Can We Fkn Talk?

Ashleigh Scrivener

Have you ever had that moment in Motherhood where you’ve wondered, “Why did no one tell me this BEFORE I had a baby?” Well I’m here to change all that by having the conversations you wish you had before becoming a parent. I’m Ashleigh Scrivener, a Connective Parenting and Mindset Coach passionate about supporting Mums to put themselves first so that you have the capacity to respond to your child’s needs and connect not only to yourself but your kids as well. With over 10 years in the early childhood education and care industry, I know a thing or two about early childhood development, children’s behaviour and supporting families through the early years, but when I became a parent myself, I felt like a fish out of water. I love supporting Mums find more ease in their parenting, personal and professional lives while saying goodbye to Mum guilt for good. This show will feature conversations, stories, helpful tips and parenting support from guest experts and parents with the goal of sharing publicly the conversations every Mum needs to hear. Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/canwefkntalk_pod/ Follow Ash: https://www.instagram.com/_ashscrivener/

  1. 030 | Lurinda V - Rebuilding After The Break-Up

    06/03/2025

    030 | Lurinda V - Rebuilding After The Break-Up

    In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I welcome back the incredible Lurinda for part two of her story - a no-filter, deeply vulnerable journey through separation, solo parenting, personal growth, and ultimately rekindling her relationship. We unpack the raw truth of what it really looks like to choose yourself in the messiest seasons - navigating solo Motherhood, facing the possibility of never having your own biological children, confronting past traumas, and slowly rebuilding a new kind of love after heartbreak. Lurinda shares how shadow work became a pivotal part of her healing and how understanding her own nervous system and identity helped her re-enter her relationship from a grounded and self-aware place. We also touch on: The hard decision to stay when core values start to mis-align.Doing the work for yourself, not your partner.The messy beauty of rebuilding trust after breakdown.Navigating Motherhood, ADHD, PMDD, and intimacy with compassion.What healthy co-parenting can really look like - even through a pandemic. If you’ve ever felt like you’ve lost yourself in love or wondered if there’s a way back after it all falls apart - this episode is for you. Connect with Lurinda: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/perspectivebylurinda/ Retreat: https://www.instagram.com/surrenderretreats/ Send me a message - I'd love to chat! Want to keep the conversation going? Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/canwefkntalk_pod Or follow my business page: https://www.instagram.com/_ashscrivener/

    54 min
  2. 026 | Rashelle L - Does Parenting Ever Get Any Easier?

    05/06/2025

    026 | Rashelle L - Does Parenting Ever Get Any Easier?

    Every stage of Motherhood brings its own unique set of challenges, whether it’s navigating sleep deprivation in the newborn phase, toddler tantrums and big emotions, or the emotional rollercoaster of raising school-aged kids. In today’s episode, I’m joined by the amazing Rashelle Leahy - mum of three who opens up about becoming a Mum in her early 20s, just months after getting married, and how she and her husband faced the pressure of juggling financial stress, growing a relationship, and figuring out who they were as individuals - all while raising a tiny human. We chat about what it’s like to parent without the village - how the support many of us expect from family just isn’t available anymore, and how that affects everything from our mental load to our relationships. Rashelle also shares how her identity as a working woman shifted after giving birth - and why that led her to make the bold decision to move her family to the Middle East. This episode is real and raw. It’s a reminder that the hard stuff doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong. It means you’re doing the work. Whether you’re feeling the tension in your relationship post-baby, struggling to reconnect with yourself, or wondering if you’re the only one riding the waves of change, I promise you’ll feel seen here. Connect with Rashelle: https://www.instagram.com/intuitivemummas/ https://intuitivemummas.com.au/ The 5 Love Languages - Gary Chapman Send me a message - I'd love to chat! Want to keep the conversation going? Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/canwefkntalk_pod Or follow my business page: https://www.instagram.com/_ashscrivener/

    46 min
  3. 025 | Ashy Anne - Parenting Is Political (Whether You Like It or Not)

    04/29/2025

    025 | Ashy Anne - Parenting Is Political (Whether You Like It or Not)

    In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I sit down with the incredible Ashy Anne to dive into the very real, often overlooked truth: parenting is political. From housing affordability and childcare accessibility to tax systems, superannuation, and even the groceries in our trolley - politics shapes every aspect of our lives as parents. Now before you roll your eyes or switch off, hear me out. Politics isn’t just something that happens in Parliament or on the news. It’s in the cost of daycare. It’s in your maternity leave. It’s in your grocery bill, the roads you drive on, the schools your kids go to, and the support you do or don’t get as a parent. We talk about why being a parent means you're already impacted by political decisions - so you might as well get informed and involved. From housing to healthcare, from Centrelink payments to why the hell early childhood educators are still so undervalued - we go there. This isn’t a lecture. It's a real, honest, slightly fired-up convo between two Mums who care. If you’re feeling too overwhelmed, too under-resourced, or too disillusioned to even think about politics right now - I see you. That’s exactly why this episode matters. And if you want to make an informed choice this election but don’t know where to start, I’ve got you: 🗳 Resources to support your vote: ABC Vote Compass: https://www.abc.net.au/news/vote-compass/Build a Ballot: https://www.buildaballot.org.au/Let’s stop saying “I don’t do politics” when politics is absolutely doing us. Send me a message - I'd love to chat! Want to keep the conversation going? Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/canwefkntalk_pod Or follow my business page: https://www.instagram.com/_ashscrivener/

    2h 9m
  4. 022 | Danni W - Twin Motherhood, identity shifts & expectations

    02/25/2025

    022 | Danni W - Twin Motherhood, identity shifts & expectations

    In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I sit down with the incredible Danni Whiley, who went from living a busy, adventurous life with her own business to the unexpected journey of becoming a twin Mum. We dive deep into the identity shift she experienced and how her whole world changed the moment she found out she was expecting twins. Danni shares the emotional rollercoaster of navigating late postpartum depression and anxiety, shedding light on the silent struggles so many Mums face but rarely talk about. We get real about the pressure to be the “perfect” Mum, the guilt of not being able to do it all, and the raw truth of juggling two babies at once. Danni talks candidly about the challenges of balancing her own identity with the demands of Motherhood, including the emotional toll of letting go of her grooming business to find a new path that aligned with her needs as a Mum. We also explore the expectations and judgements that come with Motherhood, the reality of needing a strong support system, and the pivotal role childcare played in maintaining her mental health. Danni’s honesty about feeling isolated despite being surrounded by people is something every Mum can relate to, especially when the village you expected doesn’t quite show up the way you hoped. Find Danni here: https://www.instagram.com/creativechaos.social/ https://www.tiktok.com/@danni.whiley Send me a message - I'd love to chat! Want to keep the conversation going? Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/canwefkntalk_pod Or follow my business page: https://www.instagram.com/_ashscrivener/

    42 min

About

Have you ever had that moment in Motherhood where you’ve wondered, “Why did no one tell me this BEFORE I had a baby?” Well I’m here to change all that by having the conversations you wish you had before becoming a parent. I’m Ashleigh Scrivener, a Connective Parenting and Mindset Coach passionate about supporting Mums to put themselves first so that you have the capacity to respond to your child’s needs and connect not only to yourself but your kids as well. With over 10 years in the early childhood education and care industry, I know a thing or two about early childhood development, children’s behaviour and supporting families through the early years, but when I became a parent myself, I felt like a fish out of water. I love supporting Mums find more ease in their parenting, personal and professional lives while saying goodbye to Mum guilt for good. This show will feature conversations, stories, helpful tips and parenting support from guest experts and parents with the goal of sharing publicly the conversations every Mum needs to hear. Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/canwefkntalk_pod/ Follow Ash: https://www.instagram.com/_ashscrivener/