The Awakened Woman with Jessica Hayes

Jessica Hayes
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This is where women come to question the stories, patterns and expectations that have shaped them and discover who they really are underneath them. Hosted by relationship coach Jessica Hayes, each episode explores self-love, identity, relationships, healing, confidence, purpose, motherhood, intimacy and the messy, beautiful process of becoming. Jessica is the friend who will make you laugh, challenge your b******t, lovingly call you out and help you see where you might be abandoning yourself. Let's dive in!

  1. Oct 8

    S4E1. I’m Back: What Motherhood Has Taught Me About Love, Life & Myself

    I'm back! It's been a long time since I sat behind this microphone and a lot has happened since you last heard from me. I became a mum. Our relationship changed. My identity changed. And, in ways I didn't expect, I changed. In this episode, I’m sharing what the last 10 months of motherhood have taught me about love, relationships, identity and becoming and why I'm bringing The Awakened Woman back with a new perspective. We talk about motherhood, navigating a relationship after having a baby, losing and finding yourself, relationship patterns, taking responsibility without taking the blame, and why the relationship changes when you do. Because your relationship is more than something you need to fix. It can be a catalyst for your awakening. 💌 Download My Relationship Guide ⁠HERE⁠ 🫶 Join My Women's Circle ⁠HERE⁠ Save these, send them to your partner and talk them through before baby arrives. 1️⃣ What are your expectations of me during the first six weeks? 2️⃣ What kind of mum/dad and partner, do you want to be? 3️⃣ How will you support me while I'm healing, physically and emotionally? 4️⃣ How do we feel about co-sleeping/bed-sharing and breastfeeding? 5️⃣ How will we protect our connection, intimacy and relationship when life revolves around baby? 6️⃣ How will we approach finances if one of us stays home? 7️⃣ How will we communicate when we're tired, overwhelmed or disagree about parenting? 8️⃣ What does self-care look like for each of us, and how will we make space for it? 9️⃣ How will household responsibilities and the mental load be shared? 🔟 How will we continue to show love, appreciation and affection? 1️⃣1️⃣ How will we both continue to prioritise our personal growth? 1️⃣2️⃣ What do we want our relationship to look and feel like once we become parents — and how will we protect it? Because it's not just about asking, “How will we care for the baby?” It's also about asking, “How will we care for us?”

  2. 11/12/2025

    S3E9. Everyone Wants a Village, But Not Everyone Wants to Be a Villager: When ‘Protecting Your Peace’ Becomes the Problem.

    In this final episode before I step away for maternity leave, I want to leave you with something that’s been sitting on my heart, the truth about community, connection, and the modern obsession with “protecting your peace.” We live in a world that celebrates independence, self-care, and boundaries, all important things. But somewhere along the way, the “self, self, self” narrative began to isolate us. We say we want a village, but many of us struggle to actually be villagers. People struggle to show up, serve, and stay connected when it’s uncomfortable or inconvenient. In this conversation, we’ll explore: 💭 Why everyone craves a village but few want the responsibility that comes with it 💭 How the “protect your peace” movement can unintentionally lead to loneliness and disconnection 💭 The difference between healthy boundaries and emotional walls 💭 What it really takes to build authentic support 💭 How to balance your own needs while still being part of something bigger than yourself 💭 How to stop comparing the people in your life and start seeing everyone’s uniqueness. As I prepare to welcome my baby and step into my own season of needing my village, this episode is both a reflection and a gentle reminder… Real community asks for our presence, not just our preferences. Sometimes peace isn’t found in pulling away, it’s found in showing up. Follow on social media for updates and additional resources: → Follow Jessica on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessicahayescoaching/ → Check out the website and my offerings: https://www.jessicahayes.com/ We’d love to hear your thoughts on this episode! Reach out to us and tag @jessicahayescoaching on social media or email us at jessica@jessicahayes.com Thank you for listening! Let’s get into it! 🎙✨

  3. 10/08/2025

    S3E8. Confession: I Don’t Know What I’m Doing With My Life (motherhood, home, & business)

    In this honest and heartfelt episode, I’m opening up about something we’ve all felt but rarely admit out loud: “I don’t know what I’m doing with my life.” Whether it’s motherhood, home life, relationships or business, there are seasons where the path feels blurry and the balance impossible. But what if not knowing is actually the beginning of deeper alignment? Join me as we explore how to navigate uncertainty, reconnect with your intuition, and find peace in the in-between. Because even when life feels messy and unclear, you’re still being guided. We Chat: The messy middle of not knowing what’s next Letting go of the pressure to have everything figured out Listening to your intuition when everyone else seems to have it figured out How to trust the universe and surrender control The beauty and purpose in seasons of waiting or realignment Reconnecting with your identity beyond roles and responsibilities Finding peace in the in-between Follow on social media for updates and additional resources: → Follow Jessica on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessicahayescoaching/ → Check out the website and my offerings: https://www.jessicahayes.com/ We’d love to hear your thoughts on this episode! Reach out to us and tag @jessicahayescoaching on social media or email us at jessica@jessicahayes.com Thank you for listening! Let’s get into it! 🎙✨

  4. 09/24/2025

    S3E7. How I’ve Been Standing in My Own Way and Blocking My Desires

    In this episode, I’m opening up about the very real ways I’ve been sabotaging the things I’ve always said I wanted. From love to peace to alignment, I’ve noticed how often I find fault, question, or push away the very opportunities I’ve been calling in. I also talk about the trap of getting caught up in “the shoulds”, who I think I should be, what my life should look like, how I should be further ahead. Add in the weight of comparison, and it’s no surprise I’ve been ruining my own peace and blocking my desires without even realising it. I share my personal journey of recognising these patterns,How control, fear, and self-sabotage were keeping me stuck, The lessons I’m learning about surrendering, trusting the process, and finally letting go. This episode is for you if you’ve ever: Asked for something, only to resist it when it shows up Felt like you were protecting your peace, but realised you were actually blocking it Struggled with comparison or feeling trapped by “shoulds” Wondered if you’re standing in your own way My hope is that by sharing my struggles with sabotage, comparison, and surrender, you’ll feel less alone in your own journey, and inspired to soften, trust, and allow what you truly desire to come in. You can find the eclipse workshop I did by Chris Corsini HERE Follow on social media for updates and additional resources: → Follow Jessica on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessicahayescoaching/ → Check out the website and my offerings: https://www.jessicahayes.com/ We’d love to hear your thoughts on this episode! Reach out to us and tag @jessicahayescoaching on social media or email us at jessica@jessicahayes.com Thank you for listening! Let’s get into it! 🎙✨

  5. 09/10/2025

    S3E6. Attachment Styles in Love : How Anxious, Avoidant, and Secure Attachment Show Up in Relationships

    🔝 Private 1:1 Coaching NOW OPEN - ⁠⁠⁠BOOK A FREE CALL⁠⁠⁠ 🆓 Download the free Weekly Couple's Check-in Guide - Conscious Love ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ ❤️‍🔥 Watch my free masterclass — How To Get Your Man To Lead ⁠⁠HERE⁠ In this episode, we’ll unpack the three main styles, anxious, avoidant, and secure and explore how each one shows up in modern relationships. You’ll learn where these patterns come from, how they shape the way we connect, and most importantly, how you can move toward a healthier, more secure way of loving. Whether you see yourself as anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between, this episode offers insight, compassion, and practical tools for growth. Why do some of us crave closeness while others pull away? Why are some relationships calm and steady while others feel like a rollercoaster? The answer often lies in our attachment style. What You’ll Learn: The basics of attachment theory and why it matters in love.Key traits of anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment.How these patterns form in childhood and show up in modern dating and relationships.The common anxious/avoidant “dance” and why it’s so painful (yet common).Practical steps anxious and avoidant partners can take to become more secure.How to break attachment cycles so they’re not passed on to your children. Follow on social media for updates and additional resources: → Follow Jessica on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessicahayescoaching/ → Check out the website and my offerings: https://www.jessicahayes.com/ We’d love to hear your thoughts on this episode! Reach out to us and tag @jessicahayescoaching on social media or email us at jessica@jessicahayes.com Thank you for listening! Let’s get into it! 🎙✨

  6. 09/03/2025

    S3E5. What to Do When You and Your Partner aren't Growing at the Same Pace

    🔝 Private 1:1 Coaching NOW OPEN - ⁠⁠BOOK A FREE CALL⁠⁠ 🆓 Download the free Weekly Couple's Check-in Guide - Conscious Love ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ In this episode, we dive into one of the most relatable and sometimes challenging aspects of relationships...what happens when you and the people you love are growing at different paces. From friendships where one friend is having kids while another is traveling the world, to romantic partnerships where timelines don’t always match up, we explore how to stay connected without needing to be on the same timeline. You’ll hear insights on: Why friendships can thrive even when life stages look completely different. How to tell the difference between a temporary pacing mismatch and a deeper incompatibility in romantic relationships. The role of patience and support when your partner seems “behind” in certain areas. Practical ways to maintain emotional connection when the outside circumstances don’t align. The importance of focusing on direction and values over synchronised milestones. How to set clear timeline boundaries when you're partner keeps refusing to do the work or grow.The importance of finding a community that aligns with the direction you are heading. Final Takeaway: Life will always place us on different timelines, but what matters most is walking in the same direction with respect, love, and curiosity. Connection doesn’t depend on identical pacing, it depends on choosing to grow together in the ways that matter most. Follow on social media for updates and additional resources: → Follow Jessica on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessicahayescoaching/ → Check out the website and my offerings: https://www.jessicahayes.com/ We’d love to hear your thoughts on this episode! Reach out to us and tag @jessicahayescoaching on social media or email us at jessica@jessicahayes.com Thank you for listening! Let’s get into it! 🎙✨

  7. 08/27/2025

    S3E4. Couple Power Struggles: The Feminine Shift That Inspires Him to Lead

    🔝 Private 1:1 Coaching NOW OPEN - ⁠BOOK A FREE CALL⁠ 🆓 Watch my free masterclass - How To Get Your Man To Lead ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the most misunderstood and most transformative dynamics in love: masculine and feminine energy. We’ll go beyond the stereotypes and explore what these energies actually mean, how they show up in everyday life, and why understanding them is a game-changer for intimacy, attraction, and repair in modern relationships. I’ll also share practical tips for women who want to soften into their feminine and how that shift can inspire their partner to rise into healthy masculine leadership. Here’s what you’ll hear: What masculine & feminine energy really are (and why they’re not about gender roles)The shadow expressions of each energy and how they sabotage loveEveryday examples of imbalance in couples: when both are in masculine (power struggles), both in feminine (chaos/indecision), and what healthy polarity actually looks likeWhy modern life pulls so many women into masculine energy and how it leaves them feeling exhaustedPractical ways to lean into your feminine and create space for your partner to leadThe role of polarity in keeping intimacy and attraction alive long-termSimple shifts that help couples repair faster and connect deeper deeply aligned. I cannot wait to welcome you into this world! Follow on social media for updates and additional resources: → Follow Jessica on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessicahayescoaching/ → Check out the website and my offerings: https://www.jessicahayes.com/ We’d love to hear your thoughts on this episode! Reach out to us and tag @jessicahayescoaching on social media or email us at jessica@jessicahayes.com Thank you for listening! Let’s get into it! 🎙✨

  8. 08/20/2025

    S3E3. Clarity Over Chaos: The #1 shift that transformed the way I communicate in my relationship

    🔝 Private 1:1 Coaching NOW OPEN - BOOK A FREE CALL 🆓 Watch my free masterclass - How To Get Your Man To Lead ⁠HERE⁠ Ever felt like you’re saying all the right things in your relationship… but still not being heard? The truth is, it’s not always what you’re saying, it’s the clarity behind it. In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the exact shift that changed everything for me: getting crystal clear on what words like chosen, safe, and romantic actually meant to me, and then communicating from that place. Here’s what you’ll hear: The difference between asking for “more romance” vs. defining romance on your terms.How lack of clarity creates chaos, assumptions, and unnecessary conflict.The magnetic power of knowing exactly what you need and being unapologetic about it.My personal story of how this shift took me from frustration to feeling fully seen in my relationship.A simple exercise to define what “chosen,” “safe,” and “romanced” really mean to you.Clarity is sexy because it’s confident, it’s direct, and it makes love feel safe, effortless, and deeply aligned. 👉 Listener Challenge: Using the journal prompts below to get clear of your definitions of chosen, safe, and romance. Then, share them with your partner or use them as your personal compass in dating. When do I feel most X in our relationship?When do I feel least X in our relationship?What can my partner do to increase X in our relationship?What can I do to increase my sense of X in our relationship?What do I do that reduces my sense of X in our relationship? Getting the love you want Book - HERE I cannot wait to welcome you into this world! Follow on social media for updates and additional resources: → Follow Jessica on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessicahayescoaching/ → Check out the website and my offerings: https://www.jessicahayes.com/ We’d love to hear your thoughts on this episode! Reach out to us via social media or email us at jessica@jessicahayes.com Thank you for listening! Let’s get into it! 🎙✨

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This is where women come to question the stories, patterns and expectations that have shaped them and discover who they really are underneath them. Hosted by relationship coach Jessica Hayes, each episode explores self-love, identity, relationships, healing, confidence, purpose, motherhood, intimacy and the messy, beautiful process of becoming. Jessica is the friend who will make you laugh, challenge your b******t, lovingly call you out and help you see where you might be abandoning yourself. Let's dive in!

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