We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling

Darcy Sterling
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For more than 25 years, Dr. Darcy Sterling has been helping people conquer their toughest relationship challenges. She is a New York City-based licensed therapist, the host of E! Network’s Famously Single, the former Global Ambassador to Tinder, and now she brings her no-nonsense advice to her new podcast, We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling. We Need To Talk is a dating and relationship podcast that will inspire and empower you with the tools and skills you need to love better so you can live better.

  1. 6h ago

    Why Blaming Your Partner Keeps You Stuck

    In relationships, you may be right about what they did — and still be stuck in a pattern that keeps repeating. They lied. They shut down. They disappeared. They betrayed you. And it still may not be the whole story. In this episode of We Need To Talk, Dr. Darcy Sterling is joined by New York Times bestselling author Gary John Bishop for a conversation about blame, personal responsibility, repeated relationship patterns, and the difference between owning your part and taking the blame for someone else’s behavior. Together, they get into: • Why being right about the injury does not always move you forward • How blame can become the thing your life is organized around • Why personal responsibility is not self-blame • How the stories you rehearse can shape how you move through the world • What happens when relationships turn into scorekeeping Your pain may be real. Their behavior may be real. And blame may still be deciding what happens next. Listen to the full episode now. REFERENCES/RESOURCES Monmouth Plastic Surgery ⁠www.alternativescounseling.com⁠ Now What?: You, Your Life, and the Truth You’ve Been Avoiding CREDITS “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Robyn Jaenchen.    ⁠DISCLAIMER⁠ ⁠Instagram:@drdarcysterling ⁠ ⁠Facebook:Dr.Darcy Sterling⁠ ⁠Tik Tok:@doctordarcysterling  ⁠ X⁠:@DrDarcySterling   ⁠ ⁠YouTube:@DarcySterling   ⁠ ⁠Threads:@drdarcysterling⁠ ⁠Watch this episode here on YouTube. ⁠

  2. Jul 7

    Why You Can’t Relax in a Healthy Relationship — And How to Start Trusting It

    Healthy relationships can feel strangely unsettling when your body is used to love coming with tension. You said you wanted calm. Consistency. Kindness. Someone who doesn’t make you chase, prove, repair, or fight your way back to okay. So why does it feel like something is missing? In this episode of We Need To Talk, Dr. Darcy Sterling breaks down what can happen when healthier love starts to feel boring, suspicious, or emotionally flat — especially if your nervous system learned to associate love with uncertainty, intensity, withdrawal, or conflict. You’ll hear about: • Why calm can feel like distance • Why kindness can make you look for the catch • Why consistency can feel underwhelming • Why not obsessing can make you question the relationship • Why peace can feel like absence when tension used to be the baseline Because before you decide the relationship is wrong, you may need to ask what your body learned to call love. Listen to the full episode now. REFERENCES/RESOURCES ⁠www.alternativescounseling.com⁠ CREDITS “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Robyn Jaenchen.    ⁠DISCLAIMER⁠ ⁠Instagram:@drdarcysterling ⁠ ⁠Facebook:Dr.Darcy Sterling⁠ ⁠Tik Tok:@doctordarcysterling  ⁠ X⁠:@DrDarcySterling   ⁠ ⁠YouTube:@DarcySterling   ⁠ ⁠Threads:@drdarcysterling⁠ ⁠Watch this episode here on YouTube. ⁠

  3. Jun 30

    How to Read People at Every Stage of a Relationship — From an FBI Hostage Negotiator

    If your relationships keep getting shaped by charm, mixed signals, or conversations that leave you second-guessing yourself, this episode is for you. You like them. You feel the chemistry. And you still do not know if you can trust them. We’re bringing this conversation back for the holiday week because it is one of the clearest episodes we’ve done on trust, communication, and what people show you before you are ready to see it. In this episode, Dr. Darcy Sterling is joined by former FBI hostage negotiator Chris Voss for a conversation about trust, dating, emotional safety, conflict styles, yellow flags, and how to read people more clearly before you get attached. You may hear yourself in this episode if: • You keep giving charming people the benefit of the doubt • You miss yellow flags because the person seems emotionally available • Hard conversations in your relationship turn into shutdown, bulldozing, or silence • You want to get better at spotting character before chemistry takes over Because the thing you ignore early does not usually stay small. Listen to How to Read People at Every Stage of a Relationship — From an FBI Hostage Negotiator and follow We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling for more conversations on relationships, dating, trust, and emotional patterns. REFERENCES/RESOURCES www.alternativescounseling.com Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It―Unlock Your Persuasion Potential in Professional and Personal Life CREDITS “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Robyn Jaenchen.    DISCLAIMER Instagram:@drdarcysterling  Facebook:Dr.Darcy Sterling Tik Tok:@doctordarcysterling   X:@DrDarcySterling    YouTube:@DarcySterling    Threads:@drdarcysterling Watch this episode here on YouTube.

  4. Jun 23

    Why You Keep Self-Sabotaging — Even When You Know Better

    If issues in your relationships keep pulling you away from the choices you know are better for you, this episode is for you. You know what it costs. You know you will regret it. And somehow, you still do it again. In this episode, Dr. Darcy Sterling is joined by Dr. Rachel Goldman for a conversation about self-sabotage, behavior change, self-trust, people-pleasing, boundaries, avoidance, and why insight alone is rarely enough to interrupt a pattern. You may hear yourself in this episode if: • You keep breaking promises you made to yourself• You know the behavior is not working, but still cannot stop in the moment • Being nice, flexible, or “easy” keeps costing you more than you admit • The hardest part is not just the behavior — it is what it does to your self-trust after Because the part of you that keeps winning may be solving something you still do not know how to solve differently. Listen to Why You Keep Self-Sabotaging — Even When You Know Better and follow We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling for more conversations on relationships, behavior change, and emotional patterns. REFERENCES/RESOURCES ⁠www.alternativescounseling.com⁠ www.drrachelnyc.com When Life Happens: The Mindset Shift You Need to Manage Stress, Build Confidence, and Break Free.  CREDITS “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Robyn Jaenchen.    ⁠DISCLAIMER⁠ ⁠Instagram:@drdarcysterling ⁠ ⁠Facebook:Dr.Darcy Sterling⁠ ⁠Tik Tok:@doctordarcysterling  ⁠ X⁠:@DrDarcySterling   ⁠ ⁠YouTube:@DarcySterling   ⁠ ⁠Threads:@drdarcysterling⁠ ⁠Watch this episode here on YouTube. ⁠

  5. Jun 16

    Why You Can’t Move On From Your Ex — And The Fix

    If your relationships have ever left you replaying a breakup, searching for one more answer, this episode is for you. The person is gone. But your mind is still building the case. Still replaying the evidence. Still trying to understand what happened. In this episode, Dr. Darcy Sterling breaks down why some breakups are so hard to move on from, why closure can become a trap, and why heartbreak is often about more than just losing the person. This episode explores breakup grief, rumination, closure, emotional attachment, relationship loss, and the version of your future that may have disappeared with them. You may hear yourself in this episode if: • You keep replaying the breakup like there is still something to solve • You want one more conversation so they finally say the thing you need to hear • You are not just grieving your ex — you are grieving the life you thought you were building • Closure still feels like the one thing standing between you and relief Because the thing you are still trying to get backmay not be the person alone. Listen to the full episode now. REFERENCES/RESOURCES ⁠www.alternativescounseling.com⁠ CREDITS “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Robyn Jaenchen.    ⁠DISCLAIMER⁠ ⁠Instagram:@drdarcysterling ⁠ ⁠Facebook:Dr.Darcy Sterling⁠ ⁠Tik Tok:@doctordarcysterling  ⁠ X⁠:@DrDarcySterling   ⁠ ⁠YouTube:@DarcySterling   ⁠ ⁠Threads:@drdarcysterling⁠ ⁠Watch this episode here on YouTube. ⁠

  6. Jun 9

    Why You Can’t Stop Overthinking About Your Relationship — and How to Finally Stop

    If overthinking in your relationships keeps turning small moments into big alarms, this episode is for you. A delayed text. A short answer. A shift in energy. And suddenly, your mind is off and running. If this is you: • You read into tone, pauses, and changes in energy fast • A delayed text can change your whole mood • You keep trying to get clarity, but end up feeling worse • What starts as doubt can turn into a full spiral In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Dan Siegel to talk about why your mind can start treating uncertainty like danger — and what helps you stop getting pulled into the loop. Because once overthinking starts feeling like information, it gets hard to know what you are actually responding to. REFERENCES/RESOURCES www.alternativescounseling.comwww.drdansiegel.com CREDITS “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Robyn Jaenchen.    DISCLAIMER Instagram:@drdarcysterling  Facebook:Dr.Darcy Sterling Tik Tok:@doctordarcysterling   X:@DrDarcySterling    YouTube:@DarcySterling    Threads:@drdarcysterling Watch this episode here on YouTube.

  7. Jun 2

    What You Risk When You Admit Your Fantasy to Your Partner

    If telling your partner the truth about a fantasy could change how they see you, this episode is for you. A fantasy. A pause. A look on their face. And suddenly, the moment is bigger than what you said. If this is you: • You start softening, editing, or managing the truth before you even say it • Your partner’s silence feels almost impossible to sit in • You worry sexual honesty could expose more than desire • You do not know when disclosure is intimacy and when it starts feeling dangerous In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife to talk about what sexual honesty can expose in a relationship. Because the moment you tell the truth is often the moment you find out what the relationship can hold. REFERENCES/RESOURCES www.alternativescounseling.com That We Might Have Joy: Desire, Divinity & Intimate Love CREDITS “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Robyn Jaenchen.    DISCLAIMER Instagram:@drdarcysterling  Facebook:Dr.Darcy Sterling Tik Tok:@doctordarcysterling   X:@DrDarcySterling    YouTube:@DarcySterling    Threads:@drdarcysterling Watch this episode here on YouTube.

  8. May 27

    Why Being Emotionally Mature Isn’t Fixing Your Relationship

    If you’re the one who stays calm, reflects, communicates carefully, and keeps trying to get it right — but still feels lonely, resentful, or exhausted in the relationship — this episode will probably feel uncomfortably familiar. Because sometimes the problem is not that you are handling the relationship poorly. It is that you have gotten so good at handling it that nothing is forcing the relationship to change. At some point, it stops being about how you say it…and starts being about what the relationship can actually hold. REFERENCES/RESOURCES www.alternativescounseling.com CREDITS “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Robyn Jaenchen.    DISCLAIMER Instagram:@drdarcysterling  Facebook:Dr.Darcy Sterling Tik Tok:@doctordarcysterling   X:@DrDarcySterling    YouTube:@DarcySterling    Threads:@drdarcysterling Watch this episode here on YouTube.

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For more than 25 years, Dr. Darcy Sterling has been helping people conquer their toughest relationship challenges. She is a New York City-based licensed therapist, the host of E! Network’s Famously Single, the former Global Ambassador to Tinder, and now she brings her no-nonsense advice to her new podcast, We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling. We Need To Talk is a dating and relationship podcast that will inspire and empower you with the tools and skills you need to love better so you can live better.

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