Motherhood Unscripted

Jenna Chandonnet

Motherhood isn’t hard because of your toddler… it’s hard because everything feels like an emergency. If you’ve ever felt like you’re one meltdown away from losing it snapping, yelling, and then spiraling in guilt after… this podcast is for you. I’m Jenna Chandonnet, a nervous system coach for overwhelmed moms, and I help you go from constantly triggered and on edge to calm, grounded, and in control of yourself in the moments that matter most. This isn’t about being a “perfect” mom. And it’s definitely not about more parenting hacks. It’s about understanding what’s actually happening in your body when your child is melting down… and learning how to stay steady inside of it. Because real calm doesn’t come from getting your toddler to listen.. it comes from having the capacity to handle the moment without it taking you over. Inside this podcast, we’ll talk about: • Why you keep getting triggered (and it’s not what you think) • How to stop yelling without forcing yourself to “stay calm” • Nervous system regulation in real-life motherhood moments • Breaking the trigger → react → guilt cycle • Becoming the calm, grounded mom you want to be—without losing yourself If you’re ready to stop feeling like motherhood is overwhelming and start actually feeling good inside your life… you’re in the right place. 🎁 Start here: Grab my free 3-step reset to ground yourself in the moment (before the yelling, shutdown, or guilt spiral kicks in): 👉 https://www.consciousmotherhoodcreations.com/untriggered-pdf Or DM me UNTRIGGERED on Instagram @jennachandonnet 💬 Want deeper support? If you’re ready to actually become the calm, grounded version of you (not just try to act like her)… Apply for 1:1 coaching: 👉 https://www.consciousmotherhoodcreations.com/application-1-1

Episodes

  1. Apr 17

    Why the “Jessica” Toddler Hack Backfires (and what actually works)

    In this episode, we’re breaking down the viral “Jessica” toddler tantrum hack—and why it might actually be keeping you stuck in the cycle of overwhelm, reactivity, and guilt. If you’ve ever felt like you’re one meltdown away from losing it, this episode will completely shift how you see tantrums. Inside, you’ll learn: ​ Why ending tantrums quickly isn’t the goal​ What’s actually happening in your body during a meltdown​ The two things your job really is during a tantrum​ Why most parenting advice doesn’t work in the moment​ How to become a grounded, regulating presence for your child This isn’t about being calm all the time. It’s about having the capacity to come back to calm when it matters most. 🎁 Want something you can use in the moment? If you’re in the middle of a meltdown and feel like you’re about to snap… I created a free 3-step reset you can use in real time to ground yourself and stop the spiral before it turns into yelling or shutdown. 👉 Grab it here: https://www.consciousmotherhoodcreations.com/untriggered-pdf Or DM me UNTRIGGERED on Instagram (@jennachandonnet) and I’ll send it to you. 💬 Ready for deeper support? If you’re done living in the cycle of trigger → react → guilt… and you want to actually feel calm, grounded, and in control in those hard moments— that’s the work we do inside Set Mother Free. 👉 Apply here https://www.consciousmotherhoodcreations.com/application-1-1 Or DM me SET MOTHER FREE on Instagram and we’ll talk about what this could look like for you.

  2. 09/09/2024

    Why Holding On Tighter Was Making Me More Triggered as a Mom

    There was a time when I believed something that so many moms are silently holding onto: “I need more time away from my kids in order to be calm.” And I clung to that belief hard. In this episode, I’m sharing a moment from early motherhood—when my daughter asked me to stay for chapel… and I felt myself getting angry. Not because of her. But because I believed I was losing something I needed to survive motherhood. That moment showed me something deeper: It wasn’t about the time. It was about the way my nervous system felt inside motherhood itself. Because when your body is stuck in survival mode… everything starts to feel like too much. Even the moments you wish you could enjoy. In this episode, we talk about: • Why “me time” isn’t actually solving the root problem • The hidden belief that keeps moms stuck in the trigger → guilt → overwhelm cycle • What surrender actually looks like (without losing yourself) • Why holding on tighter to control makes motherhood feel heavier • The shift that helped me feel calmer inside my life—not just away from it The truth most moms aren’t told: You don’t need to escape motherhood to feel better. You need to feel safe inside it. 🎧 If you’re tired of: Feeling like you’re constantly “on” Getting triggered over things you wish didn’t bother you Needing breaks just to survive the day Snapping… then spiraling into guilt after This episode will hit. 🔗 NEXT STEPS 💛 Start here (free): If you want a simple way to stop the spiral in the moment— grab my free 3-step reset: Untriggered: Mothering Without Losing Your Sh*t → This shows you how to catch yourself before it turns into yelling, shutdown, or guilt (even when your kid is melting down and your body feels like it’s about to explode) Grab it here: https://www.consciousmotherhoodcreations.com/untriggered-pdf ⚡ Want something deeper? If you’re ready for calm that actually sticks in your day-to-day life: Motherhood Without Overwhelm → My $55 course that gives you the exact process to go from “one more thing and I’m going to lose it” to grounded, calm, and in control again Grab it here: https://www.consciousmotherhoodcreations.com/motherhood-without-overwhelm 🤍 Ready to break the pattern for good? If you’re done living in the cycle of: trigger → react → guilt → repeat and you want real support inside your real life… Apply for 1:1 coaching: Set Mother Free → This is where we shift your nervous system, your patterns, and your identity so calm doesn’t disappear the moment things get hard Apply here: https://www.consciousmotherhoodcreations.com/application-1-1 You don’t need more time away from your life to feel better. You get to feel better inside it. If this episode resonated, share it with a mom who needs to hear this 🤍

  3. 08/06/2024

    The Real Reason Your Child Struggles at School Drop-Off (It’s Not What You Think)

    If you’ve ever sat in the car after drop-off… trying not to cry… wondering if you’re doing something wrong.. this episode is for you. Because I’ve been there. For two years of preschool, drop-offs were HARD. Tears. Clinging. Questioning if school was even the right choice. And I tried everything: The books The routines The “Kissing Hand” Little comfort objects All the advice you’re told to follow …and nothing actually worked. Until something shifted. And here’s what I didn’t realize at the time: It wasn’t about finding the perfect strategy for my daughter. It was about what was happening inside of me. In this episode, we talk about: ​ Why most separation anxiety advice doesn’t actually solve the problem​ The subtle ways your child feels your internal state (even when you’re “doing everything right”)​ The shift I made that changed our drop-offs completely​ Why forcing confidence, routines, or quick goodbyes can backfire​ How to support your child’s emotions without making drop-off harder The truth most moms aren’t told: Your child’s separation anxiety isn’t something you need to fix. It’s something they need help feeling safe through. And that starts with you. 🎧 If you’re currently dealing with: Clingy, tearful drop-offs Feeling guilty leaving your child Trying all the “tips” but nothing is sticking Wondering if school is the right choice You’re not alone—and you’re not doing it wrong. 🔗 NEXT STEPS 💛 Start here (free): If drop-offs trigger you just as much as your child… grab my free guide: Untriggered: Mothering Without Losing Your Sh*t → This will help you stay grounded in those high-emotion moments so you’re not spiraling in the car after drop-off Grab it here: https://www.consciousmotherhoodcreations.com/untriggered-pdf 🎒 Want tear-free drop-offs? If you’re ready for your child to walk into school feeling safe, confident, and connected— without bribes, rushing, or forcing it: Tear-Free Drop-Offs Course → This teaches you how to support your child’s emotions and create ease at separation so you can both leave feeling okay Grab it here: https://www.consciousmotherhoodcreations.com/tear-free-drop-offs 🤍 Ready to go deeper? If drop-offs are just one piece of a bigger pattern (trigger → react → guilt → repeat) Apply for 1:1 coaching: Set Mother Free → This is where we shift the root patterns so you can feel calm, grounded, and steady even in the hardest moments of motherhood You don’t need to force your child to be okay. You get to become the safe place they feel—even when you’re not there. Apply here: https://www.consciousmotherhoodcreations.com/application-1-1 If this episode resonated, send it to a mom who’s in the thick of school drop-offs right now 🤍

  4. 08/06/2024

    How to Repair With Your Child After You Yell (Without Shame or Overcompensating)

    If you’ve ever snapped at your child… raised your voice… or walked away thinking: “Why did I react like that… again?” This episode is for you. Because here’s what most moms get wrong: They think the goal is to never mess up. To stay calm all the time. To never yell. To always respond perfectly. But that’s not real. What actually shapes your relationship with your child… is what happens after the hard moment. In this episode, we’re diving into something that most parenting advice barely touches: repair. Because underneath everything you want for your child— their happiness, confidence, resilience— what you really want… is a deep, connected relationship with them. And repair is what builds that. In this episode, we talk about: • Why yelling doesn’t ruin your child (even though it feels like it does) • The biggest mistake moms make after they react • What repair actually looks like (and what it’s not) • How to reconnect without over-apologizing, over-explaining, or spiraling in guilt • Why repair builds more trust than “perfect parenting” ever could The truth most moms aren’t told: It’s not the moment you lose it that defines your motherhood. It’s how you come back. 🎧 If you’re stuck in: Trigger → react → guilt → repeat Overthinking everything you said after a hard moment Wondering if you’re messing your child up You’re not alone—and you’re not behind. 🔗 NEXT STEPS 💛 Start here (free): If you want to catch yourself before it turns into yelling… grab my free guide: Untriggered: Mothering Without Losing Your Sh*t → This gives you a simple 3-step reset to stop the spiral in real time so repair becomes something you do less often—and more intentionally https://www.consciousmotherhoodcreations.com/untriggered-pdf ⚡ Want to feel more in control in the moment? If you’re tired of reacting first and regretting it after: Motherhood Without Overwhelm → My $55 course that helps you go from “one more thing and I’m going to lose it” to calm, grounded, and steady—even in hard moments https://www.consciousmotherhoodcreations.com/motherhood-without-overwhelm 🤍 Ready to break the cycle for good? If you’re done living in the loop of: yelling → guilt → over-apologizing → doing it again Apply for 1:1 coaching: Set Mother Free → This is where we shift the root patterns so you can feel calm in your body and deeply connected to your child without needing to be perfect You don’t need to become a perfect mom to have a deeply connected child. You just need to know how to come back. Apply here: https://www.consciousmotherhoodcreations.com/application-1-1 If this episode resonated, share it with a mom who needs this reminder today 🤍

  5. 07/30/2024

    Your Child Isn’t the Problem: The Real Root of Power Struggles

    If you feel like you’re constantly going back and forth with your child… “Just put your shoes on.” “No.” “I said put your shoes on.” “No!!” …and suddenly you’re both escalating— this episode is for you. Because here’s what most moms are told about power struggles: Your child is being difficult. They’re testing you. They’re trying to control the situation. So you try to: Be more firm Hold the boundary harder Stay in control …and somehow it just gets worse. Here’s the truth: Power struggles aren’t actually about your child. And they’re not about control. They’re about what’s happening inside of you. In this episode, we’re shifting the lens completely because when you see your child as “difficult” or “defiant”… you show up one way. But when you understand what’s really going on underneath… everything changes. In this episode, we talk about: • The real root of power struggles (and why it’s not your child) • How the belief “my child is doing this on purpose” fuels escalation • What’s actually happening in your body during those moments • Why doubling down creates more resistance (not cooperation) • The perspective shift that dissolves power struggles before they explode The truth most moms aren’t told: Your child isn’t trying to control you. They’re responding to the energy and state they feel from you. And when your body is in “survival mode”… everything becomes a fight. 🎧 If you’re stuck in: Constant back-and-forth with your child Escalating situations over small things Feeling like you have to win or be listened to Ending the day in guilt after power struggles You’re not doing it wrong. You’re just missing the piece no one taught you. 🔗 NEXT STEPS 💛 Start here (free): If power struggles turn into yelling faster than you can catch it— grab my free guide: Untriggered: Mothering Without Losing Your Sh*t → This gives you a simple 3-step reset to interrupt the reaction so you can stay grounded instead of escalating Grab it here: https://www.consciousmotherhoodcreations.com/untriggered-pdf ⚡ Want fewer power struggles overall? If you’re tired of everything turning into a battle: Motherhood Without Overwhelm → My $55 course that helps you shift out of “survival mode” so you don’t feel the need to control—and things stop escalating Grab it here: https://www.consciousmotherhoodcreations.com/motherhood-without-overwhelm 🤍 Ready to break the pattern for good? If power struggles, yelling, and guilt feel like a daily cycle— Apply for 1:1 coaching: Set Mother Free → This is where we shift the root patterns so you can feel calm, grounded, and connected without needing to fight for control You don’t need to win the battle with your child. You need to feel safe enough to step out of it. Apply here: https://www.consciousmotherhoodcreations.com/application-1-1 If this episode resonated, send it to a mom who’s tired of the constant back-and-forth 🤍

  6. 02/28/2024

    The Moment I Realized I Needed a Different Way to Do Motherhood

    Welcome to Motherhood Unscripted. This is the space where we talk about the real side of motherhood— the good, the hard, the triggering, the beautiful, and everything in between that no one prepares you for. In this first episode, I’m sharing my story. Not the polished version. Not the “everything worked out perfectly” version. The real one. Because like so many of us… I thought I was following the path that would lead to happiness. Go to school. Build a life. Do everything “right.” And then motherhood came… and it didn’t feel the way I thought it would. There were moments of love, yes. But also: Overwhelm Disconnection Triggers I didn’t understand Feeling like I was losing myself And I remember thinking: “Why does this feel so much harder than everyone says it should?” That question is what led me here. To finding a different way to do motherhood— one that doesn’t rely on perfection, pressure, or pretending everything is okay. In this episode, I share: • My personal journey into motherhood (the parts we don’t usually talk about) • The moment I realized something needed to change • Why the “perfect life” formula didn’t create the feeling I expected • The beginning of my shift into a more grounded, connected way of mothering • Why there is always another way—even when it doesn’t feel like it If you’ve ever felt: Like motherhood is harder than it “should” be Disconnected from yourself Triggered by things you wish didn’t affect you Like you’re trying your best but still questioning yourself You’re not alone. And you’re not broken. 🔗 NEXT STEPS 💛 Start here (free): If you’re in the thick of it right now— feeling overwhelmed, reactive, or like you’re one moment away from snapping— grab my free guide: Untriggered: Mothering Without Losing Your Sh*t → This gives you a simple way to reset in the moment so you can feel more in control, even on hard days Grab it here: https://www.consciousmotherhoodcreations.com/untriggered-pdf ⚡ Want support shifting out of overwhelm? If you’re ready to feel calmer inside your day-to-day life: Motherhood Without Overwhelm → My $55 course to help you stop living in survival mode and start feeling grounded, present, and like yourself again Grab it here: https://www.consciousmotherhoodcreations.com/motherhood-without-overwhelm And I’m so glad you’re here 🤍 🤍 Ready for deeper transformation? If you’re done trying to “hold it together” and want real change— Apply for 1:1 coaching: Set Mother Free → This is where we shift the patterns underneath everything so motherhood can actually feel the way you hoped it would Apply here: https://www.consciousmotherhoodcreations.com/application-1-1 This podcast is your reminder: You don’t have to keep doing motherhood the way you’ve been taught. There is another way. And I’m so glad you’re here 🤍

About

Motherhood isn’t hard because of your toddler… it’s hard because everything feels like an emergency. If you’ve ever felt like you’re one meltdown away from losing it snapping, yelling, and then spiraling in guilt after… this podcast is for you. I’m Jenna Chandonnet, a nervous system coach for overwhelmed moms, and I help you go from constantly triggered and on edge to calm, grounded, and in control of yourself in the moments that matter most. This isn’t about being a “perfect” mom. And it’s definitely not about more parenting hacks. It’s about understanding what’s actually happening in your body when your child is melting down… and learning how to stay steady inside of it. Because real calm doesn’t come from getting your toddler to listen.. it comes from having the capacity to handle the moment without it taking you over. Inside this podcast, we’ll talk about: • Why you keep getting triggered (and it’s not what you think) • How to stop yelling without forcing yourself to “stay calm” • Nervous system regulation in real-life motherhood moments • Breaking the trigger → react → guilt cycle • Becoming the calm, grounded mom you want to be—without losing yourself If you’re ready to stop feeling like motherhood is overwhelming and start actually feeling good inside your life… you’re in the right place. 🎁 Start here: Grab my free 3-step reset to ground yourself in the moment (before the yelling, shutdown, or guilt spiral kicks in): 👉 https://www.consciousmotherhoodcreations.com/untriggered-pdf Or DM me UNTRIGGERED on Instagram @jennachandonnet 💬 Want deeper support? If you’re ready to actually become the calm, grounded version of you (not just try to act like her)… Apply for 1:1 coaching: 👉 https://www.consciousmotherhoodcreations.com/application-1-1