It Starts with YOU

Vic O'Farrell
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What does it feel like to be on the receiving end of you? Join Vic O'Farrell, the Queen of Behaviours, as she explores the different behavioural styles and what makes us human. If you have ever struggled to get on with someone or if people in your life rub you up the wrong way, then this show is for you. Recognising, understanding and respecting our different personalities will help you better understand, not just others, but yourself.

  1. 3d ago

    Why People Don't Listen to You: The Hidden Power of Your Voice | Helen von Dardelsen

    In this episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell is joined by communications and voice coach Helen Von Dardelsen to explore why the way we speak can be just as important as the words we choose. We often assume that being clear in our communication means our message will be understood, but what happens when our tone, pace or delivery tells a completely different story? From leaders struggling to command attention in meetings to professionals whose unconscious speaking habits undermine their authority, Helen shares fascinating real-life examples of how our voice influences the way others perceive us. Together, Vic and Helen discuss the power of pausing, the importance of adapting our communication to different personality styles and why speaking louder doesn't necessarily mean being heard. Helen also introduces the practical PREP framework (Point, Rationale, Example, Point) to help communicate ideas with greater clarity and confidence. Whether you're leading a team, presenting to an audience or simply wanting to improve your everyday conversations, this episode is a powerful reminder that effective communication isn't just about what you say, but how your message is received. Because understanding the impact you have on others starts with self-awareness, and as always, it starts with YOU.   "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast   About the Guest Helen von Dardelsen is a communications and voice coach who helps leaders and professionals communicate their ideas with clarity, confidence and impact. Originally from New Zealand and now based in Switzerland, Helen specialises in helping individuals understand how their voice, tone and delivery influence the way their messages are received. Through practical coaching, Helen helps people develop greater vocal awareness, strengthen their presence and overcome communication habits that may be holding them back. Her approach focuses on making small but powerful changes that enable people to speak with authenticity, build stronger connections and ensure their voices are truly heard.   Contact Details LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/helen-von-dadelszen/ Website: https://academy.presentpotential.ch/site/about YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCB_2NMosqJQBBiv5ux3mYHg Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/present_potential?igsh=a3p0NXNxMnlwYzM5

  2. Oct 28

    Stop Letting People Steal Your Time (It's Not Their Fault)

    Have you ever found yourself wishing everyone would just leave you alone so you can get something done? But here's the question: are you actually doing anything to stop the interruptions? In this solo episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell explores how our own behaviours can contribute to the distractions, frustrations and interruptions we experience every day. From constant email notifications and WhatsApp messages to colleagues asking for "just two minutes", Vic challenges us to consider whether we're protecting our time or inviting people to interrupt it. Whether you're a leader struggling to find time to focus, someone who feels constantly pulled in different directions, or simply tired of never getting through your to-do list, this episode is a reminder that you can't control everyone else's behaviour, but you can take ownership of your own. Because behaviour drives behaviour. And it starts with YOU. "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast

  3. Oct 13

    What Teenagers Can Teach Us About Behaviour with Jess Tyrrell

    In this episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell is joined by Jessica Tyrrell to explore what teenagers can teach us about behaviour, communication and the importance of feeling seen and heard. Jess has spent much of her career working with teenagers, helping to create cultures where young people feel a sense of belonging and have the space to express themselves. But as Vic and Jess discover, many of the lessons she has learned from teenagers apply just as much to adults, parents, teachers and leaders. They explore why curiosity can be far more powerful than judgement, the tension between fixed and growth mindsets, why allowing people to make mistakes matters, and how simply creating the right conditions for someone to feel heard can transform a relationship. The conversation also turns to education, school refusal, AI and a future where the skills young people need may look very different from those previous generations were taught. From parenting teenagers to leading teams, this episode is a reminder that better behaviour often starts with listening, staying curious and being willing to see the world from somebody else's point of view.   "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast   About the Guest Jess Tyrrell is an advisor on behaviour change across schools, families, and organisations. Rather than focusing on what's going wrong, she works backwards from what you want to see more of—and then designs the conditions that make it easier and more rewarding. She understands the systemic patterns underneath, spots what's already working, and builds from there. Her approach removes the heavy hand of correction, making the shift light and playful. Contact Details  Email: Jessica.e.tyrrell@gmail.com Instagram: @say.what.collective  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-tyrrell-msc-86820316/

  4. Sep 29

    Want Your Team to Take Ownership? Stop Taking It Back - Solo Episode

    In this solo episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell asks a question many managers have probably found themselves asking: "Why does everything always come back to me?" You want your team to take more responsibility. You delegate. You hand something over. And then… they don't do it the way you would. So you step back in. Using a very relatable example involving a badly loaded dishwasher, Vic explores the difference between genuinely giving someone ownership and simply expecting them to repeat your way of doing things. If the process matters, explain the standards and, importantly, explain why. But if the end result is what matters, sometimes good leadership means stepping away and letting people find their own way there. Because if you continually take work back, redo it or correct people simply because they approached it differently, eventually they'll stop stepping up altogether. A short episode about delegation, responsibility, trust and learning when to simply let it go.  . "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast

  5. Sep 15

    Why Small Gestures Have a Bigger Impact Than You Think | David Parr

    In this episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell is joined by David Parr, co-founder of PRSNT, a business built around a simple idea: making generosity easier in a digital world. David shares how PRSNT grew from noticing a gap in the way we use technology to connect with each other, and why the emotional value of a small gift can far outweigh what it actually costs. From sending someone a coffee at exactly the right moment to a parent making sure their children can get home safely, they explore what generosity tells us about human behaviour at its best. The conversation also takes them behind the scenes of David's appearance on Dragon's Den, including the fear, preparation and assumptions that came before stepping into the Den, and why having solid evidence to fall back on mattered when the pressure was on. Vic and David also explore our tendency to react before we think, the power of creating space between emotion and action, and why simply naming what you're feeling can help stop a difficult moment escalating.   "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast   About the Guest David is a creative and product leader with 25+ years of experience shaping digital experiences, brands and campaigns for ambitious businesses and global organisations, including the LVMH Group.   As co-founder of PRSNT, David leads across front-end digital product, art direction, brand, and digital media. Helping shape the company's strategic offering and the content to communicate it. He also plays a key role in communicating with investors, customers, suppliers and business partners.  David brings together creativity, technology and business to turn ideas into compelling digital experiences that get traction. Contact Details www.prsnt.co.uk- My Website https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidparrprsnt/ - LinkedIn URL

  6. Sep 1

    Why Selfish Leaders Win: Putting Yourself First with Gary Parsons

    In this episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell is joined by professional speaker and executive mentor Gary Parsons to challenge one of the most negatively loaded words in leadership: selfish. Gary believes that the best leaders are selfish, but not in the way you might think. For him, being selfish means intentionally prioritising yourself, protecting your energy and setting boundaries so that you can show up at your best for the people who rely on you. Gary also shares the deeply personal story behind his work. After developing Bell's palsy at 18 and being left with a visible facial difference, he spent years intensely aware of how other people might see him, eventually making the conscious decision to stop smiling. He talks openly about self-esteem, vulnerability, the impact of other people's words and what it took to change the way he saw himself. Together, Vic and Gary explore boundaries, presenteeism, the pressure to always be available, the power of saying no and why good leadership isn't about sacrificing yourself for everyone else. Because putting yourself first doesn't have to mean putting everybody else last. Sometimes, it's exactly what allows you to lead them better.   "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast   About the Guest Gary Parsons is a keynote speaker and founder of Selfish Thinking Co. He previously co-founded and led a multi-award-winning business for over a decade. At the height of that success, Gary was diagnosed with severe depression. Rather than stepping away, he chose to rethink how he worked and led, rebuilding his approach to pressure and performance while continuing to grow the business sustainably before stepping down as CEO in 2024. Today, Gary speaks openly about the pressures many high performers experience but rarely discuss. Blending lived experience with practical, real-world tools from his SELF Framework, he helps people challenge the belief that putting yourself last is a sign of strength and shows how prioritising your wellbeing leads to better performance, stronger relationships and longer-term success. His sessions are engaging, honest and highly practical, giving audiences simple strategies they can use immediately. Contact Details https://garyparsons.uk - My Website https://garyparsons.uk - Selfish Leaders Win Book info http://garyparsons.uk/love-my-face - Love My Face (Channel 4) info https://www.linkedin.com/in/garyparsonsuk - LinkedIn URL

  7. Aug 18

    Why People Keep Misunderstanding You (And How to Fix It)

    In this solo episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell explores one of the biggest reasons communication breaks down. It isn't always because people aren't listening. More often, it's because they interpret your words through their own experiences, personality and perspective. Inspired by a coaching conversation with a client, Vic explains why the gap between what we say and what someone else hears can create confusion, frustration and unnecessary mistakes. Whether you're leading a team, managing projects, parenting or simply trying to communicate more effectively, this episode shares a simple shift that can dramatically improve understanding. Rather than asking, "Do you understand?", Vic explains how taking responsibility for how your message lands creates psychological safety, encourages clarification and helps build stronger relationships.   . "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast

  8. Aug 4

    65. What Fuels You? The Missing Link Between Motivation, Wellbeing and Performance

    Why do some people thrive in a role while others feel drained, even when they're highly capable? In this episode of It Starts With You, Vic O'Farrell is joined by motivation specialist, keynote speaker and trainer Sarah Stones to explore what truly drives human behaviour, engagement and performance. Together they unpack the difference between skills and motivation, why understanding what fuels you is critical for wellbeing, and how leaders can create environments where people don't just perform, but flourish. Using the concept of Motivational Maps, Sarah explains how our motivators change throughout life, why people often lose energy in roles they once loved, and how leaders can better understand what their teams need to stay engaged.   "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.  If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic.      Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours  Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/   FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf   For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast   About the Guest Sarah Stones is a Motivation Specialist, coach and TEDx speaker who helps organisations understand what genuinely drives their people. After 20+ years in HR, she founded Plain Sailing Motivation to make motivation practical. She delivers keynotes, masterclasses and coaching for businesses including the NHS and AstraZeneca, improving engagement, wellbeing and performance. She is not a motivational speaker, she is firm about this, and she would far rather leave your team with tools they can use to motivate themselves long after they have heard her speak. Contact Details Email: sarah@plainsailingmotivation.co.uk Website: www.plainsailingmotivation.co.uk Social Media LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/sarah-stones

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What does it feel like to be on the receiving end of you? Join Vic O'Farrell, the Queen of Behaviours, as she explores the different behavioural styles and what makes us human. If you have ever struggled to get on with someone or if people in your life rub you up the wrong way, then this show is for you. Recognising, understanding and respecting our different personalities will help you better understand, not just others, but yourself.

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  • Creator
    Vic O'Farrell
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    74
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