Three hours inland from the California coast, the road climbs out of the traffic and into pine. Idyllwild — not spelled the way you think it is — sits in the San Jacinto Mountains among woodpeckers, squirrels, bobcats and the occasional mountain lion. This is where Sophea Khem lives. Everyone calls him Soap. He came out of Cambodia in 1980, two years old, through refugee camps in Indonesia and Thailand and into Boston on a church sponsorship. His father, a soldier, was meant to follow and never did. His mother worked a plastics factory, cleaned houses and minded other people's children — Sophea wore the hand-me-down shirts with those children's names printed on them, which confused everybody about what his name actually was. When she saw where the neighbourhood was heading, she moved her sons to a white suburb. What that bought him was safety. What it cost him was the language, the history, and most of the names on his own family tree. He doesn't speak Khmer, and he learned only recently, at forty-seven, that he'd had a stepmother. He's considering a documentary just to find out who his grandparents were. So he built a culture instead. Michael Jackson at four — he learned Thriller before he could read. Then graffiti, breakdancing, hip hop, and comic books bought with a paper route he started at nine. A girl in first grade showed him how to outline a drawing in a darker shade of the same colour, and forty years later he says he is still chasing that moment. It took him to MassArt as a painting major, to the autobiography of Malcolm X, and to a rage he had no name for until he understood what had been happening to him all along. Then the working life: a hat kiosk, Starbucks, four years in a pizza shop, and ten years laying tile until his knees gave out at thirty. The 2008 recession took the job. Los Angeles took him in. A UCLA design course he never finished became an internship, which became running the design for a liquor brand less than a year out of school. Then Street Virus, where the Fairfax and La Brea streetwear scene drank coffee in the office every Friday morning, and where he met Sam — the start of fifteen years and counting with Vast. He is candid about what he walked away from: the BMWs he couldn't afford, the LA hustle where you have to look a certain way to be a certain thing, and the moment his first child made all of it irrelevant. Wyoming came next, and was a little too remote. Idyllwild is the balance — kids who can roam, neighbours who filled a twenty-foot trailer in ten minutes, and a town where everyone has a hustle. Sophea's is bread: twelve to eighteen loaves a week for a farm stand down the road, with no plans to make it a business. And there is the dancefloor. Boston, 1996, a house party called Life, in the scene DJ Bruno built and Armand Van Helden left behind. Asian, Latin, Black, white, gay, straight, trans — everybody in one room and nobody watching the door. Hip hop had never quite let him in. House did. He calls it the first place he could exist exactly as he was, and the place he finally put the anger down. We end on one question: if that eight-year-old refugee kid could see him now, what would he say? His answer is the reason to stay to the end. 00:00 Three hours inland, in the San Jacinto Mountains 01:25 Idyllwild, and why they left Wyoming 03:34 Giving up the grind, the cars and the LA hustle 06:56 Cambodia, and what the genocide did to a generation 07:51 Escaping in 1980, and a father who stayed behind 08:37 The white suburbs, and losing Khmer 09:26 Grandparents he can't name 10:21 Michael Jackson, graffiti, and why Cambodian kids found hip hop 10:55 Getting chased home in a white neighbourhood 12:16 Wreaking havoc, and the mother who saw it coming 13:45 Wyoming, MAGA neighbours, and a trailer filled in ten minutes 14:54 On the ground, everybody helps you 18:25 The burnt chicken that changed everything 19:46 The girl in first grade who blew his mind 20:40 A paper route at nine, and a comic book subscription 22:19 MassArt, Malcolm X, and understanding the rage 24:22 Why he quit the fine art world 25:45 Ten years of tile, and knees that gave out at thirty 26:30 Los Angeles, 2009, learning design from scratch 29:33 Street Virus, Supreme, Stussy and the Fairfax scene 30:14 Meeting Sam, and fifteen years with Vast 33:22 Sourdough, pizza, and the pandemic deep dive 37:00 Twelve to eighteen loaves for the farm stand 44:00 The older brother who raised him 47:43 DJ Bruno, Armand Van Helden and the Boston house scene 48:30 The first room he could exist in as himself 51:39 What's next: family, homeschooling, staying up here 52:22 What the eight-year-old refugee kid would say Subscribe for new episodes every Thursday. Website: https://www.vastlife.com Instagram: / vast.life_ YouTube: / @vastlifeofficial Also on Spotify and Apple Podcasts. #VastLives #SopheaKim #Cambodia #CambodianAmerican #Idyllwild #HouseMusic #Sourdough #DesignCareer #Streetwear #SlowLiving