My Mum's a Sex Therapist

Jacqueline Hellyer
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My Mum's a Sex Therapist is a podcast focusing on sex, love and intimacy. The two hosts, Claude and Jacqueline are a mother-daughter duo that explores elements of sexuality through the intersection of sex, science and spirituality.

  1. DO YOU CONSENT?

    Feb 24

    DO YOU CONSENT?

    Hello lovers – today we’re diving into Consent. Consent is one of the most talked-about concepts in modern relationships, yet so much of the conversation still reduces it to a simple yes-or-no decision. But real intimacy is rarely that clean or binary. What if consent isn’t just a gate you pass through, but an ongoing, living process that unfolds moment by moment? In this episode, we unpack the limitations of the traditional consent model many of us were taught — the idea that you either agree to “sex” as a whole event or you don’t. We explore how this linear way of thinking shapes our expectations, our pressure, and even our confusion when navigating desire and boundaries. Together, we challenge the fear-based framing that dominates consent education and examine what’s often missing from these conversations: pleasure, communication, connection, and the relational dance between two people. Because intimacy isn’t a procedure one person performs on another — it’s something co-created in real time. Along the way, we reflect on how consent is taught in schools, how young people really learn about sex, and why treating teenagers as either fragile or clueless misses the complexity of their lived reality. We also examine how early consent narratives quietly follow us into adulthood, shaping long-term relationships in ways we rarely question. This is a conversation about agency, embodiment, and learning to notice what we want — not just what we reject. About moving beyond “Is this a yes or a no?” into “What would feel good? What are we creating together?” Think nuanced discussion, real-world insight, and a radically more human way of understanding consent — not as a rule, but as a shared practice of awareness, communication, and connection. If you want more of Jacqueline and Claude, head over to their instagram pages @mymumsasextherapist, @nottclaude and @jacqueline.hellyer. Jacqueline’s Website https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/ Jacqueline's new online Couples Intimacy Masterclass (POD20 for 20% off) https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/couples-intimacy-masterclass Jacqueline’s Substack - The Erotic Provocateur https://jacquelinehellyer.substack.com/ Jacqueline’s retreats https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/lovelife-retreats Our intro and outro music was created By Paul Searls. You can find more of him at https://thesoftlights.com/ This podcast was edited, produced and co-hosted by Claude. You can find them on instagram @nottclaude

    43 min
  2. Episode 7: EMBODIMENT - why we turn to the cosmetic instead of ourselves.

    08/18/2025

    Episode 7: EMBODIMENT - why we turn to the cosmetic instead of ourselves.

    Welcome back to My Mum’s a Sex Therapist! This week, we’re diving into embodiment—what it really is, why it matters, and how it can transform everything from your daily presence to your sex life. First, our Erotic Moments of the Week:
Jacqueline shares a surprising comment from a Melbourne tango teacher—that her right arm wasn’t in embrace. For someone who prides herself on full-body presence, it sparked big reflections on whole-body embodiment, from fingertips to toes.
Claude’s moment? The hilarious contrast between last week’s steamy segment and friends’ feedback on how their personality lights up the show—fueling a new wave of confidence. We kick off with a short embodiment practice before unpacking what embodiment isn’t (spoiler: too many of us are just “a head with limbs”). You’ll learn how embodiment slows time, lowers anxiety, deepens intimacy, and simply feels better. We explore why it’s crucial for sex, how it can change our relationship with ageing, and why fierce self-love beats societal expectations every time. Plus—a guided body scan, a taste of somatic therapy, and a call to choose yourself daily. Finally, we answer a listener’s vulnerable question:
“Why do I disassociate during sex?” It’s intimate, a little confronting, and full of real-world tools to bring you back into your body. @mymumsasextherapist, @nottclaude and @Jacqueline.hellyer. Jacqueline’s Website https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/ Jacqueline’s retreats https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/lovelife-retreats Our intro and outro music was created By Paul Searls. You can find more of him at https://thesoftlights.com/ This podcast was edited, produced and co-hosted by Claude. You can find them on instagram @nottclaude

    47 min
  3. Episode 6: PORN MAKES BAD LOVERS - Sex therapist reacts to porn

    07/30/2025

    Episode 6: PORN MAKES BAD LOVERS - Sex therapist reacts to porn

    Welcome back to My Mum’s a Sex Therapist! This week, Claude swims with a seal and gets a message from the ocean, Jacqueline has an erotic moment that leaves us all blushing, and we dive deep into one of the most controversial corners of the internet: porn. We unpack the earliest known depiction of pornography and ask: what happens when we analyse erotic content outside the framework of our sexually repressed, patriarchal society? Spoiler: everything changes. We explore why porn often makes for terrible lovers — it's too intense, skips the emotional build-up, misrepresents sexual response, and reinforces unsafe, disempowering dynamics for both viewers and creators. Most people engage with porn like it's a sex-ed class, when really it should be watched like an action film. You wouldn't see Infinity War and start throwing punches in real life — same goes here. We also talk parenting in the age of Pornhub, navigating our own (sometimes compulsive) porn journeys, and what it actually looks like to transition into more holistic, embodied, and intentional forms of pleasure. Practical tools included. Plus, we answer a listener’s very real question: “Should I stop my kids from watching porn?” and “Should I stop watching porn?” As always, thank you for being here. Your support means the world. And your erotic moments? Keep them coming.

    58 min
  4. Episode 3: Your Intimacy Thermostat: Understanding Your Desire (Part 1)

    05/22/2025

    Episode 3: Your Intimacy Thermostat: Understanding Your Desire (Part 1)

    Welcome back to My Mum’s a Sex Therapist! In this episode, we dive into one of Jacqueline Hellyer’s signature concepts: your intimacy thermostat—what it is, why it matters, and how to tune into your own settings (and your partner’s). But first, we kick things off by reacting to your creative and hilarious words for private parts—our listeners never disappoint! Then we share our erotic moments of the week: for Jacqueline, a quiet encounter with two lizards in the garden (yes, really); for Claude, a lesson in living with authenticity. Jacqueline unpacks the intimacy thermostat (inspired by this blog), encouraging us to understand the full spectrum of desire—from low heat to full-blown boil. We explore what turns us on, what turns us off, and how to stay connected even when desire doesn’t feel immediate. We also get into: - What it means to live a turned-on life (hint: it starts with knowing your own enhancers and detractors) - Why being real is sexier than trying to be sexy - How to communicate your needs without shame And finally, we tackle a listener’s honest question: “My partner uses a baby voice and it turns me off. How do I tell him to stop?” You know us—it’s sexy, awkward, and 100% educational. If you want more of Jacqueline and Claude, head over to their Instagram page @mymumsasextherapist, @nottclaude and @Jacqueline.hellyer. Jacqueline’s Website https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/ Jacqueline’s Couples Retreats https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/lovelife-retreats

    35 min
  5. Episode 2: The Importance of Language

    05/13/2025

    Episode 2: The Importance of Language

    Welcome back to "My Mum's a Sex Therapist!" In this episode, we discuss the importance of language in sexual relationships. We start with Jacqueline’s experience involving a horsehair flogger and Claude’s confession about some truly great sex. What made it great? Surprise: it wasn’t just technique; it was communication. Jacqueline explores why the words we use around sex can often kill the mood before it even begins. For instance, the clinical coldness of terms like "penetration" (ugh) and the off-putting cringe of "root" show how language can either foster connection or shut it down entirely. Spoiler alert: "penetration" centers the penis and implies resistance—definitely not sexy. We also delve into the art of being seductive and what it actually means (hint: it’s not about manipulation). Choosing our words with intention can transform awkward conversations into hot, open exchanges. Plus, we respond to a listener's vulnerable question: “My partner and I have stopped having sex, and we don’t know how to talk about it.” As always, it's a sexy, awkward, and educational episode!

    39 min
  6. Season 2 Premiere: Project Great Sex 2025 & The Art of Intentional Eroticism

    05/06/2025

    Season 2 Premiere: Project Great Sex 2025 & The Art of Intentional Eroticism

    Welcome back! Season 2 kicks off with a deep dive into erotic energy—not just as a bedroom thing, but as a life force. The better we feel about life, the better we express our eroticism, and that passion loops right back into how we experience joy. Jacqueline reflects on the holiday season and the healing, sensual peace of nature. Claude explores oysters as an aphrodisiac and a symbol of a new era in self-expression. And then—Project Great Sex 2025. We’re talking about intentionality with sex: no more autopilot. Step 1: Define it. What does great sex mean to you? Pay attention to what you like.
Step 2: Communicate it. From setup to timing—lay the groundwork for the experience you actually want.
Step 3: Make it happen. Don't let it slip into the background. So… how’s your Project Great Sex going? Plus an excellent listener story about the unsolicited dick pic… Let’s get into it. 🔥 If you want more of Jacqueline and Claude, head over to their instagram page @mymumsasextherapist, @nottclaude and @Jacqueline.hellyer. Jacqueline’s Website https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/ Jacqueline’s retreats https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/lovelife-retreats Our intro and outro music was created By Paul Sears. You can find more of him at https://thesoftlights.com/ This podcast was edited, produced and co-hosted by Claude. You can find them on instagram @nottclaude

    52 min

  7. 02/19/2025

    Season 2 Premiere: Project Great Sex 2025 & The Art of Intentional Eroticism

    audio style="width: 480px; display: block;" controls="controls" preload="auto" src="https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/podcasts/S2EP_1.m4a"> source src="https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/podcasts/S2EP_1.m4a" type="audio/mp4"> p> Season 2 Premiere: Project Great Sex 2025 & The Art of Intentional Eroticism/p> /audio> p> Welcome back! Season 2 kicks off with a deep dive into erotic energy—not just as a bedroom thing, but as a life force. The better we feel about life, the better we express our eroticism, and that passion loops right back into how we experience joy. Jacqueline reflects on the holiday season and the healing, sensual peace of nature. Claude explores oysters as an aphrodisiac and a symbol of a new era in self-expression. And then—Project Great Sex 2025. We’re talking about intentionality with sex: no more autopilot. Step 1: Define it. What does great sex mean to you? Pay attention to what you like. Step 2: Communicate it. From setup to timing—lay the groundwork for the experience you actually want. Step 3: Make it happen. Don't let it slip into the background. So… how’s your Project Great Sex going? Plus an excellent listener story about the unsolicited dick pic… Let’s get into it. If you want more of Jacqueline and Claude, head over to their instagram page @mymumsasextherapist, @nottclaude and @Jacqueline.hellyer. Jacqueline’s Website https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/ Jacqueline’s retreats https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/lovelife-retreats Our intro and outro music was created By Paul Searls. You can find more of him at https://thesoftlights.com/ This podcast was edited, produced and co-hosted by Claude. You can find them on instagram @nottclaude Sex Playlists https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6Ut6qypd1J5FH3D8lRcugW?si=hn-eHrRQSnyOp_uGj2yw3w https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3jwU5fuz9eYqFR7syZLYRv?si=U5dy91XWTsCZCnZeR0KIDQ https://open.spotify.com/playlist/40uDRKHKq35NjAzQ3cjU2J?si=OuNurT5IQAS--nFAI9xxOw /p>

  8. 12/25/2024

    Episode 9: Season Finale – WHAT COMES BEFORE CONSENT

    audio style="width: 480px; display: block;" controls="controls" preload="auto" src="https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/podcasts/episode-9.m4a"> source src="https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/podcasts/episode-9.m4a" type="audio/mp4"> p> Episode 9: Season Finale – WHAT COMES BEFORE CONSENT/p> /audio> p> Welcome back to My Mum's a Sex Therapist! It’s our season finale, and we’re diving deep into a topic that lays the groundwork for healthier, more fulfilling relationships: what comes before consent. This week, we unpack the flaws in the traditional consent model. Does the “yes or no” approach to sex leave room for pleasure, equity, or true connection? Spoiler: it doesn’t. Instead, we explore how this binary mindset can lead to power imbalances, misunderstood boundaries, and even the illusion of consent in relationships. Whether you’re single, coupled up, or a relationship veteran, this episode has something for you. Jacqueline breaks it down, introducing the two essential steps that must come before consent: self-awareness and communication. Together, we discuss how to develop an embodied sense of self—a kind of internal GPS—that allows you to co-create deeply authentic, pleasurable experiences with your partner. Drawing on scientific research and over a decade of clinical experience, Jacqueline also reveals a surprising truth: most couples don’t even know why they’re having sex. And yes, language plays a HUGE role in libido. We guide you through the process of cultivating self-awareness, tuning into your desires, and learning to understand your partner’s needs—skills that are game-changing for relationships. In this episode’s Erotic Moments segment, Jacqueline reflects on her deep affection for Sydney, especially the joy of returning home after travels. Meanwhile, Claude opens up about their hectic lifestyle, sparking a discussion about how many of us have become desensitized to stress—and how that impacts intimacy. At its core, this episode is about learning how to share yourself in ways that feel safe, authentic, and undeniably pleasurable. Oh, and don’t miss our answers to your burning listener questions! - I don’t know how to say no to my partner, how do I stop that? Practice safe, authentic connection this holiday season—and don’t forget that our 2025 retreats make the ultimate Christmas gift (on sale Boxing Day!). Tune in, and let’s create a world where connection starts way before consent. Couple’s Bali Retreat https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/couples-tantra-retreat-bali 2nd-6the June and 1st-5th of December 2025. Bambu Indah venue for the Bali retreat https://www.bambuindah.com/ Couple’s Blue Mountains Retreat https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/couples-tantra-retreat-blue-mountains 14th-16th February, 20th-22nd June and 17th-19th October 2025. LoveLife Women’s Retreat https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/lovelife-womens-retreat 14th-16th March, 15th-17th August 2025. Online Course for Men https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/mens-sexual-mastery-course Online Course for Women https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/womens-sexual-empowerment-course Online Course for Couples coming in 2025! If you want more of Jacqueline and Claude, head over to their instagram page @mymumsasextherapist, @nottclaude and @Jacqueline.hellyer. Jacqueline’s Website https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/ Our intro and outro music was created By Paul Sears. You can find more of him at https://thesoftlights.com/ This podcast was edited, produced and co-hosted by Claude. You can find them on instagram @nottclaude Sex Playlists https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6Ut6qypd1J5FH3D8lRcugW?si=hn-eHrRQSnyOp_uGj2yw3w https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3jwU5fuz9eYqFR7syZLYRv?si=U5dy91XWTsCZCnZeR0KIDQ https://open.spotify.com/playlist/40uDRKHKq35NjAzQ3cjU2J?si=OuNurT5IQAS--nFAI9xxOw https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1REWcOEmwiN2homQIjR4U2?si=dYCIFlwQQOm_OMSmnfVzNA https://open.spotify.com/playlist/020NX9cyLvnQIwWgRBNTbf?si=MWgrFYT1S2aMgqc0BLvtuw https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2a9I0O9OsEGNA3NuMtYxAz?si=_RLA1tWXSPKfGYA4tXEKkw https://open.spotify.com/playlist/7LHPXCZRMNtF6Ynw86aQsG?si=ldyvcGEWQEuiux96_1O7SA https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3Fg231vRMvvbYzBW3h8kGs?si=KNON9K6bQmCW0KF6f9nAYA /p>

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My Mum's a Sex Therapist is a podcast focusing on sex, love and intimacy. The two hosts, Claude and Jacqueline are a mother-daughter duo that explores elements of sexuality through the intersection of sex, science and spirituality.

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  • Creator
    Jacqueline Hellyer
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    15
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © @2025 Jacqueline Hellyer
  • Show Website
    My Mum's a Sex Therapist