In the Wash

Erin Acharya

In the Wash is a weekly hypnobirthing to parenting podcast that helps pregnant and postpartum parents transform anxiety into confidence by gently reframing cultural pressure and reconnecting with their inner wisdom through 10-15 minute bite-sized episodes. New episodes drop every Wednesday. Join the community of parents choosing confidence over comparison, trust over fear, and joy over perfectionism. Subscribe now and discover that the "right" way to birth and parent is whatever feels right for you, and know that "It'll all come out in the wash". Less anxiety. More you.

  1. Mar 9

    ITW #11: An Analog Pregnancy

    There is a growing movement toward analog living — unplugging, going back to basics, reclaiming the tactile and the slow. Most of the conversation focuses on children: screen time limits, phone-free schools, play-based childhoods. But in this episode, we back up. Because the story doesn't start in childhood. It starts in pregnancy. From the moment the test turns positive, the cultural message is clear: download the app, join the forum, follow the expert, research everything. A good pregnant person is a prepared pregnant person — and preparation means research. But for a generation of expecting parents who grew up online, who felt in their own bodies what living on screens can do to a nervous system, something about this script doesn't feel right. In this episode, we explore: The cultural message that equates information with care — and why putting the phone down can feel irresponsibleWhat the research says about smartphone use during pregnancy, including a 2025 study linking 4+ hours of daily use to three times the odds of prenatal anxietyThe pregnancy app paradox: tools designed to inform that can end up increasing hypervigilanceHow negative birth stories circulating online are directly associated with higher anxiety about childbirthThe scroll-fear loop: why we reach for the phone to manage anxiety, and why it makes the anxiety worseWhat an analog pregnancy might look like — not perfectly unplugged, but more intentional, more spacious, more yoursWe close with a NOW practice for building a different relationship with the spaces you fill and the ones you leave open. Research: Frontiers in Medicine (2025): Study on smartphone overuse, nighttime use, social networking, and prenatal anxietyFrontiers in Psychology (January 2026): Study on the emotional tone of birth stories and pregnancy-related anxietySystematic analysis of pregnancy apps: scientific guidance, commercialization, and user perception (PMC, 2024)Books: Jonathan Haidt, The Anxious Generation — the book catalyzing the analog living movementOrganizations: Wait Until 8th: waituntil8th.org — pledge for parents to delay smartphones for kidsBirth Evolved: Birth Prep Course, Calm + Confident Birth: birthevolved.comNewsletter, Wash & Wonder: subscribe at birthevolved.comWhat would a more analog pregnancy look like for you? Not perfectly unplugged. Not performatively offline. Just more intentional. I'd love to hear — reply to the Wash & Wonder newsletter or reach out at birthevolved.com. If the anxiety feels like more than you can manage on your own — whether it's related to your phone use, your pregnancy, or your experience as a new parent — please reach out for support: Postpartum Support International (PSI): postpartum.net — helpline and provider directoryYour OB/midwife or care provider — they want to hear about thisYou don't have to navigate this alone.

  2. Feb 13

    ITW #10: The Thoughts No One Talks About: Why Your Brain Gets Scary When You Become a Parent

    What if the scariest part of new parenthood isn't the sleepless nights — it's what happens inside your own mind? Research shows that 70–100% of new mothers and over two-thirds of new fathers experience intrusive, unwanted thoughts about their baby being harmed. Yet almost no one talks about it. In this episode, we explore the cultural message that tells parents to suppress anything that doesn't look like bliss, why that silence makes scary thoughts worse, and what the science actually says about why your brain does this. Spoiler: it's not broken. It might just be working too hard. We also discuss when intrusive thoughts cross into perinatal OCD — and what to do if that sounds familiar. Then we practice, using our NOW framework to begin building a different relationship with our own minds. If your thoughts have become a problem for you, please do not hesitate to reach out for help! Suggested Resources: Postpartum Support International (PSI): — helpline and provider directoryMaternal OCD: — perinatal OCD information and supportInternational OCD Foundation — Perinatal OCD page: Schweizer, S. (2025). "Perinatal intrusions: A window into perinatal anxiety disorders." Science Advances.UNSW Sydney coverage: "Dark thoughts before and after giving birth are almost universal"Birth Evolved: Birth Prep Course, Calm + Confident Birth, and individual sessionsNewsletter: Wash & Wonder

  3. Feb 5

    ITW #9: Helicopter Parenting vs Permissive Parenting: Finding Your Way Beyond the Labels

    Do you ever freeze in those parenting moments when you're not sure whether to step in or step back? When your child is struggling and you can't tell if helping means you're hovering or if not helping means you're neglecting them? The labels are everywhere: helicopter parent, permissive parent, free-range parent, authoritative parent. We're told to find the "goldilocks zone" - involved but not too involved, protective but not overprotective. And underneath all the advice is a quieter message: if your child is struggling, it means you've gotten the balance wrong. In this episode, we explore how these parenting style categories might actually be part of the problem. What if the question isn't "Am I doing too much or too little?" but rather "What does this specific child need from me in this specific moment?" We examine:• Why trying to calibrate the "right amount" of involvement creates constant anxiety• How these labels turn parenting into a performance rather than a relationship• What responsive parenting actually looks like when we let go of categories• A real-world example from a parenting group struggling with when to let kids quit versus pushing them to persevere This isn't about finding a new framework or better balance. It's about reconnecting with what you actually see in front of you - your child, in this moment, with their specific needs. Through gentle inquiry and our NOW practice, we create space to move from fear-based decisions to values-connected presence. Because responsive parenting isn't about hitting some theoretical middle point - it's about staying attuned to your actual child. If you're exhausted from trying to parent "correctly," this episode offers something different: permission to trust what you see, release the categories, and respond to what's actually happening. Resources mentioned: "The Wrong Way to Motivate Your Kid" (The Atlantic, May 2024) Find more at birthevolved.com or subscribe to the Wash & Wonder newsletter for continued reflection between episodes.

  4. Jan 21

    ITW #7: The Working/Stay at home Parent Guilt

    In the Wash is a space for gentle inquiry into the cultural messages that shape who we're becoming as parents. Each episode examines beliefs that create anxiety, offers compassionate reframes, and includes a guided practice to help you find more peace. Feeling guilty no matter what choice you've made about work and parenting? You're not imagining it—and you're not alone. If you work outside the home, there's a voice whispering that you're failing your children. If you stay home, a different voice insists you're losing yourself. And for most of us, both voices speak at once: be fully present at home AND fully committed to your career. Prioritize your children above all else AND pursue your own fulfillment. This isn't just anxiety. It's an impossible bind created by a culture that's never quite decided what it wants from parents—especially mothers. In this episode, we explore why this "choice" between working and staying home creates such persistent guilt, and why the question itself might be the problem. We'll examine how this binary framing is relatively new in human history, how economic realities have eliminated real choice for many families, and why parents often direct judgment at each other instead of at the systems that make parenting so unnecessarily hard. What you'll discover: Why this guilt persists even when you know logically you're doing your bestHow to distinguish between productive reflection ("Is this still working?") and cultural guilt ("Whatever I'm doing isn't enough")What research actually shows about children thriving in different family arrangementsA gentle reframe that shifts from "Am I making the right choice?" to "How do I make peace with what my family needs right now?"The Practice:Using the NOW technique (Notice, Open, Wonder), we'll explore where guilt lives in your body and create space for self-compassion. This isn't about fixing or changing your choice—it's about releasing the weight of impossible expectations. Whether you work full-time, stay home, or navigate something in between, this episode offers permission to trust that your choice is enough. Continue the conversation: Join the Wash & Wonder newsletter for deeper reflections on parenting with less anxiety and more intention.

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In the Wash is a weekly hypnobirthing to parenting podcast that helps pregnant and postpartum parents transform anxiety into confidence by gently reframing cultural pressure and reconnecting with their inner wisdom through 10-15 minute bite-sized episodes. New episodes drop every Wednesday. Join the community of parents choosing confidence over comparison, trust over fear, and joy over perfectionism. Subscribe now and discover that the "right" way to birth and parent is whatever feels right for you, and know that "It'll all come out in the wash". Less anxiety. More you.