After Peter Pan: Growing Up to Purpose

Pat Tenneriello
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After Peter Pan is a podcast hosted by Pat Tenneriello that dives into the journey of growing up and discovering purpose.  Inspired by Pat's own experience of leaving behind a "Peter Pan" lifestyle—one focused on chasing fun and avoiding responsibility—the podcast speaks to anyone on their path of personal growth. Whether you're looking to live a healthier life, further develop your growth mindset, or seek closer alignment with your sense of purpose, this show is for you. Each episode features an in-depth conversation with a special guest who shares their own story of transformation. Through these interviews, you'll gain insights, practical tools, and wisdom to help navigate your own path to self-realization. From overcoming obstacles to embracing change, After Peter Pan explores what it really means to grow—on your own terms. New episodes drop every two weeks. Join the community and start growing with purpose.

  1. Is Survival Mode Stunting Your Growth?

    7H AGO

    Is Survival Mode Stunting Your Growth?

    In this episode of After Peter Pan, host Pat Tenneriello sits down with psychotherapist Cassandra Tenneriello to explore trauma, survival mode, and why so many people feel stuck, anxious, or unable to change. They break down what trauma really is, how it shows up in everyday behaviors like avoidance, numbing, and people-pleasing, and how the nervous system (fight, flight, freeze, and fawn) keeps us in patterns that limit personal growth. This conversation covers trauma healing, emotional regulation, and practical ways to feel safe in your body so real change becomes possible. What You'll Learn: What trauma is and how it affects mental health and behaviorWhy you feel stuck, anxious, or unable to changeHow survival mode impacts your nervous system and daily lifeCommon trauma responses: fight, flight, freeze, and fawnWhy you’re not broken—and how to start healingSimple tools to regulate your nervous system and feel safe again About Cassandra Tenneriello: Cassandra Tenneriello, is a Registered Psychotherapist and Canadian Certified Counsellor based in Ontario.Cassandra brings over 11 years of experience supporting individuals across the lifespan who are navigating trauma, addiction, sexual assault, intergenerational trauma, anxiety, depression, grief, identity challenges, and more.Her approach is deeply client-centered and integrative, grounded in the belief that the therapeutic relationship is the foundation for meaningful healing. She works collaboratively with her clients to create a safe, compassionate space where they can reconnect with their strengths and move forward in their lives.Cassandra has also provided counselling services in remote and isolated Indigenous communities across the James and Hudson Bay region, where she gained a deep appreciation for the interconnectedness of physical, emotional, spiritual, and mental well-being.Cassandra understands that reaching out for help can be difficult but she believes that even beginning that search is a powerful first step toward healing. Email:info@triellocounsellingservices.comWebsite:https://www.triellocounsellingservices.com/Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/triello.counselling.services/?hl=enFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/triellocounsellingservices/Blog:https://www.triellocounsellingservices.com/blog

    52 min
  2. How to Be When Death Arrives

    MAR 3

    How to Be When Death Arrives

    In this episode of After Peter Pan, host Pat Tenneriello sits down with death doula Paul Simard to explore grief, death, and how to face mortality without avoidance. Paul shares his experience supporting individuals and families through dying, and reflects on how modern Western culture has distanced itself from death—outsourcing it to hospitals, funeral homes, and institutions in ways that leave many of us unsure how to respond when someone dies. Pat and Paul discuss why we struggle to talk about death, the language we use around grief, the fear and discomfort beneath our reactions, and how our beliefs shape the way we approach dying. Together, they explore what it means to be present with someone who is dying, how to support someone who is grieving, and why death may not be a failure—but part of the natural cycle of life. What You’ll Learn: Why so many people feel uncomfortable when someone dies How to support someone who is grieving Why we avoid talking about death and how that affects us What a death doula does and how they help during the dying process How reframing mortality as an act of service can change the way we live

    1h 9m
  3. Faith, Forgiveness & The Weight of a Calling

    JAN 19

    Faith, Forgiveness & The Weight of a Calling

    In this episode of After Peter Pan, host Pat Tenneriello sits down with Austin May—a 23-year-old preparing for pastoral ministry—to explore faith, forgiveness, and the weight of answering a calling. Austin shares his journey from hedonism, anger, and resentment toward a life shaped by conviction, including the pivotal moment he confronted his hatred toward his father and chose forgiveness. Pat and Austin dive into what religion offers beyond self-help and psychotherapy, the difference between self-improvement and surrender, and what it means to take belief seriously when it demands responsibility rather than comfort. Together, they reflect on certainty, doubt, personal transformation, and what “growing up” looks like when faith carries real weight. What You’ll Learn: How forgiveness can become a turning point for personal transformation What faith offers that self-help, psychotherapy, and philosophy often can’t Why conviction and certainty can feel both freeing and burdensome The difference between living for self-improvement and answering a calling What growing up really means when belief comes with responsibility Links: Booklet - Your Verdict on the Empty Tomb:https://www.amazon.com/Your-Verdict-Val-Grieve/dp/1783971894

    1h 15m
  4. The Cost of Speaking Up | The Hon. Leela Aheer

    12/04/2025

    The Cost of Speaking Up | The Hon. Leela Aheer

    In this episode of After Peter Pan, host Pat Tenneriello sits down with the Hon. Leela Aheer—Former Alberta Cabinet Minister, Former Deputy Leader of the United Conservative Party, musician, and a leader in healthcare and AI—to explore Minister, Former Deputy Leader of the United Conservative what it means to stand up for your principles when it isn’t safe or popular. Leela reflects on speaking out against her own party during COVID, the personal and political consequences of choosing integrity, and why she believes silence is the greatest threat to democracy. Pat and Leela dive into the loss of nuance in public discourse, the pressures of political life, the viral moment when she jumped in front of a charging bull, and her path of reinvention rooted in resilience, responsibility, and service. What You'll Learn: Why speaking up during crisis moments can reshape a career—and a lifeHow integrity, loyalty, and responsibility intersect in public leadershipWhat’s driving division and the loss of nuance in modern civic discourseHow Leela’s journey reveals the nature of courage, resilience, and reinventionHow AI and precision medicine may transform the healthcare landscape

    1h 11m
  5. Modern Dating & The Fertility Crisis: An Inconvenient Truth

    11/06/2025

    Modern Dating & The Fertility Crisis: An Inconvenient Truth

    Episode Description In this episode of After Peter Pan, host Pat Tenneriello sits down with Mads Larsen, a researcher and author who studies the evolution of love, and pair bonding. Together, they explore one of the most uncomfortable questions of our time: What happens when modern dating stops working—and what does that mean for our future? Mads unpacks the history of human mating, from the rise of monogamy to the Tinder era, explaining how technology, freedom, and shifting gender dynamics have created the perfect storm for a global fertility collapse. The conversation dives deep into how men and women are adapting (or failing to), why we may have become too smart for our own survival, and whether society can find balance between individual freedom and collective continuation. What You’ll Learn: How modern dating apps and social trends are reshaping human pair bonding. Why declining fertility rates could represent a deeper cultural crisis. The evolutionary roots of attraction, love, and family formation. How women’s liberation and technological progress changed mating forever. What it might take to rebuild connection in an age of hyper-freedom. Mads Larsen: Research Gate Google Scholar Book: Stories of Love from Vikings to Tinder - Link to free download Photo Credit for Mads: Photo by Øivind Haugen

    1h 28m
  6. Responsibility. Service. Purpose. - Lessons From Matt Luloff

    10/09/2025

    Responsibility. Service. Purpose. - Lessons From Matt Luloff

    In this episode of "After Peter Pan," host Pat Tennerello sits down with Matt Luloff, an Ottawa city councillor, Afghan war veteran, and musician. They explore Matt's journey of finding purpose through service, from his military experiences to his role in public office. Matt shares insights on responsibility, resilience, and mental health, including his personal battle with PTSD and the transformative power of exposure therapy. Join us for an inspiring conversation about growth, community, and the impact of service. What You'll Learn: The importance of taking on responsibility and how it leads to personal growth.Insights into overcoming the fear of failure and using it as a stepping stone.Matt Luloff's personal journey with PTSD and the role of exposure therapy in his recovery.The impact of community service and how small actions can create lasting change.How Matt transitioned from military service to becoming a city councillor and his motivations behind it.

    1h 5m
  7. From Sales to Psychotherapy: My Next Step

    09/11/2025

    From Sales to Psychotherapy: My Next Step

    In this short solo update, Pat shares some exciting news—he’s gone back to school to pursue a Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology. He reflects on why this step feels like the natural next chapter in his journey of growth, how it connects to the purpose behind the After Peter Pan Podcast, and what it means for the podcast going forward. Pat also opens up about recommitting to personal routines, the importance of self-care, and his long-term vision of building a community around wellness and mental health.

    11 min
  8. Building a Sustainable Fitness Lifestyle

    08/28/2025

    Building a Sustainable Fitness Lifestyle

    In this conversation, Pat Tenneriello and Pascal Vicario explore the intricate relationship between physical fitness, mental health, and family dynamics. Pascal shares his journey of maintaining fitness for over 15 years, emphasizing the importance of understanding one's motivations, the role of faith, and the significance of a supportive family. They discuss daily routines, meal prep, and the balance between healthy eating and enjoying life through cheat meals, ultimately advocating for a holistic approach to wellness. What You'll Learn: How finding your “why” fuels consistency and resilience in fitness and life.Why obsession with fitness can backfire—and how to create balance instead.The 80/20 approach to healthy eating and why it beats cheat days.How faith and family keep Pascal grounded through life’s challenges.Tips for staying efficient at the gym when time is limited.How to develop mind-body connection for better results.Strategies for breaking plateaus and making workouts more effective.Why selfish time in the morning can make you more selfless throughout the day.The ripple effect of discipline across family, career, and personal growth.Social Media Links: After Peter Pan Podcast: FacebookInstagram Pascal Vicario

    1h 5m
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After Peter Pan is a podcast hosted by Pat Tenneriello that dives into the journey of growing up and discovering purpose.  Inspired by Pat's own experience of leaving behind a "Peter Pan" lifestyle—one focused on chasing fun and avoiding responsibility—the podcast speaks to anyone on their path of personal growth. Whether you're looking to live a healthier life, further develop your growth mindset, or seek closer alignment with your sense of purpose, this show is for you. Each episode features an in-depth conversation with a special guest who shares their own story of transformation. Through these interviews, you'll gain insights, practical tools, and wisdom to help navigate your own path to self-realization. From overcoming obstacles to embracing change, After Peter Pan explores what it really means to grow—on your own terms. New episodes drop every two weeks. Join the community and start growing with purpose.

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