Becoming Secure with Magsmindset

Maggie Sandnes
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As a certified life coach I have a mission for my clients and that is to “identify and remove roadblocks from your path to personal success”. A topic I am particularly passionate about is attachment styles and how I can get to know myself better. In this podcast you’ll tag along the journey of me identifying where my anxious attachment came from, how it’s manifesting itself in my life, and how I can with knowledge become a secure version of myself. Welcome to Becoming Secure with Magsmindset! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 3d ago

    #66 You knew it was bad for you. You stayed anyway - with Bev Mitelman

    If you've ever been addicted to a person,;the highs, the chaos, the 72-hour reprieves - this episode will explain why. And more importantly, it'll show you that it was never a character flaw. Attachment therapist Bev Mitelman joins me to break down why we chase what hurts us, what anxious and avoidant attachment actually look like in real life, and what healing really means (hint: it's not what you think). Meet Bev Mitelman: https://securelyloved.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    38 min

  2. Jun 6

    #65 This is why I know I am Secure

    🎥 The video version of this episode is available on YouTube @Magsmindset. "How do you know you're secure after spending years building Becoming Secure with Magsmindset?" The answer took me all the way back to 2016, when my self-development journey began. In this episode, I reflect on the past 10 years: what heartbreak taught me, how attachment theory changed my life, what it means to feel truly safe in a relationship, and why I no longer spend my days trying to decode what someone else is thinking. I also share a recent experience from my trip to Malaysia with my boyfriend that made me realize just how much I've changed. If you've ever struggled with anxiety in relationships, fear of abandonment, self-worth, or simply learning how to trust yourself, this episode is for you. 💗 Subscribe for more conversations about attachment theory, relationships, personal growth, and becoming secure. #AttachmentTheory #PersonalGrowth #Relationships #BecomingSecure #SelfDevelopment #HealingJourney #Magsmindset Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    24 min

  3. May 29

    #64 Unpause Your Marriage with Lee Baucom

    NOTE! Video available on YouTube. In this episode, I sit down with marriage coach and former therapist Lee Baucom to talk about what really causes marriages to break down—and how to prevent it. Lee explains that most couples unknowingly “hit the pause button” after committing, turning their focus to life demands and building habits of disconnection. We unpack the three levels of connection—physical, emotional, and spiritual—and why love alone doesn’t sustain a marriage without ongoing attention. We also explore complacency, resentment, and what one partner can do when the other isn’t motivated, including inviting connection rather than chasing it. Finally, we discuss expectations, values-based responding, self-regulation during conflict, and shifting from competition to a team mindset, plus where to find Lee’s Save The Marriage and Unpause Your Marriage resources. Un-Pause App: http://UnPauseYourMarriage.com Save The Marriage System: http://SaveTheMarriage.com/system My books: http://SaveTheMarriage.com/books 00:00 Lee Baucom 00:11 Introduction 01:10 Lee's Background & Origin Story 03:24 Why Marriages Fail: The Pause Button 11:48 The Three Levels of Connection 19:10 Rebuilding Connection: One Person Can Start 27:13 Attachment Theory & Personal Healing 28:07 Expectations & The Root of Frustration 32:49 Marriage as a Team 35:44 Self-Regulation & Responding from Values 45:21 Conflict That Serves the Relationship 47:13 Discovering Your Values 52:28 Wrap-Up & Resources Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    54 min

  4. May 23

    #63 How to Receive Love Without Losing Yourself with Lorina

    In this episode, I’m joined by Lorina Manzanita, a somatic intimacy coach and trauma resolution practitioner, to explore how attachment patterns and developmental trauma get encoded in the body and shape our relationships. We talk about why empaths often self-abandon, people-please, and ignore their own needs, and how mindfulness and somatic awareness can build agency, boundaries, and healthier intimacy. Lorina explains implicit memory in the first 18 months of life, the balance of connection and differentiation in secure attachment, and why attachment can differ with each parent. We unpack intermittent positive reinforcement (“pigeon brain”) and why inconsistent love becomes addictive, plus how breakups can feel like death yet lead to liberation when supported by self-compassion, community, and resourcing. We also discuss eros as a life force, pleasure, and the power of gratitude and asking directly for what you need. Website: www.LorinaManzanita.com Nourished: The Neuroscience of Receiving Beautifully www.integratingeros.com/nourished-mini-course 00:00 Meet Lorina 02:00 Wounded Healer Origin 05:03 Somatic Intimacy Basics 07:39 Mindset Versus Body 10:03 Secure Attachment Foundations 12:13 Different Parents Different Styles 17:20 Pigeon Brain Love Pattern 22:57 Building Real Security 26:52 Breaking the Trauma Bond 30:26 Grief Feels Like Dying 31:21 Seven Attempts to Leave 33:10 Finding Real Safety 35:02 Triggers and Resilience 36:54 Surrender and Worthiness 38:51 Rewiring Limiting Beliefs 39:59 Asking Men Directly 40:45 Mending the Dad Bond 44:39 Eros Life Force Energy 46:37 Nature as Resourcing 48:05 Gratitude and God 49:54 Course Plug and Farewell Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    53 min

  5. May 15

    #62 Dr. Wendy O’Connor: Why the Answer is NO, Burn Out, and How to Rebuild Self-Trust

    In this episode, I talk with Dr. Wendy O’Connor, a licensed psychologist of 18 years who shifted from clinical practice to coaching after burning out while running private practices and raising three daughters under 3. We discuss how high-achieving women can do “all the right things” yet still feel unfulfilled, and why she began focusing on helping women thrive through positive psychology. Wendy explains why women overcommit and say yes to gain approval, belonging, and safety, often leading to self-abandonment, resentment, and anxiety. We cover practical ways to reconnect with yourself, including doing a time audit, tuning into body cues, aligning choices with values, and building resilience and self-trust by taking uncomfortable steps. We also explore how depression and anxiety relate to past and future focus, and we plan a future conversation about Alison Armstrong’s books. Wendy's website: https://www.drwendyoconnor.com/home Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    49 min

  6. May 9

    #61 The Silent Bully with Jacquie Elliot

    In this podcast episode, I talk with Jacquie Elliot—certified life, relationship, and spiritual coach, retreat leader, and author of The Silent Bully—about the “abusive brain chatter” that drove her. Jacquie shares how childhood trauma, including witnessing her mother’s suicide attempt and later sexual abuse, shaped core beliefs and anxious attachment, and how she used her ABC method (Awareness, Believe, Challenge) to become aware of self-bullying, build a spiritual center, and challenge limiting beliefs. We discuss tools like journaling, voice dialogue, identifying emotional abuse patterns, handling fear and criticism while posting online, dating with criteria instead of “pick me” attachment, and reframing body image as an “earth suit.” Find Jacquie here: https://jacquieelliottclc.com/about/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    56 min

  7. May 1

    #60 Adopted Twice: How Trauma Shapes Love, Attachment & Healing - Mike Elliott

    In this episode, I sit down with relationship coach Mike Elliott, who shares how being separated from his biological mother at birth and then being adopted twice shaped his early life. This led him into drugs, dealing, and dangerous criminal dynamics, and later fueled unhealthy relationship patterns even while he appeared to be living the “American Dream.” He describes a breaking point when his wife left on Valentine’s Day, triggering a visceral realization that he was reliving his earliest abandonment wound, and how that moment pushed him to seek deep coaching, emotional integration, and a new way of relating. We also dive into Alison Armstrong’s work - especially Understanding the Development of Men, and how these ideas changed my own relationships, including my relationship with my father. Email @ transform@itsmikeelliott.com IG @mikeelliott.relating Website@ itsmikeelliott.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1h 5m

  8. Apr 24

    #59 From Dentistry to Top 1% Podcasting with Agi Keramidas

    In this episode, I sit down with Agi, a Greek-born podcaster living in the UK, who trained and practiced as a dentist before pivoting into personal development and creating the Personal Development Mastery podcast, now in the top 1% of podcasts. Agi shares how a loss of passion after completing a master’s in aesthetic dentistry triggered his search for answers, why personal development is an ongoing journey rather than a destination, and how fear often protects us but can block fulfillment. We talk about staying curious, exploring without burning the boats, and using faith and perseverance—illustrated by the Chinese bamboo tree story—to keep going when results aren’t visible. Agi's Website: https://personaldevelopmentmasterypodcast.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    49 min
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As a certified life coach I have a mission for my clients and that is to “identify and remove roadblocks from your path to personal success”. A topic I am particularly passionate about is attachment styles and how I can get to know myself better. In this podcast you’ll tag along the journey of me identifying where my anxious attachment came from, how it’s manifesting itself in my life, and how I can with knowledge become a secure version of myself. Welcome to Becoming Secure with Magsmindset! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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