A Couple Thinks Podcast

Lisa & Aaron try to make sense of a messy world

Think along with Lisa and Aaron, as we try to make sense of a messy world—with clarity, compassion, and a dash of humor. acouplethinks.substack.com

  1. 1d ago

    We Got This

    From protest season to election season. We’re now just over 100 days from the midterm elections, and we’ve got work to do, but we believe if we do the work, ‘we got this!’ For months we’ve talked about calling elected officials, showing up at protests, building local community, and protecting democratic institutions. Those efforts still matter, but this is the moment when our focus begins to shift toward winning elections. This week we start our discussion with Donald Trump’s renewed attacks on election integrity, which aren’t really about relitigating 2020. They’re about laying the groundwork to cast doubt on any Democratic victories this November. Rather than getting pulled into that narrative, we explore why the best response is simple: win by margins that are too large to ignore. We also talk about why history gives us reasons for optimism. Midterm elections have often served as a correction to the party in power, and early indicators suggest that many competitive races are moving in Democrats’ favor. While nothing is guaranteed, there are genuine reasons to believe that engaged voters can make a meaningful difference. We also spend time separating actionable information from the endless stream of political speculation. Fear and worst-case scenarios may generate clicks, but they rarely help us decide what to do next. Instead, we focus on practical ways to get involved now—from organizations like Swing Left and Oath.vote to local volunteer opportunities that can help strengthen democracy in communities across the country. Finally, we remind ourselves why we started A Couple Thinks in the first place: not to amplify every alarming headline, but to help distinguish between noise and action. Democracy isn’t strengthened by doom-scrolling. It’s strengthened by ordinary people deciding to participate. As always, we close with our joyful moments of the week, including a handmade birthday card, reflections on creativity through The Artist’s Way, and a reminder from Rotary that lasting impact is built one act of service at a time. Resources mentioned in this episode * Swing Left – Volunteer opportunities, letter writing, canvassing, and strategic races * Oath.vote – Data-driven recommendations for high-impact political donations * Democracy Is a Verb ( Michelle LaBanca ) – Commentary on civic engagement and election processes * A Couple Thinks Survey and email The next 100 days matter. We hope you’ll join us—not just by listening, but by taking one small action that helps move democracy forward. Get full access to A Couple Thinks at acouplethinks.substack.com/subscribe

    We Got This
  2. Jul 14

    The Maine Story

    In this episode of A Couple Thinks, we take a closer look at the unfolding Maine Senate race—not just because Susan Collins’ seat could determine control of the U.S. Senate, but because the story raises much bigger questions about how political parties recruit, vet, and elevate candidates. We begin by exploring why Maine has long been viewed as one of Democrats’ best opportunities to flip a Republican-held Senate seat. Susan Collins has built her reputation as a moderate willing to break with her party, yet many voters now see a pattern of expressing “concern” while ultimately enabling the Republican agenda through key votes, including Supreme Court confirmations that reshaped the country for decades. From there, we unpack how Democrats arrived at the current moment. We discuss the establishment’s early push behind Governor Janet Mills, the rapid rise of Graham Platner, the troubling allegations and warning signs that emerged throughout his campaign, and the questions that many are now asking about whether proper vetting ever took place. We also examine what this says about political consultants, party insiders, and the tension between grassroots voters and party leadership. [Here’s the link to the Wall Street Journal interview with the consultants that we mention in the podcast.] Along the way, we reflect on a larger issue that extends far beyond Maine: Should charisma and electability outweigh character and judgment? Or have we reached a point where political teams have become so focused on winning that they sometimes forget to ask whether a candidate should be running in the first place? Fortunately, Maine Democrats now have another opportunity to choose a nominee. We’re hopeful they’ll select someone with experience, integrity, and a genuine connection to the people they’ll represent. As always, we’ll continue following the race and talk about meaningful ways people across the country can help once a nominee is chosen. We also close the episode with practical ways to stay engaged locally—including opportunities through Mobilize, Five Calls, Oath.vote, Postcards to Voters, and Jess Craven of Chop Wood Carry Water—as well as a few quieter joyful moments from our week, including morning pages from The Artist’s Way, a visit to Berkeley’s Curiosity Shop, and the excitement of preparing a new catio for Tucci. Thanks for listening, and as always, we’d love to hear from you. You can reach us at hello@acouplethinks.com, and if you haven’t already, we’d appreciate your feedback through our listener survey at survey.acouplethinks.com. Get full access to A Couple Thinks at acouplethinks.substack.com/subscribe

    The Maine Story
  3. Jul 7

    America Is Not a Finished Product

    After a Fourth of July weekend that felt more reflective than celebratory, we found ourselves still struggling with the state of our country in this moment. In this week’s episode, we step back from the daily headlines and take a much longer view of American history. At 250 years old, the United States is still a relatively young nation, and every generation has faced moments that felt overwhelming—from the Civil War and the Great Depression to the Civil Rights Movement and today. What gives us hope is remembering that the America we enjoy today exists because ordinary people refused to accept yesterday’s version of America. They organized, protested, voted, volunteered, and insisted that the country become a little more just than it was before. We also wrestle with questions many people are asking today: * Is it ever okay to leave a country that’s moving in the wrong direction? * What responsibilities do those of us with privilege have? * How do we balance protecting ourselves with caring for others? * What does real patriotism look like beyond flags and slogans? Along the way, we share two Jewish teachings that have helped shape our own thinking: “It is not your duty to finish the work, but neither are you free to abandon it.” and “If I am not for myself, who will be for me? If I am only for myself, what am I? If not now, when?” Ultimately, we come back to a simple idea: Our job isn’t to perfect democracy. Our job is to leave it better than we found it. As always, we close with practical ways to get involved—from local organizing and ranked-choice voting efforts to calling your representatives and supporting your community—and, of course, our joyful moments from the week. Resources Mentioned * Mobilize — Find volunteer opportunities and events near you. * Chop Wood, Carry Water ( Chop Wood, Carry Water on Substack) — Daily civic action ideas. * Five Calls — Easy scripts for contacting your elected officials. * Postcards to Voters — Volunteer opportunities supporting voter turnout. * Oath.vote — Information about supporting democracy-focused candidates. * Survey: survey.acouplethinks.com * Email us: hello@acouplethinks.com If this conversation resonates with you, we’d love for you to subscribe, share the episode with a friend, and let us know your thoughts. We’d especially love to hear what patriotism means to you in this moment. Get full access to A Couple Thinks at acouplethinks.substack.com/subscribe

    America Is Not a Finished Product
  4. Jun 30

    America at 250

    America turns 250 this week. That milestone feels complicated. Like many people, we’ve been wrestling with what it means to celebrate our country at a moment when so many of us are concerned about its direction. Is it still possible to feel patriotic while we criticize our country and ask it to deliver on its promise? And what does celebrating the Fourth of July look like when the national conversation feels so divided? In this episode, we explore the important distinctions between patriotism, nationalism, and jingoism. We share a story about military service and free speech that perfectly captures what we believe patriotism is really about: defending the rights of fellow Americans, even when we disagree with them. We also reflect on how our own relationship with Independence Day has evolved over the years, from childhood fireworks and bicentennial celebrations to today’s more complicated emotions. Along the way, we find unexpected reasons for hope—from the spirit of the World Cup to the idea that meaningful change often unfolds over generations rather than election cycles. Our biggest takeaway? The future is built through hope and everyday actions, whether that’s volunteering, making calls, writing postcards, supporting local businesses, or simply staying engaged in your community. The America we want to celebrate tomorrow depends on what we choose to do today. As always, we wrap up with our Joyful Moments, including family birthdays, out latest home improvement project finally nearing completion, and the simple joy of having our daughter home for a visit. Whether you’re spending the Fourth at a barbecue, watching fireworks, enjoying a drone show, or simply gathering with people you love, we hope you have a meaningful holiday. Happy listening—and Happy 250th, America. 🇺🇸 Get full access to A Couple Thinks at acouplethinks.substack.com/subscribe

    America at 250
  5. Jun 23

    Hope v. Grievance

    In this episode, we explore two very different visions for America: one rooted in hope, community, and shared purpose, and another fueled by chaos, division, and blame. The contrast felt especially sharp this week, from the uplifting celebrations in New York and the opening of the Obama Center to the ongoing turmoil and spectacle coming out of Washington. We discuss why hope is more than just a feeling—it’s a leadership strategy. Drawing on George Lakoff’s “nurturing parent” versus “strict father” framework, we examine how leaders shape behavior through the expectations they set and whether people thrive more when they’re trusted and empowered rather than controlled and punished. We also tackle the question of whether Americans are truly as divided as we’re often told. While politicians and media outlets frequently amplify conflict, we argue that most people share many of the same hopes: safe communities, economic opportunity, affordable healthcare, and a better future for their families. Along the way, we talk about comedian Josh Johnson’s “button” analogy—the idea that leaders often have the power to improve people’s lives but choose not to use it—and why leaders like Zohran Mamdani have captured attention by focusing so directly on what constituents need and want. Finally, we share practical ways listeners can get involved, from local action opportunities to strategic political engagement, and wrap up with joyful moments that include a family graduation, a comedy show, the Novato Art & Wine Festival, and the near-completion of our long-awaited front porch project. Resources Mentioned * Mamdani’s Speech (edited w/ game video) * Mobilize.us * Oath.vote Brian Derrick * Five Calls * Postcards to Voters * Chop Wood, Carry Water * survey.acouplethinks.com * hello@acouplethinks.com Get full access to A Couple Thinks at acouplethinks.substack.com/subscribe

    Hope v. Grievance
  6. Jun 9

    Experience Counts

    In this week’s episode, we start by answering “Why does California take so long to count ballots?” It’s a question that comes up after nearly every election, and with several closely watched races still too close to call, we decided to dig into the answer. As it turns out, the delay isn’t a sign of fraud; instead, it’s largely a sign that election officials are doing exactly what we want them to do: verify signatures, review provisional ballots, process mail ballots postmarked by election day, and make sure every legitimate vote is counted accurately. While talking about the candidates still battling for second-place spots in California’s top-two primary system, we found ourselves discussing a much bigger issue: our growing fascination with political outsiders. Why are voters increasingly drawn to candidates with little or no government experience? Is being a “career politician” really a flaw? And what kinds of experience actually prepare someone to govern effectively? We discuss: * Why California’s vote-counting process takes weeks * The difference between speed and accuracy in elections * The rise of outsider candidates on both the left and right * Whether governing should be treated like any other profession * Examples ranging from Graham Platner and Tom Steyer to Arnold Schwarzenegger * The role of charisma, communication, and what the kids call “rizz” * A better question than “Are they an insider or outsider?” Along the way, we compare politicians to surgeons and pilots, revisit California’s governor’s race, and wrestle with the tension between wanting change and wanting competence. As always, we close with ways to get involved, plus some joyful moments—including local pod gatherings, live improv, NPR fandom, and a festival that we hope will have more thematic consistency than a certain cherry festival. 🎧 Give it a listen and let us know what you think: What experiences do you think best prepare someone for elected office? Should we prioritize fresh perspectives, proven experience, or some combination of both? We’d love to hear your thoughts. And if you’d like to share ideas for future episodes, reach out at hello@acouplethinks.com Get full access to A Couple Thinks at acouplethinks.substack.com/subscribe

    Experience Counts
  7. Jun 2

    Don't take the bait

    As the midterm campaigns move into high gear, one thing is already clear: the culture wars are back. This week, we explore why so much political rhetoric focuses on topics designed to provoke outrage, fear, or endless debate—and why that often pulls attention away from the issues that affect people’s daily lives. We discuss recent examples of political figures using culture-war attacks as a distraction, and examine how communicators like Pete Buttigieg, James Talarico, Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, and Zohran Mamdani have found effective ways to redirect those conversations toward affordability, healthcare, housing, and other kitchen-table concerns. The conversation looks at: * Why culture-war topics can be such effective political distractions * The difference between defending a position and reframing the conversation * How Democrats are beginning to develop more effective responses * Lessons from recent campaigns and social media strategies * Why joy, authenticity, and humor may be more powerful than outrage Aaron introduces his “Novel Presidential Virus” theory, comparing the political challenges of the past decade to learning how to respond to a new disease: nobody knew the right treatment at first, but we’re starting to identify what works. As always, the episode closes with practical actions listeners can take, along with a few joyful moments from the week—including front porch progress, family visits, and exciting travel plans for our daughter. If you’ve ever felt exhausted by political distractions and wondered how to keep the focus on the issues that matter most, this episode is for you. 🎧 Listen now and join the conversation. We always love hearing from listeners at hello@acouplethinks.com. Get full access to A Couple Thinks at acouplethinks.substack.com/subscribe

    Don't take the bait

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Think along with Lisa and Aaron, as we try to make sense of a messy world—with clarity, compassion, and a dash of humor. acouplethinks.substack.com