Honestly Tho Podcast

Honestly Tho Podcast

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Honestly Tho…is here to encourage thought provoking conversations of substance while keeping it raw, real, and risqué. The host Zina, keeps it light hearted while having conversations of depth relating to relationships, spirituality, parenting, and bridging the gap between black men and women.

5d ago

Stop Waiting for Closure. It's Keeping You Stuck!

Send us Fan Mail Think closure will finally set you free? What if the very thing you’re chasing is what’s keeping you emotionally attached? In this solo episode, I’m challenging one of the biggest myths about healing after relationships, situationships, and dating: the idea that someone else has to give you closure before you can move on. We dive into why acceptance—not answers—is often the real path to peace, and why waiting for the “perfect conversation” may actually be keeping you stuck. Then we’re switching gears to a conversation that’s been heavy on my mind: As a woman, would you be comfortable with a male OB-GYN? I share my perspective, why I don’t see gender as the deciding factor, and explore the very valid reasons why many women prefer a female physician. At the heart of the discussion is a bigger question about perception, bias, trust, and how quickly we make assumptions about people. Finally, we unpack why confidence seems to make some people uncomfortable. Why is genuine self-confidence so often mistaken for arrogance? Is confidence really the problem—or does it simply reflect insecurities people haven’t dealt with themselves? We explore the difference between confidence and ego, why some people try to humble those who know their worth, and why living without needing constant validation can be so triggering. If you’ve ever struggled to let go, questioned your own confidence, or wondered why people judge others before getting to know them, this episode is for you. In this episode: 1. Why chasing closure can keep you emotionally stuck 2. Acceptance vs. closure: what’s the difference? 3. The psychology behind moving on without answers 4. Would you see a male OB-GYN? 5. Why some women prefer female physicians—and why others don’t 6. How perception shapes our opinions of people 7. Why confidence is so often confused with arrogance 8. The difference between confidence and ego 9. Learning to stop seeking permission to move forward Do you believe people owe you closure? And would you be comfortable with a male OB-GYN? Why or why not? 👍 If you enjoyed this conversation, don’t forget to download, love, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it. #HonestlyThoPodcast #Relationships #SelfWorth #Confidence #DatingAdvice #PersonalGrowth #Healing #Psychology #MovingOn #Women #Mindset Follow Zee on IG at @toptier_zee Subscribe to the YouTube channel at as we are rebuilding that platform from scratch again. https://youtube.com/@HonestlyThoPod?si=-VAJ1ZkzcElIyeQJ
Jul 8

Love, Lust, & Legacy: The Truth About Modern Men At 40 Ft. MoosieWins

Send us Fan Mail What happens when a man enter a new chapter of life - redefining love, evolving a an artist, leaving a legacy through fatherhood, and finding strength after loss? In this episode, I sit down with Moosie Win for a raw and honest conversation about growth, relationships, purpose, and transformation. At 40, he opens up about his perspective on dating and relationships, and what has changed, the importance of being with someone you can grow with, and how dating is different now that his son has left the nest and is in college. We also go behind the music and discuss his latest single, "Lust." He breaks down some of the lyrics of the song and the inspiration behind those lyrics, and I challenge him on the meaning behind some lyrics that stood out to me. We also discuss how his real life shows up in his music and how personal experiences shape his artistry. After 18 years as a Math teacher, he has pivoted in his career and has transitioned to being outside of the classroom while still in the Department of Education. Fatherhood is another major part of this conversation as he reflects on watching his son complete his first year as a Division 1 athlete. He shares the lessons he intentionally passed down, how he balanced discipline with support, and the moment every parent faces - knowing when to guide and when to let go. We close out the episode discussing grief, loss, and healing. Having experienced a profound loss, he shares how grief has changed his outlook on life, his relationships, and what truly matters. This episode is a reminder that growth doesn't stop at any age - sometimes you biggest transformation happens when you're willing to let go, evolve, and step into who you're becoming! Download this episode and subscribe to the YouTube channel! Like, comment, and share with a friend. Follow Zee on IG at @toptier_zee Subscribe to the YouTube channel at as we are rebuilding that platform from scratch again. https://youtube.com/@HonestlyThoPod?si=-VAJ1ZkzcElIyeQJ
Jun 10

Why Flirting Is A Lost Art

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I open up about the importance of traveling, the lost art of flirting, embracing a year of solitude, and the art of detachment. Whether it’s a solo adventure, a girls’ getaway, or a baecation, travel has a way of revealing who you are when you’re removed from your everyday routine. I also open up about my “solo year”—a season of solitude, self-discovery, and learning the difference between being alone and being lonely. We dive into the beauty of detachment, letting go of what no longer serves you, and accepting that what you want isn’t always what God wants for your life. If you’ve been struggling to release control, move on from a situation, trust God’s timing, or embrace a season of singleness, this episode is for you. Follow Zee on IG at @toptier_zee Subscribe to the YouTube channel at as we are rebuilding that platform from scratch again. https://youtube.com/@HonestlyThoPod?si=-VAJ1ZkzcElIyeQJ
May 15

Fake It Til You Make It! Ft. La'China Barnes

Send us Fan Mail In today’s episode, we sit down with entrepreneur, author, creative, and tech professional La’China Barnes — also known as “sotechnicallyspeaking” on IG — for a raw conversation about reinvention, career pivots, identity, confidence, and what it really looks like to evolve in real time. From writing books like: 📖 From College Girl to Stripper… I Mean Entrepreneur 📖 Fck It, I Got The Job: The Silver Lining in Going Backwards* …to stepping into tech, project management, creative direction, and publicly navigating growth, La’China opens up about the pressure of starting over, imposter syndrome, dating while evolving, and learning how to work with her neurodivergent brain instead of against it. We discuss: ✨ Reinventing yourself without shame ✨ Pivoting into tech as a Black woman ✨ ADHD & entrepreneurship ✨ “Going backwards” to move forward ✨ Building confidence publicly ✨ Dating during seasons of growth ✨ Healing, identity & standing on business ✨ Turning uncertainty into intention This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt behind, underestimated, or afraid to start over. Because growth sounds beautiful… until you actually have to live through it. Tap in. 🎙️ #BlackWomenInTech #CareerPivot #WomenInTech #Entrepreneurship #ADHD #Podcast #SelfGrowth #TechIndustry #CreativeDirection #ImposterSyndrome #CareerChange #BlackCreators Follow Zee on IG at @toptier_zee Subscribe to the YouTube channel at as we are rebuilding that platform from scratch again. https://youtube.com/@HonestlyThoPod?si=-VAJ1ZkzcElIyeQJ
May 1

This Is What Autonomy Really Looks Like Ft. Oya Noire

Send us Fan Mail What does it really mean to have autonomy as a Black, queer artist in an industry that rewards conformity? This week, I’m joined by musician Oya Noire for a raw and honest conversation about building a creative life on your own terms—even when the system pushes you to perform, produce, and shrink yourself to fit in. We unpack the tension between identity, ambition, and survival, and what it takes to stay rooted in authenticity while navigating visibility, pressure, and growth. We talk about: The moment she realized her voice had power—and that music was her path How love, heartbreak, and real-life experiences shape her sound What performing at SXSW revealed about the industry Why she stepped away from music—and what that break taught her What creative autonomy actually looks like for her If you’ve ever felt torn between being fully yourself and “making it,” this conversation is for you. Want video? Subscribe to the YouTube channel: UCR7E0g5dPIVtuH_eEf4zCLg Subscribe for more conversations on creativity, identity, and building a life on your own terms. Follow Oya Noire: @OyaNoire Website: https://www.oyanoire.com Follow me on IG at: @toptier_zee Follow Zee on IG at @toptier_zee Subscribe to the YouTube channel at as we are rebuilding that platform from scratch again. https://youtube.com/@HonestlyThoPod?si=-VAJ1ZkzcElIyeQJ
Mar 4

What Does Luxury Really Mean? Ft. Simone Alexis

Send us Fan Mail This week I'm joined by fashion and luxury extraordinaire, Simone Alexis Webb, who has a way of romanticizing her life. But this conversation goes beyond designer labels and soft life aesthetics. We're talking luxury, dating, the importance of having hobbies, and the narratives women casually adopt without realizing the impact. We unpack what luxury truly means outside of the designer goods, traveling, and tangible things. Why must luxury look different for black women than it does for everyone else? We dive into the viral "I'm just a girl" plight - is it harmless humor, soft femininity, or a subtle regression for grown women? Are we reclaiming something...or shrinking ourselves? We also unpack the real difference between dating and courting (yes, there is one), and what each says about standards, intention, and effort in 2026. This episode is layered, and you already know we're not holding back! Follow Zee on IG at @toptier_zee Subscribe to the YouTube channel at as we are rebuilding that platform from scratch again. https://youtube.com/@HonestlyThoPod?si=-VAJ1ZkzcElIyeQJ
Feb 27

Why Authenticity Makes People Uncomfortable Ft. Kenya aka Vain The Villain

Send us Fan Mail This week I'm joined by Kenya aka SheSoVain to discuss all things from the importance of being authentic and knowing yourself to holding men accountable, to motherhood, NYC nightlife, and so much more. We unpack who Kenya is, how she views herself, and what it takes for her to give her time to a man. While many may say that her expectations are unrealistic, she maintains her standards for herself by setting high standards for the men who nay want to date her, thus weeding out the bare minimum doers! We speak about codes she teaches her daughters so that they don't get caught up in this world, in addition to why she went back to bartending at Starlets New York. Download and share this episode if you enjoyed it! Hope you're back to listen next week! Follow Zee on IG at @toptier_zee Subscribe to the YouTube channel at as we are rebuilding that platform from scratch again. https://youtube.com/@HonestlyThoPod?si=-VAJ1ZkzcElIyeQJ
Feb 11

What Makes A Man Shut Down Emotionally? Ft. Rene Guercy

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Honestly Tho…is here to encourage thought provoking conversations of substance while keeping it raw, real, and risqué. The host Zina, keeps it light hearted while having conversations of depth relating to relationships, spirituality, parenting, and bridging the gap between black men and women.

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Honestly Tho Podcast
Years Active

2023 - 2026
Episodes

58
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Explicit
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