Mind Your Mama - Healing Burnout, Building Boundaries, and Finding Yourself

Lauren Trout
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Welcome to Mind Your Mama – the podcast where motherhood meets real talk, belly laughs, and soul-deep connection. This is your weekly reminder that you, mama, are a rockstar (even if you’re rocking yesterday’s yoga pants and cold coffee). Here, we’re all about giving moms the space to feel seen, heard, and unapologetically valued. Whether you’re knee-deep in diapers, dodging teenage eye rolls, or just wondering how on earth you’ll ever fold that mountain of laundry, this podcast is for you. We’ll dive into the peaks and valleys, the hilarious chaos, and the unforgettable moments of motherhood with honest conversations, relatable stories, and the occasional ugly cry (it’s a judgment-free zone, promise). Together, we’ll uncover the beauty in the mess, the clarity in the madness, and the strength to embrace a life filled with meaning and connection. We'll talk to moms from all walks of life, learning from their experiences, challenges, and the pivotal moments that led them to rediscover fulfillment amidst the chaos. So grab your favorite snack (or whatever the kids haven’t already raided), coffee, or wine ( no judgement here! ) pop in your earbuds, and let’s tackle this wild ride called motherhood—one episode at a time. Mind Your Mama is more than a podcast; it’s your weekly dose of inspiration, laughter, and a big ol' hug in audio form. Because, mama, you are worthy. You are amazing. And together, we’ve got this. Hit subscribe and let’s make 2025 the year this podcast takes over the top charts. Ready? Let’s go, mama!

  1. 5d ago

    60. Summer Break Starts Friday and I'm Terrified — Here's My Honest Plan to Not Lose Myself

    Summer break starts Friday. 3 kids. Home. All day. No camps. No vacations. Just us. And I am lowkey freaking out. Not because I don't love them. I do. But because my kids are energy vampires and I am trying to build a business and those two things? They do not always coexist peacefully. This week I'm getting honest about what summer actually looks like when you're a mom who's building something. The fear. The guilt. The plan that probably won't survive day one. 15 minutes. No fluff. Just real talk. Oh and I recorded this on the day it was due. Because that's life. That's motherhood. And perfection? Perfection is actually the lowest bar you can set for yourself. Because there's no such thing. Because you can build through the chaos. Even in the summer. Even imperfectly. Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching Offers Connect with Lauren: Instagram: @thelaurentrout Email: lauren@mindyourmama.org

    16 min

  2. Jun 3

    59. "Protecting Your Peace" Is Code for Hiding — And It's Making Us Lonelier Than Ever

    Protect your peace." You've seen it. You've said it. I've said it. And on the surface it sounds healthy. It sounds like boundaries. It sounds like self-care. But what if it's actually making us weaker, lonelier, and more divided than we've ever been? What if we've taken a real, valid concept — protecting yourself from people who genuinely harm you — and twisted it into an excuse to avoid anything hard? Something happened recently that stopped me cold. A friendship. 26 years. ghosted. Over a political opinion. No conversation. No grace. Just silence — and the words "I'm protecting my peace." And I have my own version of this story too. In this episode I'm calling out the difference between real boundaries and hiding in a bubble. The echo chambers we're building. The people we're losing. And why we've been so busy protecting our peace that we've lost our people. This one is going to make you uncomfortable. Good. Because we need to get uncomfortable. We are so much better than this. Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching Offers Connect with Lauren: Instagram: @wealthymamamethod Email: lauren@mindyourmama.org

    38 min

  3. May 20

    58. Put Your Phone Down for 2 Hours Every Morning — Here's What Actually Happened When I Did

    For 30 days, I didn't touch my phone for the first 2 hours after I woke up. One morning, Emma told me about her day. And I actually LISTENED. Really listened. Put everything down, looked at her, heard her. She said: "Thanks for listening, Mommy. I love you to the core." To the core. And I realized: She's been asking me to listen this whole time. And I haven't been. My other daughter Norah wanted to TEXT her friend instead of having a real conversation. She'd rather type than talk. We're raising kids who don't know how to connect with real people. And this isn't just about parenting. We're in a loneliness epidemic. The Belonging Index study found that an overwhelming majority of people don't feel like they belong — not in their communities, jobs, or even families. And it's tied to cell phone use. In this episode: what happened during my 30-day experiment, the science behind why your phone is f*****g up your life, and the challenge I'm giving you. Because I want to bring people together. And it starts with putting your phones down. Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching Offers Connect with Lauren: Instagram: @wealthymamamethod Email: lauren@mindyourmama.org

    31 min

  4. May 13

    57. "Your 'Good Man' Is Draining Your Ability to Build — And You're Letting Him"

    Description: Your partner is draining your ability to build. And you're letting him. I'm not talking about the obviously s****y partners. I'm talking about the "good men." The ones who don't cheat, don't hit you, don't gamble away your savings. And because of that, they get a pass on everything else. You're so busy resenting him, so emotionally exhausted from carrying the entire relationship alone, that you have zero energy left to build anything for yourself. And here's the part that's going to piss you off: You're the one giving away your happiness. And expecting HIM to give it back. In this episode I'm dropping truth bombs about the embarrassingly low bar we have for men, why your resentment is draining your purpose, and the controversial thing I said about sex that's going to make some of you uncomfortable. Plus 3 action steps to take your power back. And 1 simple thing you can do today to start building anyway. Stop waiting. Stop resenting. Stop giving it away. Take it back. Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching Offers Connect with Lauren: Instagram: @laurentroutRN_coach AND @welthymamamethod Email: lauren@mindyourmama.org

    28 min

  5. May 6

    56. Stop Tearing Other Moms Down — Empowerment Means Actually Showing the F*ck Up

    Description: I'm so tired of women saying "empower women" then ripping each other apart in the comments. Breastfeed? "Shut the f**k up. Is it your tit? No. Your baby? No. Then shut up about it." Holistic mom? "You lunatic! Science is science!" Don't medicate your kids? "Who the f**k are you to put heavy metals in your child?" Vaccinate, don't vaccinate. Co-sleep, sleep train. Who cares? We can't win. No matter what we do, someone's got something to say. And it's not just men doing it to us. It's US. Women tearing each other apart. Then slapping an "empowerment" sticker on it and calling it a day. That's not empowerment. Empowerment is showing up when a mom says she's drowning. Not judging her. Not saying "well you chose to have kids." But saying: "Me f*****g too. Let me help." In this episode: why we're still stuck in 1800s competition mode, what REAL support looks like, the island metaphor (let's get in our boats and save each other), and my challenge to you. Because we're so much better together. And it's time we started acting like it. #MeFuckingToo Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching Offers Connect with Lauren: Instagram: @wealthymamamethod Email: lauren@mindyourmama.org

    32 min

  6. Apr 29

    55. Wake Up Exhausted, Go to Bed Exhausted, Repeat — You're Not Failing, The System Is

    Description: Last week I screamed at my daughter while trying to build my business. She looked at me with her perfect little face and said "I don't understand why you're being so mean. I'm not talking to you in a mean way." It broke my f*****g heart. Here I am telling you to regulate your nervous system, and I'm not always living up to my own words. And it's HARD. After I apologized (and she said "It's okay Mommy, I love you forever"), I did all the things. Homework. Dinner. Sports drop-off and pick-up. Then I sat in my car in the driveway for 10 minutes. Too tired to move. Too overwhelmed to think. And I thought: this is my life, every single day, on repeat. Wake up exhausted. Rush through the morning. Work. Feel guilty I'm not doing enough. Go to bed exhausted. Do it all again tomorrow. For a second I thought "maybe I'm just not cut out for this. Maybe other moms have it figured out and I'm just failing." But that's EXACTLY what they want you to think. That YOU'RE the problem. That you're not organized enough, disciplined enough, strong enough. But you're not the problem. The system is the problem. In this episode I break down how the system is designed to keep moms exhausted and dysregulated (childcare costs = your paycheck, no maternity leave, healthcare tied to jobs, school ends at 2:30, PTO is a joke, sports run you ragged). I talk about how your unhealed wounds (like fawning) sabotage your business, why you can't build from survival mode, how to regulate WHILE building, why digital products are the answer, and how to break the cycle for your kids. You're not failing. The system is rigged. But you can fight back anyway. Your kids are watching. Show them what's possible. Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching Offers Connect with Lauren: Instagram: @wealthymamamethod Email: lauren@mindyourmama.org

    36 min

  7. Apr 22

    54. Staying Broke Is Trauma Bonding — And They're Counting on You to Stay Small

    Staying broke is a form of trauma bonding. And the system is counting on you to stay there. I know that sounds harsh. But hear me out. There is COMFORT in staying broke. There is SAFETY in bonding over shared struggle. There is BELONGING in complaining about how expensive everything is. You're at the grocery store. You see the price of eggs. You turn to the stranger next to you and say, "Can you BELIEVE this?" And they agree. And for a moment, you're not alone. You're connected. You BELONG. That bonding? That instant connection over shared suffering? That's trauma bonding. And it's keeping you STUCK. In this raw, truth-telling episode, I break down: What trauma bonding actually is: Trauma bonding is when you bond with people over shared pain, shared struggle, or a shared enemy. And when you're broke, you have an instant shared enemy: the system, the economy, the government, rich people, corporations. That creates IMMEDIATE connection with other people who are also broke. You bond at the grocery store. At work. On Instagram. Over and over. And here's the science (I'm only saying this ONCE): When you bond with someone, your brain releases oxytocin (the bonding hormone) and dopamine (the reward chemical). Every time you complain about being broke and someone agrees, your brain gets a chemical hit that says "this is good, do more of this." Your brain becomes wired to SEEK OUT opportunities to bond over struggle. Not because you WANT to be broke, but because your brain has learned: bonding over being broke = feel good. Why trauma bonding keeps you stuck: As long as you're bonding over the PROBLEM, you're not building a SOLUTION. You're too busy venting, commiserating, finding people who agree that everything is f****d. And the system LOVES that. Because broke people who are trauma bonded don't rise, don't build, don't threaten the status quo. They just stay stuck. Together. How the system weaponizes "we're all in this together": Remember COVID? The tagline was EVERYWHERE: "We're all in this together." It sounded comforting. Unifying. But here's what it actually was: a trauma bonding tool to keep you compliant. Because when you believe "we're all in this together," you believe everyone is struggling the same way, everyone is following the same rules. And if EVERYONE is doing it, it must be right. Anyone who questioned was labeled selfish, dangerous, not part of the "we." They were cast out. And the herd turned on them. That's EXACTLY how the system keeps you controlled. They create shared struggle, give you a tagline to bond over, then punish anyone who steps outside. The same thing happens with being broke. The system has created a culture where EVERYONE is struggling, EVERYONE is broke. And if you try to BUILD wealth? You're greedy, selfish, out of touch. Not part of the "we" anymore. The JCAHO example (and corporate America): I talk about JCAHO — the people who create hospital rules that nurses have to follow even though they've NEVER worked as a nurse. But it's every corporate structure. Management creates policies that frontline workers have to follow. Those policies are often stupid, wasteful, time-consuming. But if you push back, you're "not a team player." And your coworkers turn on you. Because they're trauma bonded over shared suffering. "We ALL have to follow the stupid policy. Who does SHE think she is?" The system KNOWS how to use mass manipulation for control. And it works. Why building a business is a giant F**K YOU to the system: Building a business where you have financial freedom AND you're home with your kids is the biggest middle finger you can give to the system. Because you're proving their lie is a lie. You DON'T have to choose between working and raising your kids. You DON'T have to stay broke to belong. You DON'T have to be a conformist. You CAN build wealth. You CAN think differently. You CAN break free. And when you show other women it's possible? You're threatening the ENTIRE SYSTEM. What happens when you leave the broke herd: It's f*****g hard. You lose instant connection, easy belonging, automatic community. You can't bond with strangers over egg prices anymore. You can't vent with coworkers about your paycheck. People will try to pull you back. "Must be nice." "You've changed." "You don't get it anymore." Your nervous system freaks out because rejection = pain. But here's the truth: You WILL grieve. You're losing something real. And that's okay. On the other side is a NEW community of women who are ALSO building, ALSO rising, ALSO refusing to stay small. The new dopamine you get from building: When you're bonding over being broke, you get dopamine from COMPLAINING. But when you're BUILDING a business, you get dopamine from: Progress (every small win, every sale)Pride (knowing you built something)Freedom (affording things without stress, saying NO to what you don't want)Power (not being dependent on a boss or system) That's a different kind of high. And your brain LOVES it. How to actually rewire your nervous system: Stop talking like you're broke (your words change your brain chemistry)Find ONE person in the wealth-building communityCelebrate small wins (train your brain: building = reward)When you feel the pull to go back, NAME IT (then regulate and keep going)Invest in support (you need a coach who understands BOTH business strategy AND nervous system regulation) This episode is for you if: You bond with strangers over how expensive everything isYou feel guilty for wanting wealth because it means leaving the "we're all struggling" communityYou're tired of being broke but scared of being labeled greedy or out of touchYou want to build a business but your nervous system panics when you tryYou want financial freedom AND to be home with your kids (and you're tired of being told you have to choose)You're ready to give the system a big F**K YOU by breaking free Stop bonding over being broke. Start building. Give the system the middle finger it deserves. Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching Offers Free guide: https://stan.store/laurenTrout/p/the-5minute-nervous-system-reset-for-moms Connect with Lauren: Instagram: @laurentroutrn_coach AND @wealthymamamethodEmail: lauren@mindyourmama.org DM me for 1:1 coaching (I help you build the business AND regulate your nervous system) Stop bonding over being broke. Start building. Give the system the middle finger it deserves.

    45 min

  8. Apr 15

    53. Your Brain Is Chemically Addicted to Staying Small — Here's the Neuroscience (And How to Break Free)

    Your brain is chemically addicted to fitting in. And it's sabotaging you every time you try to build something different. You WANT to start a business. You WANT financial independence. You WANT to break free from the 9-to-5. But every time you sit down to actually DO it — you suddenly need to clean the kitchen. You scroll for three hours. You convince yourself it's not the right time. And you think that's laziness. Or lack of discipline. But it's not. Your nervous system thinks building a business will literally kill you. And I'm not being dramatic. I'm talking about actual neuroscience here. Brain chemistry. Hormones. Your gut communicating with your brain. In this deep-dive science episode, I'm breaking down EXACTLY what's happening in your brain and body when you try to step outside the herd: THE NEUROSCIENCE OF BELONGING (why you're addicted to fitting in): When you're part of a group, your brain releases OXYTOCIN (the bonding hormone that makes you feel safe and calm)When you conform and get validation, your brain releases DOPAMINE (the reward chemical that makes you feel accomplished)Your brain becomes ADDICTED to these chemicals — and the easiest way to get them is to DO WHAT EVERYONE ELSE IS DOINGWhen you DON'T fit in, your brain interprets it as REJECTION — which activates the SAME pain centers in your brain as PHYSICAL INJURY (fMRI studies prove this)Posting on Instagram with no engagement? Your brain literally thinks you broke your arm. Sending an email and nobody buys? Your brain thinks you're being rejected and in DANGER. THE VAGUS NERVE + CO-REGULATION: Your vagus nerve runs from your brainstem through your heart, lungs, and gut — and it's responsible for co-regulationWhen you're around calm people, your nervous system calms down. When you're around anxious people, you get anxious too.When you're part of a group, your vagus nerve helps regulate you — you literally feel SAFERWhen you step outside the group? Your vagus nerve freaks out. You feel anxious, dysregulated, like something's wrong. Not because something IS wrong — but because your biology is designed to keep you WITH the herd. HOW THE SYSTEM WEAPONIZES YOUR BIOLOGY: This is where I get PISSED. Because the system KNOWS all of this. And they use it against you. Corporate culture uses "team player" language to keep you conforming. If you question a stupid policy? You're labeled "difficult" or "not a culture fit." Your nervous system registers that as REJECTION = PAIN, so you learn to just do what you're told. Government messaging during crises always says: "Trust the experts. Don't do your own research. If you question us, you're dangerous." And anyone who questions gets labeled a conspiracy theorist. Your nervous system hears that and thinks: DANGER. Don't step outside the group. The education system is where they START the conditioning — when you're FIVE YEARS OLD. Sit in your desk. Be quiet. Do what the teacher says. Don't question. Obedience = gold star. Questioning = punishment. You learn to trust authority over your own gut from CHILDHOOD. YOUR GUT INSTINCT IS REAL NEUROSCIENCE (not woo-woo): You have an enteric nervous system — your SECOND BRAIN in your gut. It has over 100 MILLION neurons (more than your spinal cord). It constantly sends signals to your brain via the vagus nerve, telling you: "This feels wrong. This doesn't align." That's what gut instinct is. And studies show it's RIGHT more often than rational thought in certain situations. But the system has spent your ENTIRE LIFE teaching you to IGNORE IT. "Don't trust your gut. Trust the teacher. Trust your boss. Trust the government." And when you DO trust your gut? You're made to feel crazy. Paranoid. Overreacting. And that's how they win. Because a woman who trusts her gut? Who questions authority? She's DANGEROUS. She doesn't stay in bad marriages or toxic jobs. She builds something different. And the system can't have that. WHY YOU CAN'T BUILD FROM A DYSREGULATED NERVOUS SYSTEM: When your nervous system is dysregulated (chronic stress, anxiety, overwhelm), your prefrontal cortex (the part of your brain responsible for planning, decision-making, creativity, problem-solving) SHUTS DOWN. All your energy goes to your amygdala — your threat detection system. From THAT state, you can't make clear decisions, think strategically, stay consistent, or believe in yourself. You're just in panic mode. Reacting. Scrambling. Burning out. And this is why so many women START businesses but never finish them. They're trying to build from a dysregulated state. THE "I'M JUST ONE PERSON" LIE: That voice in your head that says "I'm just one person, what can I do?" — that's not YOUR voice. That's the system's conditioning. Because they NEED you to believe you're powerless. That individual action doesn't matter. But here's the truth: Every single movement in history started with ONE PERSON. Rosa Parks. Greta Thunberg. The mom who starts the Facebook group that becomes a national movement. You're not "just one person." You're the FIRST person. The one who steps out and shows other women it's possible. HOW TO REGULATE YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM (science, not woo-woo): Teach your nervous system that building is SAFE through repetition and experienceRegulate your body BEFORE taking action (deep breathing with longer exhales, movement, grounding techniques)Reprogram your subconscious beliefs (question old programming, replace with new beliefs through repetition)Get support from someone who understands BOTH business strategy AND nervous system regulation This episode is for you if: You keep self-sabotaging every time you try to start somethingYou feel paralyzed when you try to take action on your businessYou think you're lazy or lack discipline (you're NOT — your nervous system is running the show)You feel anxious posting on social media or sending emailsYou've been conditioned to ignore your gut and trust authorityYou want to understand the SCIENCE of why stepping outside the herd feels terrifyingYou're ready to regulate your nervous system and build anyway Ready to start building? Free guide: How to Build Digital Products From Scratch (even if your nervous system is screaming at you to stop) Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching Offers Connect with Lauren: Instagram: @laurentroutRN_coach AND @wealthymamamethodEmail: lauren@mindyourmama.orgDM me if you need 1:1 coaching support to build your business while regulating your nervous system Your brain is wired to keep you small. But you can rewire it. Regulate first. Build second. Prove your nervous system wrong. Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching Offers

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Welcome to Mind Your Mama – the podcast where motherhood meets real talk, belly laughs, and soul-deep connection. This is your weekly reminder that you, mama, are a rockstar (even if you’re rocking yesterday’s yoga pants and cold coffee). Here, we’re all about giving moms the space to feel seen, heard, and unapologetically valued. Whether you’re knee-deep in diapers, dodging teenage eye rolls, or just wondering how on earth you’ll ever fold that mountain of laundry, this podcast is for you. We’ll dive into the peaks and valleys, the hilarious chaos, and the unforgettable moments of motherhood with honest conversations, relatable stories, and the occasional ugly cry (it’s a judgment-free zone, promise). Together, we’ll uncover the beauty in the mess, the clarity in the madness, and the strength to embrace a life filled with meaning and connection. We'll talk to moms from all walks of life, learning from their experiences, challenges, and the pivotal moments that led them to rediscover fulfillment amidst the chaos. So grab your favorite snack (or whatever the kids haven’t already raided), coffee, or wine ( no judgement here! ) pop in your earbuds, and let’s tackle this wild ride called motherhood—one episode at a time. Mind Your Mama is more than a podcast; it’s your weekly dose of inspiration, laughter, and a big ol' hug in audio form. Because, mama, you are worthy. You are amazing. And together, we’ve got this. Hit subscribe and let’s make 2025 the year this podcast takes over the top charts. Ready? Let’s go, mama!

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