Owning Life with Jokotifa

Karen Jokotifa Alaye
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I’m Jokotifa Alaye (also a Karen!) and host of Owning Life - a podcast about embracing the beginning, the end, and the messy middle of our time on Earth. I’m so grateful you're here! I started this podcast in November of 2024 as an olive branch to my community - Gen X moms doing their best to raise good kids, connect with their ancestors, and break generational trauma...all while working that 9-5! I share what I have learned from indigenous wisdom, working in death care, and by owning my own journey from awkward kid to married mom, just trying to find my place...

Episodes

  1. Listen Every Morning: Affirmations to BOOST Self-Esteem and Confidence

    04/28/2025 ·  Bonus

    Listen Every Morning: Affirmations to BOOST Self-Esteem and Confidence

    Start your day with these powerful morning affirmations designed to boost your self-esteem an confidence. Listen every morning to feel empowered and ready to shine! Sometimes to Own Life we really have to hype ourselves us. Say these with me and let me know how your day changes as a result! Wishing you the most confident, powerful version of yourself!

    5 min
  2. The ONE thing you need to live a life of purpose!

    04/21/2025

    The ONE thing you need to live a life of purpose!

    Happy Spring! This has been a super prolific couple weeks for me and I am excited to share some of the highlights!Spend 12 minutes of your commute with me as I say thank you to everyone that has enjoyed my guided meditation, then share some thoughts about legacy. Have you ever heard the saying "If one does not know to which port one is sailing, no wind is favorable?" Well - it's time to find your port! One of the most important things I have learned in my work is that, at the end of the day, it's what we have done that continues to live on. How do you align what you are doing today with how you want to be remembered tomorrow? Let's talk about it!In this episode of Owning Life, Joko discusses the importance of defining one's legacy and the impact of creativity on personal growth. She emphasizes the need to align actions with desired outcomes and encourages listeners to embrace their creativity while being mindful of their legacy. Joko also highlights the significance of community support and invites listeners to participate in building a supportive environment for mothers. The conversation concludes with a call to action for listeners to reflect on their legacy and take steps towards achieving their goals.Welcome to Owning Life!Click the Subscribe button to join in community!–Order My Workbook: Fire Under the Night Sky: https://tinyurl.com/3vpk39j2_Visit my websitewww.mourningspace.com–Follow me on Social Media:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jokotifaalaye/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jokotifaalaye/Bluesky: @jokotifaalaye.bsky.socialAll information provided in this podcast by the Mourning Space, LLC (collectively, the “Mourning Space”), is solely educational and is not to be construed as advice or information related to medical advice, assisted death or dying services, therapy, medical services, clinical medical services, clinical medical advice, mental health medical advice, financial advice, legal advice or similar advice. The Mourning Space is not a licensed medical professional, lawyer, financial advisor, or legal administrator of an estate. The Mourning Space does not make any recommendations (for or against) any services, products or providers, including, but not limited to funeral homes, hospitals, or other death and funeral-industry providers or products (“Death Industry Providers”), and nothing said or communicated by the Mourning Space shall be construed to be a recommendation whether or not the Mourning Space has a relationship (employment or otherwise) with one or more Death Industry Providers.

    12 min
  3. Have you ever heard of Swedish Death Cleaning?

    03/31/2025

    Have you ever heard of Swedish Death Cleaning?

    Hey ladies! Let's get caught up!It was my mom's bday last weekend and I brought her to the Bay to see our family, including her sister who would turn 93 a week later!I also attended a Klemmer event but before you panic and run away, I have a very short, realistic review - which you generally can't find on the internet since most people who talk about it are obsessed or hate it. This weekend, I CLEANED my house, which I have neglected! Let's talk about all of it...and Formula 1!00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates02:21 Reflections on Personal Mastery and Klemmer Events05:58 Spring Cleaning and Decluttering Strategies09:04 The Concept of Swedish Death Cleaning12:30 Emotional Aspects of Letting Go14:41 ByeeeeeeeIn this episode of Owning Life, we discuss the importance of spring cleaning and the concept of Swedish Death Cleaning, emphasizing the emotional aspects of decluttering and letting go of possessions. I will encourage you, beloved listeners (particularly those in midlife), to take charge of your spaces and lives by organizing and simplifying your belongings.Welcome to Owning Life!Click the Subscribe button to join in community.–Order My Workbook: Fire Under the Night Sky: https://tinyurl.com/3vpk39j2_Visit my websitewww.mourningspace.com–Follow me on Social Media:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jokotifaalaye/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jokotifaalaye/Bluesky: @jokotifaalaye.bsky.socialAll information provided in this podcast by the Mourning Space, LLC (collectively, the “Mourning Space”), is solely educational and is not to be construed as advice or information related to medical advice, assisted death or dying services, therapy, medical services, clinical medical services, clinical medical advice, mental health medical advice, financial advice, legal advice or similar advice. The Mourning Space is not a licensed medical professional, lawyer, financial advisor, or legal administrator of an estate. The Mourning Space does not make any recommendations (for oragainst) any services, products or providers, including, but not limited to funeral homes, hospitals, or other death and funeral-industry providers or products (“Death Industry Providers”), and nothing said or communicated by the Mourning Space shall be construed to be a recommendation whether or not the Mourning Space has a relationship (employment or otherwise) with one or more Death Industry Providers.

    15 min
  4. A FUNERAL for what?!

    03/03/2025

    A FUNERAL for what?!

    What if all we honored big, heavy transitions like divorce with more community? What if sound healing could be a part of your divorce-week story, but also incorporated into an actual funeral for someone you love?We have options, y'all! Your grief should be supported in the way that is right for you - and today I talk a little about what that could look like...but the options are endless!In this conversation, Joko discusses the importance of rituals and community support during significant life transitions, particularly in the context of grief and divorce. She shares a personal story about a friend's divorce and the healing ceremony they created together, emphasizing the value of acknowledging loss and celebrating new beginnings. The discussion highlights how communal gatherings, sound healing, and meaningful rituals can facilitate emotional healing and provide a sense of closure.What do you think - is any of this right for you??Welcome to Owning Life!Click the Subscribe button to join in community.–Order My Workbook: Fire Under the Night Sky: https://tinyurl.com/3vpk39j2_Visit my websitewww.mourningspace.com–Follow me on Social Media:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jokotifaalaye/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jokotifaalaye/Bluesky: @jokotifaalaye.bsky.socialAll information provided in this podcast by the Mourning Space, LLC (collectively, the “Mourning Space”), is solely educational and is not to be construed as advice or information related to medical advice, assisted death or dying services, therapy, medical services, clinical medical services,clinical medical advice, mental health medical advice, financial advice, legal advice or similar advice. The Mourning Space is not a licensed medical professional, lawyer, financial advisor, or legal administrator of an estate. The Mourning Space does not make any recommendations (for oragainst) any services, products or providers, including, but not limited to funeral homes, hospitals, or other death and funeral-industry providers or products (“Death Industry Providers”), and nothing said or communicated by the Mourning Space shall be construed to be a recommendation whether or not the Mourning Space has a relationship (employment or otherwise) with one or more Death Industry Providers.

    11 min

  5. 02/13/2025

    Stuff to know in your 30's!

    My life has changed over the years! I am no longer spending over an hour in the gym 6 days a week. I am no longer running 10 miles on a weekend. I never prioritized stretching or yoga - so now what do I do?! I am in my mid-40's and I have to figure out how to achieve overall wellness, so that I can stay healthy long-term. I will never have visible abs again, but I can find balance with a little help from my friends!In this conversation, health coach Mandy Torres shares insights on achieving balance and wellness, particularly for women in their middle ages! The discussion covers Mandy's journey into health coaching, the importance of self-confidence, and practical tips for incorporating wellness into busy lives. Key areas of focus include managing stress, the significance of sleep, nutrition essentials, and the benefits of strength training. Mandy emphasizes the power of small time investments and habit stacking to create sustainable healthy habits.00:00 Introduction to Health and Balance03:07 Mandy's Journey: From Dance to Health Coaching06:56 Building Self-Confidence Through Trying08:39 The Power of Small Time Investments10:45 Creating Healthy Habits: Water and Sleep14:02 Managing Stress and Finding Balance20:51 The Power of Breathwork21:59 Incorporating Exercise into Daily Life25:45 Nutrition Essentials for the 40s29:06 Creating Healthy Habits31:57 You've Got 5 min - how do you use it?!36:54 Thank you!Welcome to Owning Life!Click the Subscribe button to join in community.MandyInBalance - find her here - https://withpurposeretreats.com/IG - mandyinbalanceTT - mandyinbalance–Order My Workbook: Fire Under the Night Sky: https://tinyurl.com/3vpk39j2_Visit my websitewww.mourningspace.com–Follow me on Social Media:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jokotifaalaye/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jokotifaalaye/Bluesky: @jokotifaalaye.bsky.socialAll information provided in this podcast by the Mourning Space, LLC (collectively, the “Mourning Space”), is solely educational and is not to be construed as advice or information related to medical advice, assisted death or dying services, therapy, medical services, clinical medical services,clinical medical advice, mental health medical advice, financial advice, legal advice or similar advice. The Mourning Space is not a licensed medical professional, lawyer, financial advisor, or legal administrator of an estate. The Mourning Space does not make any recommendations (for oragainst) any services, products or providers, including, but not limited to funeral homes, hospitals, or other death and funeral-industry providers or products (“Death Industry Providers”), and nothing said or communicated by the Mourning Space shall be construed to be a recommendation whether or not the Mourning Space has a relationship (employment or otherwise) with one or more Death Industry Providers.

    39 min
  6. GRIEF in times of crisis!

    01/27/2025

    GRIEF in times of crisis!

    This has been a heavy week, and as I grief worker I hear you (and my own body!) But if you hadn't heard the rallying cry - you sure have now! You don't have to forget your responsibilities, but we do have to figure out a way to leverage our community to keep hope alive, and make the world a better place for our children. In this episode of Owning Life, I explore the complexities of navigating life in our 40s, particularly focusing on the themes of grief, hope, and the impact of recent social changes. I discuss the importance of acknowledging our feelings, the role of grief in our lives, and how the COVID-19 pandemic has reshaped our understanding of loss. I emphasize the need for stronger leadership and community organization during challenging times, while also encouraging listeners to embrace their emotions and support one another. Welcome to Owning Life! Click the Subscribe button to join in community. – Order My Workbook: Fire Under the Night Sky: https://tinyurl.com/3vpk39j2_Visit my websitewww.mourningspace.com– Follow me on Social Media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jokotifaalaye/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jokotifaalaye/ Bluesky: @jokotifaalaye.bsky.social All information provided in this podcast by the Mourning Space, LLC (collectively, the “Mourning Space”), is solely educational and is not to be construed as advice or information related to medical advice, assisted death or dying services, therapy, medical services, clinical medical services,clinical medical advice, mental health medical advice, financial advice, legal advice or similar advice. The Mourning Space is not a licensed medical professional, lawyer, financial advisor, or legal administrator of an estate. The Mourning Space does not make any recommendations (for or against) any services, products or providers, including, but not limited to funeral homes, hospitals, or other death and funeral-industry providers or products (“Death Industry Providers”), and nothing said or communicated by the Mourning Space shall be construed to be a recommendation whether or not the Mourning Space has a relationship (employment or otherwise) with one or more Death Industry Providers. Information provided is solely the opinion of Mourning Space LLC.

    15 min
  7. Being Biracial - A Story of Faith!

    01/06/2025

    Being Biracial - A Story of Faith!

    It has been a journey, going from Catholic to atheist/agnostic, to crystal-spiritualist to Orisa Devotee and I am grateful for all of it! I had to go through cycles and belief and disbelief in order to discern what was right for me, and now I am held and supported by the most wonderful community of people committed to making the world a better place. I'd love to share my story with you! In this episode of Owning Life, Karen Jokotifa Alaye shares her personal journey of embracing spirituality, cultural identity, and the experiences that shaped her understanding of life and death. Through her work in death care, she reflects on the importance of community, prayer, and rituals, ultimately finding a spiritual practice that resonates with her heritage. She invites listeners to explore their own paths and embrace their identities, while also expressing her gratitude for the connections she has made along the way. And if any other biracial women want to talk about what it means to integrate all of our ancestral lineage, I am here to support you! It's been a rough road, and I would hate for anyone else to do it alone, as I had to... Welcome to Owning Life! Click the Subscribe button to join in community.–Order My Workbook: Fire Under the Night Sky: https://tinyurl.com/3vpk39j2_Visit my websitewww.mourningspace.com–Follow me on Social Media:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jokotifaalaye/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jokotifaalaye/ All information provided in this podcast by the Mourning Space, LLC (collectively, the “Mourning Space”), is solely educational and is not to be construed as advice or information related to medical advice, assisted death or dying services, therapy, medical services, clinical medical services, clinical medical advice, mental health medical advice, financial advice, legal advice or similar advice. The Mourning Space is not a licensed medical professional, lawyer, financial advisor, or legal administrator of an estate. The Mourning Space does not make any recommendations (for or against) any services, products or providers, including, but not limited to funeral homes, hospitals, or other death and funeral-industry providers or products (“Death Industry Providers”), and nothing said or communicated by the Mourning Space shall be construed to be a recommendation whether or not the Mourning Space has a relationship (employment or otherwise) with one or more Death Industry Providers.

    20 min
  8. Figs

    12/30/2024

    Figs

    Ever have to make a choice and just couldn't pull the trigger? Ever have to give up something you really wanted in favor of another choice? Have you ever made a super scary choice that ended up being amazing?Well - this is your year to own EVERY choice!In this episode of Owning Life, Karen Jokotifa Alaye explores the importance of embracing life's journey through the lens of personal choices and the metaphor of the fig tree. She reflects on her own experiences, the decisions that shape our lives, and the significance of owning our choices. The conversation emphasizes the balance between opportunity and indecision, encouraging listeners to take action and find fulfillment in their lives.Click the Subscribe button to join in community.–Order My Workbook: Fire Under the Night Sky: https://tinyurl.com/3vpk39j2_Visit my websitewww.mourningspace.com–Follow me on Social Media:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jokotifaalaye/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jokotifaalaye/_All information provided in this podcast by the Mourning Space, LLC (collectively, the “Mourning Space”), is solely educational and is not to be construed as advice or information related to medical advice, assisted death or dying services, therapy, medical services, clinical medical services, clinical medical advice, mental health medical advice, financial advice, legal advice or similar advice. The Mourning Space is not a licensed medical professional, lawyer, financial advisor, or legal administrator of an estate. The Mourning Space does not make any recommendations (for or against) any services, products or providers, including, but not limited to funeral homes, hospitals, or other death and funeral-industry providers or products (“Death Industry Providers”), and nothing said or communicated by the Mourning Space shall be construed to be a recommendation whether or not the Mourning Space has a relationship (employment or otherwise) with one or more Death Industry Providers.

    10 min
  9. Planning to OWN 2025!

    12/24/2024

    Planning to OWN 2025!

    Planning for a great 2025? Start here. Jokotifa here - I knew I had to get my systems right if I was going to achieve my goals. As a Virgo, I definitely love to plan, but as a scattered mom with lots of irons in the fire, I also am working on my discipline and consistency. I ended up hiring an organization coach to help me prepare to reach my goals in 2025, and plan each day for success. In this conversation, Darcé Jackson shares her journey from being a forgetful child to becoming a passionate advocate for organization and productivity. She discusses the importance of consistent commitment, patience, and realistic expectations in achieving personal goals. Darcé emphasizes the value of community support and external accountability in the journey towards organization and productivity. She provides practical tips for effective planning and encourages listeners to start their organizational journey today, rather than waiting for the new year!Stay to the end to get Darcé's 6 magic words that will get you right for 2025._Stuff we love (not affiliated):https://thebookdstore.com/https://thehappyplanner.com/https://dailygrindplanner.com/https://www.plannerenvy.com/https://kellofaplan.com/https://www.erincondren.com/home-shop-planning-solutionshttps://www.liveloveposh.com/https://www.plannerkate.com/Jokotifa's Leather Planner with Inserts:https://www.paper-republic.com/en-us_ Click the Subscribe button to join in community.–Order My Workbook: Fire Under the Night Sky: https://tinyurl.com/3vpk39j2_Visit my websitewww.mourningspace.com–Follow me on Social Media:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jokotifaalaye/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jokotifaalaye/Disclaimer:All information provided in this podcast by the Mourning Space, LLC (collectively, the “Mourning Space”), is solely educational and is not to be construed as advice or information related to medical advice, assisted death or dying services, therapy, medical services, clinical medical services, clinical medical advice, mental health medical advice, financial advice, legal advice or similar advice. The Mourning Space is not a licensed medical professional, lawyer, financial advisor, or legal administrator of an estate. The Mourning Space does not make any recommendations (for or against) any services, products or providers, including, but not limited to funeral homes, hospitals, or other death and funeral-industry providers or products (“Death Industry Providers”), and nothing said or communicated by the Mourning Space shall be construed to be a recommendation whether or not the Mourning Space has a relationship (employment or otherwise) with one or more Death Industry Providers. All views expressed belong to Mourning Space only.

    29 min
  10. Owning your fitness journey - C25K style!

    12/16/2024

    Owning your fitness journey - C25K style!

    Empowering your fitness journey! In this episode, Karen Jokotifa Alaye shares her personal experiences with running, the Couch to 5K program, and the challenges of balancing fitness with motherhood. Karen introduces Mia Chubby Jones, the host of a Couch to 5K podcast, to provide insights and tips for listeners looking to embark on their own fitness journey in the New Year. In this engaging conversation, Mia shares her journey from a pop culture blogger to a beloved voice in the running community through her Couch to 5K podcast. She discusses the origins of her nickname, the importance of community support in running, and offers valuable tips for new runners. Mia emphasizes the significance of personal growth, body positivity, and the joy of running at one's own pace, while also reflecting on her experiences and challenges over the years.Join Mia on the treadmill or on the trails at Chubbyjones.com and let us know how much you love it!To run with a friend, visit me on IG @jokotifaalaye

    34 min

  11. 12/09/2024

    Three tips to survive the holidays

    In this episode of Owning Life, Karen Jokotifa Alaye explores the complexities of navigating grief during the holiday season. She reflects on personal experiences with Thanksgiving and the emotional weight that holidays can carry, especially in the context of loss. She emphasizes the importance of allowing oneself to feel a range of emotions, setting boundaries, and creating space for grief while also celebrating the joy of family and new memories. She offers practical tips for managing expectations and extending grace to oneself and others during this season. Welcome to Owning Life! Click the Subscribe button to join in community. – Order My Workbook: Fire Under the Night Sky: https://tinyurl.com/3vpk39j2 _ Visit my website www.mourningspace.com – Follow me on Social Media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jokotifaalaye/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jokotifaalaye/

    12 min

  12. 12/09/2024

    It's your life - OWN it!

    In this inaugural episode of Owning Life, Karen Jokotifa Alaye explores the importance of embracing mortality and imperfection as a means to truly own one's life. Drawing from her experiences in the death care space and her favorite book, 'Illusions' by Richard Bach, she discusses the concept of prenatal choice and the role of Ori in guiding our life decisions. She emphasizes the power of choice, the significance of personal struggles, and the importance of finding joy and purpose in every experience. The episode concludes with a call to action for listeners to engage with their own lives intentionally and authentically. Welcome to Owning Life! Click the Subscribe button to join in community. – Order My Workbook: Fire Under the Night Sky: https://tinyurl.com/3vpk39j2 _ Visit my website www.mourningspace.com – Follow me on Social Media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jokotifaalaye/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jokotifaalaye/

    9 min
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I’m Jokotifa Alaye (also a Karen!) and host of Owning Life - a podcast about embracing the beginning, the end, and the messy middle of our time on Earth. I’m so grateful you're here! I started this podcast in November of 2024 as an olive branch to my community - Gen X moms doing their best to raise good kids, connect with their ancestors, and break generational trauma...all while working that 9-5! I share what I have learned from indigenous wisdom, working in death care, and by owning my own journey from awkward kid to married mom, just trying to find my place...

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  • Creator
    Karen Jokotifa Alaye
  • Years Active
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  • Episodes
    12
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    © Karen Jokotifa Alaye
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