Midlife by (Human) Design: Purpose, Perimenopause, Menopause, Wellness, Mindset & Woo that Works

Lori Lisai
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Midlife by (Human) Design is the podcast for women in midlife who feel called to redesign the second half of life--consciously, spiritually, and on their own terms. If you're asking: Who am I now? Why doesn't the life I built fit anymore? Why does everything feel off, even though nothing's technically wrong? What choice would I make if I actually trusted myself? --you're in the right place. This show is for women navigating midlife as the initiation it is. Through Human Design, spirituality, perimenopause and menopause wisdom, and grounded real-life practices, we explore what it means to become the woman you're here to be in the second half of life. I'm your host, Lori Lisai, a Human Design guide and coach for midlife women. I help women stop outsourcing their authority, understand their energy, and make aligned decisions as they shed the shoulds and be who they came here to be. Each week, we dive into: ✨ Human Design teachings that help you trust yourself and your decisions 🌙 Perimenopause + menopause through a mind–body–energy lens 🔥 Identity shifts, purpose pivots, and the unraveling that precedes reinvention 🌿 Energy management and self-care that actually restores you 💫 Spiritual insights, archetypes, and real stories of women consciously authoring the second half of life If you've been wondering where your spark went and how to get it back, you're in the right place. This is a space for women who are dreaming bigger (or want to) and who know that midlife is the opportunity to finally be your authentic self. It's where meaning deepens, intuition sharpens, and a truer life becomes possible. Each episode is part teaching, part reflection, part permission slip—with practical tools, honest conversations, and the occasional well-placed F-bomb. Midlife is the perfect time of life. You're becoming someone new. Let's make sure she feels like home. 🎧 Next Steps: 📬 Get Wild Woman Wisdom in Your Inbox Get my newsletter for Human Design transits, astrology, & offerings I don't share anywhere else. 👉 lorilisai.com/#newsletter 📥 Get your Human Design chart and the free HD Mini Guide (and grab the Perimenopause Survival Guide while you're at it) 👉 https://www.lorilisai.com/workwithlori 📱 Follow Me on Instagram + Threads Where midlife meets real talk, Human Design, sweetness and sass 👉 @lorilisai 💬 Got a Question for the Pod? DM me on IG or drop a message—your story might inspire a future episode. *Disclaimer: Information provided in this podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The information is not intended or implied to supplement or replace professional medical treatment, advice, and/or diagnosis. I share the strategies that have worked for me and you are advised to do your own research and speak to your medical provider for care.

  1. 6D AGO

    Ep 109: From Low Libido to Erotic Liberation: What Midlife Women Need to Know About Desire with Linda River Valente

    You've been partnered for decades, raised kids, built a career—and somewhere along the way, passion took a backseat. Maybe you watched Heated Rivalry and realized you've been accepting a version of intimacy that doesn't fully meet your needs. You want more, but you have no idea how to ask for it without blowing everything up. The solution starts with yourself, and my guest today helps us dive into what that looks like. In this episode, I sit down with Linda River Valente, a holistic sexuality educator, pleasure activist, and local Vermont legend who has spent 30 years working with midlife women and couples on erotic liberation and embodiment. We dive into what it means to reconnect with your sacred sexuality, how to navigate conversations about desire with long-term partners, and why midlife might actually be the best time for sex of your life. LRV has 30 years of living the intelligences of astrology, tarot, menstrual cycle education, herbal folkways, ritual, ceremony, and dance. She is a Holistic Sexuality Educator, Pleasure Activist, Burlesque performer, producer, and teacher living in Montpelier VT Key Takeaways: Is "low libido" really a thing, or are other factors at play? How to start conversations about desire without making it a lecture  Why sensual intimacy is the gateway back to sexual connection—and what that actually means The three pools of intimacy every relationship needs  How shame has been running the show—and gentle ways to begin dismantling it Why Gen X women are having the best sex right now (yes, really) Connect with Linda: www.lindarivervalente.net Connect with Lori: Instagram @lorilisai Threads: @lorilisai References: Why Gen X Women are Having the Best Sex (NY Times article) Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski Auntie Midori's Pervertables on You Tube Ready to understand how your Human Design supports your erotic awakening? Book a reading and discover what midlife has in store for you: https://LoriLisai.as.me/intuitiveHD

    54 min

  2. MAR 30

    Ep 108: Heated Rivalry Effect: How a Hockey Romance Sparked Midlife Awakening with Kellee Adams

    You're in your 50s, kids are gone, and you're asking "what now?" You've spent decades grinding at work, raising kids, being responsible — but where's the passion? Where's YOUR life? Permission to feel deeply, fan-girl hard, and pursue what lights you up (yes, even if it's a hockey romance show). This episode proves midlife isn't the end — it's your launchpad. In this episode, I sit down with Kellee Adams, a 51-year-old who went from "normal suburban mom" to full-blown Heated Rivalry fan — and it changed everything. We dive into what happens when a show ignites something in you, why midlife women are experiencing awakenings through this fandom, and how to stop minimizing the things that bring you joy. Key Takeaways: Why certain stories hit differently at 50+ (and what that tells you about what you're craving) The "chameleon effect" many midlife women experience, and whether compartmentalizing is actually okay How to negotiate new freedom with long-term partners when you're ready to evolve Why your gut response might be your most reliable compass for this next chapter The difference between people-pleasing and honoring your boundaries Plus: Kellee's Human Design chart reveals why she feels EVERYTHING so deeply — and how understanding your energy type can guide your second act. Ready to understand YOUR design? Book a reading here: https://LoriLisai.as.me/intuitiveHD and discover how to navigate midlife with more clarity, less resistance, and way more joy. Connect with Kellee: Threads: @starfishflinger Connect with Lori: Instagram @lorilisai Threads: @lorilisai 🔗 Get HD through the midlife lens in your inbox: https://www.lorilisai.com/#newsletter  🔗 Get your HD Chart: https://www.lorilisai.com/hd-chart

    47 min

  3. MAR 23

    Ep 107: Midlife Desire: Cheat Codes for your Sex Drive from Your Human Design Chart Pt. 2

    Midlife desire can feel inconsistent, confusing, or even like it's disappeared—until something (like Heated Rivalry) unexpectedly wakes it back up. This episode explores how understanding your Human Design can help you reconnect with desire in a way that actually works for you. In Part 2 of this series, Lori breaks down the three pathways of desire—experience, sound, and touch—and how specific gates in your chart act as "cheat codes" for what activates your body. From fantasy and anticipation to emotional connection and physical closeness, this episode helps you understand why certain things turn you on—and why others don't. If you've ever wondered why your desire feels different now, or how to get it back without forcing it, this episode gives you a practical, empowering framework to understand your unique wiring. Key Takeaways Why desire in midlife can feel inconsistent or confusing The 3 pathways that activate desire in your body What fantasy, emotional intensity, and anticipation reveal about you How conversation, tone, and interaction influence attraction Why touch and physical closeness matter more than you think How your Human Design gates act as "cheat codes" for desire Why understanding your wiring helps you stop forcing and start trusting Connect with Lori: Instagram @lorilisai Threads: @lorilisai  🔗 Book a connection call: https://LoriLisai.as.me/support-chat 🔗 Get HD through the midlife lens in your inbox: https://www.lorilisai.com/#newsletter  🔗 Get your HD Chart: https://www.lorilisai.com/hd-chart 🔗 Support the pod with a donation: https://tinyurl.com/MbDpodsupport

    25 min

  4. MAR 16

    Ep 106: Midlife Sexual Reawakening: What Your Human Design Reveals about Desire Pt. 1

    Many women reach midlife believing their sexual energy is fading until something (like Heated Rivalry) unexpectedly wakes it back up. Today, Lori explores how Human Design reveals the energetic mechanics of sexuality, attraction, and desire, and why midlife may actually be the perfect time for a sexual reawakening. Looking specifically at Human Design Types, Lori explains how different energetic blueprints influence how we initiate intimacy, respond to attraction, and experience sexual energy. From Manifestor initiation to Generator sacral response, this episode offers a refreshing and empowering perspective on sexuality beyond cultural shame or outdated narratives about age. If Heated Rivalry or another story has recently stirred something in you, this conversation invites you to look at desire not as something embarrassing or unrealistic — but as a signal from your own energetic design. Tune in next week to continue exploring sexuality through the lens of Human Design. Key Takeaways: • Why midlife might actually be the most powerful time for sexual confidence • The hidden role your Human Design Type plays in attraction and intimacy • Why some people are meant to initiate sexually and others aren't • How shame conditioning can disconnect you from your body • Why authenticity is actually one of the sexiest energetic frequencies 🔗 Book a connection call: https://LoriLisai.as.me/support-chat Connect with Lori: Instagram @lorilisai Threads: @lorilisai   🔗 Get access to readings and HD through the midlife lens in your inbox: https://www.lorilisai.com/#newsletter  🔗 Get your HD Chart: https://www.lorilisai.com/hd-chart 🔗 Support the pod with a donation: https://tinyurl.com/MbDpodsupport

    24 min

  5. MAR 9

    Ep 105: What If "Not Enough" Isn't Your Midlife Wound… But Your Human Design?

    Why do so many women in midlife feel like they're not enough? And what if that feeling isn't actually a personal flaw — but a clue in your Human Design? In this follow-up to last week's "Too Much" episode, we explore the other side of the coin: the deep, persistent feeling of not being enough. In Human Design, this feeling often shows up in our undefined or open centers — the areas where we take in and amplify other people's energy. Instead of being consistent sources of energy, these centers are places where we learn, experience, and develop wisdom. But before we understand them, they can create lifelong stories of trying to prove our worth, keep up with others, or become someone we think we should be. Midlife often becomes the turning point where those coping strategies stop working. Hormones shift, identities evolve, and suddenly the old ways of pushing, performing, and proving begin to crack. In this episode, we walk through the nine Human Design centers, exploring how undefined centers can create "not enough" narratives — and how understanding them can bring compassion, clarity, and freedom. We'll also talk about the viral Threads conversation sparked by a Heated Rivalry reference and why some women feel deeply called toward desire… while others insist it's too late. Maybe that tension is the real invitation. Key Takeaways: Why undefined centers are the birthplace of "not enough" stories • How conditioning shapes our identity — especially before midlife • The surprising wisdom hidden inside openness in your Human Design chart • The questions that can reveal where you've been trying to prove your worth Connect with Lori: Instagram @lorilisai Threads: @lorilisai     🔗 Get HD through the midlife lens in your inbox: https://www.lorilisai.com/#newsletter  🔗 Get your HD Chart: https://www.lorilisai.com/hd-chart 🔗 Support the pod with a donation: https://tinyurl.com/MbDpodsupport 🔗 Episode 103: I Deserve More (Heart Center): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-103-i-deserve-more-the-heart-center-heated-rivalry/id1754592104?i=1000750980685

    32 min

  6. MAR 2

    Ep 104: If You've Ever Been Called "Too Much," Listen to This

    Ever feel like you're "too much" — too emotional, too intense, too opinionated, too driven — and find yourself shrinking to make other people comfortable? In this episode, Lori reframes the midlife fear of being "too much" through the lens of Human Design. Instead of dialing yourself down, what if your strongest traits are actually your greatest gifts? Walking center by center through the body graph, Lori explores how defined energy can be misinterpreted — and why midlife is the perfect time to stop apologizing for who you are. If you've been playing small, softening your edges, or second-guessing your intensity, this episode is your permission slip to take up space with integrity. Key Takeaways: • Why "too much" is often someone else's discomfort • The center most likely to get labeled emotional • How defined energy feels to undefined people • The difference between intensity and being out of integrity • Why midlife hormonal shifts can actually support authenticity   🔗 Get HD through the midlife lens in your inbox: https://www.lorilisai.com/#newsletter  🔗 Get your HD Chart: https://www.lorilisai.com/hd-chart 🔗 Private coaching with Lori: https://www.lorilisai.com/1-1-human-design-coaching   Connect with Lori: Instagram @lorilisai Threads: @lorilisai

    19 min

  7. FEB 23

    Ep 103: I Deserve More: The Heart Center, Heated Rivalry & the Midlife Wake-Up

    You thought it was just a show...but what if the intensity you're feeling is actually your worth waking up? In this episode, we explore how the Human Design Heart Center explains that sudden midlife realization: "I deserve more." A recent thread about Heated Rivalry inspired Lori into a deeper conversation about midlife, desire, and worthiness. Why do certain stories hit so hard? Why do they make us question our marriages, our bodies, our ambition, or the way we've been settling? Key Takeaways: The role of the Heart (Ego) Center in Human Design The difference between defined and undefined Heart Centers in midlife How fantasy can act as a mirror and what to do about it If you've found yourself thinking: I want to be loved like that again. I didn't know I was allowed to want that. Why does this feel impossible in my real life? This episode will help you remember what that desire truly means for you.   If you're ready to explore the challenges in life with language that resonates on a soul level, in a safe space, and with permission to be honest about what you want, you can learn more about working with Lori one-on-one here: https://www.lorilisai.com/1-1-human-design-coaching 🔗 Original thread: https://www.threads.com/@caligirl_texasworld/post/DVBYmi_lbAU?xmt=AQF0vVL78KLtErgaeP0ZLbinCpQM3-qfeepDL8L0ZvKdHw Connect with Lori: Instagram @lorilisai Threads: @lorilisai   🔗 Get HD through the midlife lens in your inbox: https://www.lorilisai.com/#newsletter  🔗 Get your HD Chart: https://www.lorilisai.com/hd-chart

    22 min

  8. FEB 16

    Ep 102: Fear Is Sacred? River Buffum on Meditation, Reiki & Emotional Regulation

    Ever notice how quickly you can go from grounded and clear to reactive, overwhelmed, or spiraling — and then judge yourself for it? This episode explores why midlife triggers challenge us, what's actually happening in your nervous system, and how energy work, meditation, and awareness can help you return to yourself instead of reacting from fear. In this conversation, Lori sits down with energy healer and meditation teacher River Buffum of Butterfly Moon Wellness to unpack what "energy" really means, why fear isn't the enemy, and how midlife can become a powerful doorway instead of a breakdown. River shares what actually happens in a session, how emotions move through the body (often much faster than we think), and why awareness is the first step toward choosing differently. They also explore the high and low expressions of our humanity, how to recognize when your vibration has dropped, and the simple daily practices that can steady you during chaotic times. If you've been feeling stuck, reactive, or quietly exhausted by the emotional weight of this season of life, this episode is a grounded, compassionate guide back to your body — and back to choice. Takeaways: Why fear might be sacred instead of something to fix The subtle shift that turns a trigger into a choice What actually happens in a Reiki or energy session The 90-second insight about emotions How to know when your vibration has dropped A simple list that could change how you handle overwhelm    Find River here: https://butterflymoonwellness.com/ Connect with River: river@butterflymoonwellness.com Connect with Lori: Instagram @lorilisai Threads: @lorilisai   🔗 Get HD through the midlife lens in your inbox: https://www.lorilisai.com/#newsletter  🔗 Get your HD Chart: https://www.lorilisai.com/hd-chart 🔗 Support the pod with a donation: https://tinyurl.com/MbDpodsupport

    41 min
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Midlife by (Human) Design is the podcast for women in midlife who feel called to redesign the second half of life--consciously, spiritually, and on their own terms. If you're asking: Who am I now? Why doesn't the life I built fit anymore? Why does everything feel off, even though nothing's technically wrong? What choice would I make if I actually trusted myself? --you're in the right place. This show is for women navigating midlife as the initiation it is. Through Human Design, spirituality, perimenopause and menopause wisdom, and grounded real-life practices, we explore what it means to become the woman you're here to be in the second half of life. I'm your host, Lori Lisai, a Human Design guide and coach for midlife women. I help women stop outsourcing their authority, understand their energy, and make aligned decisions as they shed the shoulds and be who they came here to be. Each week, we dive into: ✨ Human Design teachings that help you trust yourself and your decisions 🌙 Perimenopause + menopause through a mind–body–energy lens 🔥 Identity shifts, purpose pivots, and the unraveling that precedes reinvention 🌿 Energy management and self-care that actually restores you 💫 Spiritual insights, archetypes, and real stories of women consciously authoring the second half of life If you've been wondering where your spark went and how to get it back, you're in the right place. This is a space for women who are dreaming bigger (or want to) and who know that midlife is the opportunity to finally be your authentic self. It's where meaning deepens, intuition sharpens, and a truer life becomes possible. Each episode is part teaching, part reflection, part permission slip—with practical tools, honest conversations, and the occasional well-placed F-bomb. Midlife is the perfect time of life. You're becoming someone new. Let's make sure she feels like home. 🎧 Next Steps: 📬 Get Wild Woman Wisdom in Your Inbox Get my newsletter for Human Design transits, astrology, & offerings I don't share anywhere else. 👉 lorilisai.com/#newsletter 📥 Get your Human Design chart and the free HD Mini Guide (and grab the Perimenopause Survival Guide while you're at it) 👉 https://www.lorilisai.com/workwithlori 📱 Follow Me on Instagram + Threads Where midlife meets real talk, Human Design, sweetness and sass 👉 @lorilisai 💬 Got a Question for the Pod? DM me on IG or drop a message—your story might inspire a future episode. *Disclaimer: Information provided in this podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The information is not intended or implied to supplement or replace professional medical treatment, advice, and/or diagnosis. I share the strategies that have worked for me and you are advised to do your own research and speak to your medical provider for care.

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