Wrap Up And Next Steps Next Step: ✅ Take the Diagnostic Assessment (recommended if you want clarity on what’s weakening your case positioning) 👉🏼 https://attractwell.com/TheDivorceSolutionist/page/strategic-case-diagnostic-assessment ✅ Book a 1-Hour Strategy Session 👉🏼 https://attractwell.com/TheDivorceSolutionist/store/products/one-hour-strategy-session-via-zoom ✅ Subscribe / Follow the podcast 👉🏼 https://open.spotify.com/show/4XLm4xy7cUfl4XDY06YDsU?si=3df261187b624c1a&nd=1&dlsi=789c9c8b30484539 Support the show Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field. Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own? We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes. To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.

    23 min

  2. MAR 25

    Financial Abuse Gets WORSE During Divorce: Here's What Works in Court | Season 3 Episode 12

    862.800.7850 In this episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, Tracey Bee goes deep on one of the most misunderstood and frustrating dynamics in divorce: Financial abuse. And the same patterns from the marriage begin to play out inside the divorce process,  making it more expensive, more stressful, and more difficult to navigate. But here’s where most people go wrong: They expect the court to step in and stop it or fix it.Family Court doesn’t operate that way.  It doesn’t intervene simply because financial abuse is alleged or even exists. It responds to claims that can align with a “relevant”  issue that is before it, not mere accusations of “irrelevant” abuse. In this episode, Tracey walks through how to strategically position financial abuse in a way that the court can actually act on. Timestamps: 00:00 - Financial Abuse Escalates 01:02 - Red Flags With Money 02:57 - Pressure To Settle Fast 03:35 - When Support Stops 04:18 - Should You Tell Court 04:47 - How Judges Handle It 05:58 - Frame It As Claims 07:03 - Temporary Spousal Support 08:33 - Exclusive Home Occupancy 11:00 - Child Support Deviations 15:00 - Property Division Leverage 17:57 - Trial And Strategy Tips 20:01 - Free Workshop Invitation  22:00 - Wrap Up And Next Steps What You’ll Learn ✅ Why financial abuse often escalates during divorce not disappears. ✅ The most common financial red flags to watch for. ✅ Why Family Court won’t act just because abuse is happening. ✅ The difference between telling your story vs. making a legal claim. ✅ How to position financial abuse for spousal support and housing requests. ✅ When financial behavior can impact child support and property division. Next Step: ✅ Take the Diagnostic Assessment (recommended if you want clarity on what’s weakening your case positioning) 👉🏼 https://attractwell.com/TheDivorceSolutionist/page/strategic-case-diagnostic-assessment ✅ Book a 1-Hour Strategy Session 👉🏼 https://attractwell.com/TheDivorceSolutionist/store/products/one-hour-strategy-session-via-zoom ✅ Subscribe / Follow the podcast 👉🏼 https://open.spotify.com/show/4XLm4xy7cUfl4XDY06YDsU?si=3df261187b624c1a&nd=1&dlsi=789c9c8b30484539 Support the show Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field. Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own? We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes. To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.

    24 min
  3. The House Mistake Family Courts See Every Day | Season 3 Episode 11

    MAR 18

    The House Mistake Family Courts See Every Day | Season 3 Episode 11

    862.800.7850 Can You Keep the House? | Family Court Strategy In this episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, Tracey Bee addresses one of the most emotionally motivated (and often misunderstood) questions in divorce and custody cases: “Can I keep the house?” In this episode, Tracey walks through the strategic considerations behind keeping the marital home, including why wanting the house and being able to afford it are two very different things. If you’re trying to decide whether to keep, sell, or negotiate around the marital home, this episode will help you approach that decision with clarity and strategy not emotion. Timestamps: 00:00 – Do You Actually Want the House? 02:07 – Why Fighting for the House Can Backfire 02:42 – The Risk of Relying on Support Payments 04:01 – Why Judges Don’t Care About Memories 04:20 – How Courts Decide Who Gets the House 08:27 – The Role of Equity in the House 09:19 – What It Really Means to Buy Out Your Spouse 12:12 – Does Keeping the House Help Your Custody Argument? 14:00 – Conditions Courts Place on Keeping the House 15:19 – Real Case: Losing the House After Winning It 17:19 – Why Negotiating Without Strategy Backfires 19:14 – Using the House as a Negotiation Tool 20:16 – The Right Question to Ask Instead What You’ll Learn ✅ Why “Do I want the house?” is the wrong first question, and what to ask instead; The difference between emotional motivation and strategic decision-making; ✅ How judges evaluate who gets the house (and why memories don’t carry weight); ✅ The financial risks of keeping the house without a long-term plan; Key Takeaways Keeping the house is not always the win people think it is.Courts prioritize fairness and financial reality not emotional attachment.The better question is: “What outcome puts me in the strongest long-term position?”Next Step  ✅ Take the Diagnostic Assessment here (recommended if you want clarity on what’s weakening your positioning/presentation) 👉🏼https://attractwell.com/TheDivorceSolutionist/page/strategic-case-diagnostic-assessment  ✅ Book a 1-Hour Strategy Session 👉🏼https://attractwell.com/TheDivorceSolutionist/store/products/one-hour-strategy-session-via-zoom  ✅ Subscribe / Follow the podcast 👉🏼https://open.spotify.com/show/4XLm4xy7cUfl4XDY06YDsU?si=3df261187b624c1a&nd=1&dlsi=789c9c8b30484539 Support the show Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field. Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own? We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes. To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.

    24 min

  4. MAR 11

    Can Bad Timing RUIN Your Family Court Case? | Season 3 Episode 10

    862.800.7850 In this episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, Tracey Bee dives into one of the most overlooked elements of family court strategy: timing. Most litigants focus on what to file, what evidence to present, or what arguments to make. But the truth is, when you make your move can be just as important as what move you make. Timing influences leverage. If you’ve ever wondered whether you should file now, wait, or push harder at a different stage of your case, this episode will help you understand how timing fits into a broader family court strategy Next Step ✅ Take the Diagnostic Assessment (Recommended if you want clarity on what’s weakening your positioning or presentation) 👉🏼 https://attractwell.com/TheDivorceSolutionist/page/strategic-case-diagnostic-assessment ✅ Book a 1-Hour Strategy Session 👉🏼 https://attractwell.com/TheDivorceSolutionist/store/products/one-hour-strategy-session-via-zoom ✅ Subscribe / Follow the Podcast 👉🏼 https://open.spotify.com/show/4XLm4xy7cUfl4XDY06YDsU Support the show Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field. Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own? We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes. To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.

    25 min

  5. FEB 25

    Family Court NIGHTMARES! How Judges LABEL Litigants | Season 3 Episode 8

    862.800.7850 In this episode of “Self-Represented in Family Court,” Tracey Bee breaks down a reality most litigants don’t realize until it’s too late: Family Court is overloaded, overworked and overwhelmed…no matter where the court is. Judges just don’t have the time to give the necessary attention to every case so they have to employ “systems” to help them.  Judges often tend to classify or label litigants as a way to help them process their case efficiently. They rely on patterns, behaviors, tone, and presentation to do this. And once that classification happens, it influences how your case moves, how your documents are viewed, how much attention  you’re given and ultimately, how your outcome unfolds. This is a practical episode focused on helping you understand how perception shapes credibility, and how your courtroom positioning may be working for you or against you. If you’re self-represented and feel like nothing is landing the way it should, this episode will help you identify why. ⏱ Timestamps 00:00 – Have You Been Labeled? 02:30 – Why Judges Classify Litigants 06:15 – The Common Categories Explained 15:40 – How Classification Affects Outcomes 25:00 – Can You Change Your Label? 33:10 – Strategy vs. Emotion in Court 40:00 – When to Seek Strategic Support What You’ll Learn ✅ Why judges classify litigants in the first place; ✅ The most common (unspoken) courtroom categories; ✅ How labeling affects credibility, discretion, and procedural flexibility; ✅ Why two litigants with the same facts can get different outcomes; ✅ The subtle behaviors that accidentally place you in the wrong category; ✅ Whether and how you can shift your classification moving forward. Key Takeaways 🟢 Court is a system, and systems rely on shortcuts. Classification is one of them. 🟢 Credibility isn’t just about truth, it’s about perception. 🟢 Emotional reactivity, overexplaining, and urgency can backfire. 🟢 Strategy is not just evidence. It’s presentation, positioning, and self-regulation. 🟢 The way you show up in court may be as important as what you file. If you suspect the court has misclassified you, and it’s affecting your case, it may be time to address that strategically. Next Step 👉🏼 Take the Diagnostic Assessment here (recommended if you want clarity on what’s weakening your positioning/presentation) https://attractwell.com/TheDivorceSolutionist/page/strategic-case-diagnostic-assessment 👉🏼 Book a 1-Hour Strategy Session https://attractwell.com/TheDivorceSolutionist/store/products/one-hour-strategy-session-via-zoom 👉🏼 Subscri Support the show Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field. Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own? We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes. To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.

    31 min

  6. FEB 11

    Season 3. Episode 9 You Might be Ready, But You're NOT Prepared

    862.800.7850 You are not prepared for Family Court. You might be ready, but you are NOT prepared, at least most of you aren’t. You might have gathered all the proof you can, gotten familiar with the laws, might have even hired the best lawyer for the job. But NONE of these things actually prepare you the way you need to be prepared for the bewildering experience of Family Court. Well, It's time to change that because you don’t have another month of the duress, or more mental capacity for the stress or extra money to waste on getting nothing done.   In this episode, we delve into the nuances of maneuvering through the maze of family court. Whether you have legal representation or are braving the battlefield pro se, you'll uncover the vital importance of strategy in every court appearance and filing. This episode peels back the curtain on the strategy needed to navigate the family court system effectively. From understanding court biases to preparing for the unpredictable, I share insight into the discipline of plotting your legal course with precision and deliberation. It's not just about knowing the law; it's about mastering the chessboard of the courtroom. Timestamp overview: 00:00 Have specific and strategic goals in court. 06:24 Evident strategy critical for legal success. Assess life. 10:14 Prioritize current circumstances, motives, and strategies. 12:57 Determining the real motives and strategizing. 15:31 Strategic thinking involves gathering and analyzing information. 18:57 Anticipate actions, prepare ahead of time. 23:34 Focus on meaningful questions, avoid unnecessary details. 26:46 Speak purposefully, judges appreciate it more. Cut unnecessary talk. 31:37 Prepare for different outcomes, always have backup. 32:08 Plan, prioritize, and focus on child's best interest. 35:53 Insight into other party's motives at different stages. As you start to pay more attention to the "subtleties" or the "subs" you will come to see what you have been ignoring all along. This episode will equip you with the skillset to shift from a passive participant to a formidable strategist. If you're in way too deep to give up now but need help to figure out exactly what's going wrong, feel free to take the FREE Diagnostic Assessement. This Assessment will help you identify the gaps causing you the most "bleeding" so that you can cut it off at the root.  Use this link to start right now.  Don't miss out on next week's episode, as we continue the conversation on strategy in family court, where every move counts Support the show Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field. Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own? We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes. To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.

    38 min

  7. FEB 4

    Your Case is Losing Traction & You Have No Idea Why | Season 3 Episode 7

    862.800.7850 In this episode of “Self-Represented in Family Court”, Tracey Bee breaks down a common (and frustrating) reality: your case can lose traction even when you have “strong evidence.” Why? Because in Family Court, outcomes often hinge less on how much you have, and more on how you position and present your case, how you manage timing, and whether your narrative matches what the court can actually act on. This is a practical episode focused on helping you stop guessing, stop reacting emotionally, and start approaching your next move with strategy. What You’ll Learn Why “more evidence” isn’t automatically persuasive (and when it can backfire);The difference between evidence and admissible, relevant evidence in proper format;Why “fairness” is not the standard family court is built around;How lawyers (and others) can unintentionally derail you by telling you what you want to hear;The 3 traction drivers: accountability, timing, and narrative;Why nothing in Family Court is isolated, and why your decisions must reflect the bigger picture;What to watch for: patterns, motives, agendas, and external factors impacting key players. Key Takeaways Surface isn’t the system. What you think is happening may not be what’s actually driving the decision.“Entitled to” doesn’t mean “you’ll get it.” The law and real-world outcomes aren’t the same thing.Fairness isn’t the framework. Family court is about rules, procedure, discretion, and what’s actionable.Your case doesn’t move on volume. It moves on relevance, clarity, format, and strategy. Next Step ✅ Take the Diagnostic Assessment here (recommended if you want clarity on what’s weakening your positioning/presentation) ✅ Book a 1-Hour Strategy Session Here ✅ Subscribe / Follow the podcast Here Support the show Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field. Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own? We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes. To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.

    24 min

  8. 12/10/2025 ·  BONUS

    Season Break

    862.800.7850 This time of year I usually take a break to decompress.  So right now I am working on clearing my mind while at the same time gearing up for 2026. I am still working though so if you need to schedule a strategy session, need help preparing for court or want me to assist with trial preparation, feel free to reach out to me at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com. Happy Holidays Take care, Support the show Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field. Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own? We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes. To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.

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We discuss how to use strategy in Family Court to get the results you want. A family law professional with twenty years of experience in the field will share with you what really matters in Family Court.   Whether you are going through divorce or custody, if you are representing yourself you need to know the tactics that will end the torment you have been enduring up until this point.  We will share tips, tricks, techniques, and everything else that your lawyer will never divulge. If you have been getting disappointment from lawyers, the judge, or the overall process, tune in to get help on plotting your next move. Visit www.thedivorcesolutionist.com to download the FREE "Are You Pro Se Material" e-guide & workbook.  Listen to each episode for free worksheets, tip sheets and much more.  Sign up to receive our newsletter for discounts, specials, upcoming workshops and updates to our services. Services we offer:     ->1-2-1 Monthly Consultation package     ->Trial Preparation & Evidence Organization Services     ->Unbundled Services: Uncontested Divorce, Document Prep, Document   Review, Legal Research,  Background Search, Judge Lookup, Attorney Screen/Vet     ->Mediation Service      ->Process Servers*Follow me on social media @TheDivorceSolutionist or @FamilyCourtStrategist

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  • Creator
    Tracey Bee, Pro Se Family Court Strategist
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    57
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 Self-Represented in Family Court
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