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The Deal to Heal with E. James Podcast is a podcast dedicated to sharing a message of hope and healing to the world. On our podcast, my guest and I, discuss topics and ways to help us to heal in every area of our lives. Our belief, on the podcast, is that everyone can, and should, live a life that’s whole, healthy, and healed. So, our Mission is to help people to deal, heal, and fulfill. “Deal with their problems, heal from the pain, and fulfill their purpose.” We believe that as we heal ourselves, we heal our families. Our families heal our communities. And our communities heal our world.

  1. 1d ago

    EP 255 How to Rebuild Connection in Your Marriage with Keith Dorscht

    What happens when someone who has spent decades helping couples save their marriages experiences the end of his own? In Episode 255 of the Deal to Heal with E. James Podcast, Earnest James sits down with Colorado marriage coach Keith Dorst for a vulnerable and practical conversation about marriage, divorce, shame, communication, healing, and rebuilding connection. Keith brings extensive professional experience to the conversation, including more than 500 marriage intensives and what he describes as approximately 30,000 hours of sessions with couples. But his perspective changed dramatically when his own 27-year marriage ended in divorce. Rather than walking away from his calling, Keith took time away from marriage work to confront his own patterns. He discusses struggling to listen, difficulty accepting criticism, shame, and childhood experiences that influenced the way he responded in his marriage. That process ultimately gave him a different perspective on the couples he now serves. A central message of the episode is that connection must come before correction. Keith explains that difficult conversations become much harder when a person feels afraid, defensive, criticized, or emotionally unsafe. His approach therefore focuses on helping couples experience connection before attempting to solve their problems. Keith also breaks down his understanding of empathy, sympathy, and compassion, explaining how eye contact, tone of voice, curiosity, and emotional responsiveness can help couples move from defensiveness toward connection and repair. Later, Keith introduces The Communication Cure, an intentional experience designed to help couples practice safer, more connected communication without beginning with their most difficult disagreements. The conversation also becomes deeply personal as Earnest and Keith discuss how failure, divorce, faith, gratitude, and healing can become part of purpose. Keith's story demonstrates an important Deal. Heal. Fulfill. principle: the painful chapters of our lives don't have to disqualify us from purpose. They can deepen the way we serve others. 🔑 Key Takeaways 1. Connection Should Come Before Correction One of Keith's most important principles is that couples shouldn't begin by trying to correct each other while disconnected. When someone feels threatened or defensive, productive communication becomes much harder. Keith therefore works first to create an experience of safety and connection. Instead of beginning with "Here's what you're doing wrong," the better starting point may be "How can we reconnect enough to hear each other?" 2. Your Past Can Affect How You Respond to Your Partner Keith candidly discusses how experiences from his childhood contributed to shame later in life. He describes how silence was sometimes used as discipline in his family and how carrying shame affected his ability to receive criticism in his marriage. His story demonstrates why relationship conflict isn't always only about what's happening in the present. Sometimes the present interaction touches something much older. 3. Being Willing to Face Yourself Is Part of Healing After his 27-year marriage ended, Keith had to confront a difficult question: What did I contribute to what happened? He acknowledges areas where he struggled, including listening and facing his faults. Healing required more than identifying what other people had done. It required being willing to look at himself. That connects strongly with the Deal to Heal philosophy: dealing with the problem includes acknowledging our own part when appropriate. That leads directly into Earnest's signature message: Pain births purpose. Purpose births progress. And progress is the evidence that God is at work. 7. Strong Community Makes Healing Easier to Carry Keith's final advice moves beyond marriage. He encourages people to expand their community and deepen their existing relationships. Healthy community gives us people with whom we can practice honesty, vulnerability, and connection before life's hardest moments arrive. The people who communicate, through their presence, "I'm glad to be with you" can become an important source of strength during difficult seasons. https://keith.coach/the-communication-cure-gift/

  2. Sep 9

    EP 254 Healing Through Connection, Purpose and Belonging with Chris Casely

    In a world dominated by social media, screens, and AI, how can we intentionally build stronger human connections and healthier communities? In Episode 254 of the Deal to Heal with E. James Podcast, Earnest James sits down with Dr. Chris Casely, researcher, educator, coach, wellness practitioner, and founder of Bella, for an insightful conversation about what human beings actually need to move from simply surviving life to genuinely flourishing. Dr. Casely explains that throughout decades of work in leadership, wellness, Ayurveda, coaching, human development, and education, he repeatedly encountered the same problem: people were becoming disconnected from themselves, their purpose, and their communities. While mental health support is important, Chris argues that flourishing requires looking beyond symptoms and examining the relationships, environments, stories, and sense of purpose that shape our lives. A major part of the conversation centers on attachment theory. Chris explains how our earliest experiences teach us whether relationships feel safe, secure, anxious, avoidant, or unpredictable. Those early lessons don't simply disappear when we become adults. They influence how we interpret relationships, respond to other people, and understand ourselves. The conversation then moves into community. Chris makes the powerful observation that communities can be sources of both hurt and healing. The same human relationships capable of creating disconnection can also provide belonging, regulation, learning, meaning, and restoration. Earnest and Chris also examine how technology, social media, screens, and AI can increase access to information while simultaneously creating greater distance between people. In a world where digital connection is everywhere, meaningful human connection can still be missing. Ultimately, Chris introduces listeners to The Bella Way, his framework for examining our stories, discovering purpose, understanding reality, imagining possibilities, and taking meaningful action. His message fits naturally with the Deal. Heal. Fulfill. mission: healing isn't simply returning to normal. Healing creates the opportunity to transform—and ultimately flourish. 🔑 Key Takeaways 1. Healing Requires More Than Treating Symptoms Chris argues that addressing mental health symptoms is important, but true flourishing requires something deeper. We need connection to: Ourselves. Other people. Our purpose. Healing becomes more sustainable when we examine the whole person rather than only what's hurting. 2. Our Earliest Relationships Teach Us What Safety Feels Like Chris introduces attachment theory as a way of understanding the importance of safety and security in human relationships. When our needs are consistently met, relationships can feel safe and trustworthy. When they aren't, anxiety, avoidance, insecurity, or uncertainty can develop. Those early experiences can continue influencing how we relate to others later in life. 3. Community Can Hurt Us—and Community Can Heal Us One of Chris's strongest ideas in the episode is that community can become both the source of attachment and the source of disconnection. But community can also help us reattach, regulate, learn, heal, and make meaning. That makes healthy community more than something that's nice to have. Human connection can become an important part of the healing process. 👤 Guest Bio – Dr. Chris Casely Dr. Chris Casely is a researcher, educator, coach, wellness practitioner, entrepreneur, and founder of Bella. His professional experience spans decades across leadership, wellness, Ayurveda, coaching, human development, and education. Through that work, Chris recognized a recurring challenge: people struggling with disconnection from themselves, their purpose, and their communities. That realization led him to develop Bella and The Bella Way, a research-oriented approach designed to help people rediscover belonging, hope, purpose, and the capacity to flourish. Chris's work explores attachment, identity, community, personal stories, purpose, human development, and the connection between healing and meaningful action. Guest Link Bella Life Online: mybellalifeonline.com Chris states that his book, programs, and broader Bella ecosystem can be found through his website.

  3. Sep 2

    EP 252 Finding Common Ground in a Divided World with guest John Fletcher

    In a divided world, how can listening to someone's personal story help us find common ground even when we disagree? In this meaningful episode of the Deal to Heal with E. James Podcast, Earnest James sits down with John “Philly” Fletcher, father, podcaster, mentor, and founder of the Common Ground Project USA, for a conversation about faith, mentorship, intentional living, and the power of bringing people together. John shares how faith has been woven throughout his life, beginning with growing up in the church. At only 13 years old, he organized a church camping trip from the ground up—handling everything from registration and transportation to food and scheduling. What began as a youth camping trip eventually grew into a major annual church retreat lasting a decade. Looking back, John recognizes those early experiences as preparation. Although he attended biblical college intending to become a youth pastor, his life ultimately moved in another direction. Yet he explains that the skills, jobs, experiences, and lessons along the way prepared him for what he is doing today. 🔑 Key Takeaways 1. Mentorship Can Change the Direction of a Life John's story reveals mentorship from two perspectives: the young person who wanted it and the adult who now understands its importance. He challenges adults—especially men—to recognize that young people may desperately want guidance but may not know how, or feel comfortable enough, to ask for it. Sometimes mentorship begins when an adult simply says, “I see you. How can I help you?” 2. What You Didn't Receive Can Influence What You Give John looked up to many men while growing up but says the deeper mentorship he desired was largely missing. Instead of allowing that absence to end with him, it contributed to his desire to mentor others. Our unmet needs can sometimes reveal an area where we are uniquely equipped to serve someone else. 3. Faith Can Guide You Even When the Path Changes John originally attended biblical college intending to become a youth pastor, but his life moved in another direction. Looking back, he recognizes that faith continued guiding him even when his original plan changed. He explains that every skill he learned and every job he held contributed something that eventually prepared him for the work he's doing today. 4. Your Preparation May Begin Long Before You Recognize It At 13, John wasn't thinking about founding an organization or hosting a podcast. He simply wanted to organize a camping trip. Yet that experience required leadership, organization, communication, community building, and vision—the same types of skills he uses today. Sometimes purpose isn't suddenly discovered. Sometimes we look backward and realize we've been preparing for it for years. 5. We Have More in Common Than We Think John created the Common Ground Project USA after observing how quickly people disconnect when they disagree. Political differences, beliefs, and opinions can become reasons to end friendships and even divide families. His response is to intentionally focus on the humanity people share rather than allowing disagreement to become the only thing they see. 6. Stories Create Bridges Between People The Common Ground Podcast grew out of John's belief that personal stories can reconnect people. When we genuinely listen to someone's story, we begin understanding the experiences behind their beliefs, choices, struggles, and perspectives. As John says near the end of the episode: When you take the time to hear somebody's story, you create an opportunity to find common ground. 7. Intentionality Turns Values Into Action John closes the episode with a challenge to “be intentional and be curious.” Be intentional about healing. Be intentional about your day. Be intentional about the people you spend your life with. His point is simple: if we don't intentionally choose the direction of our lives, circumstances will often choose it for us. 👤 Guest Bio – John “Philly” Fletcher John “Philly” Fletcher is a father of three daughters, mentor, podcaster, community builder, and founder of the Common Ground Project USA. After witnessing increasing division between people over political, social, and personal differences, John created Common Ground Project USA with a mission of bringing humanity and unity back into the way people interact with one another. The organization operates around three primary pillars: Personal Stories. Personal Talents. Community. Through the Common Ground Podcast, John creates space for people to tell their stories and discover the humanity that exists beyond disagreement. Faith has remained an important influence throughout John's life, from growing up in the church and studying at biblical college to the leadership and community-building work he does today.

  4. Aug 26

    EP 252 Finding Your Identity and Achieving Your Goals with Mark Relic

    How much of your identity has been shaped by social media, your career, relationships, family expectations, or other people's opinions—and which parts genuinely reflect who you are? In this thought-provoking episode of the Deal to Heal with E. James Podcast, Earnest James sits down with life coach, teacher, writer, entrepreneur, and strategist Mark Relic to explore the connection between identity, purpose, and goal achievement. Mark shares a deeply personal turning point involving a serious health crisis and surgery. Facing uncertainty about his future caused him to question the identity he had built and ask what his life would look like if he could no longer return to his "old story." Rather than simply trying to recreate his previous life, Mark began searching for a new sense of purpose. That experience became part of his transformation from pursuing his own goals to helping others identify and achieve theirs. A major theme throughout the conversation is that identity is built from the inside out. Earnest and Mark discuss how careers, relationships, environments, social media, expectations, and life circumstances can influence the way we see ourselves. When one of those external identifiers disappears, we can suddenly find ourselves asking, "Who am I now?" Mark encourages listeners to create enough quiet to hear themselves again. He describes spending time alone with his thoughts as an important part of discovering what mattered to him, emphasizing that finding purpose is only the beginning—the next question is what you're willing to do with what you've discovered. The episode concludes with Mark's practical three-part strategy for pursuing goals: What do you want? Why do you want it? What are you willing to do to get it? This conversation challenges listeners not to allow circumstances to write their identity for them, but to intentionally build a life around who they are becoming and what they genuinely want. 🔑 Key Takeaways 1. Know What You Want Before Chasing a Goal Mark's first "ground point" is deceptively simple: What do you really want? Goals become difficult to pursue when they are vague or based primarily on what other people expect. Clarity gives your effort direction. 2. Your "Why" Gives Your Goal Strength Mark's second question is: Why do you want it? Knowing what you want isn't enough. Understanding the reason behind the goal provides motivation when circumstances become difficult. 3. Goals Require a Willingness to Act The third question is: What are you willing to do to get it? Mark emphasizes strategy and what he calls "massive action." Visualization can help you see a different future, but eventually the vision has to become action. 4. Losing What You Do Can Make You Question Who You Are The conversation addresses how easily identity becomes attached to occupation, talent, status, relationships, and circumstances. This can be especially difficult when a career changes, a physical ability is lost, or life unexpectedly disrupts the role that once answered the question, "Who am I?" 5. Identity Must Be Built From the Inside One of Mark's central statements is: "Identity is built inside." External influences will always compete for our attention. Social media, culture, career expectations, relationships, and other people's opinions can all influence identity. The challenge is learning to separate those voices from your own values, beliefs, purpose, and inner life. 6. Solitude Can Help You Rediscover Yourself Mark describes intentionally spending time alone with his thoughts after his life changed. Without constant outside voices, he was able to ask deeper questions about himself and his future. His experience suggests that sometimes finding yourself requires enough silence to recognize which parts of your identity actually belong to you. 7. Reinvention Is Possible After Your Old Identity Is Shaken Mark discusses this theme not only through his own experience but through his writing. His stories explore characters whose talents or identities are disrupted and who must decide how to rebuild. His message is that losing an old version of yourself doesn't mean your story is finished. You can build and rebuild your life around who you are becoming. Guest Links JOIN THE DEAL TO HEAL SKOOL FOR LIVING COMMUNITY: https://www.skool.com/deal-to-heal-skool-for-living-5605/about?ref=dc6edbfe1bb84555a9fe38561612bb27 Donate to the Deal to Heal the World Non-Profit: https://www.zeffy.com/en-US/donation-form/start-up-capital-to-start-healing-our-communities Connect with us at: • YT= https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLEELXi-wEkwTigHrq675HREOjHhQxQHJw&si=oBqoWDrGd5QbBMk9 • IG= https://www.instagram.com/deal2healpodcast/ • FB= https://www.facebook.com/Dealtoheal ***Disclaimer: This video is not sponsored. Some product links are affiliate links which means if you buy something we’ll receive a small commission. ***

  5. Aug 19

    EP 251 Is Your Relationship Stuck on Repeat? with guest Laziena Hodge

    Why do we keep repeating relationship patterns we promised ourselves we would never repeat? In this insightful episode of the Deal to Heal with E. James Podcast, Earnest James sits down with Laziena Hodge for a conversation about relationships, childhood experiences, emotional needs, generational patterns, and what it actually takes to repair the connections that matter most. Laziena explains that many of the behaviors we struggle with as adults aren't simply conscious choices. Our early relationships teach our nervous system what connection, safety, love, abandonment, and protection feel like. Those lessons can follow us into adulthood, where we may unconsciously recreate familiar relationship dynamics—even when those dynamics are painful. As Laziena explains, what was "picked up in the nervous system" can remain there. This changes the question from "Why do I keep doing this?" to "What did my nervous system learn, and what does it need now?" Earnest and Laziena also explore the generational implications of this work. Earnest asks a powerful question: once you recognize a pattern that has traveled through your family, will you allow it to continue into another generation, or will you become the person who begins changing it? Ultimately, this episode is about replacing blame with curiosity. The goal isn't to shame ourselves or our families for the patterns we've inherited. It is to become aware enough to choose differently. You may not have created the pattern—but once you recognize it, you have an opportunity to change what happens next. 🔑 Key Takeaways 1. We Don't Always Repeat Patterns Because We Want To What looks like self-sabotage or a "bad relationship choice" may actually be a familiar pattern your nervous system learned early in life. Laziena explains that early childhood experiences help establish our understanding of safety and emotional needs. As adults, we may unconsciously search for familiar dynamics in romantic relationships, friendships, family relationships, and even the workplace. 2. Familiar Doesn't Always Mean Healthy People can find themselves attracted to dynamics that resemble early relationships—not because those experiences were good, but because they are familiar. Recognizing the pattern allows us to approach ourselves with curiosity instead of condemnation. 3. Conflict Often Has an Emotional Need Underneath It An argument may appear to be about what just happened, while the emotional reaction is connected to something much older. Laziena explains that a person can be activated in the present while their nervous system is responding from an earlier stage of life. Understanding that deeper need can change conflict from: "Who's right?" to: "What is happening inside us, and how can we repair this?" 4. Being Right Can Cost You Connection One of Laziena's strongest observations is that relationships can lose connection when conversations become competitions. When the need to prove a point becomes more important than understanding the person in front of us, we can unintentionally deny them the very thing we also want: to feel heard, seen, safe, and understood. 5. Repair Requires Safety, Vulnerability, and Space Healthy repair doesn't require forcing an immediate resolution. Laziena introduces what she calls "spacious repair language"—creating room to step away, process what you're feeling, and reassure the other person that you intend to return to the conversation. Sometimes a healthy response sounds more like: "I'm not sure what I'm feeling yet. I need some time to unpack it, but I'm going to come back." That creates space without turning space into abandonment. 6. Everyday Relationships Can Break Generational Cycles Breaking generational patterns isn't only accomplished through one dramatic decision. It happens in everyday moments: How you respond when your child is upset. How you listen when your partner feels misunderstood. Whether you choose curiosity instead of defensiveness. Whether you apologize. Whether you create emotional safety. Whether you repeat what was modeled for you—or intentionally choose something different. Those seemingly small moments can either continue a family legacy or begin changing one. 7. Relationships Can Become Places of Healing Laziena's message isn't that every relationship should be preserved at any cost. She specifically acknowledges the importance of dignity and healthy boundaries. But she also challenges the idea that discomfort automatically means disconnection. **Disclaimer: This video is not sponsored. Some product links are affiliate links which means if you buy something we’ll receive a small commission. *** #girldad #fathers #daughters #podcast #love #education #entrepreneur #speaker #motivationalspeaker #motivation

  6. Aug 12

    EP 250 Creating a Safe Exit Plan from Abuse with Christine Dillard

    Why is creating a safe exit plan essential for survivors of domestic violence and coercive control? In this eye-opening episode of the Deal to Heal with E. James Podcast, Earnest James welcomes Christine Dillard, author of The Truth She Showed Me and a passionate advocate for survivors of domestic violence, for an essential conversation about one of the least understood forms of abuse: coercive control. Christine explains that domestic violence is not always physical. Many survivors experience years of emotional manipulation, financial abuse, isolation, intimidation, and psychological control long before physical violence occurs—or even without physical violence at all. She unpacks how coercive control gradually strips away a person's confidence, independence, and ability to make decisions for themselves. The conversation also emphasizes that leaving an abusive relationship is often the most dangerous time. Christine shares why creating a thoughtful, strategic exit plan is critical and why survivors should never feel ashamed if leaving takes time. Safety—not speed—must be the priority. Most importantly, Christine offers hope. Healing is possible. Survivors are not defined by what they endured but by the courage they demonstrate in reclaiming their freedom, rebuilding their identity, and creating a future beyond abuse. This episode is both an educational resource and a message of hope for survivors, loved ones, advocates, and anyone seeking to better understand coercive control. 🔑 Key Takeaways 1. Coercive Control Is Abuse—Even Without Physical Violence Emotional manipulation, financial control, intimidation, isolation, and constant monitoring are serious forms of domestic abuse that often go unnoticed. 2. Abuse Often Escalates Gradually Coercive control usually develops over time, making it difficult for survivors to recognize the pattern until they feel trapped. 3. Leaving Requires a Safe Exit Plan Escaping an abusive relationship often involves careful planning, trusted support, financial preparation, and professional resources—not simply walking away. 4. Financial Control Is a Powerful Tool of Abuse Many survivors remain in dangerous situations because access to money, transportation, housing, or employment has been intentionally restricted. 5. Healing Begins with Reclaiming Your Identity Recovery involves rebuilding confidence, trusting yourself again, and recognizing that abuse never defines your worth. 6. Community and Advocacy Save Lives Support from advocates, counselors, friends, and community organizations can make the difference between remaining trapped and finding freedom. 7. Your Story Can Become Someone Else's Hope Survivors who share their experiences help educate others, reduce stigma, and encourage those who are still searching for a safe way out. ⏱ Episode Timestamps (Approximate) 00:00 – Welcome and introduction 03:10 – Meet Christine Dillard and her advocacy work 04:00 – What is coercive control? 10:45 – Recognizing emotional and financial abuse 18:20 – Why survivors often stay longer than people expect 25:20 – Financial abuse and feeling trapped 26:45 – Building a safe exit plan 36:30 – Healing after coercive control and domestic violence 46:45 – Finding freedom, purpose, and hope 54:00 – Final encouragement 👤 Guest Bio – Christine Dillard Christine Dillard is the author of The Truth She Showed Me, a domestic violence survivor advocate, and a corporate technology professional. Drawing from both personal experience and her advocacy work, she educates individuals and organizations about coercive control, emotional abuse, and domestic violence awareness. Christine is passionate about helping survivors recognize unhealthy relationship dynamics, develop safe exit strategies, and begin the journey toward healing and restoration. Her mission is to empower others through education, awareness, and hope. Guest Links JOIN THE DEAL TO HEAL SKOOL FOR LIVING COMMUNITY: https://www.skool.com/deal-to-heal-skool-for-living-5605/about?ref=dc6edbfe1bb84555a9fe38561612bb27 • Inspirational Tees and Podcast Shirts: www.deal2healtees.com • Purpose Journal: https://a.co/d/6Yw22WJ • Purpose Planner: https://a.co/d/aKmAw5O Connect with us at: • YT= https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLEELXi-wEkwTigHrq675HREOjHhQxQHJw&si=oBqoWDrGd5QbBMk9 • IG= https://www.instagram.com/deal2healpodcast/ • FB= https://www.facebook.com/Dealtoheal ***Disclaimer: This video is not sponsored. Some product links are affiliate links which means if you buy something we’ll receive a small commission. *** #girldad #fathers #daughters #podcast #love #education #entrepreneur #speaker #motivationalspeaker #motivation

  7. Aug 5

    EP 249 Creating Emotional Safety In Relationships

    Why can two people hear the exact same words but walk away with completely different interpretations? In this insightful episode of the Deal to Heal with E. James Podcast, Earnest James welcomes back Angie D. Lee, licensed clinical social worker, relationship therapist, intimacy coach, author, and speaker, for a conversation that every couple needs to hear. Although words may be spoken clearly, they are not always heard clearly. Angie explains that communication problems are often interpretation problems, shaped by past wounds, childhood experiences, trauma, and emotional triggers. Two people can hear the exact same sentence yet assign completely different meanings because of what they've lived through. Together, Earnest and Angie explore how couples can create emotional safety—a relationship environment where both people feel heard, respected, and emotionally secure enough to be honest without fear of judgment or attack. Rather than focusing on "winning" arguments, this episode encourages couples to become curious about one another's experiences. Healing begins when we stop assuming intent, start asking better questions, and understand the emotional stories behind each other's words. This conversation reminds listeners that healthy communication isn't about speaking louder—it's about listening deeper. 🔑 Key Takeaways 1. Couples Often Don't Have a Communication Problem—They Have an Interpretation Problem The words may be clear, but emotional wounds often change how those words are received. 2. Past Experiences Shape Present Conversations Childhood experiences, previous relationships, trauma, and unmet emotional needs influence how we hear and respond to our partners. 3. Emotional Safety Is the Foundation of Healthy Relationships People communicate more openly when they feel emotionally safe, respected, and understood. 4. Curiosity Creates Better Conversations Than Assumptions Instead of reacting defensively, ask questions like, "Can you help me understand what you meant?" 5. Triggers Reveal Wounds That Need Healing Strong emotional reactions often point to unresolved pain rather than the current conversation. 6. Healthy Communication Requires Listening to Understand The goal isn't preparing your next response—it's understanding your partner's experience. 7. Healing Relationships Requires Repair, Not Perfection Miscommunication is inevitable. Healthy couples learn how to repair, reconnect, and grow stronger together. ⏱ Episode Timestamps (Approximate) 00:00 – Welcome back, Angie D. Lee 03:30 – Why communication still matters in every relationship 05:45 – Why couples hear the same words differently 07:15 – Emotional wounds and interpretation 12:20 – Creating emotional safety in relationships 18:45 – Recognizing emotional triggers before reacting 29:10 – Breaking cycles of miscommunication 37:30 – Practical examples of understanding your partner 45:40 – Rebuilding trust through intentional communication 54:00 – Final encouragement for couples 👤 Guest Bio – Angie D. Lee Angie D. Lee is a licensed clinical social worker, relationship therapist, intimacy coach, author, and speaker based in the Chicagoland area. She specializes in helping couples improve communication by understanding how emotional wounds influence the way they listen, interpret, and respond to one another. Through therapy, coaching, speaking, and writing, Angie equips couples with practical tools to build emotional safety, deepen intimacy, and strengthen lasting relationships. Book: https://amzn.to/45FcWCy YT:  @AngieDLee  JOIN THE DEAL TO HEAL SKOOL FOR LIVING COMMUNITY: https://www.skool.com/deal-to-heal-skool-for-living-5605/about?ref=dc6edbfe1bb84555a9fe38561612bb27 Donate to the Deal to Heal the World Non-Profit: https://www.zeffy.com/en-US/donation-form/start-up-capital-to-start-healing-our-communities Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/deal-to-heal-with-e-james/donations • Inspirational Tees and Podcast Shirts: www.deal2healtees.com • Purpose Journal: https://a.co/d/6Yw22WJ • Purpose Planner: https://a.co/d/aKmAw5O Ways to work with us: info@dealhealfulfill.org • Speak at your event • Facilitate a workshop (Start Your Podcast, Intro to Building Trades, etc.) • Lead Male Mentoring Program (M.A.N. U.P.- Men Activating Newly Untapped Potential Connect with us at: • YT= https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLEELXi-wEkwTigHrq675HREOjHhQxQHJw&si=oBqoWDrGd5QbBMk9 • IG= https://www.instagram.com/deal2healpodcast/ • FB= https://www.facebook.com/Dealtoheal ***Disclaimer: This video is not sponsored. Some product links are affiliate links which means if you buy something we’ll receive a small commission. *** #girldad #fathers #daughters #podcast #love #education #entrepreneur #speaker #motivationalspeaker #motivation Deal to Heal with E James, E James podcast, healing journey, childhood trauma

  8. Jul 22

    EP 248 The Dad Your Kids Need Is You with guest J. Hill

    How can fathers become more intentional about showing up for their children, even in the middle of busy schedules? In this inspiring and deeply encouraging episode of the Deal to Heal with E. James Podcast, Earnest James sits down with J. Hill for a conversation that every father—and every man preparing to become one—needs to hear. J. Hill challenges one of the greatest lies many fathers believe: that they aren't enough. Instead, he reminds listeners that God uniquely equipped them to lead, love, and raise the children entrusted to them. Fatherhood isn't about perfection; it's about presence, intentionality, and consistency. Throughout the conversation, J. Hill explains that children don't need a perfect dad—they need a father who is emotionally available, actively involved, and committed to showing up every day. Whether through everyday conversations, shared experiences, or simply being present, fathers have the opportunity to shape their children's confidence, identity, and future. This episode encourages fathers to stop comparing themselves to others and start embracing the calling they've already been given. Your family doesn't need someone else's version of fatherhood—they need yours. 🔑 Key Takeaways 1. You Are the Right Father for Your Family Your children were entrusted to you for a reason. They don't need perfection—they need your presence. 2. You Already Have What It Takes Great fathers aren't born with all the answers. They grow by loving intentionally, learning continuously, and staying committed. 3. Presence Matters More Than Perfection Children remember the moments you were there more than the moments you got everything right. 4. Intentional Fathers Build Stronger Families Meaningful conversations, quality time, encouragement, and consistency create lasting impact. 5. Your Words Shape Your Children's Identity The encouragement, correction, and affirmation you give today become the inner voice your children carry tomorrow. 6. Fatherhood Is About Legacy Every decision, conversation, and example contributes to the values your children will carry into adulthood. 7. Showing Up Every Day Is an Act of Love Ordinary moments—school pickups, bedtime talks, family dinners, and simply being available—often become the most extraordinary memories. ⏱ Episode Timestamps (Approximate) 00:00 – Welcome and introduction 03:10 – Meet J. Hill and his mission 09:30 – Why fathers often doubt themselves 17:45 – You already have what your family needs 27:15 – The importance of intentional fatherhood 36:40 – Building confidence and identity in your children 46:20 – Creating a lasting family legacy 55:00 – Final encouragement for fathers (Timestamps are approximate and optimized for YouTube chapter markers.) 👤 Guest Bio – J. Hill J. Hill is a fatherhood advocate, speaker, and mentor who is passionate about helping men embrace the calling of fatherhood with confidence and purpose. Through teaching, coaching, and authentic conversations, he equips fathers to become intentional leaders at home by strengthening family relationships, building healthy legacies, and showing up consistently for their children. His message reminds fathers that they don't have to be perfect—they simply have to be present. Guest Links JOIN THE DEAL TO HEAL SKOOL FOR LIVING COMMUNITY: https://www.skool.com/deal-to-heal-skool-for-living-5605/about?ref=dc6edbfe1bb84555a9fe38561612bb27 Donate to the Deal to Heal the World Non-Profit: https://www.zeffy.com/en-US/donation-form/start-up-capital-to-start-healing-our-communities Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/deal-to-heal-with-e-james/donations • Inspirational Tees and Podcast Shirts: www.deal2healtees.com • Purpose Journal: https://a.co/d/6Yw22WJ • Purpose Planner: https://a.co/d/aKmAw5O Ways to work with us: info@dealhealfulfill.org • Speak at your event • Facilitate a workshop (Start Your Podcast, Intro to Building Trades, etc.) • Lead Male Mentoring Program (M.A.N. U.P.- Men Activating Newly Untapped Potential Connect with us at: • YT= https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLEELXi-wEkwTigHrq675HREOjHhQxQHJw&si=oBqoWDrGd5QbBMk9 • IG= https://www.instagram.com/deal2healpodcast/ • FB= https://www.facebook.com/Dealtoheal ***Disclaimer: This video is not sponsored. Some product links are affiliate links which means if you buy something we’ll receive a small commission. *** #girldad #fathers #daughters #podcast #love #education #entrepreneur #speaker #motivationalspeaker #motivation Deal to Heal with E James, E James podcast, healing journey, childhood trauma

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The Deal to Heal with E. James Podcast is a podcast dedicated to sharing a message of hope and healing to the world. On our podcast, my guest and I, discuss topics and ways to help us to heal in every area of our lives. Our belief, on the podcast, is that everyone can, and should, live a life that’s whole, healthy, and healed. So, our Mission is to help people to deal, heal, and fulfill. “Deal with their problems, heal from the pain, and fulfill their purpose.” We believe that as we heal ourselves, we heal our families. Our families heal our communities. And our communities heal our world.

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  • Creator
    Deal To Heal Podcasting Network
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    253
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © Earnest James
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    Deal To Heal With E. James