The Real Estate Pessimist

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The Good, bad, and the truth about real estate investing! Don’t let the name fool you. We’re not here to be negative. We’re here to be real pull back the curtain and show you what’s behind those highlight reels. I’m Kristi Kandel: RE developer & investor. My cohost Erik Stenbakken, and I are bringing you the unfiltered stories behind the deals. The ones you don’t see on social media. And the wisdom that only comes from actually living it. Because real estate isn’t all private jets and passive income. Sometimes it’s evictions and 3 a.m. plumbing disasters. And we’re here for all of it.

  1. 12/17/2025

    The Episode We Never Thought We’d Record… The Final Chapter of The Real Estate Pessimist | EP50

    What happens when the podcast built on telling the truth… tells you its own truth? In this milestone Episode 50, we sat down in person for the very first time and peeled back the curtain on everything. The wins, the wounds, the lessons, and the twist no one saw coming. This isn’t just a recap. This is the capstone. The closing chapter of The Real Estate Pessimist Podcast. And wow… it hit us harder than we expected. We talk about why we launched this thing in the first place, why it mattered so much, and why ending it now is actually the most honest, aligned move we could make. You’ll hear what this podcast taught us about investing, about people, about ourselves… and about how to build a life you’re actually proud to live inside of. After a year of stories, wrecks, rebuilds, and belly laughs, we’re giving you the truth behind the truth-tellers. What we cover in this episode: Why Episode 50 is our final Real Estate Pessimist episode What we learned from a year of telling the real stories investors hide How this podcast became therapy, clarity, and a catalyst for both of us The guests who changed our minds, our strategies, and honestly… our lives The behind-the-scenes reality of podcasting that no one warns you about The power of community when deals fall apart and life blindsides you What we’re each building next (including Kristi’s massive Elevate project) Why quitting something good is sometimes the exact right move BOLD TAKEAWAY TRUTH:Action creates clarity. You cannot think your way into the life you want. You have to move. 🎧 Listen now: https://www.youtube.com/@TheRealEstatePessimist/videos 📍 Find us on all platforms: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheRealEstatePessimist/videos Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/30iW9NGVaPVqIBZqf8iNd5?si=aa41afe7b90b4315 Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-real-estate-pessimist/id1785003692 🎧 Want more from Kristi? Hear how she’s helping locals become developers in their own communities by removing the gatekeeping.  → Listen to the Local Real Estate Developer Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@LocalRealEstateDeveloper/podcasts #realestateinvesting #mindsetshift #entrepreneurjourney #fearvsprudence #therealestatepessimist #developmentlife #propertyinvestor #startscared #riskandreward #truthaboutrealestate

    49 min
  2. When Your Best STR Burns To The Ground… What Happens Next? | EP#49

    12/10/2025

    When Your Best STR Burns To The Ground… What Happens Next? | EP#49

    What do you do when your dream luxury short term rental literally burns to the ground with guests on the calendar and a five year plan tied to it? In this episode of The Real Estate Pessimist, Kristi and Erik sit down with their friend and accountability pod mate, Anthony Guerra, to unpack what really happened the morning he got that text of his beautiful mountain cabin fully engulfed in flames. This is not a highlight reel story. It is Section 8 headaches, slumlord regrets, a pandemic pivot, a luxury STR win, and then a full body gut punch followed by a rebuild of everything that actually matters. Here is what we get into: How Anthony went from restaurant owner working 80 to 90 hours a week to building a Section 8 portfolio in Atlanta The uncomfortable realization that his partner was operating like a slumlord and what it took to fix it Why the pandemic forced him to ask, "What am I doing with my life and my time with my kids?" The first farm STR experiment and the painful lesson of DIY rehabs that take nine months Designing a true luxury STR with a sauna, wellness deck, and sunset views that blew the market away The morning his neighbor called to say, "Your house is on fire" and the emotional free fall that followed The relief of knowing guests were safe and the surprising gratitude for community and neighbors What he learned about insurance, total loss, and redeploying capital instead of rebuilding on autopilot How the right mastermind, pod, and mentors helped him see new options when his brain only saw one Building self managing systems, hiring partners, and asking for help instead of doing everything alone Why he now believes there is almost no scenario he cannot navigate in real estate Bold truth: In real estate, disaster is not optional. What you do with it is. 🎧 Listen now: https://www.youtube.com/@TheRealEstatePessimist/videos 📍 Find us on all platforms: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheRealEstatePessimist/videos Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/30iW9NGVaPVqIBZqf8iNd5?si=aa41afe7b90b4315 Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-real-estate-pessimist/id1785003692 🎧 Want more from Kristi? Hear how she’s helping locals become developers in their own communities by removing the gatekeeping.  → Listen to the Local Real Estate Developer Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@LocalRealEstateDeveloper/podcasts #realestateinvesting #mindsetshift #entrepreneurjourney #fearvsprudence #therealestatepessimist #developmentlife #propertyinvestor #startscared #riskandreward #truthaboutrealestate

    45 min

  3. 12/03/2025

    Title: The $550K Rehab Nightmare That Tried to Break Her (But Didn’t) | Megan Ahern | EP#48

    Ever had a deal that tested every ounce of grit you’ve got? The kind that makes you question if you even want to do this anymore? That’s this story. 🔥 Episode Summary:Meet Megan Ahern. A Nebraska flipper who thought she’d done it all… until she bought a sevenplex sight unseen. What started as “a great deal” turned into a six-month eviction saga, stolen AC units, collapsing walls, and a $550K rehab that nearly took her down. But instead of walking away, Megan fought through it. In this episode, she shares the raw truth about how she survived the worst deal of her career, and what she learned about herself in the process. 🎯 In this episode we cover:• The moment a “good deal” turned into the sevenplex from hell• How to handle nightmare tenants, stolen materials, and blown budgets• The power of small-town banking relationships (and how to build them)• What to do when every contractor quits and your cash runs dry• Why grit matters more than glamour in real estate 💥 Bold Truth:Every investor has that deal. The one that tests your faith, your finances, and your future. The only way out is through. 🎧 Listen now: https://www.youtube.com/@TheRealEstatePessimist/videos Reach out to Megan: https://www.instagram.com/the_tatty_investor/ 📍 Find us on all platforms: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheRealEstatePessimist/videos Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/30iW9NGVaPVqIBZqf8iNd5?si=aa41afe7b90b4315 Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-real-estate-pessimist/id1785003692 🎧 Want more from Kristi? Hear how she’s helping locals become developers in their own communities by removing the gatekeeping.  → Listen to the Local Real Estate Developer Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@LocalRealEstateDeveloper/podcasts #realestateinvesting #mindsetshift #entrepreneurjourney #fearvsprudence #therealestatepessimist #developmentlife #propertyinvestor #startscared #riskandreward #truthaboutrealestate

    54 min

  4. 11/26/2025

    Reinvention Isn’t Free: How to Pivot Without Going Broke | EP#47

    Thinking about changing the game? Cool. Just know reinvention charges admission. You’ve heard the ads: “no risk, guaranteed.” That’s cute. Real life has costs. In this episode, Kristi and Erik get painfully honest about the price of reinvention with money, time, ego, identity, and how to decide if the pivot you’re itching to make is strategy or self-sabotage. We walk through the gut checks, the math, and the mindset so you can move forward in uncertainty without lighting your portfolio on fire. What we cover: Counting the cost: cash runway, time, energy, ego Fear vs. prudence: how to tell the difference before you jump Sunk cost traps and why “holding” can be the riskiest move Using old skills in a new lane so you’re not starting from zero The 10–10–10 check: days, months, years (and legacy) Building a circle that tells you hard truths early Habits that keep you steady when everything else changes Being the newbie again without nuking your confidence Bold Truth: The pivot isn’t the problem. Pretending it’s free is. 🎧 Listen now: https://www.youtube.com/@TheRealEstatePessimist/videos 📍 Find us on all platforms: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheRealEstatePessimist/videos Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/30iW9NGVaPVqIBZqf8iNd5?si=aa41afe7b90b4315 Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-real-estate-pessimist/id1785003692 🎧 Want more from Kristi? Hear how she’s helping locals become developers in their own communities by removing the gatekeeping. → Listen to the Local Real Estate Developer Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@LocalRealEstateDeveloper/podcasts #realestateinvesting #entrepreneurjourney #mindsetshift #riskandreward #therealestatepessimist #truthaboutrealestate #pivot #reinvention #investingstrategy #wealthbuilder

    27 min

  5. 11/19/2025

    From Rock Bottom to Runway: The Episode You Didn’t See Coming (w/ Alan Underwood) | EP#46

    What if real estate isn’t the destination at all. Maybe it’s just the vehicle that gets you to who you’re meant to be? Alan Underwood walked through loss, identity collapse, and the brink… then rebuilt purpose one tiny action at a time. Today he’s developing ADU-based multifamily in San Diego, flying medical missions with Angel Flight West, and reminding all of us why the doors and dollars only matter if they serve a bigger why. This is the “un-podcast” episode about life, perspective, and the truth behind the highlight reel, and we promise you haven’t heard this one before. What we cover: The moment everything breaks, and the first two words that pull him back From pink headbands to pilot wings: standing out, building brand, and creating connection Vision > vanity metrics: identity beyond “how many doors” Micro-habits that rebuild confidence (and why the goal must be too small to fail) Angel Flight West: purpose, perspective, and the ROI that actually matters ADUs in San Diego: turning single-family into multifamily (and a $50M pipeline) The Go-Giver playbook: leading with value to unlock partnerships and capital “Look good” vs. “be great”: the difference that changes everything BOLD TRUTH: If your why isn’t bigger than your wins, your wins will break you. 🎧 Listen now: https://www.youtube.com/@TheRealEstatePessimist/videos 📍 Find us on all platforms: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheRealEstatePessimist/videos Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/30iW9NGVaPVqIBZqf8iNd5?si=aa41afe7b90b4315 Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-real-estate-pessimist/id1785003692 🎧 Want more from Kristi? Hear how she’s helping locals become developers in their own communities by removing the gatekeeping.  → Listen to the Local Real Estate Developer Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@LocalRealEstateDeveloper/podcasts #realestateinvesting #mindsetshift #entrepreneurjourney #fearvsprudence #therealestatepessimist #developmentlife #propertyinvestor #startscared #riskandreward #truthaboutrealestate

    51 min

  6. 11/12/2025

    Changing the Game: When a Direction Change Is Right vs. Wrong | EP#45

    Ready to toss your plan and pivot? Sometimes that move saves your sanity… and sometimes it quietly wrecks your progress. We get real about the line between evolution and distraction in your investing journey. Kristi and Erik break down how to tell if you’re shifting for the right reasons (alignment, runway, ROI, season of life) or just trying to escape the boring middle where the real work happens. Expect honest stories, sunk cost confessions, and a simple gut check you can run before you jump. What we cover: Shiny object syndrome vs. real strategy shifts The “why” test: goals, lifestyle, season of life Runway matters: different choices at 27 vs. 55 Sunk cost bias: stop burning the house down to kill a spider The boring middle: reps, plateaus, mastery Reusing skills in a new vehicle vs. starting from zero The 10–10–10 check: days, months, years, plus legacy Build a circle that tells you hard truths early Real examples: exiting flips and STRs, moving to boutique hotel ops, launching LRED Bold Truth: Staying put out of fear is as dangerous as pivoting out of boredom. 🎧 Listen now: https://www.youtube.com/@TheRealEstatePessimist/videos 📍 Find us on all platforms: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheRealEstatePessimist/videos Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/30iW9NGVaPVqIBZqf8iNd5?si=aa41afe7b90b4315 Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-real-estate-pessimist/id1785003692 🎧 Want more from Kristi? Hear how she’s helping locals become developers in their own communities by removing the gatekeeping. → Listen to the Local Real Estate Developer Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@LocalRealEstateDeveloper/podcasts #realestateinvesting #mindsetshift #entrepreneurjourney #fearvsprudence #therealestatepessimist #developmentlife #propertyinvestor #startscared #riskandreward #truthaboutrealestate

    38 min

  7. 11/05/2025

    🔥 When the Fire Hits Home: Maui Investors Who Survived Disaster | EP#44

    What happens when the fire doesn’t just burn homes, but the market itself? On this episode of The Real Estate Pessimist Podcast, we sit down with Mike and Caroline Neubauer, Maui-based investors, parents, and podcast hosts who’ve lived through it all: the wildfires, the pandemic shutdowns, the short-term rental backlash, and came out still fighting. Mike, a former firefighter turned photographer and real estate investor, and Caroline, a hula dancer turned licensed agent, share their real story of rebuilding financially, emotionally, and as a family. They didn’t just lose bookings, they lost an entire local economy. They battled squatter drama, eviction roadblocks, and a huge insurance denial while caring for aging parents and raising their son. Through it all, they never stopped showing up, pivoting, and rebuilding one step at a time. 🎙️ What We Cover: The real aftershocks of the Maui wildfires and tourism collapse How a firefighter’s mindset applies to real estate resilience Surviving the crash of short-term rentals, and why diversification saved them Family before finance: how to protect your marriage and mindset in chaos The wild story of a four-year squatter and $68K in damages (and what they learned) Practical lessons on reserves, pivots, and faith when things go wrong 💥 Bold Truth: Real estate doesn’t just test your strategy, it tests your character. 📍 Find Mike & Caroline: 🌐 ourfamilyinvests.com 📸 @mikeyneu 🏝️ @ladyaloharei 🔗 linktr.ee/ladyaloha 🎧 Listen now: https://www.youtube.com/@TheRealEstatePessimist/videos 📍 Find us on all platforms: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheRealEstatePessimist/videos Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/30iW9NGVaPVqIBZqf8iNd5?si=aa41afe7b90b4315 Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-real-estate-pessimist/id1785003692 🎧 Want more from Kristi? Hear how she’s helping locals become developers in their own communities by removing the gatekeeping.  → Listen to the Local Real Estate Developer Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@LocalRealEstateDeveloper/podcasts #realestateinvesting #maui #wildfiresurvivor #mindsetshift #financialfreedom #propertyinvestor #therealestatepessimist #shorttermrentals #realestatetruth #resilience

    54 min

  8. 10/29/2025

    Know When to Hold ’Em: Real Estate Cycles No One Talks About | EP#43

    Know When to Hold ’Em: Real Estate Cycles No One Talks About | EP#43 Ever feel like everyone else in real estate is dancing to a different beat?Welcome to the silent disco of investing—where everyone’s moving, but no one’s on the same song. In this episode, we pull back the curtain on something most investors never talk about: personal market cycles.When to hold. When to fold. When to press pause and when to double down. This conversation isn’t about timing the market. It’s about timing your life—your energy, your goals, your next chapter. What we cover: The Kenny Rogers rule of real estate (and why every hand’s both a winner and a loser) The three investor phases: Starter, Builder, Ender — and which one you’re actually in How to recognize when it’s time to pivot, pause, or go all in Why “moving the goalposts” isn’t quitting—it’s evolving The myth of more: when scaling up stops serving your life How to build clarity by creating a “to-not-do” list What personal cycles look like for each of us: Kristi’s in her builder 2.0 phase with Elevate SWFL, Erik’s in a deliberate hold pattern The real reason we keep chasing new challenges even when we “don’t have to” Bold truth:Every investor hits a crossroads. The smart ones don’t chase someone else’s beat—they learn to change the song. 🎧 Listen now: https://www.youtube.com/@TheRealEstatePessimist/videos 📍 Find us on all platforms: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheRealEstatePessimist/videos Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/30iW9NGVaPVqIBZqf8iNd5?si=aa41afe7b90b4315 Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-real-estate-pessimist/id1785003692 🎧 Want more from Kristi? Hear how she’s helping locals become developers in their own communities by removing the gatekeeping.  → Listen to the Local Real Estate Developer Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@LocalRealEstateDeveloper/podcasts #realestateinvesting #mindsetshift #entrepreneurjourney #fearvsprudence #therealestatepessimist #developmentlife #propertyinvestor #startscared #riskandreward #truthaboutrealestate

    53 min
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The Good, bad, and the truth about real estate investing! Don’t let the name fool you. We’re not here to be negative. We’re here to be real pull back the curtain and show you what’s behind those highlight reels. I’m Kristi Kandel: RE developer & investor. My cohost Erik Stenbakken, and I are bringing you the unfiltered stories behind the deals. The ones you don’t see on social media. And the wisdom that only comes from actually living it. Because real estate isn’t all private jets and passive income. Sometimes it’s evictions and 3 a.m. plumbing disasters. And we’re here for all of it.

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  • Creator
    RE Pessimist
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2025
  • Episodes
    50
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