Baggage Claim

Greg and Jess
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Baggage Claim is a space for blended families, marriage, and friendship.  Here, we dive into real-life conversations about the ups and downs of relationships, from navigating second marriages to unpacking the baggage we all bring. Hosted by Greg and Jessica, who both have rich experiences with love, loss, and family, this community is about sharing stories, learning together, and growing stronger as couples and individuals. Grab a drink and join us as we unpack, laugh, and claim our baggage—one conversation at a time 

  1. 4d ago

    The Marriage Fix That Starts With You

    Send us Fan Mail If you have ever thought, “We’re doing the date nights, we’re saying the right phrases, we’re trying to communicate, so why does nothing change?” this conversation is for you. We keep seeing couples attempt marriage repair with tools they cannot actually access yet, and it is not because they are lazy or broken. It is because there is an order to healthy relationship growth, and skipping steps quietly sets you up to repeat the same fight with a different headline. We unpack our simple framework for marriages and blended families: You, Us, Family. First, we slow down and look at the “you” work, learning your triggers, naming your default reactions, and tracing where they come from without blaming your spouse. That self-awareness creates emotional safety and reduces the resentment that often hides under “small” arguments about socks, dishes, and schedules. Then we move into the “us” work: staying connected through changing seasons, using realistic date nights, and choosing small habits like 15 minutes of uninterrupted talk to rebuild closeness. Finally, we talk about family culture and leadership at home. Every household has a culture, whether you define it or not, and blended family pressure only amplifies what is already unresolved. We’ll ask the questions that can sting but also unlock change: What does your house feel like right now, and what is your family known for? If you want to go deeper with us, join the wait list at unpacktogether.com for our pilot cohort. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more couples can find practical marriage help. Support the show

  2. Sep 8

    The Invisible Rule Book

    Send us Fan Mail Something is running your marriage that you never agreed to and it is not your spouse. We call it the invisible rule book: the unspoken rules written into you by childhood, past relationships, and the environments that taught you what conflict, love, money, and safety are “supposed” to look like. When those rules go unnamed, you end up fighting about surface stuff and wondering why nothing ever really changes. We break down how this hidden operating system shows up in real life: the urge to defend yourself, the fear behind “we need to talk,” the difference between needing to process versus needing to resolve right now, and why self-reflection feels like self-criticism for so many people. Greg, Jess, and Michael unpack the emotional intelligence it takes to step back, see your patterns clearly, and stop repeating the same argument cycle. Aaron also joins with a blended family perspective that highlights a truth many couples miss: the kids bring rule books too, and guilt parenting can quietly shape expectations for years. You’ll walk away with practical tools for healthier marriage communication and blended family leadership, including prompts to revisit your last conflict, name the real root, and journal or voice-note your emotions before they hijack the moment. We also share a behind-the-scenes invitation to our Baggage Claim Blueprint founder group and why we want real couples to help us “kick the tires” on the process. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more blended families and marriages can find the show. What invisible rule do you think has been running your home? Support the show

  3. Sep 1

    What If Your Marriage Needs A New Dictionary

    Send us Fan Mail A simple question can either bring you closer or blow up your night. We’re digging into the difference between curiosity and surveillance, because “I’m just asking” can sound like care to one person and feel like an interrogation to the other. And if you’ve ever found yourself thinking, Why is my partner so defensive? or Why do I feel attacked when they’re being normal?, you’re not alone. We talk through how trust, jealousy, and old wounds shape the way we hear each other. Sometimes the guardedness isn’t about the current relationship at all, it’s a trauma response from a past one where questions were used as ammunition. We share real stories from our own relationship, including the moments where we had to admit, out loud, what was really happening inside us and then choose transparency anyway. Michael and our guest Wes jump in with honest perspective on vulnerability, communication, and what it looks like to slow down and actually understand your spouse’s heart. Then we zoom out to the patterns that keep couples stuck, like the pursuer-distancer cycle (demand-withdrawal) where one partner presses for connection and the other retreats to stay safe. We also add the blended family layer: co-parenting communication often has to be short, factual, and documented, and that style can accidentally bleed into marriage if you don’t compartmentalize. We end with a practical challenge: don’t try to change everything, start with one small 1% shift and build from there. If this helped, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a review. What’s a “curious” question that still hits you like surveillance? Support the show

  4. Aug 25

    Lost In Translation

    Send us Fan Mail One sentence can start a fight, even when nobody meant harm. We’ve both said it and we’ve both heard it the wrong way: “You never talk to me,” “I just need a minute,” “I don’t know how.” What if the problem isn’t your marriage or your blended family, but the fact that you’re speaking different languages with the same words?  We (Greg and Jess) dig into the idea that communication is more than what you say. It’s how you say it, when you say it, and what your partner’s past tells them your words “must” mean. We unpack how the home you grew up in shapes your default conflict style, using the Family Communication Patterns Theory (conversation orientation vs conformity orientation) to explain why one person asks questions to feel close while the other goes quiet to feel safe.  Along the way, Michael and our guest Wes jump in with stories that make the point unforgettable, including a Romania mission trip moment that went very sideways and a hilarious card translation fail. We also share a practical relationship exercise: trade dictionaries by describing the rules of your childhood home when you’re not in the middle of an argument.  This is part one of a two-parter, and we’ll pick up the remaining points next time. Subscribe to Baggage Claim, share this with a friend who keeps getting stuck in the same fight, and leave us a review so more couples can find the conversation. Support the show

  5. Aug 18

    Seasons Of A Blended Family

    Send us Fan Mail The hardest part about marriage is not the hard season, it is the moment you realize you did not prepare for it. We are Greg and Jess, and we built our relationship inside a blended family with four kids, two households, and a whole lot of moving parts. That has taught us one big lesson: every couple hits highs and lows, but stepfamily life adds extra layers that can make the lows feel louder and the transitions feel sudden. We break down the seasons we have lived through, starting with the honeymoon phase that does not look like a clean slate when you are merging homes and custody schedules. We talk honestly about the insider versus outsider dynamic, why “just us” time still matters, and how simple date nights, short trips, and brand-new family traditions can help everyone feel like they belong. Then we move into the tired and busy years where schedules, sports, school, and finances can push the marriage into the background, and we share the kinds of limits that protected our time and our connection. The teen years bring their own rapids, especially when curfews, phones, step-parent authority, and two-household rules collide. We explain why boundaries only work when you actually hold them, and why you may need to renegotiate roles as kids grow. Finally, we talk about the empty nest season and how it can expose whether a marriage was built on shared parenting logistics or a real partnership, plus the blended-family realities of adult kids, holidays, and new traditions. If you want blended family advice that is practical, honest, and proactive, press play. Subscribe for more, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review with the season you are in right now. Support the show

  6. Aug 11

    Unpacking the Elephant

    Send us Fan Mail The hardest part of a blended family is rarely the schedule on the calendar. It’s the unspoken stuff: the grief nobody names, the loyalty kids feel in their chest, and the pressure adults carry to make it look “normal” so no one asks questions. We go after that elephant in the room one bite at a time, with honest stories, a little humor, and a lot of real talk. Greg and Jess unpack why so many stepfamilies avoid the word “blended” in the first place, and how comparison to a nuclear family model turns simple differences into shame. We talk about what blended families deal with that “first families” don’t: split holidays, shared custody logistics, family photos that take a miracle to schedule, and everyday tension points like clothes that disappear between houses. We also share why having clear goals for your home matters, even when there is no one-size-fits-all playbook. Then we get into the most emotionally loaded layer: loss and loyalty binds. We explain why a child can miss the old family and still love the new one, and why adults have to model emotional maturity when kids talk about the other household. You’ll walk away with practical action steps you can actually try: naming one thing each person misses without fixing it, giving kids explicit permission to love stepparents and bio parents, and identifying the unspoken rules that are running your home. If you found this helpful, subscribe, share it with a friend in a blended family, and leave a review so more families can find the conversation. Support the show

  7. Aug 6

    Blended Families And In-Law Baggage

    Send us Fan Mail One awkward moment at a kid’s birthday party can expose years of unspoken tension. We’ve lived it: a family member warmly reconnects with the ex while the current spouse gets ignored in the same breath. If you’re building a blended family, you already know these moments don’t stay small. They shape how kids feel, how spouses feel, and whether the new marriage feels protected or constantly tested.  We talk honestly about the part people rarely name: in-laws and grandparents have emotions about your divorce and remarriage too. They may be grieving the loss of the old family rhythm, holding loyalty binds, or reacting from their own past pain and trauma. Michael shares how his parents took his divorce hard, and how easy it is to slip into “main character syndrome” when you’re just trying to survive. We also get real about timelines, because closeness in stepfamily and extended family relationships often takes years, not weeks.  From there, we dig into practical blended family communication: proactive conversations before the holidays hit, reactive conversations after the awkward moment, and the difference between a heart that hasn’t changed yet and behavior that still must be respectful. We cover how to present a united front, why each spouse should address their own family, and what boundaries can look like when you’ve tried everything and nothing improves.  If you’re navigating stepfamily dynamics, co-parenting stress, or in-law conflict, hit play and pull up a chair. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs it, and leave a review or comment with the hardest in-law moment you’re trying to figure out. Support the show

  8. Jul 30

    Joy Beyond Circumstances

    Send us Fan Mail Joy can feel like a missing person when bills pile up, the house is chaotic, and your brain won’t stop scanning for what could go wrong. We sit down as a real married couple with real pressures and ask a simple question that turns into a deep one: how do you find joy when it isn’t tied to your circumstances? We unpack the difference between happiness and joy in everyday language. Happiness is often outside of you and temporary, like comfort, a fun night, or a purchase that gives you a quick lift. Joy is deeper and steadier, tied to what’s in your heart, your faith, and the relationships that bring you back to what matters. Along the way we talk about anxiety, worry, and why our brains naturally notice negative things more than positive ones, plus how that mindset can quietly poison a marriage if we don’t address it. Then we get practical about building a “culture of joy” at home. We talk marriage communication, why small annoyances become resentment when you avoid hard conversations, and how simple check-ins create a safe lane to talk about money, time, and intimacy. We also call out social media comparison and the trap of chasing someone else’s circumstances instead of nurturing your own values. If you’re in a tough season, this is your reminder that joy and hardship can coexist and you can train your focus back toward gratitude. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more couples can find the conversation. Support the show

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Baggage Claim is a space for blended families, marriage, and friendship.  Here, we dive into real-life conversations about the ups and downs of relationships, from navigating second marriages to unpacking the baggage we all bring. Hosted by Greg and Jessica, who both have rich experiences with love, loss, and family, this community is about sharing stories, learning together, and growing stronger as couples and individuals. Grab a drink and join us as we unpack, laugh, and claim our baggage—one conversation at a time 

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  • Creator
    Greg and Jess
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    79
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Baggage Claim
  • Show Website
    Baggage Claim