Me and We

Bonnie Macbride and Mallika Bush
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In "Me & We," we learn to develop our “me” as we influence our “we”.  How do we have less suffering and more fun in whatever situation we find ourselves in? How do we take action based on our values? Can we be who we are with more ease? Hosts Bonnie Macbride and Mallika Bush share frames and tools with real-life examples, offering this podcast to help you access your life energy, make use of your emotions, and find more satisfaction in your life and relationships.    Inside the full Me & We audio course you will learn the 9 building blocks that Bonnie Macbride has created. These frames and tools can be applied to every context through relationships, with a particular focus on primary, intimate partnerships.  Bonnie and Mallika bring real-life examples and explore applying these tools and fames along side you as you learn. Check out the full course at the link in the show notes!

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    BB8 - Skill: Repair, Opening the Gift, Giving to Self

    We ARE going to get disorganized, we are going to get activated and "off the horse."  The single most important place to reach for in our important relationships, and especially with intimate partnerships, is REPAIR. On the podcast today, Bonnie and Mallika talk about a skill that's doable for everybody, no matter how interested you are in relational growth or healing. It's a skill that's all about action, and how to manage our reaction.  The steps are: React, Remove, Regroup, Rehearse, Redo = Repair And we explore the skill of "Redirect." Bonnie and Mallika talk about the ways that they didn't use to know how to use redirect full until they were only and had a more organized self that could wait/pause for the right time to repair.  Opening The Gift Are you able to see, receive and OPEN the gifts that are coming your way? Mallika shares about her process of recognizing the gifts coming from her husband and from her mom. And then realizing that she wasn't really at choice to open the gifts, but does feel herself able to open them more often now.  Bonnie actually receives a gift from Mallika live on the show.  And sometimes we need to step through the shame wall to be able to receive those gifts.  Bonnie shares about learning from her mom, who was Chinese, about pushing away complements and gifts, showing that we are socialized in some ways that don't serve us.  Giving To Self Learning to give to ourselves and receive from ourselves comes when we have, or are committed to developing, an independent self.  At times, we wont be able to receive in a dependent way, from or with another. We really have to learn to do with for ourselves.  We are far more powerful if we are in touch with our dependent selves. When we lead with tapping into our dependent selves, and the dependent self of the other, we can have a greater influence.  Bonnie shares an example of her dependent self in relationship with her husband.  Bonnie's book is available in paperback! "Me And We: Finding Your Voice and Influencing Relational Interactions" Find out more about our work: Bonnie's Website: bonniemacbride.com Mallika's Website: rootedrelationships.com Thank you to Jessica Carson Chen for the use of her music. Listen On Spotify Thank you to Positron Productions for producing and editing the content.

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    #30 - Building Block 8: Organizing Self

    This episode, Bonnie and Mallika begin to look at the skills needed for building an Independent Self: We can use the 3 Cs: Compassion (Empathy), Claiming, Curiosity Putting on our warrior suit: Relentlessly coming back to things, Righteously fighting for integrity and our values, Ruthlessness as in not shying away because it's not ok for anyone to get hurt.  Mallika brings up the prompt to explore the difference between a pseudo independency (that's more of a guard or defense) and the choice place that is  independent, holding onto ourselves.  Giving = Receiving: When we have access to our dependent self, and image the dependent self of the other person, we can listen and receive more effectively.  Holding on to self:  A Self that is able to hold our dependent self. Sometimes, to stay self-organizing, we drop the we, we get just in our me and be self-absorbed, self-focused, selfish, etc. Sometimes we drop the me, and then have to find our way back.  Protests really give us an opportunity to develop our independent self.  To come in BB 9 - Trust in self leads to self-authority and claiming truth! React, Remove, Regroup, Rehearse, Redo = Repair or Redirect Wake up! to receive and OPEN the gift that is coming our way. Bonnie's book is available in paperback! "Me And We: Finding Your Voice and Influencing Relational Interactions" Find out more about our work: Bonnie's Website: bonniemacbride.com Mallika's Website: rootedrelationships.com Thank you to Jessica Carson Chen for the use of her music. Listen On Spotify Thank you to Positron Productions for producing and editing the content.

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    BB7 - Protests At The Heart Of Our Growth

    The heart of the creative process that allows us to grow is: receiving a protest WE ALLLLLL are ready to  - not like something - complain - need something  AND want to say something about it.  So, if we are able to receive a protest, we can build our confidence. And get out of the suffering that is so common in contexts with protests.   Building blocks 8 and 9 will go into how we can organize ourselves as we get ready to receive protests. But first, we must commit to growing oneself, so we have a reason to be doing this work! One of the goals we can have is simply "not the same old place."  How can we find new ways to experiment with the places we go into suffering? We might not solve it or have no suffering, but when we are able to get out of a stuck place of suffering ("same old place"), then at least it's a little different/better. Bonnie's book is available in paperback! "Me And We: Finding Your Voice and Influencing Relational Interactions" Find out more about our work: Bonnie's Website: bonniemacbride.com Mallika's Website: rootedrelationships.com Thank you to Jessica Carson Chen for the use of her music. Listen On Spotify Thank you to Positron Productions for producing and editing the content.

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    BB7 - It Ends With Us (Skill Application)

    Bonnie and Mallika look at how we can apply the "Me & We" frames to the characters, Lily and Ryle, in the movie version of "It Ends With Us."  How might Lily's friend or therapist support Lily with holding both her desire to stay in her relationship with Ryle and our own desire to protect her? How might we accept perfection in Lily?  How might we accept perfection in Ryle?  Listen in for how we can apply the frames and tools for less suffering for ourselves as well as for others!  Bonnie's book is available in paperback! "Me And We: Finding Your Voice and Influencing Relational Interactions" Find out more about our work: Bonnie's Website: bonniemacbride.com Mallika's Website: rootedrelationships.com Thank you to Jessica Carson Chen for the use of her music. Listen On Spotify Thank you to Positron Productions for producing and editing the content.

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    BB7 - Real Life: Blake and Justin

    Another "Real Life" application.  Let's look at what we know about the current context between Blake Lively and Juston Baldoni.  Bonnie and Mallika are not looking at who is "right" and who is "wrong" in this context. Instead, they are looking to apply the frames and skills that have been presented on this podcast to what Blake or Justin might have tried.  What could Justin have said in response to Blakes protest about what was happening on set?  How could Blake have approached Justin in a way that might encourage his cooperation?  How might Justin have stepped through his shame and hung onto himself?  How NOW take some action to get out of the suffering they must be in now?  Bonnie's book is available in paperback! "Me And We: Finding Your Voice and Influencing Relational Interactions" Find out more about our work: Bonnie's Website: bonniemacbride.com Mallika's Website: rootedrelationships.com Thank you to Jessica Carson Chen for the use of her music. Listen On Spotify Thank you to Positron Productions for producing and editing the content.

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    BB7 - Skill: Pause, Owning and Asking, Resonating

    The big question about protests - how can we respond that is NOT a counter protest? Bonnie and Mallika act out some examples of these skills using listener questions. Pause: How to pause a protest someone is sending (in a way that doesn't feel like you're avoiding or deflecting) Owning and Asking: Is there a part of the protest that you can agree with? That you can "own" as something you did? Then, ask a question back to the sender (sending the energy away from you). Resonating: Reflect, validate and empathize with the protester. Nothing settles a protest like resonating with the other person.  What protests come your way often?  Email us at meandwepodcast@gmail.com with your protest examples and we will discuss them on a future episode! Bonnie's book is available in paperback! "Me And We: Finding Your Voice and Influencing Relational Interactions" Find out more about our work: Bonnie's Website: bonniemacbride.com Mallika's Website: rootedrelationships.com Thank you to Jessica Carson Chen for the use of her music. Listen On Spotify Thank you to Positron Productions for producing and editing the content.

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    BB7: Protests Part 2

    There is protest happening everywhere, especially in the last 10-15 years. We don't have to be on the receiving end of blame and shame EVERYWHERE we go. But, it is important to open up this channel to receive when someone is daring to let us know that something isn't working for them. How can we work with protest to find something else that's possible, rather than what typically happens - which is a counter protest. How is a protest a "call to respond?"  The best way to influence how someone is protesting is to actually welcome them to protest. "Bring it on, babe"  "I'm ready in this moment to hear what's important to you."  Receive the protest with the skills, which slows it down.  This is a slow, building process, getting these Building Blocks in place. Be kind and gentle with yourself as you learn and grow.  Bonnie's book is available in paperback! "Me And We: Finding Your Voice and Influencing Relational Interactions" Find out more about our work: Bonnie's Website: bonniemacbride.com Mallika's Website: rootedrelationships.com Thank you to Jessica Carson Chen for the use of her music. Listen On Spotify Thank you to Positron Productions for producing and editing the content.

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    #24 - Building Block 7: Receiving A Protest

    This is a turning point in this work. Everywhere we go, there are protests coming our way, protests from our partner, from our boss or our friend, or that we have sitting under the surface. This Building Block helps us STOP trying to STOP  the protests, but rather learn how to accept them, and, when possible, work with the protest energy. Bonnie and Mallika explore this important part of being in relationship with others . . . the protest. Receiving protests is like a BULL HORN - we loose our balance. The goal is to regain our balance and work with the energy that's coming our way. Sitting inside our protests are either a feeling of "justice" or "are you there for me? Do I matter?" a dependency need. On-going protest actually mean there is safety in the system. When protests get shutdown, your partner isn't confiding in your anymore and you're living a parallel life, it feels like a death. It behooves us to tolerate protests, in our relationship or in our organization. "If I'm going to send a protest, well, I better be able to receive on too."   ****************************************************************************************** Upcoming skills in this Building Block are: The Pause Owning and Asking Resonating Bonnie's book is available in paperback! "Me And We: Finding Your Voice and Influencing Relational Interactions" Find out more about our work: Bonnie's Website: bonniemacbride.com Mallika's Website: rootedrelationships.com Thank you to Jessica Carson Chen for the use of her music. Listen On Spotify Thank you to Positron Productions for producing and editing the content.

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In "Me & We," we learn to develop our “me” as we influence our “we”.  How do we have less suffering and more fun in whatever situation we find ourselves in? How do we take action based on our values? Can we be who we are with more ease? Hosts Bonnie Macbride and Mallika Bush share frames and tools with real-life examples, offering this podcast to help you access your life energy, make use of your emotions, and find more satisfaction in your life and relationships.    Inside the full Me & We audio course you will learn the 9 building blocks that Bonnie Macbride has created. These frames and tools can be applied to every context through relationships, with a particular focus on primary, intimate partnerships.  Bonnie and Mallika bring real-life examples and explore applying these tools and fames along side you as you learn. Check out the full course at the link in the show notes!

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  • Creator
    Bonnie Macbride and Mallika Bush
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    31
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Bonnie Macbride and Mallika Bush
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