Established Family Podcast

Derek Palizay
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The Established Family Show is your go-to podcast for biblical wisdom on marriage, restoration, and building a God-centered family legacy. With real, raw conversations, we challenge common misconceptions about love, covenant, and healing. Join us as we dive deep into spiritual truths, practical steps for restoration, and the pursuit of generational transformation—anchored in faith, powered by the Holy Spirit. This isn’t just about marriage—it’s about family revival.

  1. NOV 15

    Breaking False Oaths and Agreements in Marriage and Returning to God's Promises

    In today’s episode, Derek exposes one of the deepest spiritual roots behind marital destruction: the false oaths, internal vows, and unholy agreements spouses make during pain, betrayal, fear, and exhaustion. This message walks you through the biblical difference between promises, oaths, vows, and agreements—and how violating the order of God leaves marriages spiritually bound, oppressed, and disconnected from the hope that anchors the soul. If your marriage feels stuck, hardened, confused, or spiritually tormented, this episode will show you why—and how to return to God’s promises over your marriage and bloodline. In this episode: • Why God forbids humans from making oaths• How spouses unknowingly bind themselves with internal vows• 9 categories of false oaths that destroy a marriage• How the enemy claims “legal access” through agreements• The biblical pattern: Promises → Oaths → Vows → Agreements• How to dissolve false covenants and return to God’s design• Why many spouses lack hope as an anchor to their soul• How to realign with God’s promise over your family and lineage

    1h 6m

  2. NOV 10

    [Marriage Testimony] How True Repentance Shifts The Heart of a Husband and Wife

    A marriage without true repentance will always fail.In this episode, Derek shares a raw and redemptive testimony about how repentance became the turning point that shifted everything in their marriage. Before there was restoration… before there was healing… there had to be a confrontation of pride, blindness, and spiritual apathy.God doesn’t just heal what’s broken — He exposes what’s unrepentant. And when repentance becomes true, it’s not quiet, hidden, or comfortable. It’s an outward expression that transforms hearts, marriages, and generations.If your marriage feels stuck, distant, or spiritually dull — this message will awaken something deep within you. Because repentance isn’t about guilt or shame… it’s about returning to the Presence that restores all things.

    1h 9m

  3. OCT 29

    Marriage Deliverance: How the Gospel Heals What Psychology Can’t

    Your marriage doesn’t just need better communication—it needs deliverance.This isn’t about personality differences or unmet expectations… this is about spiritual realities that still have legal access to your marriage, your mind, and your emotions.In this episode, Derek exposes why so many Christian spouses are saved but still bound, and how unhealed areas of the soul (mind, will, emotions, and moral capacity) still produce fruit in the marriage today.You’ll learn what it means to walk in sanctification, not just salvation, and how to close every “topos”—every foothold, legal access, and spiritual ground—that the enemy has occupied.🔥 In This Episode: The difference between salvation, sanctification, and deliveranceWhy “psychology” can’t fix what’s spiritualLevels of affliction vs. levels of gloryThe truth about spiritual footholds (“topos”) in Ephesians 4:2What happens when an unhealed soul governs a marriageHow the Gospel restores the original design of your marriage

    54 min

  4. OCT 24

    3 Spiritual Shifts That Unlock a New Season of Marriage

    In this episode, Derek and Jordan go deep into what it means to prepare for your new marriage. Most spouses interpret distance, silence, or delay as God being against them—but few recognize that He’s actually reordering them. Before restoration comes reformation. Before covenant is rebuilt, the individuals within it must be remade.This conversation walks through three critical areas God refines before He restores:1️⃣ Preparing Your Emotions — Learning to discern between conviction, pain, and pressure. Training your emotions to submit to truth before the next attack ever comes.2️⃣ Preparing Your Relationships — Understanding how God reorders access and connection. Some people were for your season, but not your assignment. Learn how to discern covenant, seasonal, and prophetic relationships that align with restoration.3️⃣ Preparing Your Intercession — Moving from emotional prayer to spiritual governance. Intercession isn’t performance—it’s representation. Standing before the throne room of grace on behalf of your spouse and family, with the posture of a reconciler, not a reactor.This episode carries deep revelation for any husband or wife walking through the process of becoming.You are on assignment.You are being prepared.Don’t mistake the process for punishment—this is God’s mercy at work.Scriptures referenced: Matthew 15:1–15, Matthew 25:14–30, John 15:2–6, Luke 13:6–9, Proverbs 24:30–34, Romans 1:21–25, Ephesians 4:19, Exodus 32:32, Romans 9:1–5.

    1h 13m

  5. OCT 18

    The Wounds You Brought Into Marriage Are Still Bearing Fruit

    In this episode, we dive deep into a topic that often gets overlooked in marriage: the difference between wounds carried into the marriage (pre-marriage wounds) and wounds that arise in the marriage (in-marriage wounds). If you’ve noticed recurring conflict, cycles you can't seem to break, or strain in your relationship that doesn’t seem to make sense, this one is for you. We’ll unpack: Why simply changing the scenery (new job, new house, new spouse) won’t fix the root of the problem. How to identify whether a struggle started before your covenant or within it. The difference between trigger and root — what event might have ignited the wound versus what history is actually fueling it. A useful diagnosis framework (four questions) to help you trace the origin, the agreement you've made, and where the fruit of the wound is showing up. Common examples of pre-marriage wounds: family dysfunction, step-family trauma, unmet father/mother images, old soul-ties, unhealed childhood vulnerabilities. Common examples of in-marriage wounds: betrayal or secrecy, poor communication patterns, spiritual imbalance, financial conflict, withholding affection or intimacy, misaligned leadership in the home. Practical next-steps: How to steward the wound — for pre-marriage wounds, how to renounce unhealthy vows, rebuild identity, seal the temple and fill the void; for in-marriage wounds, how to walk in ongoing repentance, rebuild governance, restore what’s broken, and remove what’s feeding the wound. Why it matters:Many couples think their conflict is only about “what’s happening now,” but the truth is that unresolved issues from before the marriage often surface inside the marriage and get mis-diagnosed. If you treat the fruit instead of the root, you might keep experiencing the same patterns in a new season. What you’ll walk away with: A clearer understanding of whether your marital pain is rooted in the past or being created in the present. A clearer path toward healing: both internal (identity, past wounds) and relational (communication, trust, leadership). Practical steps to apply in your life and in your marriage that move you beyond mere avoidance or surface fixes. A renewed hope: you don’t have to keep repeating the same cycle. The difference between pre-marriage and in-marriage wounding can make all the difference.

    45 min

  6. OCT 13

    Why God Won't Bless a Spouse's False Stand in Marriage Restoration

    In this episode, we talk about the rise of false brides in the church, the danger of false stands in marriage, and the spiritual deception that’s entering homes under the disguise of faith. Many believers have received salvation, but they’re building their marriages in their own name instead of God’s.This message will shake every spouse who’s praying for restoration but standing from the wrong posture. It’s a prophetic warning for those who are tolerating compromise, idolatry, and self-righteousness — in the name of “waiting on God.”🔥 Topics Covered:The difference between the Designed Divide and the False DivideHow the Refiner’s Fire exposes what was built on the wrong foundationWhy your heart can make you just as guilty as your spouseHow to discern when your “stand” has turned into idolatryThe Hebrew word pictures behind fire, man, woman, and warWhy the church is being infiltrated by false brides and false doctrines📖 Scriptures:1 Corinthians 3 • Luke 13 • Malachi 3 • Isaiah 46 • Matthew 25

    52 min

  7. OCT 8

    The Church is Failing Marriages

    The Church is failing marriages...but marriages are also failing the Church.We’ve watched believers show up for service, serve faithfully, tithe consistently and still live in bondage. Why?Because the modern church looks alive, but carries no authority.And marriages keep feeding that same system with unhealed hearts, unbroken pride, and unrepentant patterns.In this episode, Derek breaks down what Jesus actually came to build.He didn’t say, “I’ll build My synagogue.”He said, “I’ll build My ekklesia.”The ekklesia isn’t a building.It’s a governing body of called-out ones, sons and daughters walking in covenant, carrying authority, and legislating heaven’s rule on earth.We expose why so many churches today are spiritually dead:— They avoid deliverance.— They lack discipleship.— They place people in leadership without accountability.— They hide behind programs and personality tests instead of repentance and transformation.But we also confront how marriages have failed the Church, by bringing unclean, undelivered, divided temples into the house of God and expecting revival to come from a place we refuse to purify.This is a call to return.To understand what it means to be the Bride.Because God isn’t just healing your marriage…He’s healing His ekklesia through your marriage.

    45 min

  8. OCT 6

    I Was a Foolish Husband Before God Encountered Me and Healed my Marriage

    If you’ve been praying for restoration, fasting, forgiving, and still feel like nothing is changing, this episode will help you understand why. Many spouses want breakthrough in marriage but have never actually encountered God. Without an encounter, we stay bound to the same cycles—bitterness, offense, pride, self-righteousness, and unbelief.This conversation exposes what really keeps couples from transformation. It’s not always the spouse who walked away, filed for divorce, or stopped communicating. Sometimes the real barrier is unrepentant sin, tolerated compromise, or the refusal to let God confront the parts of us that still produce the fruit of the curse.Scripture shows that when bitterness takes root, it defiles everything it touches (Hebrews 12:14–15). When self-protection replaces surrender, we trade the fear of the Lord for the preservation of self. And when we reject rebuke, we also reject the wisdom that could have saved the marriage.This is not about another strategy or technique for communication—it’s about allowing the Holy Spirit to bring transformation through encounter. Because once you truly meet the living God, you don’t just change your perspective on marriage—you change your nature.If you’ve reached the end of your strength and still desire to see your covenant restored, it may be time to stop asking for relief and start crying out for encounter.

    53 min
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The Established Family Show is your go-to podcast for biblical wisdom on marriage, restoration, and building a God-centered family legacy. With real, raw conversations, we challenge common misconceptions about love, covenant, and healing. Join us as we dive deep into spiritual truths, practical steps for restoration, and the pursuit of generational transformation—anchored in faith, powered by the Holy Spirit. This isn’t just about marriage—it’s about family revival.

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  • Creator
    Derek Palizay
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2025
  • Episodes
    29
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Derek Palizay
  • Show Website
    Established Family Podcast

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