Intimacy Today

Sheena Glover
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Welcome to 'Intimacy in Progress,' the podcast where we talk about close relationships and how they change us. We share stories, talk with experts, and hear from you about the joys and challenges of getting close to others. This podcast is a place to learn about making our relationships better and feeling more connected to the people around us. Join us as we find out how being open and connected can make our lives better. 'Intimacy in Progress' is all about growing closer, one story at a time.

  1. 5d ago

    The Hidden Cost of Relationship Ambiguity

    Have you ever found yourself wondering, "We've been together for months... but what are we?" In this episode, Dr. Sheena Glover explores why relationship ambiguity can feel so emotionally exhausting, even when everything else seems to be going well. Many undefined relationships don't look casual from the outside. You're spending time together, meeting friends, celebrating holidays, and talking every day. Yet one person is still left wondering where they truly stand. This conversation isn't about blaming the partner who avoids commitment or telling you to demand labels. Instead, it's about understanding the psychology behind relationship ambiguity, why situationships can last far longer than either person intended, and how uncertainty quietly shapes both partners in different ways. You'll learn why one person may avoid commitment while the other avoids asking difficult questions, how hope can sometimes keep us stuck, and why clarity is ultimately an act of respect for both people involved. Whether you're currently in a situationship, questioning the future of your relationship, or simply interested in understanding relationship dynamics more deeply, this episode offers practical ways to move toward honest conversations and healthier decision-making. In This Episode Why undefined relationships often feel like committed relationships on the surfaceThe emotional toll of constantly wondering where you standWhy avoiding "the conversation" doesn't stop a relationship from moving forwardHow ambiguity can protect both partners in different waysThe hidden role hope plays in keeping people stuckWhy the issue usually isn't the label, but shared expectationsA simple exercise to uncover whether you're building the same future togetherHow to recognize the difference between a communication problem and a compatibility problemKey Takeaway Healthy relationships don't become clearer simply because time passes. They become clearer when two people are willing to honestly discuss where they're headed and whether they're building the same future. Reflection Questions Do we have the same understanding of what this relationship is?Are we making decisions with each other in mind?Have we ever talked openly about where we see this relationship a year from now?Am I staying because the relationship meets my needs, or because I'm hoping it eventually will?Connect If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe to the podcast and share it with someone who may be navigating the uncertainty of an undefined relationship. Honest conversations create healthier relationships, and sometimes clarity is the greatest gift two people can give each other. For more relationship insights and resources, visit www.intimacyinprogress.com

  2. Jul 21

    When Doing Everything Yourself Starts Hurting Your Relationship

    When Doing Everything Yourself Starts Hurting Your Relationship"I feel like I'm doing everything." It's one of the most common things I hear from new parents. What's surprising is that many times, the other partner is sitting right beside them thinking, "I want to help—I just don't know how anymore." Both experiences can be true. In this episode of Intimacy Today, we explore one of the most common relationship patterns couples fall into after becoming parents: one partner gradually takes ownership of everything, while the other slowly steps back—not because they don't care, but because they no longer know where they fit. Over time, that cycle creates exhaustion for one partner, discouragement for the other, and distance between both. The good news? It's a pattern that can be understood—and changed. In This Episode You'll learn: Why one partner often becomes the default parent without intending toHow "It's just easier if I do it myself" can slowly create emotional distanceWhy the other parent may stop stepping in—even when they genuinely want to helpThe difference between hesitation and disengagementHow anxiety and perfectionism can quietly take over parentingWhy "helping" isn't the same as sharing responsibilityPractical ways to build confidence, trust, and partnership instead of resentmentWhy This Happens For many people, taking care of everything didn't begin when they became parents. It began much earlier. Growing up, they may have learned that if something important needed to get done, they were the one responsible for making sure it happened. That strategy often leads to becoming incredibly capable, dependable, and organized—but parenthood asks us to do something much harder: Trust someone else with something we love more than anything. When that trust feels uncomfortable, it's easy to step in before your partner even has the chance. Over time, one person carries more and more responsibility while the other quietly loses confidence. Neither person is trying to create distance. They're simply responding to the relationship they're experiencing. Questions to Reflect On As you listen, consider: Have I been taking over without realizing it?Have I stopped stepping in because I assumed I wasn't needed?Do I see different as wrong?Are we asking each other for help—or sharing ownership together?What conversation have we been avoiding because we've been relying on assumptions instead?If This Sounds Familiar... This episode is for you if you: Feel like you're carrying the mental load of parenting.Constantly think, "It's easier if I just do it myself."Want to help but aren't sure how to step in anymore.Feel unappreciated, unseen, or disconnected since becoming parents.Miss feeling like you're on the same team.Parenthood doesn't just change your family—it changes your relationship. Learning to share responsibility, tolerate different parenting styles, and trust each other again isn't about lowering your standards. It's about creating a partnership where both parents can thrive. Because your child doesn't need one perfect parent carrying everything alone. They benefit most from watching two parents learn how to support one another. If this episode resonated with you, subscribe to Intimacy Today and share it with another parent who may need to hear they're not alone.

  3. May 27

    You Feel It But You Can’t Prove It

    One of the most confusing places to be in a relationship isn’t crisis but uncertainty. Nothing is obviously wrong, there’s no clear betrayal or defining moment, but something doesn’t feel right either. Conversations don’t quite land, connection feels inconsistent, and over time, a quiet sense of unease starts to build. You try to explain it, but the words don’t come easily, so you question yourself instead. In this episode of Intimacy Today, we explore what it means when something feels off in a relationship before you have language for it, why people often stay in that space longer than they want to, and how to start trusting what recurring patterns are showing you without rushing to conclusions. What We Explore: The difference between anxiety, intuition, and pattern recognitionWhy people second-guess themselves when nothing dramatic has happenedSubtle signs of emotional disengagement and misalignmentWhat relational ambivalence actually feels like in real lifeWhy loneliness can exist even inside a relationshipHow repair can happen without ever fully resolving anythingWhy people stay while privately grieving the relationshipHow the body often notices what the mind keeps minimizingReframing Relational Unease: Not every relationship problem comes with a clear headline; sometimes the signal is quieter. It shows up as patterns, emotional tone, or a shift in how the relationship feels over time. The question isn’t: “Can I prove something is wrong?” It’s: “What keeps happening that I keep trying to explain away?” Practical Reflection & Repair Tools: Instead of: “I don’t know, something just feels off…” or “Maybe I’m overthinking this…” Try getting more specific: “Do I feel lonely, dismissed, anxious, or unseen here?” “Do repair conversations actually change anything, or just calm things down temporarily?” “Do I feel more like myself in this relationship, or less?” “Is this a stressful season, or is this how things usually feel now?” Clarity doesn’t come from forcing answers, it comes from asking better questions. Patterns to Pay Attention To: You feel lonelier with them than without themYou edit yourself more than you used toYou feel relief when plans get canceledYou stop reaching for connectionYou feel more tired than nourished by the relationshipYou struggle to imagine a future that feels excitingThese aren’t automatic deal-breakers, but they are signals worth paying attention to. If you’ve ever: Felt like something was off but couldn’t explain why Second-guessed your own feelings because nothing “bad enough” happened Felt emotionally alone inside your relationship Wondered if you’re overreacting or missing something This episode is for you. Listen now and explore how to move from confusion and self-doubt to clarity and self-trust. Intimacy starts with you. #IntimacyInProgress #RelationshipClarity #AttachmentTheory #EmotionalIntimacy #RelationshipPsychology Additional Resources: Beyond Good or Bad: The Four Evaluative Quadrants – PMC Attachment and Breakup Distress – PMC We’re Not That Choosy: Emerging Evidence of a Progression Bias in Romantic Relationships – PMC

  4. May 20

    Why Every Fight Feels Exactly the Same

    One of the most frustrating parts of conflict in relationships isn’t just the argument itself, it’s the feeling that you’ve had this exact fight before. The topic might change, but the tone, the reactions, and the ending all feel familiar. One partner gets sharper or more intense, the other pulls back or shuts down. One pushes to resolve it immediately, the other needs space. Both people leave the conversation feeling unheard, misunderstood, or exhausted and over time, conflict stops feeling productive and starts feeling predictable. In this episode of Intimacy Today, we break down why conflict styles form, how couples get stuck in repeating patterns, and why most arguments aren’t random – they’re structured cycles shaped by nervous system responses, attachment patterns, and learned behavior. What We Explore: Why conflict styles become predictable over timeThe pursue–withdraw dynamic and how it escalates tensionWhat emotional flooding does to listening, empathy, and communicationWhy some reactions are about protection, not aggressionHow defensiveness often masks shame or fearWhy repair attempts matter more than “winning” an argumentHow family-of-origin patterns show up in adult conflictWhy the content of the fight changes, but the pattern stays the sameReframing Conflict: The goal isn’t to stop fighting, it’s to stop fighting in a way that makes connection impossible. Most couples aren’t dealing with a communication problem, they’re dealing with a pattern problem; and until the pattern is understood, the same fight will keep repeating with different headlines. Practical Repair Conversations & Tools: Instead of: “Why do we always fight like this?” “You never listen.” “You always shut down.” Try shifting toward awareness and structure: “Can we map what just happened between us?” “I think I came in strong and that made it harder to hear me.” “I’m starting to feel overwhelmed – can we pause and come back to this?” “I don’t want this to turn into the same cycle again.” “That came out harsher than I meant – let me try again.” Key Tools to Interrupt the Cycle: Map the pattern: Who raises the issue? Who escalates? Who withdraws? Who tries to repair? Seeing the sequence helps you stop treating each fight like a new problem. Use complaints, not character attacks: “I felt dismissed when you interrupted me” lands very differently than “You never listen.” Normalize flooding: If someone is overwhelmed, communication quality drops fast. Breaks aren’t avoidance if there’s a plan to return. Build a shared repair language: Simple phrases can interrupt escalation when both people trust them. Regulate before resolving: You cannot solve the problem if both nervous systems are still in fight-or-flight. If you’ve ever: Felt like every argument turns into the same fightFelt unheard, even when you’re trying to communicate clearlyShut down or escalated without meaning toWondered why conflict feels so intense or drainingThis episode is for you. Listen now and learn how to shift from reactive conflict patterns to intentional, repair-focused communication. Intimacy starts with you. #IntimacyInProgress #ConflictResolution #AttachmentTheory #CommunicationSkills #RelationshipPsychology Additional Resources: Managing Conflict: Solvable vs. Perpetual Problems – The Gottman Institute Manage Conflict: Repair and De-Escalate – The Gottman Institute

  5. May 13

    What Happens When You Change But Your Relationship Doesn’t

    One of the most disorienting experiences inside a relationship isn’t conflict – it’s change. You start thinking differently, communicating differently, needing different things and suddenly, the relationship that once felt natural starts to feel unfamiliar. One partner may feel like they’re evolving, healing, or stepping into a new version of themselves; while the other feels confused, left behind, or like they’re losing the version of the relationship they understood. Both people feel unsettled, and slowly, the tension isn’t about one specific issue – it’s about no longer feeling fully known or fully met. In this episode of Intimacy Today, we unpack what actually happens when identity shifts inside a relationship, why growth can create distance instead of connection, and how couples can either drift apart or learn how to meet each other again in the present. What We Explore: Why couples don’t automatically grow togetherHow identity shifts happen through therapy, parenthood, career changes, and healingWhat it feels like when a partner is relating to who you were, not who you areThe grief of outgrowing old dynamics and familiar versions of each otherWhy growth can trigger insecurity, comparison, or fear in a partnerThe difference between healthy differentiation and emotional disconnectionHow subtle hierarchy (“I’ve grown more than you”) damages connectionWhy relationships need to be updated as people evolveReframing Relationship Growth: Growth doesn’t automatically strengthen a relationship: it changes it. When that change isn’t acknowledged, couples often start operating from outdated versions of each other; which creates confusion, misinterpretation, and emotional distance. The real question isn’t, “Why can’t we go back to how things were?” It’s: “Can we learn who we are now?” Practical Repair Conversations: Instead of: “Why are you so different now?” “Why can’t things just go back to normal?” Try questions like… “I don’t think I’m the same person I was a few years ago, do you feel that too?” “Do you feel like we’re still relating to older versions of each other?” “What feels different for you in this relationship right now?” “What would it look like for us to learn from each other again from here?” Naming the shift creates clarity, and clarity creates the possibility for reconnection. If you’ve ever: Felt like you’ve outgrown parts of your relationshipFelt misunderstood by a partner who knew an older version of youFelt afraid that growth might create distance instead of closenessWondered whether change means incompatibilityThis episode is for you. Listen now and explore how to move from confusion and disconnection to clarity and intentional reconnection. Intimacy starts with you. #IntimacyInProgress #RelationshipGrowth #AttachmentTheory #EmotionalIntimacy #RelationshipPsychology Additional Resources: Romantic Relationships and Mental Health – PMC Thriving Through Relationships – PMC

  6. Apr 22

    Why Some Arguments Never Go Away

    If you’ve ever thought, “Why are we fighting about this again? You are not alone. Some arguments don’t disappear; and not because your relationship is broken, but because two people are different – and difference doesn’t need elimination, it needs understanding. In this episode of Intimacy Today, we explore why certain conflicts repeat, how the brain and nervous system fuel escalation, and why the goal of conflict isn’t resolution every time but learning how to navigate differences without destroying connection. The healthiest couples don’t avoid conflict, they get better at having it. What We Explore: Why personality differences create ongoing conflict patternsThe concept of “different operating systems” in relationshipsThe pursue–withdraw escalation cycleWhat happens in the brain during arguments (and why logic disappears)Emotional flooding and how it blocks productive communicationWhy repeated arguments often signal meaning, not malfunctionHow to shift from eliminating conflict to managing itThe Core Reframe: Repeated conflict means that you’re bumping into a permanent difference; and research often shows that many long-term conflicts aren’t solvable problems – they’re ongoing negotiations between two valid perspectives. It’s less like solving a math equation, and more like learning how to dance with someone who moves differently than you do. Understanding the Brain in Conflict: When arguments escalate, the brain shifts into threat mode – think of it like a smoke alarm going off while you’re trying to cook dinner. Even if nothing is actually on fire, the noise makes it nearly impossible to think clearly. During this state: you talk louderyou listen lessyou react fasterThe conversation stops being productive because your nervous system is trying to protect you, not connect with your partner. Practical Shift: Instead of asking: “How do we fix this argument?” Ask:  “How do we handle this difference without hurting each other?” Not all conflict is meant to be solved, some of it is meant to be understood. If you’ve ever: Had the same argument on repeatFelt like nothing ever truly gets resolvedWondered if compatibility means never fightingThis episode is for you. Listen now and explore how to move from repetitive conflict to relational resilience. Intimacy starts with you. https://intimacyinprogress.com/ #IntimacyInProgress #ConflictResolution #RelationshipPsychology #AttachmentTheory #CouplesTherapy Additional Resources: Your Brain During Arguments Why You Keep Having the Same Argument

  7. Apr 15

    Why Couples Fight About Money

    Many couples assume financial conflict only happens when money is tight, but money fights show up in wealthy relationships too.  No one is exempt from these types of challenges because money arguments are rarely about money. They’re about what money represents. SecurityFreedomControlSafetyIn this episode of Intimacy Today, we unpack why financial conflict is one of the most emotionally charged dynamics in relationships; and why couples often argue about spending when they’re actually arguing about fear – because when money gets emotional, logic quietly leaves the room. What We Explore: Why money activates core fears around survival and controlHow financial arguments often mask deeper emotional concernsThe role of hidden financial narratives in relationship conflictWhy savers and spenders misinterpret each other’s behaviorHow financial avoidance creates long-term relational damageThe impact of power dynamics and income differencesWhy financial secrecy erodes trust faster than overspending The Core Truth: You’re not arguing about the purchase, you’re arguing about what the purchase means. To one partner, spending may feel like freedom and too the other, it may feel like danger – and without context, both people assume the worst. Practical Repair Conversations: Instead of: “You’re irresponsible with money.” Try:  “What did money feel like growing up for you?” “What helps you feel financially safe?” “What are we trying to build together long-term?”Shared meaning reduces conflict, and criticism amplifies it. If you’ve ever: Had the same argument about spending over and overFelt anxious or controlled in financial conversationsAvoided money talks altogether just to keep the peaceThis episode is for you. Listen now and explore how to shift from financial tension to financial teamwork. Intimacy starts with you.  https://intimacyinprogress.com/ #IntimacyInProgress #MoneyAndRelationships #FinancialIntimacy #RelationshipPsychology #CouplesTherapy Additional Resources: Liberty University – The Impact of Economic Stress on Marital Satisfaction American Psychological Association – Money and Relationship Conflict The Gottman Institute – Financial Infidelity Can Put Your Relationship At Risk

  8. Apr 8

    Why Couples Stop Having Sex (And What It Actually Means)

    One of the most emotionally painful conflicts couples face is sexual disconnection, but the story most people tell themselves about that disconnection is often wrong. One partner believes: “They’re not attracted to me anymore.” The other believes: “Something must be wrong with me because I can’t want sex the way they do.” Both people feel rejected, both people feel pressure, and slowly, sex stops being a place of connection and starts becoming a scoreboard of hurt feelings. In this episode of Intimacy Today, we unpack why loss of desire rarely means loss of love; and how most couples are actually caught in a stress cycle, not a compatibility issue – because the problem usually isn’t attraction but the environment in which attraction is trying to exist.  What We Explore: Why sexual disconnection feels deeply personal (even when it isn’t)The Pursuer–Withdrawer cycle and how it quietly escalates pressureWhy emotional disconnection often shows up as sexual disconnectionThe difference between spontaneous desire and responsive desireHow stress, resentment, and nervous system overload suppress attractionWhy avoidance is often protective, not rejectingHow couples accidentally argue about the symptom instead of the rootReframing Sexual Disconnection: Sexual conflict is rarely about sex. It’s about emotional safety, stress levels, unspoken resentment, and feeling valued vs feeling pressured. When the relationship environment feels tense, the body doesn’t lean toward desire, it leans toward protection. Practical Repair Conversations: Instead of:  “Why don’t you want me anymore?” try questions like… “What helps you feel relaxed and safe with me?”“Do you feel pressure when this comes up?”“What kind of closeness helps your desire come online?”Curiosity creates connection, and pressure shuts it down. If you’ve ever: Felt rejected when your partner’s desire changedFelt pressure to want sex you didn’t feel ready forWondered if your relationship was broken because your sex life changedThis episode is for you. Listen now and explore how to move from pressure and misinterpretation to understanding and reconnection. Intimacy starts with you. https://intimacyinprogress.com/ #IntimacyInProgress #DesireMismatch #RelationshipPsychology #AttachmentTheory #EmotionalIntimacy Additional Resources: The Gottman Institute – Desire in Longterm Relationships Adult Attachment, Stress, and Romantic Relationships

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Welcome to 'Intimacy in Progress,' the podcast where we talk about close relationships and how they change us. We share stories, talk with experts, and hear from you about the joys and challenges of getting close to others. This podcast is a place to learn about making our relationships better and feeling more connected to the people around us. Join us as we find out how being open and connected can make our lives better. 'Intimacy in Progress' is all about growing closer, one story at a time.

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  • Creator
    Sheena Glover
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    14
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 Intimacy Today
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