Journey to Lasting Love

Tina Shayani
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Welcome to Journey to Lasting Love! I’m Tina Shayani, a relationship coach with 25+ years of marriage experience, helping individuals and couples create deep, lasting connections. Each episode dives into finding the right partner, strengthening relationships, and reigniting passion with expert insights and actionable advice. 💡 What You'll Gain: ✔️ Proven dating & relationship strategies ✔️ Mindset shifts for lasting love ✔️ Tips to build trust & intimacy 🔔 Subscribe now & join the journey! ❤️ 🔗 Visit the Website: ⁠⁠⁠TShayCoaching.com⁠⁠⁠ 📸 Follow on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@JourneyToLastingLove⁠⁠

  1. 1d ago

    S3EP2: Miserable or Happy. It’s Your Fault.

    If you are miserable, it’s your fault. If you are happy, that’s your fault too. This week I explain why that is the best news you’ll hear all year, and I give you the tools to do something with it. You have a happiness thermostat. It’s set to a number, and every time life turns the heat up, you find something to be unhappy about until you’re back where you started. Gay Hendricks calls it the upper limit. I’ve watched people destroy a good and wonderful relationship with a truly good and wonderful person because of it. I’ve caught myself doing it too. In this episode:The woman who has been at the same crossroads for 29 yearsBlame versus responsibility, and why responsibility is the power positionWhy anger is a step up from victim, and why you don’t go from one to ten in one shotThe happiness thermostat and the upper limitThe vacation where I picked a fight with my husband for no reason, and how I caught itThe friend who waited for the other shoe to fall until it didWhy the thermostat also protects you, and how to raise it two degrees at a timeWhy the biggest mistake at a crossroads is not choosing Chapters:0:00 Intro0:38 It’s your fault1:03 Who this is for: the crossroads2:52 29 years at the same crossroads4:34 Blame versus responsibility6:50 From victim to anger is progress8:06 The happiness thermostat10:30 The upper limit11:57 The vacation story13:55 Waiting for the other shoe to fall16:14 The choice is up to you16:39 The lower limit protects you17:58 Raise it two degrees at a time19:39 Pick a direction21:37 Closing22:11 Outro If you’re ready to move forward, don’t just think about it. Go to Instagram, find me at @journeytolastinglove, and DM me the word ENOUGH. I’ll send you my free guide.

  2. Oct 8

    S3EP1: Nothing Is Perfect. That's the Point.

    "I'll be happy when." When it finally feels easy. When the next one is different. When nothing needs work anymore. In the 1960s a scientist built rats a perfect world. Unlimited food, no predators, nothing to struggle for. The colony collapsed. This week I take that experiment into the coaching room and into your relationship. In this episode:Why the perfect relationship has never existed, and why you wouldn't want itDeal breakers: the one that's black and white, and why the rest are yours to defineWhy the crossroads you keep hitting is the relationship asking you to growWhy a good coach never tells you what to doHow to know if this is a relationship you belong in, or if it's time to walk awayWhy it doesn't have to be horrifying to leave, and why limbo is where relationships turn toxic Chapters:0:00 Intro0:38 "I'll be happy when"1:40 The rat utopia4:30 No relationship on earth is perfect5:30 Deal breakers are yours6:30 The crossroads is the gift9:30 Nobody should tell you what to do10:30 Limbo, and deciding13:00 It doesn't have to be horrifying to leave15:00 You create your own happiness18:00 Outro If you're ready to move forward, don't just think about it. Go to Instagram, find me at @journeytolastinglove, and DM me the word ENOUGH. I'll send you my free guide.

  3. 11/11/2025

    Never Again Will I Be Hurt Like That: The Hidden Cost of Protecting Your Heart

    What happens after the heartbreak — when you quietly promise yourself “Never again”?You build the walls. You get strong. You learn to keep people at a safe distance.But what if that vow to protect yourself is also what’s keeping real love from finding you? In this episode, Tina Shayani explores the hidden cost of emotional self-protection — how the walls you build to avoid pain can also keep out the connection and depth you’re longing for.You’ll learn how to open your heart again without losing yourself, how to separate fear from wisdom, and how to turn your pain into power. 🔑 Key Points The “Never again” vow: how pain quietly shapes your beliefs about love. Why emotional walls don’t just keep people out — they keep you stuck. How avoiding vulnerability limits your ability to experience real joy. The difference between discernment and defensiveness. Why rejection isn’t rejection — it’s redirection. How to reopen your heart without repeating old mistakes. The quiet courage of trying again, even when your heart remembers the pain. You can’t protect yourself from heartbreak and still expect to feel deep love. Pain is inevitable — suffering is optional. Real strength isn’t in avoiding pain; it’s in walking through it with grace. You are not being rejected by life — you’re being redirected toward what fits. Vulnerability is not weakness. It’s the doorway to connection. 🌺Listener Takeaways You can’t protect yourself from heartbreak and still expect to feel deep love. Pain is inevitable — suffering is optional. Real strength isn’t in avoiding pain; it’s in walking through it with grace. You are not being rejected by life — you’re being redirected toward what fits. Vulnerability is not weakness. It’s the doorway to connection.

  4. 11/04/2025

    Are You Working on a Fixer-Upper?

    You can’t build a healthy relationship by trying to fix someone.In this episode, Tina Shayani breaks down why caring, capable people keep falling for “projects” — and how to finally stop confusing potential with partnership. In This Episode: Why smart, loving people get trapped in “project relationships.” How movies and fairy tales taught us to confuse love with saving. The difference between inspiration and rescue. What “dating a promise instead of a person” looks like. Two real stories (Sarah & Eliana) and what finally helped them stop repeating the same pattern. Key Takeaways: You can’t heal someone through love — they have to want to change. If it’s inconsistent now, it won’t magically fix itself later. You’re not in love with them — you’re in love with their potential. A promise can’t love you back. Real love is partnership, not a project. Chapters:00:00 – Intro: Building Love That Lasts00:36 – The “Fixer-Upper” Relationship Pattern02:45 – Why We Fall for Projects07:10 – The Danger of Falling for Potential11:15 – Sarah’s Story: Loving from Survival, Not Wholeness17:10 – Eliana’s Story: Chemistry vs. Anxiety21:15 – The Wake-Up Moment: Awareness Is Power23:40 – The Shift from Fantasy to Reality27:00 – How to Stop Choosing Fixer-Uppers Connect with Tina:Instagram → @JourneyToLastingLoveFacebook → TShay CoachingDM the word CYCLE to get your free guide: Breaking the Cycle

  5. 10/08/2025

    S2EP25: Am I expecting too much? Or not enough?

    In this episode of Journey to Lasting Love, host Tina Shayani explores the complexities of relationship standards, addressing the common dilemma of whether individuals are asking for too much or not enough in their romantic pursuits. She emphasizes the importance of having personal standards while cautioning against using them as a defense mechanism to avoid vulnerability. The conversation delves into the balance between giving potential partners a chance and recognizing deal-breakers, ultimately guiding listeners towards a path of self-awareness and successful relationships. Takeaways Standards are your rights and preferences in relationships. It's crucial to know what you want in a partner. Using standards as a defense mechanism can hinder relationships. Give people a chance to surprise you. Don't linger in relationships that don't meet your standards. Identify which category you fall into regarding relationship standards. Self-knowledge is key to navigating relationships successfully. Let go of those who are not meant for you. The journey to finding the right partner involves sorting through many options. Building a successful relationship requires ongoing effort and commitment. 🌟 Stay Connected & Transform Your Love Life! 🌟 💖 Ready to break free from unhealthy patterns and attract lasting love? Join Tina Shayani on your journey to a fulfilling relationship. 🔗 Visit the Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TShayCoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📸 Follow on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@JourneyToLastingLove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 👍 Like on Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TShay Coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ▶️ Subscribe on YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@TShayCoaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💼 Connect on LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tina Shayani⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🔔 Follow & Subscribe so you never miss an episode—your journey to real love starts today! 💕✨

  6. 10/01/2025

    S2EP24: Why Do I Attract the Wrong People

    In this episode of Journey to Lasting Love, host Tina Shayani explores the reasons why individuals often attract the wrong partners in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, the power of beliefs, and the role of hope in overcoming negative experiences. Through understanding attraction patterns and learning from past relationships, listeners are encouraged to shift their mindset and focus on personal growth to create healthier connections. Takeaways Attraction patterns often stem from our beliefs and focus. Self-awareness is crucial in recognizing negative patterns. Negative experiences can teach valuable lessons about what we want. Hope is essential for resilience in relationships. We have the power to change our point of attraction. Beliefs shape our reality and experiences in love. Awareness of subconscious beliefs can lead to personal growth. Every relationship serves a purpose in our journey. Empowerment comes from recognizing our own strength. Learning from past mistakes helps us move forward. 🌟 Stay Connected & Transform Your Love Life! 🌟 💖 Ready to break free from unhealthy patterns and attract lasting love? Join Tina Shayani on your journey to a fulfilling relationship. 🔗 Visit the Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TShayCoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📸 Follow on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@JourneyToLastingLove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 👍 Like on Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TShay Coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ▶️ Subscribe on YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@TShayCoaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💼 Connect on LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tina Shayani⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🔔 Follow & Subscribe so you never miss an episode—your journey to real love starts today! 💕✨

  7. 09/24/2025

    S2EP23: Surviving Heartbreak

    In this episode, Tina Shayani discusses the emotional pain associated with breakups and offers guidance on how to navigate the healing process. She emphasizes the importance of acknowledging the pain, implementing a no contact rule, letting go of fantasies about the relationship, finding support, and learning from the experience to foster personal growth. Takeaways The pain of a breakup is real and excruciating. You can survive the pain of a breakup. Going no contact is crucial for healing. Letting go of the relationship is difficult but necessary. Understanding the source of pain helps in the healing process. You must sever ties completely to heal effectively. It's normal to grieve the loss of a future you imagined with the person. Love alone is not enough to sustain a relationship. Breakups can lead to personal growth and learning. You have the power to heal and move forward. 🌟 Stay Connected & Transform Your Love Life! 🌟 💖 Ready to break free from unhealthy patterns and attract lasting love? Join Tina Shayani on your journey to a fulfilling relationship. 🔗 Visit the Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TShayCoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📸 Follow on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@JourneyToLastingLove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 👍 Like on Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TShay Coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ▶️ Subscribe on YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@TShayCoaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💼 Connect on LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tina Shayani⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🔔 Follow & Subscribe so you never miss an episode—your journey to real love starts today! 💕✨

  8. 09/15/2025

    S2EP22: The Hardest Decision in Love: Stay or Walk Away

    In this episode of Journey to Lasting Love, host Tina Shayani discusses the complexities of relationships, focusing on the critical decision of whether to stay or walk away. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing deal breakers in both boyfriend-girlfriend dynamics and marriages, highlighting the need for respectful communication and the power of kindness in conflict resolution. The conversation provides insights into navigating relationship challenges and making informed decisions about love and commitment.TakeawaysRelationships should be wonderful and amazing.The boyfriend-girlfriend stage is a discovery period.Walking away from a bad relationship is not a failure.Inattention can lead to the death of a relationship.Marriages are not transactional; they require mutual growth.You can choose your reaction in difficult situations.You have the power to create change in your relationship.Proper tools and guidance can improve relationships.Decide on deal breakers before deepening commitment.There is a way to end relationships with kindness.BIOHi, I'm Tina Shayani, founder of TShay Coaching. For over 5 years, I've been guiding women like you on their journey to find authentic, lasting love.I understand the frustration of searching for that special someone. I was once there too – yearning for a deep connection, but feeling stuck. Through years of personal growth and learning from both successes and setbacks, I developed proven strategies to attract and build fulfilling relationships.Now happily married to a wonderful family, I'm passionate about helping you create a love life rooted in self-love, confidence, and clarity. My coaching combines practical tools, heartfelt conversations, and a deep understanding of universal laws to help you find the love and happiness you deserve. 🌟 Stay Connected & Transform Your Love Life! 🌟 💖 Ready to break free from unhealthy patterns and attract lasting love? Join Tina Shayani on your journey to a fulfilling relationship. 🔗 Visit the Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TShayCoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📸 Follow on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@JourneyToLastingLove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 👍 Like on Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TShay Coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ▶️ Subscribe on YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@TShayCoaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💼 Connect on LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tina Shayani⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🔔 Follow & Subscribe so you never miss an episode—your journey to real love starts today! 💕✨

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Welcome to Journey to Lasting Love! I’m Tina Shayani, a relationship coach with 25+ years of marriage experience, helping individuals and couples create deep, lasting connections. Each episode dives into finding the right partner, strengthening relationships, and reigniting passion with expert insights and actionable advice. 💡 What You'll Gain: ✔️ Proven dating & relationship strategies ✔️ Mindset shifts for lasting love ✔️ Tips to build trust & intimacy 🔔 Subscribe now & join the journey! ❤️ 🔗 Visit the Website: ⁠⁠⁠TShayCoaching.com⁠⁠⁠ 📸 Follow on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@JourneyToLastingLove⁠⁠

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  • Creator
    Tina Shayani
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    41
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Tina Shayani
  • Show Website
    Journey to Lasting Love