BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

bethathealinggirl
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Listen up Girlies!! Healing isn’t just a (hot girl) walk in the park, it’s a damn journey. The BeThatHealingGirl Podcast is all about busting old school dating myths, breaking down our childhood traumas, unlearning our bad habits and healing your way to your DREAM LIFE! Let’s keep it real and begin to heal because honestly… eff that guy not texting you back, stop worrying about being liked, it’s time to let go of anxious attachment behaviors, start getting comfortable with being vulnerable and know your damn worth! So stop wishing you were her, join the journey and BE that healing girl.

  1. 3d ago

    What To Do Differently When Things Feel Distant in Your Relationship

    You know that feeling when your partner takes a little longer to text back, seems slightly less affectionate, or doesn't send the usual goodnight emoji and suddenly your brain is screaming SOMETHING IS WRONG?! 😭 Babe. I've BEEN there. In this episode, we're talking about what to do when your partner feels distant, why even perfectly normal space can feel like rejection when you have anxious attachment, and how our desperate attempts to feel closer can actually push connection further away. I'm sharing what dating my husband Craig taught me about navigating distance, why trying to keep every text conversation going isn't necessarily creating intimacy, and the difference between being proactive in your relationship and straight-up micromanaging it. 🙃 Because here's the thing: Zero distance isn't intimacy. And giving someone space isn't the same as playing hard to get. You don't need to pretend you don't care, ignore their texts, or become the world's chillest girlfriend. But you CAN learn to stop treating every little bit of distance like a five-alarm relationship emergency. Sometimes your relationship doesn't need fixing. It just needs a little room to BREATHE. 🫶🏽 💗 Ready to stop spiraling every time your relationship feels a little off? Learn more about Secure Love Lab: https://www.healinggirlgang.com/sll

  2. Oct 13

    When You Feel Like You’re “Too Much” in a Relationship

    Have you ever worried that you're just... TOO MUCH in your relationship? 😭 Too needy. Too sensitive. Too emotional. Too many questions. Too much reassurance. Meanwhile, you're a fully functioning, independent, successful woman in literally every other area of your life. MAKE IT MAKE SENSE. In this episode, we're talking about that awful feeling that your anxious attachment is going to push someone away, and what happens when you're so afraid of being "too much" that you start making yourself smaller. Because there's a difference between having needs, experiencing relationship anxiety, and letting your fear decide how you show up in love. And babe, you don't have to become the world's chillest, lowest-maintenance girlfriend to have a secure relationship. 🫶🏽 Not sure if it's your anxiety or something actually wrong in your relationship? I made you a 2-minute quiz to help you start figuring that out. Take it here: https://secure-love-quiz.vercel.app  ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

  3. Oct 6

    Does Your Anxiety Make You Think You’re Not a Priority?

    You rearrange your schedule. Keep your weekends open. Make sure there’s time to see them. And somehow you’re STILL sitting there thinking… why don’t I feel like a priority?! 😭 In this episode, we’re talking about what can actually be happening when you feel unimportant or unchosen in your relationship, even when your partner is kind, considerate, and showing up for you. Because sometimes the problem isn’t that they stopped prioritizing you. It’s that somewhere along the way, you stopped prioritizing yourself. I’m getting into why anxious attachment can make us completely merge with our relationships, the “cool chill girlfriend” trap, why knowing you self-abandon isn’t the same as knowing how to STOP doing it when the stakes feel high, and what my own relationship with Craig taught me about keeping your own damn life. Because secure attachment isn’t caring less about your relationship. It’s realizing you don’t have to abandon yourself to feel chosen by someone else. 🫶🏽 ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

  4. Sep 29

    The Easiest Way to Stop Needing Constant Reassurance

    You know when your partner has told you they love you, shown you they love you, and your anxious attachment is STILL like... okay but can you tell me again? 😭 In this episode, we’re talking about why you crave constant reassurance in your relationship and why trying to force yourself to “stop being needy” doesn’t actually solve what’s happening underneath. I’m breaking down why reassurance can start to feel like a caffeine tolerance, the difference between wanting reassurance and needing proof, and how learning to sit with discomfort and trust yourself can help you move toward secure attachment. Plus, I’m answering: “My partner says I ask for reassurance too much and it’s pushing them away. I know it’s a problem, but I can’t stop. What do I do?” Because secure attachment isn’t never wanting reassurance again. It’s being able to receive the love that’s already there without needing them to prove it to you 15 more times. 🫶🏽   ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ https://www.healinggirlgang.com/sll ✅ SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBE https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlsubscribe      JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY 💗Follow on Instagram: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlinsta 💖Follow on TikTok: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirltiktok WORK WITH CLARE ⭐️ VIP 1:1 Session https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlVIP

  5. Sep 22

    Why Your Overthinking isn’t Changing (no matter how hard you try)

    You’ve read the books. Saved the posts. You KNOW you have anxious attachment. So why are you still overthinking everything?! 😭 In this episode, we’re talking about the frustrating gap between knowing your patterns and actually changing them. Because being wildly self-aware doesn’t necessarily stop you from analyzing the text, replaying the conversation, or wondering if something is wrong. At some point, we have to stop becoming experts in why we spiral and start changing what happens when we do. If you’re a high-achieving, self-aware girlie who is very tired of knowing better and still doing the thing... hiiiii. This one’s for you. 🫶🏽 ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

  6. Sep 15

    What I Told Myself When My Anxious Attachment Was Triggered (that 100% helped)

    In this episode, I’m sharing the 3 things I learned to tell myself when my anxious attachment was triggered that helped me stop turning one tiny vibe shift into an entire relationship spiral. We’re talking about why you can’t out-logic your nervous system, why what feels hysteric can be historic, and the BIG one: urgency does not equal truth. I’m also answering a listener question about catching feelings during the talking stage and how to stop anxiety from rushing you into treating someone like a committed partner before you actually know them. Because the goal isn’t to never get triggered. It’s learning how to feel the trigger without letting it write the entire story. 🫶🏽 ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ https://www.healinggirlgang.com/sll ✅ SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBE https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlsubscribe      JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY 💗Follow on Instagram: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlinsta 💖Follow on TikTok: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirltiktok WORK WITH CLARE ⭐️ VIP 1:1 Session https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlVIP

  7. Sep 8

    When Their Silence Feels Like They've Stopped Caring

    You know that feeling when they haven't texted back and suddenly your brain is doing A Beautiful Mind level calculations trying to figure out what it means? 😭 They told you they have a busy day. They've consistently shown you they care. You KNOW logically that nothing is wrong. But your anxious attachment is like... okay but why are they being quiet??? In this episode of the Be That Healing Girl Podcast, we're talking about why your partner's silence can feel SO freaking unbearable when you have anxious attachment, and why a delayed text, a little distance, or them needing space can suddenly feel like proof that they're pulling away. Because the problem usually isn't actually the silence. It's what your internal system has learned to make the silence mean. For me, silence used to mean: You're alone. No one's coming. Figure it out yourself. And no amount of telling myself, “Craig is probably just busy” could make that feeling disappear. Inside this episode, we're getting into: ✨ Why your partner not texting back can trigger an anxious attachment spiral ✨ Why you can be wildly confident at work and completely unravel in your relationship ✨ The “girl math” we do with response times when we're looking for reassurance ✨ Why your brain starts hunting for evidence that they're pulling away ✨ How people pleasing and overfunctioning can become ways of trying to earn safety in love ✨ Why “just communicate” isn't always the answer ✨ Why reassurance can feel amazing... until they go quiet again ✨ The childhood experience that helped me understand why silence felt so threatening to me ✨ My motion-sensor-light analogy for understanding relationship anxiety ✨ What secure attachment actually looks like when your partner needs space I also answer a question from inside Secure Love Lab: “Every time they need space, I immediately assume they're pulling away for good. How do I know if it's real?” Because secure attachment doesn't mean your partner never goes quiet. It means their silence doesn't automatically become a story about your worth, their feelings, or the future of your relationship. And THAT is what we're working toward. If you're a high-achieving woman who can run the meeting, manage the team, make the diagnosis, close the deal... but one unanswered text has you wondering if the relationship is over, hiiiii babe. This one's for you. 😂 🎧 Subscribe to the Be That Healing Girl Podcast for more on anxious attachment, relationship anxiety, overthinking, secure attachment, emotional safety, and learning how to actually relax into a healthy relationship. ✨ Is this my anxiety or is something actually wrong? Quiz coming soon! #AnxiousAttachment #RelationshipAnxiety #Overthinking #SecureAttachment #AttachmentStyles #RelationshipAdvice #TextingAnxiety #FearOfAbandonment #HealthyRelationships #BeThatHealingGirl

  8. Sep 1

    How to Stop Overthinking When There’s Nothing Actually Wrong

    Ever have one of those weekends where everything was amazing... and then Sunday rolls around and suddenly your brain is convinced something is wrong? Yeah. I know that spiral. Your partner is kind. They're consistent. Their words match their actions. They've given you absolutely no reason to question the relationship. ...and somehow your brain is still waiting for the other shoe to drop. In this week's episode, I'm unpacking why we create problems when there aren't any, why healthy relationships can actually feel harder for anxious attachment, and the hidden habits that quietly fuel your spirals long before they explode. Because here's the thing: Your spiral didn't come out of nowhere. It was building long before the overthinking started. In this episode, we talk about: ✨ Why you create conflict when your relationship is actually going well ✨ The invisible habits quietly fueling your anxious attachment ✨ Why reassurance isn't the thing you're actually looking for ✨ The surprising reason healthy relationships can feel uncomfortable ✨ Why "just stop overthinking" has never worked ✨ How to build real emotional safety instead of white-knuckling your way through a good relationship ✨ The phone battery analogy that completely changed how I think about spirals ✨ A client story about finally letting herself receive love instead of always earning it One of the biggest lessons I've learned is that anxious attachment doesn't just show up when something is wrong. Sometimes it shows up because everything is finally right. And if you've ever found yourself picking fights after a great weekend, questioning a genuinely good partner, or wondering why you can't just relax... I made this episode for you. 💛 Ready to stop overthinking and start feeling secure? The Secure Love Lab is my 6-month coaching experience for high-achieving women who are exhausted from relationship anxiety, overthinking every text, and waiting for the other shoe to drop. If you're ready to stop understanding your patterns and finally start changing them, I'd love to support you.

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Listen up Girlies!! Healing isn’t just a (hot girl) walk in the park, it’s a damn journey. The BeThatHealingGirl Podcast is all about busting old school dating myths, breaking down our childhood traumas, unlearning our bad habits and healing your way to your DREAM LIFE! Let’s keep it real and begin to heal because honestly… eff that guy not texting you back, stop worrying about being liked, it’s time to let go of anxious attachment behaviors, start getting comfortable with being vulnerable and know your damn worth! So stop wishing you were her, join the journey and BE that healing girl.

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  • Creator
    bethathealinggirl
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    100
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

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