Sex Ritual Radio

Rose Heartsong
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Sex Ritual Radio is where intimacy, communication, and embodiment become sacred pathways to healing and aliveness. Hosted by Rose Heartsong, Certified Intimacy Coach, Somatic Guide, and Sacred Intimate, this show invites you into the living edge of love, desire, and conscious relationship. Through soul-nourishing conversations on conscious partnership, erotic polarity, somatic awareness, sacred intimacy, conscious kink, and holistic living, we remember that healing does not happen through avoidance or performance. It happens through presence. Sex Ritual Radio is a space for raw truth, emotional depth, nervous system attunement, and embodied wisdom. A space where the masculine and feminine are reimagined for the New Earth, where devotion replaces domination, and desire becomes a force for transformation. Here, passion is medicine. Presence is devotion. And how we love is how we touch the divine.

  1. 1d ago

    055. How to buy a sex toy with Cara Anders

    Title How to Buy a Sex Toy Without the Overwhelm, with Cara Anders of Party with Cara A suitcase full of sex toys, four hours of teasing texts on the drive home, and by the end of the night they never touched a single one. The anticipation did all the work. That story is exactly why tonight's conversation matters. I'm joined by Cara Anders, self-love advocate, intimacy educator, and founder of Party with Cara, a pleasure positive brand built to help women feel confident, connected, and fully expressed. Cara has been in the intimacy space for over 12 years, and she walks me through how to actually buy a sex toy when the market is this noisy, from what quality really means, to the real history of the vibrator (it starts with doctors treating "hysteria" by hand), to why the porn industry going digital accidentally triggered a sex toy boom. We get into crystal wands, de-armoring, prostate play and why it's still so taboo for men even though the health benefits are massive, and we go down a full rabbit hole on the etymology of words like masturbation, G-spot, P-spot, and vagina, plus thirteen historical nicknames for the vulva going back to the 1200s. This is a full, honest, explicit conversation about pleasure, confidence, and buying your first toy without the anxiety spiral. Listener discretion advised, 18+. Shop Cara's collection and learn more at partywithcara.com What You'll Learn What separates a quality sex toy from a cheap one, and the price range to actually start looking inWhy a rabbit vibrator is the best first toy and how to explore from thereThe difference between clitoral, thrusting, rabbit, wand, and air tech toysThe real, surprising history of why the vibrator was invented in the first placeHow the porn industry going digital fueled the entire sex toy boomHow to use toys to build intimacy with a partner instead of replacing itWhat crystal wands and yoni eggs are actually used forThe psychology behind why some dildos look realistic and others don'tThe etymology of the word masturbation, and why self-love is the better languageWhy prostate play is both deeply pleasurable and genuinely good for men's healthThe surprising origins of the words G-spot, P-spot, and vaginaHow to buy your first toy online without the anxiety spiral, and what discreet shipping actually meansTimestamps 1:32 Intro to Sex Ritual Radio and tonight's topic, how to buy a sex toy, with guest Cara Anders 4:32 Cara's story, from not knowing what a G-spot was to building a pleasure positive business 9:32 Why toy shopping feels overwhelming, and what actually makes a toy good quality 15:32 Why a rabbit vibrator is the best first toy, and breaking down the different toy types 22:32 The real history of the vibrator, from hysteria treatments to the first medical device 26:32 How the shift to online porn fueled the sex toy industry boom, and finding balance with a partner 32:32 The suitcase full of toys story, how anticipation alone transformed a marriage 35:32 Crystal wands, yoni eggs, and de-armoring for deeper orgasms 39:02 Why some dildos look realistic and others don't, the psychology behind the choice 42:32 The etymology of masturbation and why self-love is the better language 45:32 Prostate play for men, the taboo, the health benefits, and how to explore it together 50:32 The etymology of the G-spot, the P-spot, and the word vagina, plus thirteen historical nicknames for the vulva 57:32 Where to find Cara, toy parties, surprising state laws, and her final tip for buying your first toy x ✨ Resources & Special Offers ✨ 🌹 Explore more at www.roseheartsong.com 🛏 Splash Blanket - 10% off with code ROSEHEARTSONG → https://splashblanket.us/

    055. How to buy a sex toy with Cara Anders

  2. 2d ago

    054. The 7 Stages of Boundaries, From People Pleaser to Unshakable Solo Episode with Rose Heartsong

    My ex showed up at a concert last week. The same one who was incredibly abusive. I hadn’t seen him in years. All I said was seven words, “I do not want to talk to you,” and I walked away. No yelling, no explanation, no drama, no chasing him down to make sure he understood why. That single moment is the entire destination of tonight’s episode, and it took me years to be able to do it that cleanly. Tonight is a solo deep dive into the real developmental path of learning how to set boundaries, because having a boundary and being able to actually hold one energetically are two completely different skills, and almost nobody was ever taught either one. I walk through the full seven stage journey from zero awareness all the way to embodiment, how to recognize that boundaries exist in the first place, how to get past the guilt and good girl good boy conditioning that tells you a limit will cost you love, how to tell the difference between a real boundary and just trying to control someone else’s behavior, what to do when you only realize you crossed your own boundary hours after it happened, why the fierce and rude version of a boundary is still a real win and not a failure, how to communicate a boundary clearly and directly before resentment has a chance to build, and finally what it looks like when your boundary stops being a sentence you have to say out loud and becomes a frequency people can feel around you.  I teach the exact tool I use with every client to actually detect a boundary happening in real time in your own body, the difference between contraction and expansion, and how that one physical cue is more honest than anything your mind will tell you. I also get personal about where I actually learned this, including the guilt I was raised with, my mother’s mental illness and the role I was put into as her caretaker from a young age, and how that shaped the entire boundaries journey I now teach. I talk through real examples, setting a boundary around being a bad texter, what to say when a parent’s tone gets disrespectful, how to handle a friend asking for a favor you don’t have the capacity for, and exactly what I said on a recent date before anyone came back to my place.  This episode is for anyone dealing with people pleasing, codependency, boundary setting in relationships, boundaries with parents or family, assertive communication, emotional regulation, nervous system healing, self worth, healthy relationship communication, how to say no without guilt, or recovering from a relationship where your boundaries were never respected in the first place.  What You’ll Learn Why having a boundary and holding one are two separate, learnable skillsThe seven developmental stages of boundary setting, from zero awareness to embodied frequencyThe contraction and expansion tool for detecting a boundary violation in your own bodyThe real difference between a boundary and controlling someone else’s behaviorHow good girl, good boy conditioning and guilt block people from claiming boundaries at allWhy catching a violation late doesn’t mean the work failedWhy the fierce, rude version of a boundary is still progress, not a step backwardWhat it actually sounds like to state a boundary clearly, before resentment buildsHow a regulated nervous system changes the energy people bring to you before a single word is saidReal scripts for boundaries with parents, friends, dates, and texting habitsFind me at roseheartsong.com or on Instagram at roseheartsong, and tell me which stage you’re in. ✨ Resources & Special Offers ✨ 🌹 Explore more at www.roseheartsong.com 🛏 Splash Blanket - 10% off with code ROSEHEARTSONG → https://splashblanket.us/

  3. Sep 14

    053. Premature Ejaculation, the Orgasm Gap and the Promescent Solution with Jeff Abraham of Promescent

    An orgasm on top of an orgasm. A vibrator that flooded a hostel bathroom in Jerusalem. The real reason cunnilingus was once illegal. Tonight's episode goes everywhere. I'm joined by Jeff Abraham, CEO and majority owner of Promescent, the sexual wellness brand behind the number one delay spray in the country, to talk about something we should be discussing a lot more: premature ejaculation and the orgasm gap between men and women. Jeff walks me through how he went from selling a semiconductor company to owning a sexual wellness brand doing 15 million a year, why most delay sprays leave you numb (and why Promescent doesn't), and what actually causes PE beyond the physical. From there we go deep into presence and anxiety in the bedroom, the anthropological history of why oral sex on women was once criminalized, why sex toys are still illegal in parts of the country, aging and libido after 40, the difference between masturbation and a true self-pleasure ritual, the erotic blueprint, and why taking the lead in the bedroom is one of the most generous things a man can do for his partner. This is a full, honest, explicit conversation about sex, confidence and connection. Listener discretion advised, 18+. Get your products at  Promescent at www.promescent.com/ROSEH15 To work with Rose Heartsong go to Roseheartsong.com What You'll Learn What premature ejaculation actually is and how common it really isWhy most delay sprays numb you and what makes Promescent's formula differentThe real link between anxiety, presence and PEThe anthropological history behind the shame around oral sexWhy sex toys and BDSM gear are still criminalized in parts of the worldWhy low libido in your 40s is not actually about ageThe difference between masturbation and a self-pleasure ritualWhat the erotic blueprint is and how to use itWhy watching a partner self-pleasure is a masterclass in what they actually wantHow to build real trust and communication around sex with a partnerWhy taking the lead in bed is an act of generosity, not dominanceThe difference between sex that nourishes you and sex that drains you0:00 - Intro and welcome to Sex Ritual Radio, tonight's topic: premature ejaculation and the orgasm gap, introducing Jeff Abraham 3:30 - Jeff's story: selling his semiconductor company, meeting Dr. Ron Gilbert, becoming majority owner of Promescent 9:00 - What makes Promescent different: clinical trials, testing every product himself, growing the company from 80k to 15 million a year 16:00 - The problem with typical numbing sprays and how Promescent's eutectic formula solves it 19:30 - Confidence, presence and the real link between anxiety and premature ejaculation 24:30 - Dating as a sex coach and a sex company owner, and building real trust with a partner 32:00 - The surprising history of why oral sex was once illegal, and where the shame still lives 36:00 - Sex toys, BDSM and why they're still criminalized in parts of the world 40:00 - Aging and libido: why low sex drive in your 40s has nothing to do with age 45:00 - Self-pleasure ritual vs masturbation, the erotic blueprint, and watching a partner touch themselves 49:00 - Rose's first vibrator story, the book Untrue, and the orgasm gap myth 53:00 - Taking the lead in the bedroom and why Promescent stays vanilla on purpose 57:00 - Nourishing sex vs draining sex, real intimacy, and Jeff's closing advice 1:00:00 - Where to find Promescent and closing out the show ✨ Resources & Special Offers ✨ 🌹 Explore more at www.roseheartsong.com 🛏 Splash Blanket - 10% off with code ROSEHEARTSONG → https://splashblanket.us/

    053. Premature Ejaculation, the Orgasm Gap and the Promescent Solution with Jeff Abraham of Promescent

  4. Sep 7

    052. What is the difference between Sexual, Erotic & Sensual Energy? With Damiana Loves

    What Is the Difference Between Sexual, Erotic & Sensual Energy Most people think pleasure, intimacy, and orgasm only mean one thing. This episode breaks that open. This week on Sex Ritual Radio, Rose Heartsong sits down with Damiana Loves, known as The Orgasmic Oracle, to untangle three energies most people have never separated: sexual energy, erotic energy, and sensual energy. Rose Heartsong is an intimacy and erotic intelligence coach, somatic kink practitioner, and host of Sex Ritual Radio on KXFM 104.7, Laguna Beach's community radio station, airing live every Sunday night. Damiana Loves teaches the Orgasmic Life Method, guiding people into harnessing orgasmic life force energy as a daily practice, not something confined to sex or the bedroom. Damiana breaks down sensuality as the doorway to everything else: the practice of slowing down enough to actually feel, through smell, taste, touch, sound, and sight, rather than rushing toward a peak. She shares how healing a debilitating spinal injury deepened her relationship to this same life force energy, and how sexual energy (the primal charge toward release) and erotic energy (presence and aliveness, with or without sex) are related but distinct experiences most people never learn to tell apart. The conversation gets personal and specific. Rose and Damiana talk about self-pleasure as a devotional practice rather than a quick release, why most women have only ever learned to orgasm one way, the real difference between not wanting something and not saying so, and why women taking ownership of their own pleasure changes the entire dynamic of a relationship. They also get into consent culture directly: why checking in matters more than performing confidence, and why a fantasy of being taken has to be built on real agreements, not assumptions.  Learn more from Damiana Loves at damianalovesyou.com, on Instagram at damianalovesyou, and on YouTube at The Orgasmic Oracle. Learn more about Rose at roseheartsong.com.    0:00 Intro and welcoming Damiana Loves 3:00 Damiana's background, orgasmic life force energy, and healing her spinal injury 9:00 How Rose and Damiana's paths have woven together for 12 years  13:00 Sensuality defined: the senses as the doorway to pleasure 22:00 Sexual, erotic, and sensual energy, broken down 38:00 Consent, arousal, and why most women are under aroused 48:00 Erotic innocence, taboo fantasy, and safe containers for desire 57:00 Self-pleasure rituals and personal practices 68:00 Where to find Damiana and Rose, and closing thoughts ✨ Resources & Special Offers ✨ 🌹 Explore more at www.roseheartsong.com 🛏 Splash Blanket - 10% off with code ROSEHEARTSONG → https://splashblanket.us/

    052. What is the difference between Sexual, Erotic & Sensual Energy? With Damiana Loves

  5. Aug 28

    051. What a Sex Coach Actually Does (And Why I Do It)

    Everyone asks me the same two questions. How did you get into this work? and  What does a sex coach actually do? Tonight I answer both, unscripted, for the first time ever, anywhere. This is Rose Heartsong, host of Sex Ritual Radio on KXFM 104.7, Laguna Beach's community radio station, airing live every Sunday at 9pm. Tonight is a solo, free-riffed episode with no notes, because some stories can't be scripted. I trace the real throughline of my life: growing up sovereign and self-named, homeschooled and obsessed with learning, taught consent as a young child by my mother in a way that let me use my voice when it mattered most. I talk about a health crisis that started at 12 years old and forced me into an intense, early relationship with my own body, boundaries, and consent, long before I ever called myself a coach. I talk about losing my mother young, a one-way ticket to Thailand, silent meditation retreats, and the training at Agama Yoga in Koh Phangan that cracked open my understanding of tantra, embodiment, and sacred sexuality. I talk about Burning Man, an abusive relationship that took my sovereignty and nearly broke me, and the exact moment that pain turned into the decision to get trained and become the coach I needed back then. Then I break down, plainly, what an intimacy and erotic intelligence coach actually does. Not touch. Not demonstration. Not therapy. I work with the patterns underneath a couple's or an individual's intimacy, the nervous system, the communication, the desire that's never been said out loud, and I help people become owners of their erotic energy instead of slaves to it. This episode is raw, personal, and unfiltered. If it resonates and you want to go deeper, you can book a free 30 minute call at roseheartsong.com ✨ Resources & Special Offers ✨ 🌹 Explore more at www.roseheartsong.com 🛏 Splash Blanket - 10% off with code ROSEHEARTSONG → https://splashblanket.us/

    051. What a Sex Coach Actually Does (And Why I Do It)

  6. Aug 22

    050. The Art of Listening- How to Make Anyone Feel Heard & Understood with Cameron Barbarick

    Most people aren't listening to you. They're listening to themselves, thinking about what they want to say next. This week on Sex Ritual Radio, Rose Heartsong sits down with Cameron Barbaric, a communications coach and relational intelligence expert, to break down why so many of us think we're good listeners and aren't, and what it actually takes to make another person feel fully heard. Rose Heartsong is an intimacy and erotic intelligence coach (often called a sex coach), somatic kink practitioner, and host of Sex Ritual Radio on KXFM 104.7, Laguna Beach's community radio station, airing live every Sunday night. Cameron defines relational intelligence as listening in a deep, attuned way that gives another person the felt experience of being heard, seen, and understood. He explains why traditional communication training, focused on how you look, sound, and perform, falls apart the moment things get stressful, because we don't rise to the level of our technique, we fall to the level of our nervous system capacity. Rose and Cameron dig into the difference between listening to respond and listening reactively from your own internal dialogue, using a real coaching example of a man who thought he was listening to his girlfriend and was actually just formulating his next line. The conversation moves through some of the most useful frameworks either of them teaches: why 93 percent of communication is non-verbal (the same word said two different ways carries two completely different meanings), the difference between the masculine instinct to fix and the feminine instinct to feel, and why understanding a partner's hormonal cycle changes how you listen to them. They talk through the salt and the salve, an analogy from The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz, and how every person gets to choose which one they bring into a hard conversation. Rose and Cameron also get personal. Rose shares her own pattern of poking the bear in past relationships, a pattern she learned from watching her parents, and the exact moment two and a half years ago when she chose not to poke anymore. Cameron walks through several of what he calls the major breakdowns of communication: misplaced righteousness, manipulation, violent communication (including passive aggressive withholding), gossip, dishonesty, and distracted listening, and gives a simple 30 second rule for catching a trigger before it becomes a spiral. They also get into sovereignty versus codependency, why codependent energy flatlines erotic charge in a relationship, and the concept of frog farming from Allison Armstrong's The Queen's Code. Rose closes the conversation by tying it back to her own work: how she teaches deep listening as an embodied, even kinky practice with the men she coaches, and why presence, not technique, is the real skill underneath good sex and good communication. What you'll learn in this episode What relational intelligence actually means and how it differs from typical communication training Why nervous system capacity, not technique, determines how well you communicate under stress The difference between listening to respond and listening from reactivity Why 93 percent of communication is non-verbal, and how tone alone changes meaning The salt and the salve: how to soothe a partner instead of escalating conflict Sovereignty versus codependency, and why codependency kills erotic charge The 30 second rule for catching a trigger before it becomes a fight Several of the major breakdowns of communication: misplaced righteousness, manipulation, violent communication, gossip, dishonesty, and distracted listening What frog farming means and how women unintentionally do it to men How deep listening can become an embodied, even erotic practice 0:00 Intro and welcoming Cameron Barbaric 2:00 What relational intelligence actually means 5:00 Why technique fails and capacity is what matters 8:00 Listening to respond versus listening reactively 10:30 Case study: the couple who felt unheard 14:00 Why 93 percent of communication is non-verbal 16:30 Masculine fixing versus feminine relational listening 19:00 Understanding the female hormonal cycle in communication 21:00 The ping pong problem and communicating desire safely 23:30 The Mastery of Love: the salt and the salve 26:30 Sovereignty, codependency, and erotic charge 29:30 The feminist movement and a generational shift in relationships 32:30 The 30 second rule for catching a trigger 35:00 Communication breakdowns: misplaced righteousness and manipulation 37:00 Violent communication and poking the bear 39:30 Gossip: when it protects and when it destroys 42:00 Dishonesty versus lying 43:30 Distracted listening and the practice of presence 45:00 Rose's story: the night she stopped poking the bear 47:00 The Queen's Code and frog farming 48:00 Listening as an embodied, kinky practice 49:00 Where to find Cameron https://mysacredstage.com/  ✨ Resources & Special Offers ✨ 🌹 Explore more at www.roseheartsong.com 🛏 Splash Blanket - 10% off with code ROSEHEARTSONG → https://splashblanket.us/

    050. The Art of Listening- How to Make Anyone Feel Heard & Understood with Cameron Barbarick

  7. Aug 21

    049. Sex, Psychedelics & Surrender- A Crossover of Inner Journey with Greg Friedman

    What happens when a plant medicine guide and a sex coach swap microphones for two hours? This is that episode. Rose Heartsong was a guest for the full hour on Inner Journey with Greg Friedman, and immediately after, Greg came on as her guest for the full hour on Sex Ritual Radio. This is that back to back conversation, recorded live on KXFM 104.7, Laguna Beach's community radio station. Rose Heartsong is an intimacy and erotic intelligence coach (often called a sex coach), somatic kink practitioner, and host of Sex Ritual Radio, airing live every Sunday night. Greg Friedman is a ceremonial guide who has spent decades studying with indigenous elders around the world and hosts Inner Journey, airing right before Rose's show on the same station. In the first hour, Rose and Greg get into the nervous system's role in desire and arousal, why porn is functioning as sex education for kids as young as 11, and the direct link researchers are finding between screen habits and rising erectile dysfunction in young men. Rose breaks down a simple framework she teaches clients for building better sex: separating intention from desire, why so many people freeze when asked what they actually want, and how to use a safe word (red, not a made up phrase) to stop anything, anytime, no questions asked. They also cover the 7/33/60 rule of communication, why breathwork, specifically rotational breath with a partner, changes the entire experience of sex, and why chasing the orgasm is usually what gets in its way. In the second hour, the roles flip. Greg tells Rose about decades spent doing ceremony with Shipibo elders in the Amazon, Aborigine elders in the Outback, and the Native American Church, and why he treats plant medicine as a GPS rather than a shortcut. They talk through the difference between resistance and surrender during a psychedelic journey, why integration after a ceremony matters as much as the ceremony itself, and Rose shares her own history with mushrooms, acid, and peyote and how it shaped her relationship with her body and her work. The conversation moves into some of Rose's core teaching territory: existential kink, using consensual kink and sensation play to alchemize shadow material instead of repeating unconscious pain, and a real story of guiding a client through Shibari rope work to help her practice surrender in her body. They close on The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz, the difference between codependency and love, and Laguna Beach's own strange history as one of Timothy Leary's old stomping grounds. This episode covers legal and illegal psychedelics purely as personal experience and education, not instruction. Neither Rose nor Greg are telling you to do any of this. They're sharing what has worked for them and their clients so you can decide what's right for you. To book a consultation with Rose or join her Dear Desire email list, go to https://roseheartsong.com/  To learn more about Greg's ceremonial journeys and his own show, go to https://gregfriedman.com/  What you'll learn in this episode Why nervous system regulation, not willpower, determines arousal and erectile function The real link between porn, screen time, and rising erectile dysfunction in young men The difference between intention and desire, and a simple way to find yours when you draw a blank How to actually use a safe word, and why "red" beats a clever made up phrase  The 7/33/60 rule of communication and why body language runs the show Why chasing orgasm gets in the way of having one The difference between toxic and embodied masculine and feminine energy What plant medicine ceremony with indigenous elders actually involves, and why Greg treats it as a GPS, not a fix Why resistance, not the medicine itself, is what makes a journey feel unbearable What existential kink is and how consensual kink can be used to process shadow material A real coaching story of using Shibari rope work to help a client practice surrender Why Laguna Beach has a surprising connection to Timothy Leary and the history of acid 0:00 Intro on Inner Journey and Rose's tagline: you don't need to be fixed, you need to be ignited 3:00 The nervous system's role in desire and arousal 6:00 Porn, screen time, and rising erectile dysfunction in young men 10:00 What sexuality actually is: physical and spiritual 14:00 Intention versus desire, and how to find yours 18:00 Desire, shame, and religious conditioning 21:00 Safe words and the red, yellow, green system 24:30 The 7/33/60 rule and body language attunement 27:30 Conscious versus unconscious primal energy, and orgasm as a selfish act 34:00 Rose's new platform and the Charged program 36:00 Toxic versus embodied masculine and feminine 40:00 Surrender versus submission 43:00 Rotational breathwork with a partner 46:30 Self-pleasure practice and the forget it method 49:00 A workshop story on authenticity and communication 51:30 Normalizing fantasy and desire, with real statistics 53:30 Where to find Rose's programs and the Dear Desire list 55:30 Hour two begins: Greg joins Sex Ritual Radio 58:00 Greg's background with indigenous elders and ceremony 62:00 Plant medicine as a GPS, not a fix 65:00 The Ram Dass and his guru story 67:00 Why journeying at the medicine's origin changes the experience 69:00 Resistance versus surrender in a psychedelic journey 72:00 Ayahuasca, peyote, acid, and mushrooms compared 74:30 Embodiment versus leaving the body during a journey 77:00 Peyote, purging, and sacredness 80:00 Rose's own psychedelic history and how it shaped her work 83:00 Why guides and integration matter so much 85:30 Bringing prayer and reverence into sexuality 88:00 Pleasure, pain, and somatic kink 91:00 Existential Kink and working with the shadow self 95:00 A Shibari story: helping a client practice surrender 98:00 Alchemizing shadow through kink and plant medicine 101:00 Hallucinogens hiding in your spice cabinet 104:00 Timothy Leary, Laguna Beach, and Tune In and Turn On 106:30 Rose's personal experience with sex and psychedelics 109:00 Heart space, non-attachment, and codependency versus love 111:00 The Mastery of Love: salt and salve, revisited 113:00 Closing and where to find Greg and Rose ✨ Resources & Special Offers ✨ 🌹 Explore more at www.roseheartsong.com 🛏 Splash Blanket - 10% off with code ROSEHEARTSONG → https://splashblanket.us/

    049. Sex, Psychedelics & Surrender- A Crossover of Inner Journey with Greg Friedman

  8. Aug 20

    048. Taboo, Consent, and What Really Happens at Play Parties with Rose Heartsong

    One in three monogamous people fantasize about opening their relationship. Almost none of them ever tell their partner. This week, Rose Heartsong breaks down why, and takes you inside a private, invite only play party she attended the night before this episode aired. Rose Heartsong is an intimacy and erotic intelligence coach (often called a sex coach), somatic kink practitioner, and host of Sex Ritual Radio on KXFM 104.7, Laguna Beach's community radio station, airing live every Sunday night. This solo episode covers three of the show's core pillars: erotic intelligence, embodied spirituality, and holistic health, through the lens of taboo, non-monogamy, and consent culture. Rose opens by unpacking the erotic blueprints, the five different ways people experience arousal and pleasure (sexual, sensual, energetic, kinky, and shapeshifter), and why most of us were only ever taught one of them through porn. From there she defines taboo itself: social, religious, and behavioral taboos, why breaking one creates shame even when no one is actually harmed, and how something as simple as choosing your own last name can register as culturally forbidden. The episode's centerpiece is a breakdown of real research on non-monogamy: a study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior by Justin Lehmiller surveying 822 monogamous Americans found that 32.6% named an open relationship as one of their all time favorite fantasies, and 80% of that group wanted to act on it. Yet only 4 to 9% of American adults are actually in an open relationship. Rose walks through why that gap exists (nervous system fear, communication breakdowns, and technology replacing real co-regulation), and gives a simple framework for evaluating any fantasy or desire: is it consensual, is it free of harm or trauma, and does it involve only adults. If it clears those three questions, she is not here to judge it. The back half of the episode gets personal. Rose describes what it was actually like inside a vetted, invite only play party community: how she showed up to contribute rather than extract (bringing damiana tea as an aphrodisiac offering), the level of explicit verbal consent practiced by everyone in the room, why the community talks about STI testing more openly than most monogamous couples do, and a live nervous system regulation exercise you can do right along with her. She also shares a personal story from that night involving Shibari rope, an electric play scene, and a conversation about what she calls devotional union, the kind of partnership she is open to but not desperate for. This episode is reflective and educational, not a how to guide. Rose is not telling you to open your relationship, attend a play party, or do anything outside your own boundaries. She is offering a permission slip to get curious about your own desire. If this episode brings something up for you, and you want support navigating desire, intimacy, or communication in your own relationship, you can reach out to Rose at roseheartsong.com for a consultation. What you'll learn in this episode: The five erotic blueprints and how porn narrows our sexual education to just one of them The real definition of taboo, and the difference between social, religious, and behavioral taboos What the research actually says about how many people fantasize about non-monogamy versus how many act on it A simple three part framework for evaluating any fantasy or desire without shame Why technology and phones are creating nervous system loneliness inside otherwise stable relationships The difference between opening a relationship to fix it and opening a relationship to nourish it How consent culture and STI testing actually work inside ethically non-monogamous communities A guided nervous system regulation exercise you can practice in real time The four core types of intimacy: emotional, physical, intellectual, and experiential 0:00 Intro and why Rose challenges everything 1:30 Why she's been thinking about taboo lately 4:00 The five erotic blueprints explained 8:30 What taboo actually means, and the three types 11:00 Her own last name as a taboo example 13:00 Setting up tonight's topic: last night's play party 15:30 The Lehmiller study: fantasy versus reality on open relationships 19:00 Why the gap exists: nervous system fear and rehearsal 21:30 A three part framework for evaluating any desire 23:30 Communication, technology, and nervous system loneliness 27:00 Opening a relationship to fix it versus to nourish it 29:30 Fear, judgment, and the permission slip to explore 32:00 Showing up in community: contribution versus extraction 35:00 Damiana tea and why she brought it 37:30 Inside the party: costumes, performances, and cuddle puddles 40:30 Witnessing a moment of unguarded erotic connection 43:30 Consent culture and verbal check ins 45:30 STI testing and safety inside non-monogamous community 49:00 Guided nervous system regulation exercise 51:00 The four types of intimacy 53:00 Meeting a stranger, Shibari, and devotional union 56:00 Electric play and community bliss 58:00 Closing reflection and a challenge for you this week Follow Sex Ritual Radio live every Sunday from 9 to 10pm PST on KXFM 104.7, Laguna Beach's community radio, or subscribe wherever you get your podcasts.  ✨ Resources & Special Offers ✨ 🌹 Explore more at www.roseheartsong.com 🛏 Splash Blanket - 10% off with code ROSEHEARTSONG → https://splashblanket.us/

    048. Taboo, Consent, and What Really Happens at Play Parties with Rose Heartsong
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Sex Ritual Radio is where intimacy, communication, and embodiment become sacred pathways to healing and aliveness. Hosted by Rose Heartsong, Certified Intimacy Coach, Somatic Guide, and Sacred Intimate, this show invites you into the living edge of love, desire, and conscious relationship. Through soul-nourishing conversations on conscious partnership, erotic polarity, somatic awareness, sacred intimacy, conscious kink, and holistic living, we remember that healing does not happen through avoidance or performance. It happens through presence. Sex Ritual Radio is a space for raw truth, emotional depth, nervous system attunement, and embodied wisdom. A space where the masculine and feminine are reimagined for the New Earth, where devotion replaces domination, and desire becomes a force for transformation. Here, passion is medicine. Presence is devotion. And how we love is how we touch the divine.

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  • Creator
    Rose Heartsong
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    55
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Copyright KX FM
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    Sex Ritual Radio