Resilient Butterfly

Pam Feinberg-Rivkin
  • 5.0 (12)
  • Mental Health
  • Updated Bimonthly

Resilient Butterfly is a heartfelt podcast dedicated to celebrating the strength of survivors and the extraordinary power of transformation, healing, and growth. Hosted by Pam Feinberg-Rivkin—a seasoned nurse, founder of Feinberg Consulting, and compassionate advocate with decades of experience—this podcast dives deep into life's messiest challenges: relationships, family dynamics, mental health, addiction, and more. Each episode features inspiring stories of resilience, expert insights, and meaningful conversations that remind us we are not perfect—nor are we meant to be. Pam invites you to explore the journeys of those who have faced life's darkest moments and emerged with newfound hope, dignity, and purpose. Whether you’re seeking inspiration, validation, or tools to navigate your own path, Resilient Butterfly offers a space for connection and empowerment. Together, let’s embrace the mess, honor the struggle, and celebrate the breakthroughs. Subscribe now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or your favorite podcast platform, and join a community that believes in grace, hope, and the indomitable human spirit.

  1. 18h ago

    Ep. 56 - When Helping Hurts: The Difference Between Support and Enabling

    What happens when the very things you do to protect someone you love are actually keeping them from moving forward? Pam Feinberg-Rivkin welcomes Hillary from Caron Renaissance for an honest conversation about addiction, family dynamics, and the difficult line between helping and enabling. Families struggling with a loved one's substance use or mental health challenges often find themselves caught in a cycle of fear, rescuing, and trying to maintain control. Hilary explains how paying bills, fixing problems, monitoring behavior, and shielding someone from consequences can unintentionally prevent them from developing independence and taking responsibility for their own recovery. Their conversation explores why addiction can turn natural parenting instincts upside down. Hillary shares how families can become so focused on managing a loved one's crisis that they lose sight of their own emotional needs, relationships, and well-being. They discuss the importance of healthy boundaries, allowing natural consequences, presenting a united front as parents, and recognizing when support has become an attempt to relieve our own anxiety. They also address the shame and secrecy surrounding addiction, the importance of family coaching and outside support, and why parents need to stop becoming the recovery police. Loving someone does not mean taking responsibility for every decision they make. Sometimes the most meaningful way to support someone's recovery is to believe in their ability to take the next step without taking it for them. Looking for a practical takeaway from this conversation? Download our complimentary companion resource, Looking Beyond the Behavior, designed to help parents and caregivers shift from asking "What's wrong with my child?" to "What might my child be communicating?" The guide explores how looking at children's emotional, behavioral, and physical health through a holistic lens can open the door to greater understanding, connection, and support. Contact Pam Feinberg-Rivkin: Facebook: @FeinbergCare Instagram: @FeinbergCare LinkedIn: Feinberg Consulting Inc YouTube: @FeinbergConsulting8059

  2. Oct 13

    Ep. 55 - When Pregnancy Loss Changes Who You Are

    What happens when the future you imagined disappears and the person you were before the loss no longer feels like who you are? Pam Feinberg-Rivkin welcomes licensed clinical social worker Amy Santus, founder of TrueBloom Counseling, for an deeply personal conversation about infertility, pregnancy loss, reproductive trauma, and finding a way forward after profound grief. Amy shares her experience of losing five pregnancies and the private pain that followed, including nights spent crying alone while struggling to reconcile the capable, determined woman she had always known with a loss she could not control. Amy explores a kind of grief that is often minimized or misunderstood. Pregnancy loss can mean mourning not only a pregnancy, but the future a parent had already begun imagining. She reflects on the painful things people sometimes say with good intentions, the strain loss can place on relationships, and why two people grieving the same loss may experience and express their pain very differently. After realizing she could no longer continue trying to carry another pregnancy, Amy and her husband chose adoption and eventually welcomed their son Caleb. But completing her family did not erase what she had experienced. Years later, Amy recognized that her unresolved trauma was calling her toward something new. She founded TrueBloom Counseling and now specializes in reproductive and perinatal mental health, helping others find the understanding and support she once needed herself. For Amy, resilience isn't about returning to who she was before the loss. It's about allowing grief to become part of her story without allowing it to define the rest of it. Sometimes healing isn't going back. It's discovering who you are becoming. Looking for a practical takeaway from this conversation? Download our complimentary companion resource, Looking Beyond the Behavior, designed to help parents and caregivers shift from asking "What's wrong with my child?" to "What might my child be communicating?" The guide explores how looking at children's emotional, behavioral, and physical health through a holistic lens can open the door to greater understanding, connection, and support. Contact Pam Feinberg-Rivkin: Facebook: @FeinbergCare Instagram: @FeinbergCare LinkedIn: Feinberg Consulting Inc YouTube: @FeinbergConsulting8059

  3. Oct 6

    Ep. 54 - When Your Child’s Recovery Changes You Too

    What happens when getting your child into treatment turns out to be only the beginning of your own journey? Four years ago, Tish and Jim Alessandro were watching their son take increasingly dangerous risks while withdrawing, drinking, and using substances. They reached a point where they feared they could not keep him safe at home and turned to Feinberg Consulting for help finding treatment. What they did not expect was how much work would follow for them as parents. Treatment, sober living, relapses, new levels of independence, and difficult transitions forced them to reconsider what helping their son actually meant. Tish and Jim share with Pam how family coaching helped them recognize when parental instinct was driven by fear, when support was becoming rescue, and why boundaries sometimes required doing the very thing that felt hardest. They speak candidly about taking away a car after a broken agreement, learning to stop reacting in the moment, communicating more honestly, and accepting that they could support their son's recovery without controlling it. Their story is not about a perfect recovery or a straight path forward. It is about learning to notice progress, care for themselves, accept what they cannot fix, and find hope without turning hope into expectation. Sometimes loving your child differently becomes part of your own healing too. Looking for a practical takeaway from this conversation? Download our complimentary companion resource, Looking Beyond the Behavior, designed to help parents and caregivers shift from asking "What's wrong with my child?" to "What might my child be communicating?" The guide explores how looking at children's emotional, behavioral, and physical health through a holistic lens can open the door to greater understanding, connection, and support. Contact Pam Feinberg-Rivkin: Facebook: @FeinbergCare Instagram: @FeinbergCare LinkedIn: Feinberg Consulting Inc YouTube: @FeinbergConsulting8059

  4. Sep 29

    Ep. 53 - When Helping Becomes Enabling

    What happens when everything you're doing to help someone you love may actually be keeping the same painful cycle going? Pam Feinberg-Rivkin continues the From Crisis to Healing series with Feinberg Consulting clinicians Amy and Cate for a conversation about what happens to an entire family when someone they love is struggling with addiction, mental health, or behavioral health concerns. Families often reach out scared, exhausted, and feeling as though they have tried everything. Amy and Cate explain why the focus cannot always remain solely on the person in crisis. Real change may also require looking at the patterns, roles, fears, and survival responses that have developed throughout the family. They explore one of the hardest distinctions for families to make: the difference between supporting someone and rescuing them. Paying bills, fixing consequences, or repeatedly stepping in can feel like love, but it can also prevent someone from experiencing the consequences that may lead to change. Healthy support can mean slowing down, asking for guidance, holding a boundary, and allowing someone who is capable of helping themselves to take responsibility. The conversation also looks at family coaching, intervention preparation, rebuilding alignment between parents, and why a loved one's recovery can happen alongside a family's own healing. Even small changes matter. Sometimes hope begins when a family realizes they cannot control another person's choices, but they can change how they respond. Looking for a practical takeaway from this conversation? Download our complimentary companion resource, Looking Beyond the Behavior, designed to help parents and caregivers shift from asking "What's wrong with my child?" to "What might my child be communicating?" The guide explores how looking at children's emotional, behavioral, and physical health through a holistic lens can open the door to greater understanding, connection, and support. Contact Pam Feinberg-Rivkin: Facebook: @FeinbergCare Instagram: @FeinbergCare LinkedIn: Feinberg Consulting Inc YouTube: @FeinbergConsulting8059

  5. Sep 22

    Ep. 52 - Are You Living Your Values

    What if the life you're working so hard to build isn't actually aligned with what matters most to you? Pam Feinberg-Rivkin is joined by coach, consultant, speaker, and author Robert MacPhee for a thoughtful conversation about what it means to live a values-based life. Robert shares how his own path from running a valet parking company to working alongside Jack Canfield eventually led him to focus on helping people identify what truly matters to them. He explains the difference between our priorities, the areas of life that deserve our time and attention, and our ways of being, the qualities that determine how we want to show up in the world. Their conversation explores why achievement alone does not always create meaning. We can build successful careers, reach goals, and accumulate more while still feeling disconnected from the relationships, health, contribution, and purpose that matter to us. Robert explains how getting clear about our values can create a foundation for better decisions, stronger leadership, rebuilding trust, and responding more intentionally when life becomes stressful or uncertain. Living your values does not require having everything figured out. It can begin with two simple questions: What is important to me? And who do I want to be? Sometimes resilience begins by slowing down long enough to make sure the life you're building is one you truly want to live. Looking for a practical takeaway from this conversation? Download our complimentary companion resource, Looking Beyond the Behavior, designed to help parents and caregivers shift from asking "What's wrong with my child?" to "What might my child be communicating?" The guide explores how looking at children's emotional, behavioral, and physical health through a holistic lens can open the door to greater understanding, connection, and support. Contact Pam Feinberg-Rivkin: Facebook: @FeinbergCare Instagram: @FeinbergCare LinkedIn: Feinberg Consulting Inc YouTube: @FeinbergConsulting8059

  6. Sep 15

    Ep. 51 - What Happens When You Ask for Help

    What happens after you finally make the call and admit that your family may need help? Pam Feinberg-Rivkin continues the From Crisis to Healing series with Steve Feldman, CEO of Feinberg Consulting, to talk about what families can expect when they reach out during a medical, aging, mental health, or addiction crisis. Making that first call can feel deeply vulnerable, especially when shame, fear, disagreement, or uncertainty are already present. Steve explains how creating a safe space begins with listening, finding common ground, and focusing on what everyone can agree on: someone they love needs support. Pam and Steve explore why families do not need to have every answer before reaching out. Using the idea of a GPS, they explain that the first step is understanding where the family is now and where they hope to go. From there, the path can be built through education, careful assessment, and a series of clear next steps rather than one overwhelming solution. At the heart of the conversation is the importance of trust. Families may feel relief simply from finally telling someone what has been happening, but healing requires continuing the process. Sometimes hope begins with something very simple: knowing what comes next and realizing you do not have to figure it out alone. Looking for a practical takeaway from this conversation? Download our complimentary companion resource, Looking Beyond the Behavior, designed to help parents and caregivers shift from asking "What's wrong with my child?" to "What might my child be communicating?" The guide explores how looking at children's emotional, behavioral, and physical health through a holistic lens can open the door to greater understanding, connection, and support. Contact Pam Feinberg-Rivkin: Facebook: @FeinbergCare Instagram: @FeinbergCare LinkedIn: Feinberg Consulting Inc YouTube: @FeinbergConsulting8059

  7. Sep 8

    Ep. 50 - When Helping Others Becomes Too Much

    What happens when caring for others becomes so automatic that you forget how to care for yourself? Pam Feinberg-Rivkin is joined by Tom Parker, Director of External Relations at the Lindner Center of HOPE, for a thoughtful and surprisingly funny conversation about codependency. Drawing on more than two decades in behavioral health and family systems work, Tom shares the story behind So How Are You Doing?, the playful stage production he helped create to explore the many faces of codependency through humor, music, exaggerated characters, and plenty of self-reflection. Their conversation looks beyond the idea that codependency is simply something "wrong" with a person. Caring deeply, helping others, and wanting people to be okay can be beautiful qualities, but there can also be a point when giving too much, struggling to say no, or constantly trying to keep everyone happy becomes exhausting. Tom reflects on how those patterns can begin early in life and become so familiar that we barely recognize them. At the heart of the conversation is permission to take ourselves a little less seriously. Humor can create space to recognize our own patterns, listen to those internal warning signs, set boundaries, and occasionally admit, "I don't need to fix this." Sometimes resilience means helping others. Sometimes it means taking a break. Looking for a practical takeaway from this conversation? Download our complimentary companion resource, Looking Beyond the Behavior, designed to help parents and caregivers shift from asking "What's wrong with my child?" to "What might my child be communicating?" The guide explores how looking at children's emotional, behavioral, and physical health through a holistic lens can open the door to greater understanding, connection, and support. Contact Pam Feinberg-Rivkin: Facebook: @FeinbergCare Instagram: @FeinbergCare LinkedIn: Feinberg Consulting Inc YouTube: @FeinbergConsulting8059

  8. Sep 1

    Ep. 49 - You Are Not Broken by Chronic Illness

    What if being sick does not mean your body is broken, but that it is asking to be understood differently? Dr. Karyn Shanks spent decades living with recurring injuries, fatigue, and symptoms that no one connected until she discovered she had Ehlers Danlos syndrome. That experience became part of the foundation for her book Unbroken and her belief that chronic illness requires a wider lens than simply treating individual symptoms. Karyn and Pam Feinberg-Rivkin explore what can happen when people are seen as a collection of medical problems instead of whole human beings, and why understanding the connection between body, mind, environment, relationships, and daily life can change the experience of healing. Their conversation moves into medical self-advocacy and the importance of maintaining agency when illness makes us feel vulnerable. Karyn reflects on listening to your body, asking questions, finding the right people to support you, and recognizing that healing does not always mean fixing something. They also explore the power of human connection, being truly witnessed during suffering, and how compassion and safety can help people move through frightening medical experiences. For anyone who has felt dismissed, misunderstood, or defined by a diagnosis, Karyn offers a different way of seeing yourself through self-awareness, compassion, and curiosity. Illness may become part of your story, but it never has to become the definition of who you are. Looking for a practical takeaway from this conversation? Download our complimentary companion resource, Looking Beyond the Behavior, designed to help parents and caregivers shift from asking "What's wrong with my child?" to "What might my child be communicating?" The guide explores how looking at children's emotional, behavioral, and physical health through a holistic lens can open the door to greater understanding, connection, and support. Contact Pam Feinberg-Rivkin: Facebook: @FeinbergCare Instagram: @FeinbergCare LinkedIn: Feinberg Consulting Inc YouTube: @FeinbergConsulting8059

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5
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About

Resilient Butterfly is a heartfelt podcast dedicated to celebrating the strength of survivors and the extraordinary power of transformation, healing, and growth. Hosted by Pam Feinberg-Rivkin—a seasoned nurse, founder of Feinberg Consulting, and compassionate advocate with decades of experience—this podcast dives deep into life's messiest challenges: relationships, family dynamics, mental health, addiction, and more. Each episode features inspiring stories of resilience, expert insights, and meaningful conversations that remind us we are not perfect—nor are we meant to be. Pam invites you to explore the journeys of those who have faced life's darkest moments and emerged with newfound hope, dignity, and purpose. Whether you’re seeking inspiration, validation, or tools to navigate your own path, Resilient Butterfly offers a space for connection and empowerment. Together, let’s embrace the mess, honor the struggle, and celebrate the breakthroughs. Subscribe now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or your favorite podcast platform, and join a community that believes in grace, hope, and the indomitable human spirit.

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  • Creator
    Pam Feinberg-Rivkin
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    56
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Resilient Butterfly
  • Show Website
    Resilient Butterfly

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