Behind The Highlight Reels

Therisa Means & Cristal Rouse

Real talk. Raw stories. No filters. 🎙️ Faith | Love | Hustle | Failures We celebrate wins, own our flaws & laugh at life in between. Pull up a chair—you’ll feel right at home. 💜💖💜💖

  1. Permission to Breathe

    APR 23

    Permission to Breathe

    Cristal and Therisa open in prayer and discuss giving yourself “permission to breathe” by slowing down, resting, and being gentle with yourself instead of constantly moving from goal to goal without celebrating progress. Using workout examples, they explain how pacing, breathing, and rest make the process effective, and connect breath to life and God’s daily mercies. They talk about allowing yourself to feel emotions, resetting and regrouping during heavy situations, and breaking negative habits through intentional, consistent choices rather than perfection, including taking personal responsibility alongside prayer. They share fasting mistakes to illustrate learning, consequences, and grace, encourage scheduling joy and celebration, and ask God for perspective and wisdom. They shout out Whitney’s “ChurchClothez.Faith” brand and close with prayer and anchor verses: 2 Corinthians 12:9, Romans 6:14, and James 4:6. Chapters: 00:00 Welcome and Introductions 01:50 Let’s Breathe 02:57 Goal to Goal Living 04:28 Celebrate the Journey 09:28 Rest and Recovery Matters 09:54 Breathe Through Life Stress 10:40 Feel Emotions and Reset 12:55 Consistency Not Perfection 15:46 Faith Requires Action Steps 17:32 Discipline Over Motivation 19:24 Gods Reminders and Sleep Idol 20:50 God Models Rest 22:25 Fasting Fail Stories 28:20 Grace And Growth 29:55 Schedule Your Joy 31:10 Takeaways And Shoutouts 34:45 Prayer And Anchor Verses Anchor Verses: 2 Corinthians 12:9Romans 6:14James 4:6Shoutouts: Therisa: Goat Sweatshirt: Churchclothez.faithCristal: YAHWEH Shirt: ChurchClothez.faithFor more information about the daily Prayers, BTHR Events, Giveaways & more, go to www.bthrshow.com today!

    37 min
  2. Caught Up In The Aesthetics

    APR 2

    Caught Up In The Aesthetics

    Therisa and Cristal open with prayer and discuss what it means to be caught up in aesthetics—prioritizing outward appearances, vibes, and presentation over substance, character, and the heart. They share examples like TikTok-hyped restaurants with poor food and service, Therisa’s shift from her “Naturally Transparent” platform to “Behind the Highlight Reels” to show real struggles, and the pressure of appearing strong while internally drowning, and Cristal’s past suicidal thoughts and the need to check on “strong friends.” They connect the topic to scripture, including 1 Samuel 8 about Israel demanding a king despite warnings, and emphasize building a solid foundation in God rather than chasing appearances in relationships, finances, homes, and life. They encourage viewers to seek help and prayer, share BTHRshow.com resources, and close with prayer and social/streaming platform info. Chapters: 00:00 Welcome and Topic Intro 00:09 Opening Prayer 00:56 What Aesthetics Really Mean 01:35 TikTok Vibes vs Quality 02:20 From Facade to Real Talk 04:29 When Looking Fine Hides Pain 06:25 Check on Strong Friends 08:42 God Sees the Heart 11:38 Aesthetics in Relationships 13:32 Saul and Samson Lessons 15:39 Dating Fine but Toxic 17:18 Three Little Pigs Lesson 21:20 Applying It Today 24:47 Growth and Healing 27:39 Prayer and Resources 29:56 Shout Outs and Thanks 31:12 Closing Prayer 32:18 Follow and Subscribe Anchor Verses: Entire Book of 1st Samuel Shoutouts: Therisa & Cristal: The Lord!SHEIN still the plugOur followers and viewers (You all are the best!)For more information about the daily Prayers, BTHR Events, Giveaways & more, go to www.bthrshow.com today!

    34 min
  3. We Real Inconsiderate Aint We?!?

    MAR 19

    We Real Inconsiderate Aint We?!?

    In this episode of Behind The Highlight Reels hosts Cristal and Therisa discuss whether we are treating God like a genie in a bottle or are we truly being considerate of God. Do we truly include Him in decisions rather than “checking a box” and moving ahead? They emphasize waiting for God’s answer, being persistent in prayer (ask, seek, knock), and recognizing that God cares about both big and small matters. They talk about treating God like a genie versus cultivating a relationship, referencing the Lord’s Prayer structure, trust and surrender to God’s will and timing, and discernment through the Holy Spirit’s nudges, peace, conviction, or discomfort. They share personal examples about buying a car, house-hunting in a fast market, relationships where God said no, and accepting God’s Will in a family member’s death. They close with four tips: Go to God about every decision, Seek the Holy Spirit, Wait for an answer, and Surrender the outcome.Check out this episode and let us know what you think. Chapters: 00:00 Welcome and Prayer 00:37 Considerate of God 01:48 Waiting for Answers 03:19 God in Small Things 05:42 Renewed Strength Waiting 07:31 Ask Seek Knock 08:53 Hearing No and Not Yet 11:30 Podcast and Box Checking 13:27 God Is Not a Genie 16:49 Quality Time in Silence 19:55 Worship Beyond Silence 22:06 Letting God Lead 23:35 Relationship Not Genie 26:45 Four Decision Tips 28:42 Seek the Spirit 29:36 Wait and Discern 34:15 Surrender the Outcome 36:34 Shoutouts and Verses 39:07 Closing Prayer Anchor Verses: Proverbs 3:5-7Matthew 6:33Matthew 8:7Isaiah 40:31 Shoutouts: Therisa: Yahweh Shirt: Churchclothez.faithAfrican earrings: SheinCristal: Anointed Shirt: Pastor Ace For more information about the daily Prayers, BTHR Events, Giveaways & more, go to www.bthrshow.com today!

    41 min
  4. When My Mouth Moves Faster Than My Spirit

    MAR 5

    When My Mouth Moves Faster Than My Spirit

    Welcome to Behind the Highlight Reels with Therisa and Cristal! In this episode, we discuss the challenges of controlling our tongues and the importance of slowing down to listen and think before speaking. Our conversation dives into real-life situations like handling anger in traffic and the struggles of controlling our emotions. We also reflect on biblical principles, including James 1:19, and share personal stories and practical tips on how to align our actions with our faith. Join us for an insightful discussion on how to practice patience, empathy, and understanding in our daily lives. Don't miss out! Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Opening Prayer 01:20 When Your Mouth Moves Faster Than Your Spirit 02:53 Controlling Anger and Traffic Frustrations 04:37 Understanding Others' Perspectives 17:21 Leadership and Letting Go of Control 18:57 Impulses and Sharing Personal Information 19:32 The Power of Silence and Timing 20:39 Lessons from David and Joseph 22:22 Practical Steps for Spiritual Growth 26:42 Handling Anger and Triggers 33:56 Concluding Thoughts and Announcements Anchor Verses: Proverbs 15:1James 1:19-20Proverbs 29:11Colossians 3:8Proverbs 12:18Ephesians 4:26-27Proverbs 10:19Psalms 34:13Proverbs 21:23Shoutouts: Therisa: Outfit: SheinPants: TorridCristal: Attitude in Court: Annalise Keating (The Amazing Viola Davis) **Watch the episode to know what we are talking aboutFor more information about the daily Prayers, BTHR Events, Giveaways & more, go to www.bthrshow.com today!

    38 min
  5. Love 'Em, Like 'Em, or Just Pray for 'Em (Part 2)

    FEB 19

    Love 'Em, Like 'Em, or Just Pray for 'Em (Part 2)

    This topic was so good we had to do two parts!! In Part 2 of this episode Therisa & Cristal talk about friendships that hurt but also help you grow, including how friends can “elevate” you by opening your eyes and shaping how you share your life. They discuss taking responsibility when harm happens, learning from therapy that friendships require defined expectations, and recognizing that people have different capacities in different seasons. They emphasize empathy, not setting friends up for failure by expecting strengths they don’t have, and accepting that not everyone communicates the same way or provides closure. The conversation includes personal examples (emergency contacts while single, friends sharing locations, church and travel mishaps, and being accountable in different areas like business, food, or fitness). They wrap up with encouragement to forgive yourself and your friends, choose friends wisely, and seek God’s guidance and discernment, ending with shout-outs and a prayer for divine friendships and community. Chapters: 00:00 Judas & the ‘Hater Is Your Elevator’ Friendship Lesson 00:49 Friendship Hurt, Accountability, and Becoming More Cautious With Trust 02:26 Therapy Takeaways: Seasons, Percentages, and Setting Expectations 03:48 Not Everyone Communicates the Same: Capacity Talks vs. No-Closure Friends 05:15 Emergency Contacts & Single Life: Who Really Shows Up? 08:03 Don’t Set Friends Up to Fail: Knowing Strengths (Easter Bunny Story) 10:01 Different Friends for Different Goals: Gym, Food, and Accountability 12:23 Friend Roles & Love Languages: Business Friend, Prayer Friend, and Real Talk 14:33 When to Pray vs. When to Be ‘Foolish’: Reading the Room With Friends 15:03 The ‘Call-When-Needed’ Friend: Men’s Perspective, Boundaries, and Standards 15:43 Friendship Standards Change With Seasons (Dating, Marriage, Capacity) 16:57 Forgiveness, No Closure Needed & Don’t Set Friends Up to Fail 17:40 “Friend Had One Job” — The Nashville Breakfast Mix‑Up Storytime 22:31 What Conflict Teaches: Learning Friends’ Triggers, Discernment & Being the Voice of Reason 25:56 Wrap-Up Takeaways: Choose Friends Wisely, Pray, Manage Expectations 26:01 Shoutouts: Brands, Friends, and Inviting Viewers Into the Community 28:22 Anchor Verses Tease + Closing Prayer for Divine Friendships 29:41 Pork Chop Biscuit Anchor Verses: Ecclesiastes 4:9-10Proverbs 18:24Proverbs 13:201 Corinthians 15:33Proverbs 27:17Galatians 6:2Shoutouts: Therisa: The Lord: for answering my prayers for divine friendshipsMy divine friendsMade to Worship shirt: SheinOur new friends: our viewers!! Cristal: T-shirt: God is Dope clothing lineGodAll Cristal friends (She named them all in the episode lol)For more information about the daily Prayers, BTHR Events, Giveaways & more, go to www.bthrshow.com today!

    30 min
  6. Love 'Em, Like 'Em, or Just Pray for 'Em (Part 1)

    FEB 5

    Love 'Em, Like 'Em, or Just Pray for 'Em (Part 1)

    This topic was so good we had to do two parts!! In Part 1 of this episode of 'Behind the Highlight Reels,' Therisa and Cristal dive deep into the evolution of friendships. They start with an opening prayer before sharing their personal journeys, reflecting on childhood friends, the impact of life changes, and how friendships transform over time. They discuss the difference between friends and acquaintances, the significance of meaningful connections, and even touch on the pain of friendships that ended without closure. Through it all, they highlight the importance of divine friendships and the role of acquaintances, best friends, and everything in between in their lives. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Opening Prayer 01:22 Childhood Friendships and Changes 04:32 High School and College Friendships 07:07 Adult Friendships and Prayers Answered 12:38 Friendship Challenges and Reflections 14:24 Friendship Dynamics and Wedding Planning 15:49 Unappreciated Efforts and Misunderstandings 19:18 Categorizing Friendships 22:42 Arguments and Reconciliation 25:33 Acceptance and Moving On 27:47 Biblical Perspective on Friendships Anchor Verses: Ecclesiastes 4:9-10Proverbs 18:24Proverbs 13:201 Corinthians 15:33Proverbs 27:17Galatians 6:2Shoutouts: Therisa: The Lord: for answering my prayers for divine friendshipsMy divine friendsMade to Worship shirt: SheinOur new friends: our viewers!! Cristal: T-shirt: God is Dope clothing lineGodAll Cristal friends (She named them all in the episode lol)For more information about the daily Prayers, BTHR Events, Giveaways & more, go to www.bthrshow.com today!

    29 min
  7. Overcoming Insecurities

    JAN 8

    Overcoming Insecurities

    Join Therisa and Cristal in episode 305 of 'Behind the Highlight Reels' as they dive deep into the topic of overcoming insecurities. They open the episode with a heartfelt prayer, asking for vulnerability and strength from God. Throughout the discussion, Issa and Crystal share their personal insecurities, such as physical appearance and personal value, discussing weight issues and imposter syndrome. They explore how their faith and prayer life help them manage these insecurities. The episode is filled with candid moments, personal anecdotes, and a genuine exploration of how to find security in God. Tune in to see the real-life struggles and faith-driven solutions behind the highlight reels. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 00:20 Opening Prayer 01:16 Discussing Personal Insecurities 04:49 Imposter Syndrome 09:24 Technical Difficulties and Transparency 12:05 Turning to God for Guidance 14:41 The Importance of Prayer 19:42 Struggles with the Stair Master 20:16 Shifting Perspectives and Prayer 21:01 Gym Insecurities and Overcoming Them 22:54 Weight Loss Journey and Setbacks 24:37 God's Role in Overcoming Insecurities 26:33 Trusting God's Plan 31:29 Enjoying the Journey 34:37 Shoutouts and Closing Prayer Anchor Verses: Ephesians 1:3-41 Peter 2:9-10Proverbs 3:5-6 Shoutouts: Therisa: Blazer & Earrings: SheinWorkout Trainer: Courtney Duncan, Stay Fit™ for Life (StayFitForLife.net)Cristal: Mark 10:45 “Called to Serve” shirt: SheinWorkout Trainer: James, Alpha Lion Fitness (@alphalionfitness23) For more information about the daily Prayers, BTHR Events, Giveaways & more, go to www.bthrshow.com today!

    38 min
  8. Savior Complex

    12/18/2025

    Savior Complex

    In this eye-opening episode of Behind the Highlight Reels, hosts Cristal and Therisa dive deep into the topic of the 'Savior Complex.' They start with a prayer and then elaborate on what the savior complex is, sharing personal stories and insights. The hosts discuss how the need to 'save' everyone can detract from one's well-being and spiritual growth. They explore the importance of setting boundaries, seeking guidance from God, and understanding one's limitations. They also emphasize the crucial role of rest and intentionality in service and ministry. Tune in for a heartfelt discussion that encourages letting go of self-imposed burdens and trusting God as the ultimate savior. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Opening Prayer 01:18 Understanding the Savior Complex 02:26 Personal Experiences with the Savior Complex 04:40 The Dangers of Overcommitting 09:59 Root Causes of the Savior Complex 12:23 Transactional Relationships and Childhood Influences 15:15 Realizing Limitations and Seeking God's Guidance 20:52 Balancing Ambition and Divine Alignment 25:19 Trusting God's Plan 25:59 The Savior Complex 27:19 Letting Go and Trusting God 30:17 Balancing Ministry and Personal Life 32:38 Taking Care of Yourself 40:56 Final Thoughts and Shoutouts Anchor Verses: Psalms 20:7Philippians 4:6-7 Shoutouts: Therisa: The Lord Gold Collar Clips & Plaid Vest: SHEINViewers, Followers, & ListenersWorkout Trainer: Courtney Duncan, Stay Fit™ for Life (StayFitForLife.net)Cristal: Earrings: SBJ Boutique (SBJBoutique.com) Camo Grace Hat: Orange Sweat Shirt: Community Love Hub (https://www.communitylove.site) For more information about the daily Prayers, BTHR Events, Giveaways & more, go to www.bthrshow.com today!

    45 min
5
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4 Ratings

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Real talk. Raw stories. No filters. 🎙️ Faith | Love | Hustle | Failures We celebrate wins, own our flaws & laugh at life in between. Pull up a chair—you’ll feel right at home. 💜💖💜💖