When Life Swings - Swing Back! Resilience Podcast with Phylecia Kellar (formerly ballin and bipolar)

Phylecia Kellar
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Hi there! If you want to feel better, get better, listen to some real talk on self development, focus on your goals, routines, your past, your relationships and falling in love with being alive - you are in the right place! If you've been with me through the start of this podcast, it used to be called "ballin and bipolar"  We have no rebranded to a more resilience podcast but that's really what it's always been - so my bipolar community, do not worry! Nothing is changing but the name.  This is a podcast where we talk about success, stories, mental health, self development and ALL the opposites! I focus on daily success strategies, belief systems, gratitude, goals and who YOU want to be.This is about taking ownership of your life in MANY different facets.If you want strategies on how to succeed, you want to stop playing the victim and take full control (over what we can control) in your life, this is the podcast for you.I want you to refocus your energy on your best next step.Ask these questions: Who do I want to be?What do I want to bring to the table that is my life?What is the current trauma or issue I need to get through in order to find that person?What is my BEST next step?We talk about healing, trauma, challenges of life, conflict and SO MUCH more!In a world of having problems, let’s be solution focused. If you are searching for a real talk podcast with some language, this is your spot.Remember - when life swings - SWING BACK!Can't wait for you to listen!*** Disclaimer: If you are listening and are struggling with mental health - I am not a doctor, prescribing meds, diagnosing, or treating Bipolar. I am sharing my experiences with you. *** You should ALWAYS seek licensed medical and professional help from doctors and psychiatrists.Book: NOT ONLY FOR THOSE WHO ARE BIPOLAR! https://www.ballinandbipolar.com/book Free resources: https://www.ballinandbipolar.com/free-resources JOIN MY FACEBOOK GROUP! https://www.facebook.com/groups/640860604773878

  1. 2d ago

    E133 - THE DAY I ALMOST LET SADNESS WIN - BUT I DID THIS INSTEAD

    This episode is about something we all experience but don’t talk about enough: The moments where life hits emotionally… and you want to completely shut down. After Memorial Day, I found myself sad.  Not dramatic, not spiraling — just deeply sad. A mix of disappointment, loneliness, guilt, frustration, comparison, and realizing some things in life still hurt more than I want them to. And for a moment, I wanted to cancel everything.  Lay in bed.  Eat all day.  Avoid life.  Wallow.  Feed the sadness. But deep down, I knew something important: If I fed it, I’d still be sad days later. So instead of canceling my life, I just trudged forward. I took my calls.  Went to my appointments.  Spent time with people who fill my cup instead of draining it.  Let myself vent. Let myself feel it.  But I didn’t stay there. And by the end of the next day… the cloud had already started to lift. This episode is about:  letting yourself feel sadness without becoming consumed by it  why isolation and wallowing make things worse  the danger of feeding depression and self-pity  and how small actions — sunlight, movement, connection, routine — can slowly bring you back to yourself Because it’s okay to be sad. Just don’t build a home there. Take the walk. Answer the call.  Go see your friends.  Put one foot in front of the other. The clouds do pass. ------------------------------------------- MY BOOK! www.ballinandbipolar.com/book Link for my FREE resources! 👇  www.ballinandbipolar.com/free-resources Follow me IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylecia_kellar/

    21 min

  2. Jun 3

    E132 - THE ARMY GUYS AND THE STORY I MADE UP IN MY HEAD

    I made up an entire story in my head about these guys at the gym. I assumed they were judging me.  Too cool for me.  Intimidating.  Probably thinking negative things about me. And the reality? They were kind. Encouraging. Human. And one simple interaction completely changed my day. This episode is really about assumption vs. reality — and how often our insecurities create stories that aren’t even true. Because when your self-worth is low, or your nervous system is anxious, you start projecting judgment onto people who may actually be rooting for you. You avoid conversations.  You hold back compliments.  You miss opportunities for connection because of stories you created in your own mind. In this episode, we talk about:  The assumptions we make about how people see us  How insecurity shapes social interactions  Why free compliments and small conversations matter more than we think  The power of human connection in a disconnected world  And how simply opening your mouth can completely change someone’s day — including your own Sometimes we’re starving for connection while simultaneously avoiding it. And sometimes the people we think are judging us…  are actually inspired by us. This conversation reminded me of something important: Most people are just humans trying to get through life too. And maybe life feels a little lighter when we stop assuming the worst about each other. ----- MY BOOK! www.ballinandbipolar.com/book Link for my FREE resources! 👇  www.ballinandbipolar.com/free-resources Follow me IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylecia_kellar/

    16 min

  3. May 27

    E131 - HOW CAN I ENJOY A RANDOM TUESDAY?? - FINDING JOY IN YOUR DAILY LIFE

    Somewhere along the way, we started believing life only counts when something big is happening. The vacation.  The promotion.  The weekend.  The relationship.  The breakthrough. And in the process, we stopped noticing our actual lives. This episode is about learning how to fall in love with an ordinary Tuesday. Because if you can enjoy a regular day — with nothing exciting on the calendar, no huge milestone, no big dopamine hit — you’ve genuinely figured something out that most people haven’t. Right now, so many people are exhausted, burnt out, overstimulated, and constantly chasing the next thing… while missing the life happening right in front of them. In this episode, we talk about:  Why hustle culture leaves people emotionally empty  How constantly “waiting for what’s next” steals your peace  Going back to basics when you feel burnt out  The importance of small routines, mindfulness, gratitude, and presence  And how to create tiny things to look forward to every single day Because joy doesn’t only exist in big moments.  Most of your life will be lived in the ordinary. A random Tuesday coffee.  Your kids laughing in the other room.  A walk outside.  A quiet night at home.  Your favorite song in the car. That is life. And maybe the most radical thing you can do in a world obsessed with more…  is learn to genuinely enjoy where you already are. ----- MY BOOK! www.ballinandbipolar.com/book Link for my FREE resources! 👇  www.ballinandbipolar.com/free-resources Follow me IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylecia_kellar/

    16 min

  4. May 20

    E130 - THE CONVERSATION I WAS SCARED TO HAVE BUT SO HAPPY I DID

    There are some conversations that sit in your chest for days, weeks… sometimes years. The ones you replay in your head.  The ones you avoid because you’re scared of conflict, rejection, misunderstanding, or making things worse. This episode is about one of those conversations for me. The conversation I was terrified to have with my sister — and why I almost didn’t have it at all. Because the truth is, avoidance feels safer in the moment.  You convince yourself it’s “keeping the peace,” when really, it’s keeping you stuck. But I’ve learned something important:  Courage isn’t the absence of fear.  It’s sending the text anyway.  Making the call anyway.  Sitting down anyway. In this episode, I talk about:  The anxiety leading up to hard conversations  Why we avoid saying what we really feel  The stories we create in our minds before conflict  What relationship repair actually requires  And the relief that can come after finally facing the hard thing Because sometimes the conversation you fear the most…  is the exact conversation that sets you free. And even if it doesn’t go perfectly, there’s power in knowing you showed up honestly. That’s resilience too. ------ MY BOOK! www.ballinandbipolar.com/book Link for my FREE resources! 👇  www.ballinandbipolar.com/free-resources Follow me IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylecia_kellar/

    19 min

  5. May 13

    E129: THREE LESSONS I'VE LEARNED THIS YEAR - BUT DIDN'T WANT TO

    If 2026 has taught me anything, it’s this: Life is not a sprint — it’s a marathon. And I don’t just mean that in a motivational way… I mean it in the way life forces you to slow down, recalibrate, and realize you can’t rush your way through everything. In this episode, I’m sharing three things this year has really shown me — not just things I’ve heard before, but things I’ve felt differently this time around. First — just because someone is good at one thing, doesn’t mean they’re good at everything.  And if you don’t understand that, you’ll misplace trust, expectations, and even respect. Second — life requires a different pace than we think.  You can’t sprint through healing, growth, relationships, or even success.  Trying to will burn you out. And third — something I’ve always known, but this year hit differently:  everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about. And when you really see that… it changes how you move, how you respond, and how you judge people. This episode isn’t surface-level.  It’s perspective. It’s lived experience. It’s slowing down enough to actually understand what life is trying to teach you. Because sometimes the lesson isn’t new —  you’re just finally ready to receive it. -------- MY BOOK! - A STORY ON RESILIENCE, NOT JUST FOR BIPOLAR PEOPLE! www.ballinandbipolar.com/book Link for my FREE resources! 👇  www.ballinandbipolar.com/free-resources Follow me IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylecia_kellar/

    15 min

  6. May 6

    E128: HAVING A POSITIVE OUTLOOK & ATTITUDE - DOES IT REALLY MATTER?

    I was listening to a group of older women talking the other day, and one of them said something that stopped me in my tracks: “Shit… I’m just getting older and can’t move like I used to — but it’s better than the alternative.” And just like that, perspective shifted. In a world that constantly tells us to fight aging, fix ourselves, and chase what’s next, this was a reminder to slow down and be present. To appreciate what is — not just what isn’t. This episode is about that mindset. It’s about:  Choosing gratitude over frustration  Practicing mindfulness in the season you’re in  Letting go of perfection and being present in your life  And finding positivity in the reality that simply being here is a gift Because when we take care of ourselves — mentally, physically, emotionally — we don’t just feel better.  We show up better for our kids, our relationships, and the people who rely on us. Getting older isn’t the problem.  Losing perspective is. And sometimes, the people who’ve lived the longest…  see it the clearest. ------------------- MY BOOK! www.ballinandbipolar.com/book Link for my FREE resources! 👇  www.ballinandbipolar.com/free-resources Follow me IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylecia_kellar/

    17 min

  7. Apr 29

    E127: IDEAS AND QUESTIONS ON SELF ESTEEM & CONFIDENCE (THE TIP OF THE ICEBERG)

    We talk a lot about confidence.  But almost no one is talking about self-worth — and they are not the same thing. This episode is just the beginning of a much bigger conversation I’ve been thinking about deeply — honestly, if I ever write a second book, it will be on this. Because the real questions are:  Where does self-esteem actually come from?  And how do we build real, lasting confidence? This is the tip of the iceberg — but it matters. Because the way you see yourself determines: what you toleratewhat you go afterhow you respond when life gets hardThis conversation is the starting point —  of understanding yourself, rebuilding your foundation, and learning how to show up differently. ----- MY BOOK! www.ballinandbipolar.com/book Link for my FREE resources! 👇  www.ballinandbipolar.com/free-resources Follow me IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylecia_kellar/

    16 min

  8. Apr 22

    E126: THE 'WHAT IF' RUNAWAY TRAIN & THE CHIMP

    You ever have one of those days where your brain just goes completely off the rails? The “what if” thoughts start stacking…  Worst-case scenarios take over…  And before you know it, you’ve mentally jumped off a cliff you were never even near. Yeah — me too. In this episode, I’m talking about what happens when your inner “chimp” takes over — a concept from The Chimp Paradox — and how quickly things can spiral if you don’t catch it. Because the truth is…  I lost my sh*t today.  My chimp snapped. But here’s what I’ve learned: You don’t fight the spiral with more chaos.  You don’t jump off the cliff.  You slow it down. You ask:  “What’s the next best thing I can do right now?” In this episode, we get into: The “what if” runaway train and how it hijacks your thinkingWhy your brain defaults to worst-case scenariosWhat it actually means to “control your chimp”How to interrupt emotional spirals in real timeAnd how to come back to center when you’ve already gone too farBecause resilience isn’t about never losing it —  it’s about recognizing it faster and choosing not to let it take you out. If life swings… and your mind starts spiraling…  this is how you don’t jump — and start swinging back. MY BOOK! www.ballinandbipolar.com/book Link for my FREE resources! 👇  www.ballinandbipolar.com/free-resources Follow me IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylecia_kellar/

    15 min
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Hi there! If you want to feel better, get better, listen to some real talk on self development, focus on your goals, routines, your past, your relationships and falling in love with being alive - you are in the right place! If you've been with me through the start of this podcast, it used to be called "ballin and bipolar"  We have no rebranded to a more resilience podcast but that's really what it's always been - so my bipolar community, do not worry! Nothing is changing but the name.  This is a podcast where we talk about success, stories, mental health, self development and ALL the opposites! I focus on daily success strategies, belief systems, gratitude, goals and who YOU want to be.This is about taking ownership of your life in MANY different facets.If you want strategies on how to succeed, you want to stop playing the victim and take full control (over what we can control) in your life, this is the podcast for you.I want you to refocus your energy on your best next step.Ask these questions: Who do I want to be?What do I want to bring to the table that is my life?What is the current trauma or issue I need to get through in order to find that person?What is my BEST next step?We talk about healing, trauma, challenges of life, conflict and SO MUCH more!In a world of having problems, let’s be solution focused. If you are searching for a real talk podcast with some language, this is your spot.Remember - when life swings - SWING BACK!Can't wait for you to listen!*** Disclaimer: If you are listening and are struggling with mental health - I am not a doctor, prescribing meds, diagnosing, or treating Bipolar. I am sharing my experiences with you. *** You should ALWAYS seek licensed medical and professional help from doctors and psychiatrists.Book: NOT ONLY FOR THOSE WHO ARE BIPOLAR! https://www.ballinandbipolar.com/book Free resources: https://www.ballinandbipolar.com/free-resources JOIN MY FACEBOOK GROUP! https://www.facebook.com/groups/640860604773878

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