Before you spend the next dollar. Before you make your next purchase, your next decision, before you say yes to the next big thing. Ask yourself one question: Is this coming from my soul, or is it coming from my ego? I promise you, that one question, asked honestly, will change your life. It changed mine. And I want to give you the tool underneath it, because the question on its own is easy to answer badly. The Symbol A few years ago I was channeling messages for a client. What came through was not a sentence. It was a shape. Picture an infinity symbol. The sideways eight. Two loops, and one point in the centre where they cross. One side is the soul. The other side is the ego. I have used it every single day since to answer almost any question that comes up in my life. Ego Is Not What You Think It Is Here is where most people get stuck, so let me be very clear. When I say ego, I do not mean pride. I do not mean arrogance. Ego is the material and physical world. The body you live in. Money, career, possessions, status, achievements, survival needs. All of it. You need the ego world. You are in a human body, and that body has to eat and sleep and be housed and be paid. There is nothing shameful in that. The soul side is the other set of things you arrived with. Curiosity. Intuition. Wonder. Presence. Love. Connection. All the qualities you were born fluent in and then slowly learned to distrust. And the centre of those two loops, that crossing point, is home. That is where we are meant to live. We cannot be all soul and no ego. We cannot be all ego and no soul. There is a reason this human form arrives with both intact. How We Drift We are born at the centre. Look at a baby, or any young child. They live from that centred place. They are led by the soul, so they are full of wonder and curiosity and joy. When they have a need in the ego world, they tell you about it, loudly. And the moment that need is met, they go straight back to the centre. Somewhere while we are growing up, that stops. We get skewed. Instead of living centred and dipping into the material world to meet real needs, we move in and try to grow there. And here is the part that I find hardest to say, because I lived it: We start using the soul’s gifts to feed the ego world. We use our intuition to win. We use our emotional connection to sell. Our presence stops being presence and becomes a way of impressing people. Visualise the loop now. The ego side swells and gets bigger and bigger. The soul side shrinks and gets smaller and smaller. And the centre, the home point, drifts away from us. So Why Aren’t We Happier? If more in the ego world were supposed to make us happier, we would have arrived by now. We have more than any generation before us. And still we are seeking. Joy. Meaning. Purpose. Something we cannot quite name. This has been happening for generations. I do not think we are broken. I think we have been growing the wrong side of the loop. And the correction is not what people assume. The goal is not to shrink the ego and grow the soul, because that is still an imbalance, just pointing the other way. It is not sustainable and it is not the point. The goal is to return to centre, and to use the ego material world as a tool and not as the destination. What My Guides Told Me About Your Body A lot of what I understand about this came through in readings. I have been told by my guides: You have a physical body. We do not. We can give you thoughts, and there is only so much we can do with thoughts. But you, in your physical form, have hands. Hands that can make a meal and carry it to someone who has none. Hands that can build a home for a person who does not have one. Legs that can take you places. A mouth that can communicate a feeling. A heartbeat that can connect and stay. You can create far more good karma in a physical body than you ever could in an energy body. That is why this life is rare, and why it is valuable. The human experience is not a distraction from the spiritual work. It is the instrument. The Practice So what if we used this loop to check in before every decision? I started doing that, and it has completely liberated the way I decide things. If I am spending money on something, I ask: Is this going to feed my soul, or is it merely feeding my ego? Sometimes the honest answer is the ego, and that is fine. I need a car to drive. That is a real need in the material world. But a car to meet my needs is a different thing from a fully loaded luxury car that will give me a temporary satisfaction and then leave. The answer comes easily now, because I am asking from a place of alignment, and because I want to stay as close to the centre as I can. What I Got Wrong for Years I was a chronic people pleaser. I lived at the far end of the ego side of that loop and I did not know it, because it looked like kindness. Then I saw it. People pleasing is more about the ego than about being a nice person. The reason I wanted to be a nice person was so that people would like me. And a need to be liked is an ego need, not a soul need. The moment I understood that, changing the behaviour became easy. Not comfortable. Easy. Because I was no longer defending it. So think about it honestly: Where in your life are you leading from ego, and calling it something kinder? The Way Back Is a Loop, Not a Line Coming back to centre is not a straight path. It is a loop for a reason. We go back and forth, back and forth, and I often describe it as the loop getting smaller and smaller until we reach the lowest point. Rock bottom. And it is from there that we rise, straight up through the centre. For the Next Seven Days Here is what I want you to try. For the next seven days, before you make any decision, before you react to something, before you push, ask: What is that feeding? Is it feeding my soul, or my ego? And if it is the ego, ask yourself: What would the alternative be? How could this same experience feed my soul instead? Take it to the people you love, too. We want our children to do well. We want every door open to them. But does our soul really care about another degree, another feather in their cap, if the cost is a child who is disconnected from themselves? Or is it more important that they learn to hear their own inner voice and lead from there? The more of us who lead from the soul, the better our relationships become, the better our health becomes, the better our finances become. And most of our problems live in exactly those three areas. One Last Thing This infinity loop came to me through my readings and my meditations. It is a small part of a much bigger visual that I am going to be using in my next book, and I wanted to give you a glimpse of where that journey started. I hope you make your way to the centre of it, and lead from that place of being centred, grounded, and whole. And remember: You are a spiritual being having a human experience. If You Want Help Finding Your Way Back to Centre Reading about the loop is one thing. Living at the centre of it, when the pull toward the ego side is constant and almost everyone around you rewards that pull, is another. That is the work I do one to one. We do not add more to your life. We look underneath the behaviour at the patterns that keep repeating no matter how hard you try from the surface, and we bring your head, heart and gut back into alignment, so that your decisions stop costing you so much. If that is what you are looking for, everything is here: 1:1 Intuitive Coaching Get full access to Chitra Rochlani at thewarriormindset.substack.com/subscribe
