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Enjoy a series of inspiring podcasts around inspiring topics from the training and coaching programs from The House of Coaching, discussed and explained by Marsha and John, the podcast champions at The House of coaching. The coaches at The House of Coaching share their materials with Marsha and John, invite them to participate in sessions and that inspires the two to share insights, learnings, valuable tips and tricks, relevant for all kinds of audiences, including you. Visit podcast.thehouseofcoaching.com

  1. Hoe jouw mini-ikjes leiden tot meer verbinding

    10/08/2025

    Hoe jouw mini-ikjes leiden tot meer verbinding

    Welkom bij een fascinerende ontdekkingsreis naar de wereld van jouw mini-ikjes, de innerlijke bewoners van jouw ‘magische huis’. Visualiseer dit huis als jezelf, bewoond door ongeveer 150 verschillende versies van jezelf, elk met hun eigen karakter en rol, als een klein gezelschap acteurs dat het theaterstuk van jouw leven opvoert. In dit innerlijke huis vind je de extraverte mini-ikjes in de woonkamer en de zorgende mini-ikjes in de keuken, maar durf ook af te dalen naar de kelder, waar de verdrietige of boze mini-ikjes huizen – de zogenaamde ‘kelderklanten’ – die net zo waardevol zijn. De belangrijkste les van de mini-ikjes is dat het niet gaat om het verbannen of onderdrukken van delen van jezelf (zoals ‘de heks’), maar om het herkennen, verwelkomen, erkennen en respectvol onderhandelen met al deze stemmen. Door bewust te zijn van welk mini-ikje de deur opent (is het de verdediger, de diplomaat, of de dromer?) kun je een gesprek compleet van richting laten veranderen. Deze bewustwording transformeert alledaagse gesprekken in betekenisvolle ontmoetingen, zowel met anderen als met de vele facetten van onszelf. De kracht van deze aanpak wordt geïllustreerd door voorbeelden, zoals een kind dat leert om voorbij de eerste ‘nee’ te kijken om nieuwe smaken te proeven, en het verhaal van Tom, een jongen die leert andere, meer geschikte ‘piraten’ (een andere metafoor voor mini-ikjes) naar het bovendek van zijn ‘schip’ te halen om met pesten om te gaan. Leer hoe de mini-ikjes en de aanverwante Breinpiraten-metafoor ons helpen om bewust te sturen op ons eigen schip en zo komen tot echt begrijpen en begrepen worden

    14 min
  2. 06/25/2025

    The Psychology of Procrastination

    The Psychology of Project Procrastination: Beyond the Three Brains In this insightful episode, we delve into the complex phenomenon of procrastination, moving beyond simplistic models to explore deeper psychological and existential underpinnings. Our conversation began with an individual’s “aha moment” linking the cooperation of three “brains” (neocortex, limbic system, and primitive/reptilian brain) to goal achievement. We then critically examined this popular, yet scientifically outdated, “triune brain” model and explored alternative, more nuanced perspectives on human behavior and motivation. Deconstructing the “Three Brains” Model • A Popular, Yet Flawed, Framework: The idea of the brain operating as three separate, poorly coordinated departments (neocortex for planning, limbic for emotion, primitive for survival) is appealing for its simplicity, but it’s scientifically outdated. It stems from Paul MacLean’s “triune brain” model from the 1960s, which is now considered evolutionarily unsound and overly simplistic. • Integrated Systems: In reality, brain structures are much more complexly integrated; their interconnections are fundamental, not something that needs to be forced into cooperation. • The Paradox of Conflict: It’s not always true that “more integration equals better results.” Sometimes, conflict between these systems can actually be a motor for motivation or creativity, as seen in artists, entrepreneurs, and top athletes. • Beyond Neurological Simplification: Attributing behavior to these three “brains” is often a simplification. We are not “walking brain models,” but complex individuals shaped by habits, beliefs, environments, and contradictory drives. Procrastination: More Than Just a Linear Process Our discussion moved to the common experience of procrastination: when you think something is useful/necessary (ratio), feel it might be difficult (limbisch), and then flee (primitief). While plausible, we questioned the linearity of this process. • Non-Linear Behavior: Human behavior is rarely a simple, causal chain. The idea of “thinking,” then “feeling,” then “fleeing” is often a reconstruction after the fact, not a real-time sequence. Resistance might appear before conscious decision-making, and reason can even be used to justify avoidance. • Beyond Simple Avoidance: The underlying logic of “intent-awareness-avoidance” is a workable model for reflection, but it doesn’t fully explain behavior. Procrastination might signal that a goal isn’t genuinely desired or aligned with one’s true self. Human behavior is a complex “tangle of confusion, contradiction, and laziness”. Alternative Lenses on Procrastination We explored several powerful alternative perspectives, moving away from the “three brains” and linear cause-and-effect thinking: 1. Self-Image Management: Procrastination can be a sophisticated psychological mechanism to protect a self-image. By postponing, one can maintain the belief in their potential (“If I really wanted to, I’d do it”) without risking failure. This preserves a “mental illusion of competence, control, and potential,” often more comfortable than facing reality. The self-help industry often reinforces this by framing procrastination as an “internal friction” rather than questioning the goal itself. 2. Protection Against Identity Shift: Every significant action, like starting a project, is an “attack on your current identity”. Action means becoming something different, which can be deeply threatening to the ego rooted in comfort and familiar boundaries. Procrastination, in this view, isn’t about laziness but about avoiding a fundamental shift in who you are. 3. Unconscious Power Strategy: Procrastination can be a way to maintain a sense of control, especially in situations where outcomes are uncertain. For example, a student who studies at the last minute might be preserving the ego by attributing any failure to time pressure rather than lack of intelligence or effort. It’s a defensive exercise against vulnerability; truly trying and failing can feel too personal. 4. Symptom of Incoherent Values: When you consciously want to do something but unconsciously procrastinate, it might be a signal that the goal isn’t truly aligned with your deeper values. Procrastination acts as a “message, not a malfunction,” indicating a misalignment in your internal compass. 5. Survival Mechanism in Performance Culture: In a society obsessed with output and speed, procrastination can be a passive-aggressive form of resistance, a way to “steal time for yourself” and protest against constant pressure. It’s a “silent protest” born from being tired of the relentless demands. 6. Fear of True Self-Exposure: Ultimately, procrastination might stem not just from a fear of failure, but a fear of truly showing yourself. This brings judgment, visibility, and risk. The Neurobiology Conundrum: More Than Just Neurotransmitters We also touched on the idea that impulses generate neurotransmitters, which trigger feelings, leading to behavior. While there’s a chain, it’s not as straightforward as it seems: • Selective Filtering: Your brain isn’t a passive receiver; it’s a “selective, biased editor” that determines which impulses are relevant. • Facilitators, Not Causes: Neurotransmitters are chemical messengers that facilitate processes, not marionette players that determine behavior. They correlate with states but don’t explain them. • The Subjectivity of Feeling: A feeling isn’t just neurochemistry; it’s “neurochemistry + contextual interpretation + self-narrative”. This adds layers of complexity involving language, culture, upbringing, and self-deception. • Feeling ≠ Behavior: The link between feeling and behavior isn’t automatic. Choice, will, habit, and other factors intervene between feeling motivated/anxious and taking action (or not). The Cynical-Functional Survival Model of Human Behavior™ To truly understand human behavior, we embraced a “brutal” model: everything you do is an attempt to minimize existential uncertainty, with minimal energy loss. • System Survival: Your entire “ecosystem” (self, brain, body, self-image, social position) aims to maximize comfort, minimize energy consumption, avoid rejection, and maintain control over your own narrative. • Goals as Defenses: Goals are often symbols to justify your existence, masks against perceived irrelevance or fears. They are “civilized panic”. • Procrastination Preserves Illusion: Procrastinating is a “brilliant survival strategy” that keeps fantasies intact, protects against disappointment and responsibility, and delays confrontation with perceived emptiness. It’s a highly efficient way to avoid labeling oneself as a coward. • Self-Image as PR: Your brain acts as a PR agency, constantly spinning your actions to align with a desired image. Failures are externalized, successes internalized, and self-sabotage is reframed as “perfectionism” or “being highly sensitive”. • Discomfort Management: The deepest motivation is simply managing discomfort – be it fear, emptiness, boredom, shame, rejection, or meaninglessness. The behavior itself is secondary; the primary driver is making life bearable. The “Top Projects” Graveyard: Visionary vs. Maker This cynical model perfectly explains the common experience of having “top projects” that never see the light of day. • The Illusion of Doing: Conceiving a great project brings euphoria, future projection, and a powerful “identity shift” (seeing oneself as successful), leading to a dopamine rush. The thought of the project becomes the project itself, providing the reward without the work. • Fantasies vs. Reality: Executing a project means moving from the “project-as-fantasy” (which is perfect) to “project-as-reality” (which is slow, messy, and potentially disillusioning). Your internal system might elegantly choose to do nothing, preserving energy, status quo, and illusion. • Addiction to Potential: We become addicted to the identity of a visionary rather than the risk of being a maker. The visionary remains “clean,” while the maker must “get dirty,” which is painful, visible, and human. • Breaking the Cycle: To break this pattern, one must give up the “luxury of illusion.” This means daring to execute an idea, allowing it to fail, and seeing its banality, which ultimately leads to freedom from the pattern. This discussion emphasizes that our behavior is a complex interplay of internal and external forces, often serving deeper, unconscious protective functions. Understanding these underlying dynamics is crucial for meaningful self-reflection and change.

    50 min
  3. The Hand: The stories of patients

    01/19/2025

    The Hand: The stories of patients

    Welcome to the final episode of our captivating podcast series celebrating the incredible world of hands! I’m your host, Karl Mortier, alongside the talented co-host Isabel Depestel. Today, we’re honored to have the esteemed European Certified Hand Therapist Tom Lattré back with us. In this special episode, Tom shares powerful stories that illuminate the theme of hope, demonstrating the profound impact hands have in our lives and the stories they tell. Throughout our journey in this podcast, we’ve explored the anatomy, history, and significance of hands. Now, we turn our focus to the human stories intertwined with these remarkable appendages. With Tom’s wealth of experience, he recounts inspiring stories of individuals whose lives have been transformed through the power of healing and rehabilitation. Each narrative reveals not only the physical challenges people face but also the emotional resilience they demonstrate in the face of adversity. One poignant story revolves around a young musician who suffered a debilitating hand injury. When this talented individual came to Tom for therapy, their passion for music seemed at risk. However, through determination, specialized exercises, and the unwavering support of their therapist, this musician’s journey became a testament to the healing power of hope. Tom shares how small victories during therapy—like regaining finger dexterity—rekindled the musician’s aspirations. By the episode’s end, listeners are left inspired by the musician’s triumphant return to the stage, playing their heart out once again. Another powerful story tells of an elderly artist who had always used her hands to create beautiful paintings. When arthritis threatened her ability to hold a brush, despair loomed over her artistry. Tom describes the innovative approaches he employed to help this artist reconnect with her passion. With tailored rehabilitation, assistive devices, and emotional encouragement, she discovered new ways to express her creativity, revealing that age and physical limitations can’t diminish one’s artistic spirit. The joy she felt in creating once more serves as a heartfelt reminder of the resilience of the human spirit. Tom also emphasizes the importance of community and support in the healing process. He recounts experiences with groups of individuals who come together to share their challenges and triumphs related to hand injuries. In these stories, we hear about friendships formed through shared experiences and how these connections foster hope. Each participant’s journey inspires the others, creating a network of empowerment and upliftment that transcends individual struggles. Throughout the episode, Karl and Isabel engage Tom with thought-provoking questions, probing deeper into the emotional and psychological aspects tied to the hands’ functionality and symbolism. They discuss how hands are not just physical tools but also vessels of expression, creativity, and hope. Each story shared resonates with listeners, reinforcing the idea that even in times of difficulty, hope can spark resilience and drive healing. As we conclude this enlightening episode, we encourage our listeners to reflect on their own relationships with their hands. Whether through creativity, work, or connection, hands hold stories that are uniquely personal. The stories shared by Tom serve as a reminder that no matter the challenges faced, there’s always a light of hope shining through. Thank you for joining us on this incredible journey exploring the stories of hands. We hope you leave this episode inspired, uplifted, and with a renewed appreciation for the power of hope in our lives. Don’t forget to share your own stories with us, as we continue to celebrate the incredible narratives tied to this remarkable part of our being!

    25 min
  4. The hand: a physical wonder revealed

    01/19/2025

    The hand: a physical wonder revealed

    Welcome to the third episode of our enlightening podcast series, where we delve into the fascinating world of hands! I’m your host, Karl Mortier, and alongside me is my insightful co-host Isabel Depestel. Today, we’re embarking on a deep dive into the physical aspects of the hand, guided by the expertise of Tom Lattré, a European Certified Hand Therapist. In this episode, we invite you to explore the marvels of the human hand—an intricate structure of bones, muscles, tendons, and ligaments that allows for a remarkable range of motion and function. Tom will lead us through the various anatomical components that make up the hand, shedding light on how each part contributes to our ability to perform everyday tasks, from simple gestures to intricate movements. We’ll begin by discussing the skeletal structure of the hand, where Tom will explain the significance of each bone, including the phalanges, metacarpals, and carpals. Understanding the anatomy sets the stage for appreciating the complexity of our hand’s functions. With a total of 27 bones, the hand is a marvel of engineering, allowing for both strength and dexterity. Next, we’ll delve into the muscular and tendinous systems that enable movement. Tom will share insights into how our muscles contract and relax, allowing us to grip, pinch, and manipulate objects with precision. We’ll also explore the role of tendons, vital structures that connect muscles to bones, and how they function together to create fluid motion. Additionally, we can’t overlook the importance of hand therapy in rehabilitation and injury prevention. Tom, with his extensive experience, will discuss common hand injuries and conditions, emphasizing the importance of proper care and rehabilitation techniques that can help restore function and alleviate pain. As we explore the hand from both anatomical and functional perspectives, Isabel will enrich our conversation with relatable anecdotes and engaging examples that resonate with our everyday experiences. Whether you’re a musician who appreciates the intricacies of finger movements on an instrument, a chef relying on the precise use of your hands, or simply someone curious about human anatomy, this episode has something for everyone. Our mission is to provide you with a deeper understanding of how essential our hands are to our lives, from communication to creativity and beyond. We aim to inspire gratitude for this incredible part of our body that often goes unappreciated. So, if you’re ready to take a closer look at the hand—learn about its physical properties, its limits, and how to care for it—tune in to this episode! Join us as we celebrate the incredible functions of our hands and discover just how significant they are in shaping our experiences. You won’t want to miss this insightful discussion with Tom Lattré that highlights the beauty and complexity of the human hand!

    20 min

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Enjoy a series of inspiring podcasts around inspiring topics from the training and coaching programs from The House of Coaching, discussed and explained by Marsha and John, the podcast champions at The House of coaching. The coaches at The House of Coaching share their materials with Marsha and John, invite them to participate in sessions and that inspires the two to share insights, learnings, valuable tips and tricks, relevant for all kinds of audiences, including you. Visit podcast.thehouseofcoaching.com