How To Blow Up Your Life

Sara Stansberry
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Sometimes you need to deliberately destroy what isn't working to build something beautiful in its place. No more sacrificing your needs to keep the peace. No more doubting your gut. No more living someone else's story. We’re not doing that anymore. Here, in each episode, we take a deep dive into what it really takes to transform your relationships And learn how to: - break free from people-pleasing and conflict avoidance - heal from past relationship wounds - move beyond constant anxiety and self-doubt - learn to set boundaries that actually stick - transform the old family patterns that have been holding you back Welcome to "How to Blow Up Your Life" – where each episode offers practical tools and raw wisdom for turning your relationship challenges - with yourself and others - into transformational growth. Join me for real conversations about what it takes to create change. No sugar-coating. No generic advice. Just honest talk about to build the life and relationships you deserve. sarastansberry.substack.com

  1. Ep 20: Breaking The Pattern - with my mother, Sally Dunn

    Apr 22

    Ep 20: Breaking The Pattern - with my mother, Sally Dunn

    In this deeply personal season finale of How to Blow Up Your Life, Sara Stansberry sits down with her mother, Sally Dunn, for a candid, tender conversation about family, addiction, recovery, and what it takes to interrupt generational patterns with honesty and compassion. Together, Sara and Sally reflect on the realities of growing up inside dysfunction, the long road of sobriety, and the quiet courage it takes to tell the truth about the past without blame. Sally shares openly about her experience with alcoholism, what it meant to become sober, and how recovery reshaped the way she shows up for life. Sara reflects on her childhood, the complexities of loving a parent in addiction, and the deep work of holding both pain and grace at the same time. This episode is not about perfection or resolution — it’s about understanding. About recognizing that generational patterns repeat until someone is willing to look at them directly. About acknowledging that parents do the best they can with what they have, and that healing doesn’t require erasing the past — only meeting it with truth. At its core, this conversation is an example of what becomes possible when vulnerability replaces silence, and when two people are willing to speak honestly across generations in service of healing. Key Topics Covered Family dynamics and generational patterns Addiction and the reality of “functioning” alcoholism Sobriety and recovery as lifelong practices Growing up without emotional safety Breaking dysfunctional cycles with awareness Parenting, forgiveness, and compassion Vulnerability as a bridge to understanding Healing through honest communication Episode Takeaways “Life just steps in and all of a sudden there’s a magic wand — and not only are we older, then the question is, are we any wiser?” — Sally Generational patterns repeat until someone is willing to stop them Addiction doesn’t always look chaotic — functioning addiction is real Emotional safety profoundly shapes childhood experience Sobriety can radically change how someone shows up for life Healing doesn’t require perfect parents — only honest reflection Parents do the best they can with what they have Vulnerability creates space for understanding Growth is possible at any stage of life Honest conversations can change the future of a family As This Season Closes Season 2 has been a journey through awareness, embodiment, family systems, trauma, relationships, and rebuilding — not as a straight line, but as a deeply human process. If you’re just finding the podcast, you’re invited to revisit Season 1 and Season 2 episodes at your own pace. These conversations are meant to be returned to — listened to again when something new opens, shifts, or clicks. To stay connected between seasons: Follow along on social media for reflections, clips, and ongoing conversation Subscribe on Substack for weekly essays every Tuesday, where Sara goes deeper into the themes explored on the podcast Share this episode with someone who might need permission to have a hard — but healing — conversation Thank you for being part of this season.Thank you for listening with openness.And thank you for choosing awareness — for yourself, and for what comes next. Disclaimer Always seek the counsel of a qualified medical and/or mental health practitioner or other healthcare provider for individual consultation before making any significant changes to your health or lifestyle, or to address specific medical conditions. This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. Get full access to How To Blow Up Your Life at sarastansberry.substack.com/subscribe

    1h 5m
  2. Ep 19: Narcissistic & Toxic Relationships - with Kerry Rasenberger

    Apr 15

    Ep 19: Narcissistic & Toxic Relationships - with Kerry Rasenberger

    In this episode of How to Blow Up Your Life, Sara Stansberry is joined by life coach Kerry Rasenberger for an illuminating and compassionate conversation about breaking the cycle of toxic relationships. Together, Sara and Kerry explore how dysfunctional family patterns can quietly shape our romantic relationships — often without our awareness — and why toxic dynamics can feel so hard to leave, even when we know they’re harming us. They unpack the nuances of covert narcissism, inconsistent behavior, and manipulation, emphasizing that abuse doesn’t always look loud or obvious to be deeply damaging. A central focus of the conversation is the trauma bond — the addictive emotional loop that forms in relationships built on instability, intermittent reinforcement, and fear of abandonment. Kerry explains why these bonds are so powerful, how they mirror early attachment wounds, and what it actually takes to begin breaking free. This episode also honors the grief that comes with letting go — not just of a person, but of the future you hoped for. Sara and Kerry discuss boundary-setting as an act of self-protection, the long road of rebuilding self-worth after emotional abuse, and how reconnecting with passion and purpose can support the healing process. This conversation is for anyone questioning their relationship patterns, struggling to trust themselves after emotional harm, or ready to reclaim their power and clarity. Key Topics Covered Recognizing toxic relationship cycles How family patterns quietly repeat themselves Covert vs. overt narcissism Inconsistency as a major relational red flag Trauma bonds and emotional addiction Boundary-setting as self-protection Grief after leaving a toxic relationship Rebuilding self-worth after emotional abuse Healing as a patient, non-linear process Passion and purpose as tools for recovery Episode Takeaways Awareness is essential to breaking toxic cycles Family patterns can be subtle but deeply influential Covert narcissism can be just as harmful as overt abuse Inconsistent behavior is a key warning sign Trauma bonds create powerful, addictive dynamics Boundaries are necessary for emotional safety Grief is a natural part of leaving toxic relationships Self-worth must be actively reclaimed after abuse Healing requires patience and self-compassion Reconnecting with passion can support recovery Looking Ahead Next week, Season 2 concludes with a deeply personal and powerful conversation as Sara sits down with her mother, Sally Dunn. Together, they explore family patterns, healing across generations, and what it looks like to speak honestly — and lovingly — about the past in order to move forward with clarity and compassion. Disclaimer Always seek the counsel of a qualified medical and/or mental health practitioner or other healthcare provider for individual consultation before making any significant changes to your health or lifestyle, or to address specific medical conditions. This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. Get full access to How To Blow Up Your Life at sarastansberry.substack.com/subscribe

    1h 2m
  3. Ep 18: The "Unperform Method" - with Tiffany Han

    Apr 8

    Ep 18: The "Unperform Method" - with Tiffany Han

    In this episode of How to Blow Up Your Life, Sara Stansberry is joined by writer, teacher, and creative guide Tiffany Han for a powerful conversation about unperforming your life — and what it really means to stop living for approval, productivity, and appearances. Sara and Tiffany explore how many of us are quietly living in a state of barely getting by while telling ourselves it’s normal. They unpack the cost of overperforming — emotionally, relationally, and spiritually — and why authenticity often feels terrifying when you’ve built an identity around being capable, agreeable, or “fine.” The conversation dives into grief as an unavoidable and necessary part of transformation, especially when we begin to shed old roles, habits, and coping mechanisms. Tiffany speaks candidly about alcohol as a tool many people use to mute emotions, and how removing it can bring clarity, discomfort, and ultimately self-trust. Together, they examine what happens to relationships when you change, how values — not obligations — should guide decisions, and why reclaiming your power can feel destabilizing before it feels freeing. This episode is an invitation to create space for truth, expression, and connection, even when the next step isn’t clear. For anyone exhausted by performing their way through life, this conversation offers permission to slow down, tell the truth, and trust that unperforming is not a failure — it’s a return. Key Topics Covered What it means to “unperform” your life Authenticity vs. overfunctioning Why barely getting by isn’t normal Grief as a catalyst for change Alcohol and emotional suppression Power, fear, and self-trust Values-based decision-making Relationships during personal transformation Community as a source of support Making space for truth and self-expression Episode Takeaways Unperforming is about choosing authenticity over approval Many people are surviving, not thriving — and that matters Grief is a necessary part of growth and transformation Alcohol can suppress emotions and delay self-discovery Reclaiming your power can feel scary before it feels freeing Values should guide choices, not others’ expectations Overperforming often leads to burnout and disconnection Creative and emotional expression support healing Community makes change more sustainable You don’t need all the answers to keep moving forward Looking Ahead As Season 2 continues, Sara keeps exploring what it looks like to live with intention — unpacking identity, grief, relationships, embodiment, and the courage it takes to stop performing and start choosing yourself. Disclaimer Always seek the counsel of a qualified medical and/or mental health practitioner or other healthcare provider for individual consultation before making any significant changes to your health or lifestyle, or to address specific medical conditions. This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. Get full access to How To Blow Up Your Life at sarastansberry.substack.com/subscribe

    1h 1m
  4. Ep 17: Releasing Energy Patterns - with Jill Vyn

    Apr 1

    Ep 17: Releasing Energy Patterns - with Jill Vyn

    In this episode of How to Blow Up Your Life, Sara Stansberry is joined by empowerment coach Jill Vyn for a deeply honest conversation about old patterns — the familiar ways of thinking, behaving, and protecting ourselves that quietly resurface just as we’re trying to grow. Together, Sara and Jill explore how these patterns often emerge during moments of uncertainty, grief, or transition, bringing self-doubt and resistance along with them. Jill shares her personal experiences with fear, loss, and the emotional undercurrents that shaped her journey, offering a compassionate look at how grief can live in the body and influence our choices long after we think we’ve “moved on.” The conversation weaves together embodiment, visualization, and the power of community support, emphasizing that personal growth isn’t a solitary act of willpower — it’s a relational, embodied process. Sara and Jill unpack how trusting yourself often feels hardest right before a breakthrough, and why learning to notice, rather than shame, old patterns is what allows them to loosen their grip. This episode is an invitation to meet yourself with curiosity instead of criticism, to celebrate small wins along the way, and to trust that letting go of what no longer serves you creates space for something new to emerge. Key Topics Covered How old patterns of thought and behavior resurface Resistance as a response to fear and uncertainty Embodiment as a tool for personal growth The impact of grief on behavior and self-trust Self-worth and identity during transitions Visualization as a way to shift limiting beliefs The role of community in healing and growth Celebrating progress instead of perfection Trusting the unfolding process of change Episode Takeaways Old patterns can reappear unexpectedly and trigger self-doubt Embodiment reconnects the mind and body in healing Community support is essential during growth and transition Resistance often points to fear of the unknown Self-worth shapes how we interpret challenges Grief can quietly influence patterns and behaviors Visualization helps rewire limiting thought loops Small victories deserve acknowledgment and celebration Trusting yourself is a practice, not a destination Releasing old patterns creates space for new opportunities Looking Ahead As Season 2 continues, Sara deepens these conversations by exploring how awareness, embodiment, and relational support help us break free from inherited and habitual patterns — allowing us to build lives rooted in choice rather than fear. Disclaimer Always seek the counsel of a qualified medical and/or mental health practitioner or other healthcare provider for individual consultation before making any significant changes to your health or lifestyle, or to address specific medical conditions. This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. Get full access to How To Blow Up Your Life at sarastansberry.substack.com/subscribe

    38 min
  5. Ep 16: Parts Work

    Mar 25

    Ep 16: Parts Work

    In this episode of How to Blow Up Your Life, Sara Stansberry introduces listeners to parts work, a powerful therapeutic framework rooted in Internal Family Systems (IFS), developed by Richard Schwartz. Sara explores the idea that we are not one singular personality, but a collection of inner parts — each formed to help us survive, cope, and stay safe. She breaks down the core IFS parts — exiles, managers, and firefighters — and explains how they quietly influence our emotions, behaviors, relationships, and patterns, often without our awareness. Rather than framing these parts as problems to fix, Sara invites a radically compassionate reframe: every part of you has a reason for existing, and every part is trying to help — even when its strategies cause harm. Through personal insights and real-life examples, she shows how understanding these inner dynamics creates space for healing, clarity, and self-trust. This episode emphasizes that parts work isn’t about self-improvement or self-erasure. It’s about integration — learning to listen, relate, and lead from your wise self, the grounded, present part of you capable of holding complexity without judgment. For anyone who’s ever felt “too much,” conflicted, or confused by their own reactions, this conversation offers a deeply validating framework for understanding yourself more fully. Key Topics Covered What parts work is and where it comes from Internal Family Systems (IFS) explained simply Exiles, managers, and firefighters — and how they operate Why parts aren’t flaws, but protective strategies The difference between fixing and integrating Leading with the wise self How parts show up in emotions and relationships Journaling and reflection as entry points to parts work When and how therapy or coaching can support integration Episode Takeaways Parts work helps us understand and integrate different aspects of ourselves IFS is the foundational framework behind parts work Exiles, managers, and firefighters shape our internal world Healing isn’t about fixing yourself — it’s about creating harmony Every part has a positive intention, even when its behavior is harmful Awareness and acceptance are key to personal growth Integration leads to greater balance and fulfillment Journaling can help identify and communicate with parts Professional support can deepen the integration process Leading with your wise self is the goal of parts work Looking Ahead As Season 2 continues, Sara builds on this work by weaving parts awareness into conversations about trauma, embodiment, relationships, and healing — offering tools to help you respond to life with more clarity, compassion, and choice. Disclaimer Always seek the counsel of a qualified medical and/or mental health practitioner or other healthcare provider for individual consultation before making any significant changes to your health or lifestyle, or to address specific medical conditions. This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. Get full access to How To Blow Up Your Life at sarastansberry.substack.com/subscribe

    23 min
  6. Ep 15: Embodiment

    Mar 18

    Ep 15: Embodiment

    In this episode of How to Blow Up Your Life, Sara Stansberry explores the practice of embodiment — what it means to live inside your body instead of just inside your mind. Sara reflects on her own long history of ignoring her body’s signals, pushing through exhaustion, discomfort, and emotional overwhelm — and the cost of that disconnection. She unpacks how many of us were conditioned to prioritize thinking, logic, and productivity over physical awareness, often learning to override the body as a survival strategy rather than a source of wisdom. This conversation invites listeners to reconsider the body not as something to manage or fix, but as an intelligent communicator constantly offering information about safety, stress, boundaries, and truth. Sara explains how emotional neglect, chronic stress, and trauma can sever our connection to bodily awareness — and why reconnecting with the body is essential for mental health, intuition, and growth. Rather than offering rigid practices, this episode gently reframes embodiment as a relationship: learning to listen, respond, and trust what your body has been trying to tell you all along. It’s an invitation to slow down, tune in, and remember that healing doesn’t only happen through insight — it happens through sensation, presence, and care. Key Topics Covered What embodiment actually means How disconnection from the body develops The consequences of ignoring bodily signals Why society prioritizes the mind over the body Stress as a physical, not just mental, experience The body as a source of intuition and information Emotional neglect and bodily awareness Rebuilding trust with your physical self Embodiment as a foundation for self-care and growth Episode Takeaways Embodiment is the practice of being fully present in your body Ignoring bodily signals often comes with real consequences Many of us were conditioned to override physical awareness The body communicates essential emotional information Disconnection can be a learned survival strategy Listening to the body strengthens intuition and clarity Stress shows up physically, not just mentally Bodily awareness supports healthier self-care Emotional neglect can disrupt mind–body connection Reconnecting with the body is essential for healing and growth Looking Ahead As Season 2 continues, Sara builds on this work by exploring how embodiment intersects with trauma, relationships, identity, and self-trust — offering tools to help you live more fully, honestly, and connected in your own life. Disclaimer Always seek the counsel of a qualified medical and/or mental health practitioner or other healthcare provider for individual consultation before making any significant changes to your health or lifestyle, or to address specific medical conditions. This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. Get full access to How To Blow Up Your Life at sarastansberry.substack.com/subscribe

    14 min
  7. Ep 14: Healing the Relationship With Your Body - with Kristi Koeter

    Mar 11

    Ep 14: Healing the Relationship With Your Body - with Kristi Koeter

    In this episode of How to Blow Up Your Life, Sara Stansberry sits down with intuitive eating and body image specialist Kristi Koeter for an honest, nuanced conversation about food, body image, and the quiet ways diet culture shapes women’s self-worth — often without us realizing it. Kristi shares her personal journey through dieting, body dissatisfaction, and the turning point that came as a mother navigating eating disorders within her own family. That experience fundamentally shifted how she understood food, control, and healing — and ultimately led her to intuitive eating as a more humane, sustainable way to relate to the body. Together, Sara and Kristi unpack the emotional baggage many women carry around food, the invisible “rules” that govern eating behaviors, and how childhood experiences with food often echo into adulthood. They explore the stigma surrounding fatness, why body positivity can feel inaccessible for many people, and how body neutrality offers a gentler, more realistic path toward self-acceptance. The conversation also turns toward midlife — how aging, hormonal changes, and shifting priorities invite a reevaluation of long-held beliefs about worth, beauty, and success. Rather than striving for perfection, Sara and Kristi invite listeners to redefine their goals, release comparison, and build a relationship with food and their bodies rooted in awareness, compassion, and trust. This episode is for anyone who’s tired of measuring their value through mirrors, scales, or restriction — and ready to come home to themselves. Key Topics Covered The impact of diet culture on women’s self-worth Intuitive eating: what it is — and what it isn’t Food rules and the emotional weight they create Childhood eating patterns and adult relationships with food Fat stigma and cultural misunderstanding Mindful eating and emotional awareness Food as comfort vs. coping mechanism Midlife, aging, and shifting body perspective Body positivity vs. body neutrality Redefining goals as we grow and change Episode Takeaways Kristi Koeter specializes in intuitive eating and body image work Diet culture profoundly impacts self-worth Intuitive eating centers listening to the body’s signals Food rules often create shame and emotional baggage Letting go of dieting can be destabilizing — and liberating Early food experiences shape lifelong patterns Fatness is widely misunderstood and stigmatized Intuitive eating is not one-size-fits-all Self-worth should never be tied to weight or appearance Mindful eating includes awareness of emotional triggers Food can be comforting, but shouldn’t replace coping skills Midlife often prompts a reevaluation of self-acceptance Aging can foster body appreciation Comparison erodes self-trust and self-love Body neutrality can be more attainable than body positivity Redefining personal goals is essential as we age Conversations about body image shape future generations Embracing imperfection creates freedom and self-acceptance Disclaimer Always seek the counsel of a qualified medical and/or mental health practitioner or other healthcare provider for individual consultation before making any significant changes to your health or lifestyle, or to address specific medical conditions. This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. Get full access to How To Blow Up Your Life at sarastansberry.substack.com/subscribe

    1h 3m
  8. Ep 13: Dysfunctional Family Systems

    Mar 4

    Ep 13: Dysfunctional Family Systems

    In this episode of How to Blow Up Your Life, Sara Stansberry takes on one of the most tender and charged topics of all: dysfunctional family systems — and how they quietly shape the way we love, relate, and see ourselves. Drawing from personal experience and years of coaching work, Sara explores how dysfunction often shows up not as chaos, but as emotional manipulation, conditional love, unspoken rules, and role-casting that follows us well into adulthood. She unpacks how families can weaponize emotions, deny reality, and blur boundaries — leaving us questioning our instincts and ignoring the body’s signals that something isn’t safe. This conversation isn’t about vilifying parents or cutting ties. It’s about learning to recognize unhealthy patterns, understand your emotional and physiological responses, and begin choosing yourself without shame. Sara walks listeners through what happens when boundaries are introduced into dysfunctional systems — why they’re often met with resistance — and why protecting your emotional health is not a betrayal. At its core, this episode is an invitation to redefine family, reclaim your worth, and create relationships — biological or chosen — that are rooted in respect, safety, and truth. Key Topics Covered What defines a dysfunctional family system Emotional manipulation and conditional love Family roles and how they follow us into adulthood The body’s response to unsafe emotional dynamics Why boundaries often trigger backlash Loving your family without abandoning yourself Healing family wounds to transform all relationships Choosing your family of choice Self-worth as the foundation for growth Episode Takeaways Dysfunctional families often weaponize emotion and attachment Conditional love creates confusion and self-doubt Family roles can shape adult identity and behavior Your body signals when dynamics aren’t safe Boundaries may provoke strong reactions — and that’s information You can love your family and still protect yourself Healing family wounds impacts every relationship You’re allowed to choose your family of choice Your feelings and perceptions deserve to be honored Healing is a lifelong process that requires self-compassion What's Next As Season 2 continues, Sara builds on these insights by exploring how early family dynamics intersect with trauma, identity, relationships, and self-trust — offering tools to help you create safer, more aligned connections moving forward. Stay Connected Follow me for more reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes: Substack: https://sarastansberry.substack.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarastansberry/?hl=en TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sarastansberry Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sarastansberry/ Disclaimer Always seek the counsel of a qualified medical and/or mental health practitioner or other healthcare provider for individual consultation before making any significant changes to your health or lifestyle, or to address specific medical conditions. This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. Get full access to How To Blow Up Your Life at sarastansberry.substack.com/subscribe

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Sometimes you need to deliberately destroy what isn't working to build something beautiful in its place. No more sacrificing your needs to keep the peace. No more doubting your gut. No more living someone else's story. We’re not doing that anymore. Here, in each episode, we take a deep dive into what it really takes to transform your relationships And learn how to: - break free from people-pleasing and conflict avoidance - heal from past relationship wounds - move beyond constant anxiety and self-doubt - learn to set boundaries that actually stick - transform the old family patterns that have been holding you back Welcome to "How to Blow Up Your Life" – where each episode offers practical tools and raw wisdom for turning your relationship challenges - with yourself and others - into transformational growth. Join me for real conversations about what it takes to create change. No sugar-coating. No generic advice. Just honest talk about to build the life and relationships you deserve. sarastansberry.substack.com

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  • Creator
    Sara Stansberry
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    33
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Sara Stansberry
  • Show Website
    How To Blow Up Your Life