But You Look So Good

But You Look So Good Podcast
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Two psychologists on a mission to illuminate the realities of living with chronic health conditions. Hosted by Sally Shaw and Seona Ilalio, both living with chronic conditions themselves. They lead Livology, a private practice specialising in psychological support for those navigating chronic health challenges. Tune in to hear candid conversations and professional insights designed to create community and connection within the chronic health conditions population.

  1. 2d ago

    Weaponising Competence

    What happens when being capable starts being used as evidence that you’re not struggling? In this episode, we’re talking about weaponising competence—what happens when your ability to work, parent, socialise, achieve, or simply get through the day is mistaken for proof that you’re doing fine. We explore the reality that you can be incredibly capable and completely overwhelmed; strong and exhausted; functioning and struggling. Because competence tells us what someone accomplished, but it doesn’t tell us what it took to accomplish it. We’ll unpack the hidden costs of chronic illness, the pressure to keep proving that you’re struggling, and why a good day, or a successful week, doesn’t mean you’re suddenly well. Plus, we share psychological strategies for separating your performance from your wellbeing, recognising the true cost of functioning, and embracing the power of “both/and” thinking. ⁠⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠⁠ ⁠But You’ll Be OK (Online Course)⁠ ⁠Webinars and Resources⁠ If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit⁠ ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠⁠. ⁠⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠⁠

  2. 6d ago

    MS and Type 1 Diabetes: Rachel’s Voice

    Today you are hearing from Rachel. Rachel was diagnosed with type one diabetes at age 19 in 1998, and after six years of searching for answers, she received a multiple sclerosis diagnosis in 2015. She also lives with an undiagnosed muscle condition that has affected her daily life for over a decade. In this episode, Rachel shares her journey through diagnosis, the emotional toll of chronic illness, and the lessons she's learnt about listening to her body, asking for help, and finding gratitude in the present moment. This is her story. ⁠⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠⁠ ⁠But You’ll Be OK (Online Course)⁠ ⁠Webinars and Resources⁠ If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit⁠ ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠⁠. ⁠⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠⁠

    MS and Type 1 Diabetes: Rachel’s Voice

  3. Sep 7

    Re-Release - Pets & Health: The Power of Companionship

    Join us this week as we revisit a fun, heart-warming dive into the world of pets and the surprising ways they can boost our wellbeing - especially when living with a chronic health condition. From loyal dogs who get us out the door, to snuggly cats who know exactly when we need comfort, to fish, birds, and all the quirky critters in between, this episode explores why animals can make such a big difference to our daily lives. Sally and Seona chat about the science behind companionship, the gentle motivation pets bring to move our bodies, and the small routines that help us feel grounded. They also keep it real, unpacking the less-fluffy side of pet ownership - the costs, the cleaning, and the challenges of caring for an animal when your own health is unpredictable. Whether you’re a lifelong animal lover or pet-curious, this one’s for you! ⁠⁠⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠But You’ll Be OK (Online Course)⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Webinars and Resources⁠⁠ If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit⁠⁠ ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠⁠⁠. ⁠⁠⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠⁠⁠

  4. Sep 3

    Growing Up With Vision Loss: An Interview with Penny

    Today you are hearing from Penny. Penny lives with retinitis pigmentosa, or RP, a genetic eye condition that causes progressive vision loss. She was diagnosed at 16 with the very same condition her mom has lived without-- with the very same condition her mom has lived with throughout her life. In this conversation, Penny takes us back to the moment she first realized something wasn't quite right and what it was like receiving that diagnosis as a teenager while her twin sister was getting her driver's license and planning for the future. We talk about relationships, motherhood, and the very real decision of whether to have children, knowing they could inherit RP. Penny also shares what living with low vision actually looks like day to day, the constant mental load, and the things that other people often misunderstand. And we talk about Penny's mom and the influence that watching her live with RP had on how Penny came to understand and navigate her own disability. This is Penny's story. We hope you enjoy. ⁠⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠⁠ ⁠But You’ll Be OK (Online Course)⁠ ⁠Webinars and Resources⁠ If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit⁠ ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠⁠. ⁠⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠⁠

    Growing Up With Vision Loss: An Interview with Penny

  5. Aug 31

    How Do I Explain This Pain? When ‘0 to 10’ Just Isn’t Enough.

    How do you explain pain when “it hurts” just doesn’t seem to cover it? In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most frustrating parts of living with chronic illness: trying to describe your pain to healthcare professionals. We unpack the difference between acute and chronic pain, why chronic pain can be so complex, and whether a 0–10 pain scale really tells the whole story.  We also introduce the Mankoski Pain Scale, which takes a different approach by looking at what pain actually stops you from doing. From burning, stabbing and electric pain to the hidden impact on sleep, work, relationships and everyday life, we explore why pain isn’t always visible—and why functioning doesn’t necessarily mean you’re not hurting. Plus, practical tips for communicating your pain more clearly at your next appointment. ⁠⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠⁠ ⁠But You’ll Be OK (Online Course)⁠ ⁠Webinars and Resources⁠ If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit⁠ ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠⁠. ⁠⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠⁠

  6. Aug 27

    Finding My Way Back - Mel’s Voice

    Today you are hearing from Mel. Mel lives with multiple sclerosis, and in this episode, she shares what the experience has looked like for her, particularly the first year after diagnosis, when so much about her life and her body suddenly felt uncertain. She talks about the fear and frustration that came with those early days, the changes that she had to adjust to, and the process of gradually finding her way forward. Mel also reflects on the things that have helped, the small wins that can mean so much when you're living with a chronic condition, and what it has taken to build a life alongside MS. There is so much in Mel's story that will feel familiar to anyone who has had to adjust to a body, a diagnosis, or a life that they didn't expect. This is Mel's voice. ⁠⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠⁠ ⁠But You’ll Be OK (Online Course)⁠ ⁠Webinars and Resources⁠ If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit⁠ ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠⁠. ⁠⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠⁠

    Finding My Way Back - Mel’s Voice

  7. Aug 24

    Are We Allowed to Have Fun When We’re Chronically Ill?

    Can you be genuinely unwell and genuinely happy at the same time? Absolutely. But when you live with a chronic health condition, having fun can sometimes come with a surprising side order of guilt. Should you really be going out when you “should” be resting? Does a fantastic day somehow make your illness less real? And why can we feel like we need to look or behave sick to be believed? In this episode, we unpack the complicated relationship between chronic illness, pleasure, identity and guilt. We talk about the post-fun crash, making space for joy within the realities of your body, and why fun isn't frivolous — it's part of living a meaningful life. Because a good day doesn't cancel out your disability. And you don't have to earn the right to have fun. ⁠⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠⁠ ⁠But You’ll Be OK (Online Course)⁠ ⁠Webinars and Resources⁠ If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit⁠ ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠⁠. ⁠⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠⁠

  8. Aug 20

    Complex Regional Pain Syndrome - Sacha’s story

    Today you are hearing from Sacha. In 2020, a workplace injury to her right hand and wrist set in motion a chain of events that would completely change her life. What initially seemed like it might be a simple fracture or sprain eventually led to a diagnosis of Complex Regional Pain Syndrome, or CRPS — a condition associated with severe and persistent pain. Over the years that followed, Sacha's life became filled with appointments, surgeries, nerve blocks, ketamine infusions and rehabilitation — all while trying to navigate a healthcare system that, at times, left her feeling anything but heard and understood. But as you'll hear, the hardest parts of Sacha's story aren't necessarily the medical ones. She speaks incredibly honestly about grieving the life she once knew, living with pain that other people can't see, and the heartbreak of feeling like she can't always be the mum she imagined she would be to her daughter, Ivy. Sacha's story is raw, honest and deeply human. It's about chronic pain, loss and adaptation, but also about what it means to feel genuinely seen and supported when life looks nothing like you thought it would. So, with that, let's hand it over to Sacha. ⁠⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠⁠ ⁠But You’ll Be OK (Online Course)⁠ ⁠Webinars and Resources⁠ If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit⁠ ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠⁠. ⁠⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠⁠

    Complex Regional Pain Syndrome - Sacha’s story
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Two psychologists on a mission to illuminate the realities of living with chronic health conditions. Hosted by Sally Shaw and Seona Ilalio, both living with chronic conditions themselves. They lead Livology, a private practice specialising in psychological support for those navigating chronic health challenges. Tune in to hear candid conversations and professional insights designed to create community and connection within the chronic health conditions population.

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  • Creator
    But You Look So Good Podcast
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    132
  • Rating
    Explicit
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