Keeping It Real with Tiff and Carl

Carl Damian Rabun
  • 5.0 (3)
  • Management
  • Updated Weekly

Tiffany Salcido and Dr. Carl Rabun are two professional training and consultants and coaches with a passion for leadership development. Together they have over 40 years of combined experience working and leading in government agencies and another 25 helping professionals maximize their customer service and communication skills and leadership potential.

  1. Episode142: Why Accountability Starts With Leaders

    2d ago

    Episode142: Why Accountability Starts With Leaders

    Accountability has gotten a bad reputation. Too often it’s associated with blame, punishment, or compliance when it should be about ownership, growth, and shared responsibility. In this episode, Carl and Tiffany explore what it takes to build a healthy culture of accountability and why leaders play a critical role in shaping it.They discuss how unclear expectations, inconsistent feedback, and weak systems often create accountability problems long before performance issues emerge. Drawing on concepts from Radical Candor, they examine how leaders can balance caring personally with challenging directly, creating an environment where feedback is seen as support rather than criticism.The conversation also explores the connection between accountability and psychological safety, emphasizing the importance of addressing behaviors rather than personal characteristics, providing timely feedback, and intervening early when issues arise. Through practical examples and leadership lessons, Carl and Tiffany show how accountability is most effective when it is rooted in trust, clear expectations, and a genuine commitment to helping people succeed.

    40 min
  2. Episode 141: Beyond Burnout with Avni Panchal

    Jun 5

    Episode 141: Beyond Burnout with Avni Panchal

    Burnout doesn’t happen overnight — it’s a process. In this episode, Carl and Tiffany sit down with therapist, coach, educator, and former child welfare professional Avni Panchal to explore the hidden stages that lead to burnout and what it takes to move beyond it. Drawing from her own experiences in social services and entrepreneurship, Avni shares how years of overfunctioning, people-pleasing, and saying “yes” to everything ultimately led her to develop her Beyond Burnout Framework. She explains how burnout often begins long before exhaustion appears, with subtle signs like overcommitment, friction, moral distress, and shame. The conversation challenges common beliefs about productivity, sacrifice, and being a “team player,” particularly in helping professions where self-neglect is often rewarded. Avni offers practical strategies for prevention and recovery, emphasizing the importance of boundaries, realistic self-care, and leadership cultures that support well-being rather than glorify overwork. This is an honest and insightful discussion for anyone who has ever felt stretched too thin and wondered how to create a more sustainable path forward.

    47 min
  3. Episode 140: Imposter Syndrome: The Growth Paradox

    May 30

    Episode 140: Imposter Syndrome: The Growth Paradox

    Almost every leader has experienced it: that feeling that you’re not qualified enough, don’t know enough, or are somehow going to be “found out.” In this episode, Carl and Tiffany tackle the topic of imposter syndrome and why it often shows up when people are growing, stretching, and stepping into new opportunities.They explore the connection between imposter syndrome and the tendency for highly capable people to underestimate their abilities, while less experienced individuals often overestimate theirs. Through personal stories and leadership examples, they discuss how role transitions, fear of judgment, and unclear expectations can fuel self-doubt — even among accomplished professionals.The conversation offers practical strategies for navigating these feelings, including seeking support from trusted colleagues, challenging negative self-talk, embracing vulnerability, and focusing on evidence of past success. Carl and Tiffany also examine the limits of the “fake it till you make it” philosophy, arguing that authentic confidence comes from learning, action, and continuous growth rather than pretending to have all the answers. A reassuring and practical discussion for anyone who has ever wondered, “Do I really belong here?”

    42 min
  4. Episode 139: Changing Culture Starts With Changing Mindsets

    May 22

    Episode 139: Changing Culture Starts With Changing Mindsets

    Changing systems starts with changing mindsets. In this episode, Carl and Tiffany explore how organizations often struggle to move from reactive, control-based cultures toward more proactive, prevention-focused approaches. They discuss how outdated leadership habits rooted in hierarchy and control can block innovation, collaboration, and long-term improvement — especially during periods of change. Drawing from real workplace examples, they unpack the tension between holding control and reducing workload, the challenges of implementing change in virtual environments, and why people resist change when they don’t understand the benefit behind it. The conversation also highlights the importance of metacognition — recognizing your default thinking patterns and intentionally choosing a different response. Carl and Tiffany emphasize that meaningful culture change requires more than new policies or systems; it requires leaders and teams to rethink how they communicate, collaborate, and adapt. A practical discussion on moving from reaction to intention in leadership and organizational culture.

    39 min
  5. Episode 138: Relationship Management- The skill everybody feels

    May 17

    Episode 138: Relationship Management- The skill everybody feels

    Relationship management is where emotional intelligence becomes visible to everyone around you. In this episode, Carl and Tiffany explore how leaders navigate difficult conversations, conflict, feedback, and tension in ways that either strengthen or damage workplace relationships.They discuss why emotional reactions often override rational thinking during conflict, how unresolved issues quietly grow into relationship breakdowns, and why avoiding difficult conversations usually makes things worse. The conversation also highlights the difference between productive task conflict and destructive relationship conflict — and how professionals under stress sometimes redirect frustration toward coworkers instead of addressing the real issue.Through practical strategies and honest reflection, Carl and Tiffany emphasize the importance of self-awareness, clear communication, addressing tension early, and giving feedback that builds people up rather than tears them down. This episode offers a grounded look at how emotionally intelligent leaders create healthier, more productive workplace relationships.

    39 min
  6. Episode 137: Social Awareness in Action

    May 8

    Episode 137: Social Awareness in Action

    Social awareness is more than “reading the room” — it’s the ability to recognize emotions, understand perspectives, and respond to people in a way that builds trust and connection. In this episode, Carl and Tiffany explore the role of empathy and social awareness in emotional intelligence and leadership.They discuss how curiosity, open-ended questions, and intentional listening help leaders better understand the people around them, especially in high-stress human services environments. Through personal stories and practical examples, they unpack the difference between empathy and compassion, why validation matters, and how unchecked assumptions and personal bias can damage relationships and outcomes.The conversation also highlights the importance of balancing empathy with boundaries, recognizing emotional cues in teams and clients, and learning to understand someone’s perspective without necessarily agreeing with it. A grounded discussion on how socially aware leaders create safer, more connected workplaces.

    39 min
  7. Episode 136: Lead Yourself First: The Power of Self-Management

    May 2

    Episode 136: Lead Yourself First: The Power of Self-Management

    Self-management is where emotional intelligence becomes real. In this episode, Carl and Tiffany focus on the discipline of recognizing, regulating, and choosing your response — especially in high-stress leadership environments.They explore how unmanaged reactions erode trust, damage relationships, and lead to poor decisions, while strong self-regulation creates clarity, credibility, and consistency. Through personal examples and practical strategies, they break down how leaders can identify triggers, “practice the pause,” and respond with intention rather than emotion.The conversation also connects self-management to authentic leadership, showing how mindset shapes behavior and how even small moments of reactivity can have lasting impact. From preparing for difficult conversations to repairing missteps quickly, this episode offers a grounded approach to leading yourself so you can lead others more effectively.

    38 min
  8. Episode 135: Emotional Intelligence Is Leadership

    Apr 24

    Episode 135: Emotional Intelligence Is Leadership

    Emotional intelligence isn’t about being calm all the time — it’s about being aware, intentional, and effective in how you show up as a leader. In this episode, Carl and Tiffany break down why emotional intelligence is one of the most critical (and most overlooked) leadership skills in the workplace.Building on the work of Daniel Goleman, they explore the four core components of EQ: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management — and how each one shows up in real leadership moments. From managing reactivity and setting boundaries to understanding the gap between intention and impact, this conversation gets practical about what emotional intelligence actually looks like on the job.Through real examples and honest reflection, they highlight how a lack of EQ leads to stalled development, strained relationships, and burnout — while strong EQ builds trust, strengthens teams, and improves outcomes. If you’ve ever been “too busy putting out fires” to lead effectively, this episode will challenge you to slow down, reflect, and lead with intention.

    44 min
See All (144)

Ratings & Reviews

5
out of 5
3 Ratings

About

Tiffany Salcido and Dr. Carl Rabun are two professional training and consultants and coaches with a passion for leadership development. Together they have over 40 years of combined experience working and leading in government agencies and another 25 helping professionals maximize their customer service and communication skills and leadership potential.

Information