Better After Divorce

Coach Ivy
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Are you ready to go from the devastation of divorce to the reclamation of your entire life? Well, Queen, you’ve arrived at the perfect place! Welcome to Better After Divorce, the podcast dedicated to empowering women on their journey to reign with confidence, passion, and power in royal fashion. This is where we embrace the up-level, the evolution, your journey to becoming the best version of yourself. Whether you’re picking up the pieces or building an empire, this space is yours to rise, reign, and thrive. Time to claim your power and become the fierce unstoppable Queen you were born to be.

  1. 1D AGO

    Creating a Test He Can't Win is What's Keeping You Single

    Creating a Test He Can't Win is What's Keeping You Single This week we’re talking about the Valkyrie — the woman who tests every man she meets. And wonders why they all fail. She’s not difficult. She’s not impossible. She’s a woman who respects strength and wants to be met — not rescued. So she tests for it. Deliberately. Consistently. Until she finds the edge of what a man can hold. And every time a man shows a very human response to being constantly evaluated — she writes him off. Too soft. Too submissive. Couldn’t handle her. Except — that’s not what’s happening. And this episode is about what is. IN THIS EPISODE → Vickie’s story — the date she was dreading before it even started → Why the Valkyrie’s tests were never designed to be passed permanently → The difference between discernment and a gauntlet → What a man’s annoyance at being tested is actually telling her → The question Vickie finally asked herself — and why it changes everything REFERENCE MENTIONED → Read the article this week on Substack: She Tests Every Man She Meets. And They All Fail. → Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, John Gray (book mentioned on how men and women keep score) IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED Share it with the woman who calls herself too much. She’ll hear herself in every word — and that recognition is exactly where things start to change. ABOUT THE PODCAST Better After Divorce with Coach Ivy is where smart, self-aware women come to understand their relationship patterns, rebuild self-trust, and date more consciously — so they can choose what comes next, on their terms. RESOURCES MENTIONED →Lift the Veil Find Your Pattern → Download the Dating Pattern Guide →Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to: coachivy@lifecoachivy.com — subject line: RLGL   CONNECT WITH COACH IVYInstagram: @coachivyallenFacebook: CoachIvySubstack: Better Dating After Divorce

    36 min

  2. MAY 15

    Potential is Not Reality

    This week we’re talking about the Seeker — the woman who can see the potential in every man she dates. And keeps forgetting to see herself. She’s not naive. She’s not desperate. She’s smart, self-aware, and genuinely believes that people are evolving. She asks the hard questions. She brings things up. The answers always seem plausible. And still — nothing moves forward. The relationship stays in the space between what is and what could be. And she stays with it. Because the possibility feels real enough to wait for. This episode is for the woman who believes in everyone. And is overdue to believe in herself. IN THIS EPISODE →The Red Light Green Light scenario that reveals what waiting is really costing you →Ingrid’s story — and the moment Ivy realized she was telling her own →Why the Seeker confuses potential with partnership →The difference between chemistry and congruency — and why one lies →What it actually looks like to choose yourself instead of the vision REFERENCE Read the article this week on Substack: Potential is Not Reality — Meet the Seeker IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED Share it with the woman who sees the best in everyone — and keeps ending up disappointed. She’ll hear herself in every word. ABOUT THE PODCAST Better After Divorce with Coach Ivy is where smart, self-aware women come to understand their relationship patterns, rebuild self-trust, and date more consciously — so they can choose what comes next, on their terms. RESOURCES MENTIONED →Lift the Veil Find Your Pattern → Download the Dating Pattern Guide →Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to: coachivy@lifecoachivy.com — subject line: RLGL   CONNECT WITH COACH IVYInstagram: @coachivyallenFacebook: CoachIvySubstack: Better Dating After Divorce

    25 min

  3. MAY 8

    You Keep the Peace. But Who Is Keeping You?

    You Keep the Peace.  But Who Is Keeping You? This week we're talking about the Matriarch — the woman who holds everything together. And wonders why no one is holding her. She's the one people call in a crisis. The emotional anchor in every room she walks into. The woman who reads the temperature, builds the bridge, and keeps the "us" alive — even when she's running on empty. And in her relationships, that same gift quietly works against her. Because when you manage the conflict before it surfaces, smooth over the hard moments, and make yourself endlessly flexible — you never find out who he actually is when things get real. This episode is for the woman who is devoted to everyone. And overdue to be devoted to herself. IN THIS EPISODE → The Red Light Green Light scenario that reveals what keeping the peace is really costing you  → Diedre's story — and the moment she realized she'd been the background to every man's foreground  → Why the Matriarch confuses being needed with being loved  → What it actually looks like to stop smoothing it over and let him meet you in the hard moment  → The shift from holding everyone else's vision — to finally holding your own REFERENCE Read the article this week on Substack: The Background to His Foreground — Meet the Matriarch IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED Share it with the woman who holds everything together — at work, at home, and in her relationships. She'll hear herself in every word. ABOUT THE PODCAST Better After Divorce with Coach Ivy is where smart, self-aware women come to understand their relationship patterns, rebuild self-trust, and date more consciously — so they can choose what comes next, on their terms. RESOURCES MENTIONED →Lift the Veil Find Your Pattern → Download the Dating Pattern Guide →Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to: coachivy@lifecoachivy.com — subject line: RLGL   CONNECT WITH COACH IVYInstagram: @coachivyallenFacebook: CoachIvySubstack: Better Dating After Divorce

    25 min

  4. MAY 1

    You're Treating Him Like an Employee, Not a Partner

    You're Treating Him Like an Employee, Not a Partner This week we're talking about the Lioness — the woman who handles everything. Including the relationship. You're a woman who handles things. Your career, your life, your relationships. And it works — professionally, logistically, functionally. But somewhere in your love life, the skill that built everything is quietly working against you. In this episode, Coach Ivy introduces the Lioness — the woman who is capable, compelling, and accidentally holding the whole relationship up by herself. Not because she's controlling. Because she's competent. And because letting go feels more terrifying than just doing it herself. If you've ever felt more relieved than heartbroken when something ended — this episode is for you. In This Episode → The Red Light Green Light scenario that reveals what over-managing really looks like in real time → Maya's story — and why the most disappointing part wasn't the breakup → Why the Lioness grips tightest with the men she likes most → The thing nobody tells her: the difference between "he didn't do it" and "he didn't do it your way" → What actually starts to shift when she learns to receive   Reference → Read the article this week on Substack: You Built a Whole Life. Why Does Love Still Feel Like Something to Hold Together? If This Episode Resonated Share it with a woman who holds everything together — in her career, her home, and her relationships. She'll know exactly who she is in this episode. About the Podcast Better After Divorce with Coach Ivy is where smart, self-aware women come to understand their relationship patterns, rebuild self-trust, and date more consciously — so they can choose what comes next, on their terms. RESOURCES MENTIONED →Lift the Veil Find Your Pattern → Download the Dating Pattern Guide →Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to: coachivy@lifecoachivy.com — subject line: RLGL   CONNECT WITH COACH IVYInstagram: @coachivyallenFacebook: CoachIvySubstack: Better Dating After Divorce

    22 min

  5. APR 24

    You're Not Dating Him. You're Dating Your Pattern.

    You're Not Dating Him. You're Dating Your Pattern. Have you ever found yourself further along in a relationship in your head than you actually were in real life? In this episode, Coach Ivy shares a personal story about dating her imagination instead of reality, introduces the five relationship archetypes, and explains why you keep choosing the same dynamic — even when you know better. Because here's what most women don't realize: you're not choosing bad men because you have bad taste. You're choosing familiar men because your pattern recognizes them. And until you name the pattern — you'll keep dating it. In this episode →The Red Light Green Light scenario that reveals what comfort without curiosity really means →Why so many women are dating their imagination — not the man in front of them →The five relationship archetypes — the Seeker, the Lioness, the Matriarch, the Valkyrie, and the Empath →Why healthy men can feel wrong when your nervous system is wired for a familiar pattern →How to finally see your pattern clearly — so you can stop dating it Reference →Read the article: When a Green Light Feels Wrong   IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED Share it with a woman who keeps wondering why she ends up in the same relationship with a different man — this episode is for her. ABOUT THE PODCAST Better After Divorce with Coach Ivy is where smart, self-aware women come to understand their relationship patterns, rebuild self-trust, and date more consciously so they can choose what comes next — on their terms.   RESOURCES MENTIONED →Lift the Veil Find Your Pattern → Download the Dating Pattern Guide →Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to: coachivy@lifecoachivy.com — subject line: RLGL   CONNECT WITH COACH IVYInstagram: @coachivyallenFacebook: CoachIvySubstack: Better Dating After Divorce

    22 min

  6. APR 16

    Men Are Not the Problem — When a Green Light Does Not Feel Like Chemistry

    Men Are Not the Problem — When a Green Light Does Not Feel Like Chemistry Sometimes the issue is not that there are no good men. It is that healthy men can feel easy to overlook when they do not activate the pattern you are used to. In this episode, Coach Ivy unpacks why some women miss green lights in dating — not because they want dysfunction, but because calm, emotionally available connection can feel unfamiliar when your nervous system has been trained to respond to intensity, inconsistency, or emotional distance. This conversation explores the difference between real compatibility and pattern-based chemistry. Because sometimes what feels exciting is not alignment — it is activation. And sometimes what feels underwhelming at first is actually peace, steadiness, and emotional safety. In this episode: why healthy men can be overlooked when they do not trigger familiar chemistry how pattern-based attraction can distort your read on a green light why peace and emotional safety may feel unfamiliar before they feel desirable how to slow down, discern more clearly, and stop confusing activation with alignment IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED Share it with another woman who is learning that not all green lights come with fireworks — and that healthy can feel unfamiliar before it feels right. ABOUT THE PODCAST Better After Divorce with Coach Ivy is where smart, self-aware women come to understand their relationship patterns, rebuild self-trust, and date more consciously so they can choose what comes next — on their terms. RESOURCES MENTIONED →Lift the Veil Find Your Pattern → Download the Dating Pattern Guide →Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to: coachivy@lifecoachivy.com — subject line: RLGL   CONNECT WITH COACH IVYInstagram: @coachivyallenFacebook: CoachIvySubstack: Better Dating After Divorce

    41 min

  7. APR 14

    Men Are Not the Enemy — The Real Problem Is What You Keep Tolerating

    Men Are Not the Enemy — The Real Problem Is What You Keep Tolerating If you have been disappointed, hurt, or exhausted in dating, it can be easy to make men the problem. But that story only takes you so far. In this episode, Coach Ivy unpacks the deeper truth: the issue is not simply who you meet — it is what you keep overlooking, excusing, minimizing, or tolerating once the pattern begins to reveal itself. Because the real cost is not just one wrong man. It is the emotional, mental, and energetic price of staying too long in dynamics that were never fully aligned. This conversation is about taking your power back without blame, bitterness, or denial. In this episode: why blaming men can keep you disconnected from your real power how toleration becomes the doorway to repeating the same dating pattern why smart women often override what they know in the name of potential, chemistry, or hope how to recognize the cost of staying too long and start choosing differently with clarity and self-trust IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED You’re not alone. Share it with another woman who is ready to stop tolerating what costs her peace, power, and self-trust. ABOUT THE PODCAST Better After Divorce with Coach Ivy is where smart, self-aware women come to understand their relationship patterns, rebuild self-trust, and date more consciously so they can choose what comes next — on their terms. RESOURCES MENTIONED Take the Relationship Pattern Quiz Join Office Hours Live Wednesdays at 7 PM ET   RESOURCES MENTIONED →Lift the Veil Find Your Pattern → Download the Dating Pattern Guide →Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to: coachivy@lifecoachivy.com — subject line: RLGL   CONNECT WITH COACH IVYInstagram: @coachivyallenFacebook: CoachIvySubstack: Better Dating After Divorce

    33 min

  8. APR 3

    The Small Things You Tolerate Become the Relationship.

    The Small Things You Tolerate Become the Relationship What you excuse in the beginning rarely stays small. In this episode, Coach Ivy unpacks how women quietly tolerate subtle inconsistency, mixed signals, and low-grade confusion in the early stages of dating - especially when the chemistry feels good. Because the pattern rarely begins with one giant red flag. It begins with the small things you explain away, excuse, or talk yourself out of honoring. And over time, those small tolerations can become the relationship itself. In this episode: why the small things in the beginning matter more than women want to admit how chemistry can make inconsistency easier to excuse what “somewhat inconsistent” actually looks like in real life why women tolerate what does not feel safe; and how self-trust is rebuilt by honoring the small things sooner IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED You’re not alone. Share it with another smart woman who is ready to understand her dating patterns and choose differently. ABOUT THE PODCAST Better After Divorce is where smart, self-aware women come to understand their relationship patterns, rebuild self-trust, and date more consciously so they can choose what comes next - on their terms. RESOURCES MENTIONEDTake the Free Dating Pattern QuizBook an Archetype Breakthrough SessionJoin Office Hours Live (Wednesdays at 7 PM ET) RESOURCES MENTIONED →Lift the Veil Find Your Pattern → Download the Dating Pattern Guide →Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to: coachivy@lifecoachivy.com — subject line: RLGL   CONNECT WITH COACH IVYInstagram: @coachivyallenFacebook: CoachIvySubstack: Better Dating After Divorce

    27 min
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Are you ready to go from the devastation of divorce to the reclamation of your entire life? Well, Queen, you’ve arrived at the perfect place! Welcome to Better After Divorce, the podcast dedicated to empowering women on their journey to reign with confidence, passion, and power in royal fashion. This is where we embrace the up-level, the evolution, your journey to becoming the best version of yourself. Whether you’re picking up the pieces or building an empire, this space is yours to rise, reign, and thrive. Time to claim your power and become the fierce unstoppable Queen you were born to be.

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  • Creator
    Coach Ivy
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    47
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Coach Ivy
  • Show Website
    Better After Divorce